A 23-minute conversation on why most goals fail before they start: wanting something, committing to it, and actually deciding are three different things.
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Big Idea
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A decision only counts if it's irrevocable and backed by daily follow-through, which is why real change requires refusing to keep a Plan B and filtering every choice through what your future self would choose.
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TL;DR
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Arash Vossoughi, president of Voss Coaching Co, argues most people never actually decide anything -- they just feel motivated for a day and call it a decision. A real decision is irrevocable: it's backed by consistent follow-through and never gets reconsidered when things get hard, which is why he refuses to keep a Plan B. Vossoughi filters every choice through two questions -- will this grow me, and would my future self say yes to it -- and recommits to his goals daily instead of treating commitment as a one-time act. The actionable core: stop deciding from your bank account or current circumstances, write to your future self regularly, and bet on yourself before you feel ready.
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Mikey Stiller opens the show and states the premise: one decision transforms a life, and there's no Plan B.
00:49 – 02:42
02 · Why most people never actually decide
Arash argues that most 'decisions' -- quitting sugar, starting a business -- are really just motivated moods with no follow-through.
02:42 – 05:37
03 · How to know if you really made a decision
The test for a real decision is the evidence: whether your actions and preparation actually follow the words.
05:37 – 06:24
04 · Stop living from your current circumstances
Most people manage their lives from current circumstances instead of deciding who they're choosing to become.
06:24 – 07:53
05 · Commitment is a daily decision
Commitment isn't a one-time act -- it's recommitting to the same goal every single day, morning and night.
07:53 – 09:27
06 · Why you should never have a Plan B
Keeping a Plan B guarantees a Plan C and D will follow, so Arash refuses to prepare a fallback, citing Eddie Murphy's no-Plan-B comedy career.
09:27 – 11:16
07 · What's the worst that can happen?
Instead of fearing the worst case, Arash solves it mentally once, then redirects all focus to what he wants.
11:16 – 13:35
08 · Self-respect and ironclad decisions
Low self-esteem, not circumstance, is why most people avoid making ironclad, on-the-hook decisions.
13:35 – 14:24
09 · The 2-question decision filter
Arash's filter for every decision: will this grow me, and would my future self say yes?
14:24 – 16:28
10 · Your future self and the flight that changed everything
Writing weekly letters to his future self, and the underfunded flight to meet mentor Bob Proctor that changed his life.
16:28 – 16:40
11 · How to make a decision irrevocable
A decision becomes irrevocable through follow-through, not through the moment of deciding itself.
16:40 – 17:29
12 · How to fix bad follow-through
Falling in love with one question -- will this change my life -- is what fixes chronic lack of follow-through.
17:29 – 19:22
13 · Should you keep your goals private?
Whether to announce a goal publicly depends on whether you have a strong support system around you.
19:22 – 20:31
14 · Decision remorse: wrong choice or old programming?
Decision remorse can be a real mistake or an old scarcity program pulling you back -- Arash tells them apart by how badly he wanted it.
20:31 – 21:01
15 · The 30-day opportunity question
A question to ask yourself: what opportunity in the last 30 days did you let pass because of fear?
21:01 – 23:26
16 · Your homework: bet on yourself
The homework: bet on yourself every day, because the world only treats you the way you treat yourself.
Atomic Insights
Lines worth screenshotting.
A real decision is irrevocable and backed by consistent action -- without follow-through, it was never a decision, just a mood.
Never decide anything while you're in a good mood, because motivation fades and the decision was never tested.
Disconnecting a decision from your current bank account is what separates people who create a new life from people who just manage their current one.
Committing to a goal once isn't commitment -- true commitment means recommitting to it every single day.
Having a Plan B guarantees a Plan C and D will follow, because a backup plan is where people settle when things get hard.
The worst-case outcome of almost any goal is embarrassment, not homelessness -- naming that limit frees up energy to focus on the goal itself.
Ask 'how will I feel when this works out?' instead of 'what if it doesn't work?' -- the question you ask shapes the actions you take.
Most people avoid ironclad decisions because of low self-esteem -- they don't want to be on the hook if they fail.
A two-question filter decides every choice: will this grow me, and would my future self say yes to it?
Writing a weekly letter to your future self, in the present or past tense, builds a relationship with the person who already achieved the goal.
