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10 Ways to Build Extreme Confidence Using Neuroscience

A neuroscientist-coach breaks down confidence into 10 science-backed habits — from nervous system regulation to identity-level self-trust.

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Big Idea

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Confidence is not a personality trait or a reward for achievement — it is a trainable biological state built through nervous system regulation, deliberate mental rehearsal, and identity-level self-knowledge.

Who This Is For

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READ IF YOU ARE…
  • You feel chronically under-confident despite real accomplishments and cannot pinpoint why.
  • You have tried affirmations but they feel hollow or your logical mind rejects them.
  • You people-please or struggle to say no and sense it is draining your self-belief.
  • You believe confidence has to be earned through external wins before you can feel it.
  • You are open to a framework that blends neuroscience with mindset and spirituality.
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  • You want peer-reviewed citations rather than a practitioner interpretation of brain science.
  • The spiritual framing (divine guidance, life force energy) is a dealbreaker for you.
TL;DR

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Confidence is a biological and neuroplastic state, not a fixed trait — and the way you regulate your nervous system, talk to yourself, and choose your environment either builds or erodes it daily. The framework covers ten levers: nervous system regulation, mental rehearsal of success, mirror work and embodied affirmations, evidence-stacking, physical self-care, self-trust through kept promises, boundaries rooted in values, curating your social environment, decoupling confidence from current circumstances, and grounding identity in self-knowledge rather than achievement. The final point is the through-line: real confidence comes from remembering you are already worthy, not from proving it.

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Chapters

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00:00 – 00:57

01 · Hook + credentials

Cold open with confidence-energy claim; host introduces herself as a two-degree neuroscientist coaching clients in 55+ countries.

00:57 – 02:55

02 · #1 — Regulate your nervous system

Dysregulation suppresses prefrontal cortex; good sleep and structure as biological confidence prerequisites.

02:55 – 08:32

03 · #2 & #3 — Stop rehearsing failure + mirror work

Neuroplasticity strengthens repeated mental simulations; best-case visualization, affirmation + movement pairing, mirror work to rewire self-image.

08:32 – 10:29

04 · #4 — Build evidence aggressively

Part 1: credit your past wins. Part 2: take action despite no confidence and celebrate the attempt.

10:29 – 12:34

05 · #5 — Take care of your physical body

Exercise, grooming, and appearance rituals as reconnection tools; discover which activities personally boost your confidence.

12:34 – 13:33

06 · #6 — Keep your word to yourself

Small kept promises build self-trust; overcrowding your schedule sets you up for self-betrayal.

13:33 – 16:16

07 · #7 — Cut people pleasing

Saying no requires knowing your values; boundaries are learned through the experience of having them violated.

16:16 – 18:18

08 · #8 — Protect your mind from people who normalize limitation

Mirror neurons, emotional contagion, brainwave synchronization: your social environment is literally a neurological input. Gossiping about successful people trains your brain to see success as unsafe.

18:18 – 21:00

09 · #9 — Do not let temporary circumstances define your identity

Personal story: 30K to 2M Instagram followers by leading with delusional confidence before logic caught up. Confidence must come before achievement, not after.

21:00 – 24:06

10 · #10 — Know yourself at a soul level

True confidence is not achievement-dependent; it is identity-level. Spiritual pivot: doubting yourself is doubting the divine. Practice intuition trust through graduated exercises.

24:06 – 25:04

11 · CTA — MindCraft method

Soft pitch for coaching program; link in description.

Atomic Insights

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  • Nervous system dysregulation physically turns down prefrontal cortex activity — the same brain area that drives self-belief.
  • You are unknowingly practicing insecurity every time you imagine worst-case scenarios; neuroplasticity strengthens whatever you rehearse.
  • Affirmations work better when you are already feeling good — pair them with movement or any dopamine-boosting activity to lower resistance.
  • Walking reduces amygdala activity, which is why processing new beliefs is easier on a walk than sitting still.
  • Confidence must precede achievement, not follow it — waiting to feel confident until you win is a trap most people never escape.
  • Keeping small promises to yourself trains your brain to see you as trustworthy; breaking them erodes self-belief at the root.
  • You cannot set boundaries without knowing your values — and your values are often only discovered through experiencing their violation.
  • Gossip about successful people literally trains your brain to view success as unsafe or morally bad.
  • Mirror neurons and brainwave synchronization mean the people around you are not just influences — they are inputs your brain models itself on.
  • True confidence is not achievement-dependent and therefore cannot be taken from you by failure or circumstance.
  • Doubting yourself is, in a meaningful sense, doubting whatever larger force you believe guides your life.
  • You do not need to see the whole path to the top of the mountain — only the next right step.
Takeaway

Confidence is a trainable biological state, not a reward.

WHAT TO LEARN

Confidence is not something you earn after achievement — it is a neurological condition you cultivate before it, through how you regulate your body, rehearse your future, and define yourself.

  • Nervous system dysregulation physically reduces prefrontal cortex activity — the brain region most responsible for self-belief — so sleep, structure, and stress regulation are not self-care extras, they are confidence prerequisites.
  • Neuroplasticity means your brain strengthens whatever you rehearse mentally; imagining failure in vivid detail is not anxiety, it is practice — and it trains insecurity just as reliably as visualization trains confidence.
  • Affirmations fail when you try to install them in a low-state brain; pairing them with movement, dance, or any dopamine-generating activity lowers amygdala resistance and makes new beliefs easier to absorb.
  • Confidence built on achievements is fragile — any setback can erase it. Confidence anchored in self-knowledge and identity is stable because it does not depend on external results.
  • Keeping small promises to yourself is not productivity advice — it is trust-building with yourself. Every broken self-promise teaches your brain that you are not a reliable source of belief.
  • People who normalize limitation are not just demotivating; through emotional contagion and mirror neuron activation, they are actively shaping your neural patterns toward the same limits.
  • Saying no is structurally impossible without clarity on your values; the work of cutting people-pleasing starts with identifying what you actually stand for, which is often only revealed through the experience of having it violated.
  • The gap between where you are and where you want to be does not require full-path visibility — only the next right step, repeatedly trusted and taken.
Glossary

Terms worth knowing.