Energy doesn't lie -- the right decision resonates with who you are, even when it looks illogical to everyone else.
The wealthiest decision anyone makes is the decision made before they feel ready.
Decision remorse can be a real mistake, or it can just be an old program pulling you back toward a smaller life.
Asking what opportunity you didn't act on in the last 30 days exposes how often fear, not circumstance, is the real blocker.
People with a weak support system should make decisions quietly, since public failure feeds self-doubt before a goal has traction.
Nobody is thinking about your goals or your failures as much as you are -- everyone is too consumed by their own story.
Takeaway
What actually separates a decision from a wish
DECISION FILTER
A decision only counts once it's irrevocable, backed by daily follow-through, and tested against what your future self, not your current bank account, would choose.
01One decision can change your life
A decision only becomes real once you remove every alternative to following through on it.
Treat the premise of a big claim like 'no Plan B' as a frame to test against your own goals, not just a hook.
02Why most people never actually decide
Saying 'I'm starting Monday' without a follow-through plan is a mood, not a decision -- don't count it as progress.
If you've restated the same goal more than once without result, the problem isn't motivation, it's that you never decided.
A decision is defined by what you stop doing (everything opposite of it), not just by what you say you'll start.
03How to know if you really made a decision
Judge whether you've truly decided something by checking your preparation and actions, not your intentions.
Lacking the money for a goal doesn't disqualify a decision -- writing out how you'll get the money is itself evidence of one.
Before you can act like a decision-maker, separate 'do I want this' (the prequel) from the decision itself.
04Stop living from your current circumstances
Making decisions from your current bank account or circumstances keeps you stuck reliving the same results.
Treat yourself as a creative being with the capacity to build a new reality, not just a manager of your existing one.
Notice when you're being 'too physical' -- judging only what's visible right now -- instead of deciding from where you're going.
05Commitment is a daily decision
Recommit to your biggest goal daily; a single moment of commitment doesn't carry you to the finish line.
Let your goal be the first thing you think about waking up and the last thing before sleep -- that's the marker of a real commitment.
Consistency, not the initial decision, is what actually gets you to the finish line.
06Why you should never have a Plan B
A backup plan isn't neutral -- it's the path you'll default to the moment the main plan gets hard.
Spend your energy only on how a goal will work, not on cataloguing why it might not.
If you want to go all-in on something, deliberately remove the comfortable exits before you start.
07What's the worst that can happen?
Name the actual worst-case outcome of a goal (usually embarrassment, not ruin) so your mind can stop guarding against it.
Once you've mentally solved the worst case, redirect all your focus to the best-case outcome instead.
Ask yourself 'what would I do if it was impossible to fail,' and let that answer guide your actions instead of fear.
08Self-respect and ironclad decisions
Avoiding big, irreversible decisions is usually a self-esteem problem -- you don't want to be on the hook if it fails.
Needing approval from other people before you act is a sign you haven't built self-respect around the goal yet.
The only person who needs to believe in your goal is you -- waiting for buy-in from others is a losing strategy.
09The 2-question decision filter
Run every choice through two filters: does this grow me or contract me, and would my future self say yes to it.
To use a 'future self' filter honestly, you need a specific, detailed picture of that person, not a vague idea of 'goal achieved.'
10Your future self and the flight that changed everything
Write to your future self regularly, weekly, in present or past tense, to build a real relationship with who you're becoming.
The biggest moves rarely feel logical in the moment -- judge a decision by whether it resonates with who you're becoming, not by whether it makes sense right now.
Being willing to act on a mentor's instructions before you have the money or the certainty is itself the decision.
11How to make a decision irrevocable
A decision becomes irrevocable only through your follow-through on it, not through the moment you made it.
12How to fix bad follow-through
Fix chronic lack of follow-through by filtering every goal through one question: will this change my life.
Stop chasing small, comfortable goals -- a big goal grows you more than you grow it.
13Should you keep your goals private?
If you don't have a strong support system, keep big decisions private until you have evidence to back them up.
Going public with a goal can work as accountability, but only once you're far enough along that the pressure helps instead of scares you.
Remember that almost nobody is tracking your goals as closely as you think -- most people are consumed by their own story.
14Decision remorse: wrong choice or old programming?
Not all post-decision regret is a mistake -- sometimes it's an old scarcity program trying to pull you back to a smaller life.
Tell the difference by asking how badly you actually wanted the thing, not just how it feels after the fact.
A lost opportunity you didn't act on can create a harsher kind of remorse than a decision you did make and regret.
15The 30-day opportunity question
Ask yourself what opportunity you let pass in the last 30 days -- it's usually fear, not circumstance, that stopped you.
Use that question as a monthly check-in to catch yourself defaulting to inaction before it becomes a pattern.
16Your homework: bet on yourself
Bet on yourself every day -- the world treats you the way you treat yourself, not the other way around.
Take one bold action tonight toward the future self you want to embody instead of waiting for the 'right' moment.
If your current results aren't where you want them, treat it as information about how much you're valuing yourself, not just bad luck.
Glossary
Terms worth knowing.
No Plan B
A commitment strategy where you refuse to prepare a fallback option, on the theory that any backup plan becomes the path you settle for once things get hard.
Future self
The version of you that has already achieved your goal, used in this framework as an internal advisor you consult before making decisions.
Self-concept
The internal image of who you believe you are, treated here as the real limiting factor behind most unmet goals.
Magnificent obsession
A goal so central that it's the first thing you think about waking up and the last thing before sleep, used here as a marker of a real decision.
“One decision is all it takes to transform your life, and there is no plan B.”
States the entire episode's thesis in one line -- works as a cold open with zero setup.→ TikTok hook↗ Tweet quote
01:57
“A decision is firm. It's ironclad. There is no chicken exit out.”
Crisp, repeatable definition that reframes what most people think a decision is.→ IG reel cold open↗ Tweet quote
04:19
“You cannot make a decision from your bank account.”
Counterintuitive one-liner credited to his mentor Bob Proctor, built to stop the scroll.→ newsletter pull-quote↗ Tweet quote
08:24
“I never had a plan B. I've never met anyone successful who has a plan B.”
Pairs with the Eddie Murphy anecdote -- strong standalone claim about commitment.→ TikTok hook↗ Tweet quote
12:07
“We're not going to achieve anything significant without self-respect.”
Ties follow-through to self-worth in one sentence -- lands without context.→ newsletter pull-quote↗ Tweet quote
14:25
“Your future self is like a friend. If you don't have a relationship with it, you're not going to know it.”
Reframes goal-setting as a relationship, a fresh metaphor that's easy to illustrate visually.→ IG reel cold open↗ Tweet quote
16:38
“It's your follow through that makes it irrevocable.”
The single-sentence answer to the episode's central question.→ TikTok hook↗ Tweet quote
21:11
“Over the last 30 days, what opportunity that you have that you didn't act on?”
Direct-address question format drives comments and self-reflection in the caption.→ IG reel cold open↗ Tweet quote
22:03
“The world only treats us how we treat ourselves.”
Aphoristic closer, good for a text-on-screen outro card.→ newsletter pull-quote↗ Tweet quote
Topic Map
Where the conversation goes.
00:00 – 05:37denseDefining what a real decision actually is
05:37 – 07:53denseDisconnecting decisions from current circumstances and money
07:53 – 11:16denseWhy Plan B guarantees settling
11:16 – 14:24steadySelf-respect as the root of follow-through
14:24 – 17:29denseWriting to and living from your future self
17:29 – 20:31steadyPrivacy, accountability, and decision remorse
20:31 – 23:26steadyClosing homework: bet on yourself daily
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I'm Mikey Stiller and this is the 7 Figure Standard Podcast. My co -host needs no introduction to the 100 ,000 plus people he's coached, but if you're new here, Arash Vasugi is the president of Voss Coaching Co. He is a USA Today bestselling author, a man who went from $150 ,000 in debt to seven -figure income in under two years, almost 20 years ago, and is now an eight -figure business owner.
So everything he teaches, he's lived first. Let's get right into it. One decision is all it takes to transform your life, and there is no plan B.
Arash. One decision is all it takes. Sounds like it might be a poster in a dorm room.
I think everybody's decided things over and over again. I'm going to quit sugar. I'm going to start a business.
I'm going to do fill in the blank and nothing changed. So what is the difference between the decision you're talking about and those decisions? Well, number one, I would challenge you and I'd say those people never made a decision.