Prefrontal cortex
The front region of the brain associated with planning, decision-making, and self-belief. Dysregulated nervous system states reduce its activity, making confident thought and action harder.
Neuroplasticity
The brain ability to rewire itself based on repeated thought and behavior patterns. Whatever you mentally rehearse — success or failure — gets structurally reinforced.
Nervous system dysregulation
A chronic state of stress activation where the body threat response system stays switched on. Symptoms include trouble sleeping, constant overwhelm, irritability, and difficulty relaxing.
Emotional contagion
The documented psychological process by which emotions and mental states spread between people through unconscious mimicry and neural mirroring.
Mirror neurons
Brain cells that fire both when you perform an action and when you observe someone else performing it, explaining why surrounding yourself with confident people activates similar patterns in your own brain.
Brainwave synchronization
The phenomenon where the brainwave patterns of people in close communication begin to align, with the degree of synchrony correlating to felt closeness and influence.
Optical flow
The visual experience of moving through an environment. Walking produces optical flow, which reduces amygdala (threat-detection) activity and makes absorbing new ideas easier.
MindCraft method
The presenter proprietary coaching program and community, mentioned at the end of the video as the paid offer.
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“Your brain strengthens whatever you repeatedly simulate in your mind.”
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20:21
“I have a hot take where no, I think that you got to feel confident before you go out and achieve things.”
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23:39
“True confidence comes from remembering rather than proving.”
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22:14
“Doubting yourself is doubting the divine.”
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“You do not need to know how to get to the top of the mountain from the bottom. All you need to know is the next right step.”
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00:00Research shows that the same actions taken with different energy get you different results. Confidence makes you more likely to get what you want. And in this video, I want to tell you my science-backed formula to build extreme confidence using neuroscience.
00:15This is the formula that I use to completely shift my mindset, and it's the same formula that I give thousands of my clients all over the world that I coach. So, let's strap in cuz this one's going to be good. And if you're new here, hi, I'm Emily, also known as M the Brain.
00:30I'm a trained neuroscientist. I've got two degrees in neuroscience, as well as many years of research experience in the lab. I am now a coach to people in over 55 countries all over the world.
00:41I help them rewire their brains, shift their energy, and completely change their lives. And I'm here to help you do the exact same thing. So, now let's talk about my top 10 science-backed secrets for extreme confidence so that you can stop doubting yourself and actually start to make your dreams come true.
00:57Number one is to regulate your nervous system. People think that confidence is just a mindset, but it is also biology. When your nervous system is dysregulated, your prefrontal cortex activity actually turns down.
01:13Your prefrontal cortex is the same brain area that is important for confidence, for belief in yourself. It's the CEO of your brain. It helps you be the CEO of your life.
01:23And so, when your nervous system is dysregulated, the exact brain area that you need to be strong and active for confidence is not there to support you. Biologically, you're not set up for success when it comes to confidence if you're dysregulated.
01:38Now, a few kind of signs that you are dysregulated, if you're just like, I have no ideas. Is my nervous system dysregulated? I don't know.
01:45Well, that looks like trouble relaxing. If you have trouble sleeping, trouble relaxing. If you are constantly overwhelmed, stressed, you feel like you're under this constant pressure.
01:55Maybe you feel anxious a lot of the time. You're very irritable or easily triggered. These can be signs that your nervous system is dysregulated.
02:02And I'm sure you've felt this before. On a day where you've slept really well the night before and you get a really good workout in, it is way easier to feel confident versus a day where you slept terribly and you just wake up and you don't feel good. You're You don't feel as confident.
02:18Why? Because biologically you are not set up for success when it comes to confidence. Now, if you are someone who hears structure and you immediately kind of want to run for the hills because that feels too rigid, I get it.
02:29I have been diagnosed with ADHD. I am right there with you. I don't like kind of super rigid schedules, but structure is so important.
02:37Giving yourself some sort of structure and systems, a solid morning routine that allows you to have flexibility within the routine is extremely extremely important. Structure holds you in place so that you don't crumble to the ground like a cookie. I just used that example because I actually spoke at South by Southwest and I was talking about how important systems are, especially for focus, and I had a picture of a chocolate chip cookie on the slide and it was crumbling to the floor and I was like, this is me without structure.
03:11Number two, stop rehearsing failure mentally. A lot of people are unknowingly practicing being insecure every single day. They walk around imagining the worst-case scenario, imagining them failing.
03:24They speak to themselves like someone who is already losing. This is the way that neuroplasticity works.
03:30What you repeatedly practice externally, but also internally in your mind, gets strengthened. So, the thoughts that you repeatedly practice in your mind that you rehearse, that becomes your dominant way of thinking, feeling, and being. If you are rehearsing failure mentally every single day with your thoughts and imagination, you can't expect yourself to be confident.
03:52Your brain strengthens whatever you repeatedly simulate in your mind. So, if you're walking around all day long just beating yourself up, imagining failure, talking to yourself unkindly, you can't expect yourself to feel confident.
04:05So, check the way that you are talking to yourself. Talk to yourself like you would your best friend. I actually have a practice of this.
04:13If I catch myself maybe not giving myself the grace that I know I deserve, I will pause and imagine that my best friend is coming to me with the exact same issue. So, whatever it is that you're holding against yourself right now, whether it be pressing snooze too many times.