Everything follows decision. What did you say? It's a poster?
In a dorm room. Yeah. Then get me that poster.
Motivational. Get me that poster. See, most people are not making any decisions.
What does decision mean? It's death of everything opposite. So somebody said, you said they quit sugar.
That was one of them. Like on Monday, I'm starting this diet. On Monday, I'm going to quit sugar.
I'm going to do this. I'm going to do that. And then they don't follow through.
Those aren't decisions. Those are empty words. Without follow through, without action, there is no decision.
And so it took one decision to change somebody's life. It took me one decision. That decision was betting on myself.
What you're talking about is not decision. It is somebody who is dissatisfied and motivated that day and saying, I'm going to do X. I'm going to do X.
But without follow through and consistency, it's never going to take it to the finish line. So they never made the decision. What they did was they were in a good mood.
And what do you always say? Never decide when you're in a good mood. Yeah, don't make decisions when you're in a good mood.
Yeah, so they never decided. You know, anyone can change their life. People have done it.
You know, I always tell our clients, you could change your life in seven seconds, seven weeks, seven years, 70 years. You know, it's the moment you decide. The wealthiest decision anybody ever makes is the decision before you're ready.
But a decision is firm. It's ironclad. There is no chicken exit out.
Okay, and actually what I say is not, don't make a decision. When you're in a good mood, don't commit your calendar when you're in a good mood. Oh, don't commit your calendar.
Just to clear that up. Anyways, okay, so what is the difference then between someone who thinks they've made a decision and what you're defining as a decision? Or maybe you can define your version of decision for us.
Well, it's evidence. So if I say I'm going to get in the best shape of my life, I'm going to triple my income, but the actions don't follow. the preparation doesn't set me up for it, then I never made a decision.
So nothing works without changing your self -concept, your identity of yourself, how you see yourself. But you can't change your identity of how you see yourself without decisions. Like you have to intentionally keep making decisions from the future you, not the old you.
So this is like a very just like lighthearted example. One person says, oh, I'm going to take a vacation to Italy, and they start looking at pictures or browsing online about what to do in Italy. A person who's made a real decision books the flight and the accommodations.
Well, let me challenge this. Let's say they couldn't afford. They don't have the money to book the flight.
It still doesn't mean they didn't make a decision. That person still could have made a decision, even if they didn't have the money, by starting to write out ideas how they're going to come up with, let's say, $10 ,000, $15 ,000. that person made more of a decision because now they're starting to figure out how they can.
So when we make a decision, the only prequel to making a decision is, do I want it? There's a lot of people. If you just look at your house, how many things you bought that you wanted at some point, but you don't even need.
So want is always the prequel to making a decision. I'll give you one that you can challenge me on. Okay.
At every seminar, I tell everybody this in the first hour. I said, I'm going to tell you this right now and you're not going to like it, but I need you to disconnect from the money. And they have such a hard time with it.
They go, what do you mean disconnect from the money? I had a hard time with it when my mentor, Bob Proctor, told me that. He said, you cannot make a decision from your bank account.
He said, it's going to make no sense to you. That's where people limit themselves. They're not thinking about.
who they can be and coming up with ideas. See, you and I are creative beings. This is what bothers me.
There's two types of people. There's one person who manages their life. They keep living from their present circumstances, their bank account.
And there's the other person, same situation. They're like, uh -uh, I'm done. I am not settling another second.
Now, I don't know how long it's going to take, but I'm going to create a world -class life. And they understand they're creative beings. that they can go create whatever they decide to be do you think the part of the issue is that we can be so literal so physical and so black and white so if it's not here it's not here i then they're living from the current reality and you're saying okay if you have to make a committed irrevocable decision and follow it up with action and i don't have the means to take that action then I'm just going to live for my current circumstances.
Yeah, that's how most people live. Most people are too physical because they don't understand who they are. You have to understand you're a spiritual being living in a physical body.
You have these higher faculties that are your superpowers that you can go create anything you want. See, most people don't understand who they are, which is the problem. So they're always coming from their current reality.
And they keep having the same thoughts, deciding the same choices. having the same behaviors, expecting different results. It's not going to happen.
So until you decide, this is what I'm creating. This is who I'm being. I'm going to create this world -class business, or I'm going to create the job of my dreams, or I'm going to create the best, get in the best physical shape of my life, or I'm going to create the best marriage.
Until someone decides that, they're not going to do it. So then what is the difference between an irrevocable decision versus wanting something even committing to something and not getting it?
Well, I wouldn't say they committed to it, okay? Wanting is on the conscious level. Receiving is on the subconscious level.
But commitment isn't a one -time act. Every day you have to recommit to your greatest desire. You'll know somebody who's made a decision because the first thing they think about is what they want when they wake up.
Last thing they go to sleep, they're thinking about what they want. Your goal has to become a magnificent obsession. See, committing one time isn't commitment.
Now, it could be an ironclad commitment, but you're recommitting every day. You're working on getting better every day. That's true commitment.
See, commitment gets us started. It's a process. You have to decide first.
But consistency takes us to the finish line. It's the man or woman that's most consistent always wins. But the first decision you and I have to make every day is not about our goal.
It's that I'm going to be in control of my mind. Until I'm in control of my mind, I'm not going to transform. I have to be in control of my mind because our mind is so powerful.
We see it when we focus on what we don't want. It becomes an obsession. Why?
Because our subconscious is impulsive. Once it gets an idea in there, it's going to think about it all the time. So wanting, planning, and even committing are not bad things.
They're good things, but they're not enough. Well, commitment, if it's an ironclad, irrevocable commitment, there's no chicken exit out. I always tell this story.
Eddie Murphy was on the Arsenio Hall show. I think Eddie Murphy to this day is my favorite comedian of all time. And Hall asked him, he said, what's the difference why you made it?
And other talented comedians that came up with you didn't make it. He said, I never had a plan B. I've never met anyone successful who has a plan B.
A plan B, that means you have a plan C and D. That creates settling. You want to have a plan A, a plan A, and a plan A.
You want to burn your bridges. Napoleon Hill talked about in his great book, Think and Grow Rich. So do you have a plan B?
I don't have a plan B. Plan A. What do you think about people who have a plan?
What would you coach someone on? Someone's like, okay, this is what I want. This is my goal.
Here's my fallback plan. I would tell them not to have a fallback plan. I'd say go all in.
And if you don't give up, you don't quit, you're going to achieve it. See, if you have a plan B, you're going to have a plan C. You're always going to settle.
Why do people have a plan B? Do they feel like they're being responsible? They feel like it's comfortable, you know?
What if this doesn't work? You don't spend any energy why it won't work. You spend all your energy only on how it will work.
What do you think? Well, I mean, I think that sometimes people think that having a backup plan is responsible when you have a lot of responsibilities. Who doesn't have a lot of responsibilities?
There's no one walking this planet doesn't have a lot of responsibilities as an adult. Now, kids may not. Yeah.
But as an adult. So but you're asking me. So what I do in my mind.
So. I like to bring up like a worst case scenario, not a worst case scenario, but like, okay, if this didn't work out, what is like the worst thing that could happen? If I go for this big goal and it just falls flat, what is the worst thing that could happen?
And then I like to find the solution to that. And then I don't have to think about it anymore because I realized like I've solved that problem. So now I can put all my focus on what I want to achieve.
So let's do it a different way. What's a very worst thing that can happen? Well, I don't, I mean, let's not go too dark, but.
Like what's the worst thing that can happen? I mean, something bad happens to your family. No, that's not the worst thing.
That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about goals. What is the worst thing that can happen?
You fail. You fail. You embarrass yourself.
Do you think you're ever going to be homeless? No. That'd be the very worst thing that can happen regarding goals.
Right. Okay. But then think what's the best thing that can happen?
If you know the worst thing is never going to happen, what's the best thing? But isn't that doing what I just did? No, you went and you gave yourself.
First of all, why would you ever think about worst thing? That's a word. So I'm saying the worst thing that could ever happen is you being homeless.
You're not having a room. OK, so I take it a step further. I say, OK, what's the worst thing that could happen?
And then what would I do if that happened? Solved. So my brain can release it.
Now I think of what I want. OK, that's fine. I just think it's not necessary.
I think what is essential is we become what we focus on, whatever we focus on, expand. So if you just started and built a different model, And said, there's no way this is not going to happen.
It always goes to the one question I ask myself. What if it doesn't work? You don't ask yourself that question.
No, I never ask. But I always ask, what would you do if it was impossible to fail? What actions would you take?
How would you think? So you ask a more empowering question than what if it doesn't work out? What if I fail?
You ask, how am I going to feel when it does work out? The only way it's not going to work out is if somebody quits. If I quit.
If I give in. That's the only way it's not going to work out. And really, if somebody does that, they don't deserve the big achievement anyway.
So because you're going to have to grow into that person and to grow into that person means you've got to make really ironclad decisions. See, the reason most people don't make ironclad decisions is because of self -esteem. They don't want to be on the hook.
They don't want to be on the hook. What if it doesn't work? Because I've had other things in my life that didn't work.
So did I. I had many failures in my life, you know, but this is a much. more empowering model.
And it's a model of self -respect. See, we're not going to achieve anything significant without self -respect. And most people don't respect themselves.
That's why they're always worried about what other people think. That's why they're constantly needing approval from others. When you decide you don't need an approval, like I don't need an approval from you.
You don't need one from me. You know, the only person that needs to believe in my goal is me. The only person who needs to believe in my dream is me.
See, the old me, I needed everyone. I needed buy -in from everyone. And until I got what I wanted to hear, then I would act.
That was such a losing mentality. Okay. So our dorm room poster actually needs to say, never give in, never give up.
Yes. All right. I wanted to share one quick thing and then we'll get right back to the show.
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All right, now right back to the episode. How much consideration do you give a decision before you make it? My decision filter is very simple.
There's two parts of it. Is this going to grow me? Yes.
Then I do it. If it's going to contract me, no, I don't do it. Then I have the second filter.
Would my future self say yes to this? Because there might be stuff that grow me that I don't want to do. So would my future self say yes?
If my future self says yes, I say yes. If my future self says no, I say no. So to be able to have that filter, you have to be really familiar with who your future self is, what their values are, how they want to live, how they want to spend their days.
Not just this like vague idea of what it would be like the goal achieved. You have like a really crystal clear image of that person, how they're living, what they enjoy, what they don't enjoy. You have to.
Like I write a letter to my future self once a week. And the reason I do it is. Your future self is like a friend.
If you don't have a relationship with it, you're not going to know it. So the person who has already achieved my goal, that is my future self. They've already achieved it.
So I'm already coming from already achieving it. But I need to know what are the characteristics of that person. That's why I write a letter to my future self.
In the present tense. Or the past tense, already thanking it for what I did, who I became. So it becomes very simple.
But here's the easiest thing with decision. You always know if you should say yes or no to something because energy doesn't lie. The truth always resonates with the essence of who we are.
Like I always talk about when I was failing. I got on this flight that changed my life. The old me, there was no way I should have been on that flight.
There was no way. My mentor, Bob Proctor, said, I need you to come out to Toronto tomorrow. Now, at that time, I had no money.
And it was a couple thousand dollars the day before to get a flight. I got on the flight because I committed to myself that I was going to do exactly what this man told me to do. Well, I got on the flight.
As soon as I got into his office, he said, so you really came? And I said, was it a test? He said, I wanted to see how truthful you were about doing whatever I told you.
Because he kind of scared me. He's like, I fire clients all the time. I didn't want to get fired.
And that moment, not that moment, that night changed my life. Like, even though nothing changed in my results, everything changed. Because he gave me a plan of what we were going to do.
I had so much belief. But I remember being on that plane. You got to understand, I had no money.
I was failing miserably. And I'm on the tarmac about to take off. And I was like, you are being so illogical.
I just got married. I like it. None of it made any sense.
But I looked at decision so differently at that point. That's why I tell all our clients, the wealthiest decision you will ever make is the decision before you were ready. So what does it take for a decision then to become irrevocable?
There's no once you make it, you never go back on it. Like this is who I am. So it's your follow through that makes it irrevocable.
It's your follow through. It's your commitment to it. So there's probably a lot of people listening to this.
I know you used to be this way, who has terrible follow -through. They've never followed through on a decision that they've made, at least one that grew them. How do you change that?
It's really falling in love with this one question. Will this change my life? That's what I did.
So every goal that I connect is for whether it will change my life. If it's not going to change my life, I'm not doing it. That's why I don't go after small goals.
I think too many people are going after very minimal goals because it's comfortable. When you go after a big goal, the goal grows you more than you grow the goal. So the goal builds you.
Like if you look at anyone in business, the business is building you more than you're building the business. So you want to go after goals that demand you to grow. I think a lot of things.
A lot of people stay stuck because they're afraid of what other people are going to think. If I take this bold action, if I fail and everybody sees, or if I set this big goal and everybody knows and I don't achieve it, I'm going to be so embarrassed or whatever story it is that they have going on in their mind. So can you make a decision quietly?
Can you go about changing and transformation in a way that is private? Yeah, absolutely. I think people who don't have a great support group should not be telling people their goals or their decisions.
Now I'm the opposite. I like letting the world know what my goals are because I want everyone to be my accountability partner because now it puts me on the hook. But when I first started, I didn't want anyone to know.
The only person that knew was my wife. That was the only person that knew. I never, I never boast.
I never tell anything still to this day. I don't boast, you know, because nobody cares anyway. Like everyone's living their story.
And I tell this all the time. I have a good friend of mine and he's always telling me his accolades. I always tell him like, it's a bit much, you know, like it's a bit much.
And I was, you know, because nobody cares. The only person who cares the most about my story is the people in my family. We're a great example of this too, because we go about it very differently.
Like you like to tell everybody I'm very private. I'll tell like one or two, maybe three people. And.
I mean, it's just a different approach. It's what works in your philosophy. And it goes back to without decision, none of this works.
So you can't be in control. You can't build a bigger mind with yourself, within yourself. You can't build bigger beliefs without decision, without being in control of your mind.
And that's why most people are struggling. Because they have a lot of anxiety. They have a lot of worry, doubt, and fear.
Why? Because they're not in control of their mind. That's why none of this works until we decide every morning, I'm going to be in control of my mind.
Okay. You're going to think this question is off topic, but I'm going to bring it full circle. Okay.
Have you ever had buyer's remorse? Yes. Okay.
So you know that feeling where you buy something and then like, maybe the same day, maybe the next day, you're like, oh, I really like, that was dumb. I didn't really need this or whatever it is that you're thinking. Do you think people get decision remorse?
Yeah. Okay. So is that remorse real?
Did they make the wrong decision or is it the program pulling them back? They could have made the wrong decision, but it could have been the program pulling them back too. It depends the circumstance.
Like I've made decision off of emotion. You know, I remember in Italy, we were in Greece this summer and I wanted to buy these shoes.
I didn't. And then I bought them. I go, they're not that great.
You know, they're not like that great. So like it wasn't my program. It was just like I didn't want it badly enough.
Yeah. You know, so, yeah, you could have it. But most of the time people won't act on a decision or make the decision, even though they know it's going to grow them because they're always thinking of what if it doesn't work?
Well, the flip side of that is sometimes the opportunity is lost. And then you get that remorse feeling, which is the worst when it's no longer available to you to make. You know, it's a question I'm going to give you.
And I want to give all the listeners this. And I give this to our clients all the time. Over the last 30 days, what opportunity that you have that you didn't act on?
I want you to think about it. I want everyone to think about it. It's the decisions we don't act on could be the greatest opportunity.
But why don't you act on it? Because of fear. Well, where is the underlying of the fear?
You're not in control of your mind. You're not thinking from how you want to live. You're thinking from circumstances.
Okay, if one decision is all it takes to transform your life, no plan B, burn all your boats, what is your homework to everybody listening? Well, number one, bet on yourself every day. Imagine what you would decide, who you would be, what actions you would take that are bold if it was impossible to fail.
But the one decision that we all have to make every day is betting on ourselves. Until we bet on ourselves, the world is not going to bet on us. The world only treats us how we treat ourselves.
So if you're not getting treated right now, if your results are not great, I would look in the mirror because you're not valuing yourself. And you might be thinking, yes, I am. I promise you.
I promise you the results always tell the story. All right, everybody, bet on yourself before you go to bed tonight. Take one bold action towards the future self, the one that you want to embody today.
And if you enjoyed today's episode, if you had one thing that really stuck out to you, keep listening. Don't stop here. And we'll come out with a new episode next week.
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