04:28It can be as simple as that, right? Like, "Oh, I pressed snooze too many times. I didn't get the work done that I said I was going to get done." Whatever it is that you're replaying in your mind right now, whatever doubt that you're replaying in your mind right now, whatever negative thing that it is about yourself, imagine your best friend walks up to you and says that thing to you.
04:48What would you say to them? Usually, it's giving them grace, giving them love, showing them acceptance, and being like, "Hey, you can't change the past. All you can do is do different moving forward." We don't expect the people we love to be perfect.
05:02Like, I don't know about you, but I don't expect the people that I love to be perfect. So, you have to give yourself that same grace. Like, why do we expect ourselves to be any different than we expect others to be?
05:12Give yourself the grace and the love and the acceptance that you deserve and that you give others. Another practice that I really like to do here is kind of pattern interrupts. And the way that neuroplasticity again works is whatever you repeat strengthens.
05:28So, anytime that you catch yourself in a negative thought pattern about yourself, pause and give yourself three put-ups. You got to counterbalance the emotional intensity of whatever it is that you're practicing.
05:40But, start also imagining best-case scenarios. It's just so much more common for people to imagine worst-case scenarios than best-case scenarios. Like it's so interesting that imagining a worst-case scenario, like what if this goes wrong, is more normal and socially accepted than imagining what if it all goes right.
06:00That's delusional. But imagining what if it all goes wrong isn't delusional. But the other half of number three is mirror work.
06:08When you practice looking at the image of you in the mirror while hyping yourself up, while saying affirmations out loud, while, you know, talking yourself up, maybe even while dancing. I like to dance in the mirror as well.
06:23Doing something that boosts dopamine, standing in front of the mirror, actually helps to rewire how your brain sees you. Because in case you didn't know, you don't just see the world with your eyes, you see the world with your brain. All your eyes do is just take in light signals, and those light signals travel through the brain, and your thoughts, emotions, memories, and beliefs are all incorporated before the image is put together that you see.
06:48There There are differences in brain activity in people that have, for example, body dysmorphia. They've shown differences in brain activity.
06:55Their brains are literally putting together the image of them differently. It's not just all in their head. Their brains are literally constructing the image differently.
07:03And so you can train your brain to construct the image of you differently. One more thing about affirmations, if you struggle to do them, if you're just like, "I try to do them, but I don't believe them, and my logical mind is just like, that's not true, and I don't feel good. Doesn't make me feel good when I do them." I had a client that was in the exact same situation, somebody that I coached.
07:23And something that really helped him was he actually got this old junk jet ski, fixed it up, and then every morning he would go out on the water next to where he lived, and go out on his jet ski, and listen to my affirmation tracks while on the jet ski. And he found that they actually helped him feel good when he was already feeling good.
07:43And this is so important. It is so much easier to wire in a new positive belief when you are already feeling good.
07:49And so if you're feeling terrible, it might be not be the best time to practice an affirmation. But try combining it with dance or with something that you enjoy. In the beginning for me, I combined affirmations with going for a walk in the morning.
08:02I would make a matcha. Actually at the time I was still on like four espresso shots a day, so I think it was like espresso. But I would make my latte and I would go out and I would walk throughout the city streets of Austin because I went to UT Austin at the time when I was beginning my journey.
08:18And I would just walk and listen to these affirmations and say them out loud. And because I was walking, I could actually process them easier. And when you walk actually, your amygdala activity turns down, so you kind of turn down the part of your brain that might resist cuz you're in optical flow.
08:33It's actually a lot easier to absorb. Let's move into number four, which is to build evidence aggressively. Now, there are two parts to this.
08:42The first part is to understand that you have already done hard things and you are doing way better than you give yourself credit for. Cuz I coach people all over the world and it's such a common thing that nobody gives themselves enough credit for what you're doing. Recognize that you are you've already done so much.
09:03So I want you, after you're done listening to this video, to sit down and write out a list of everything that you've ever accomplished. All of the reasons that you already are a winner. All of the reasons you already have to be confident.
09:17I had a client that I coached and she actually printed out her resume. She printed out her resume and she put it on her bathroom mirror. And every morning when she went into her bathroom, she saw her resume and she it reminded her that oh, yeah.
09:33I'm a badass. Like I've done so much. I have so many reasons to be confident cuz I've already completed and accomplished so much.
09:41Celebrate your wins. Give yourself more credit. But I told you there was a second part to this, and there is.
09:49It's to actually do things that you're not confident doing. Do more things. Like get out there and do things.
09:58Like build confidence through action. Post the video. Send the email.
10:04Set up the website. Make the call. Speak up for yourself.
10:08Go and do that hard work out. Take the risk and do things that challenge you more often. And when you do those things, pause at the end of your day and celebrate the win.
10:20Because if you don't do that, you're not cashing in on the wins. Number five, take care of your physical body. Exercise.
10:29Shower. Get ready. Put on an outfit that makes you feel good.
10:33Do your hair. Get a haircut. Change the color of your hair.
10:36Do something that makes you feel confident with your physical body. Take care of yourself physically. I can't tell you how many times maybe I'm not feeling the best and it's just like, okay, I just need to take a shower, maybe style my hair a little up extra than I usually do, actually get ready, maybe do my makeup, whatever it is, work out, and I feel so much better.
10:58Another important note here for number five is to get curious about yourself, right? Like take care of your physical body. Exercise.
11:05But also, what other activities make you feel confident? Like have you sat down and asked yourself like, what are the activities that when I do them I feel confident? Maybe that's another list that you can make after listening to this and then start to do more of those things more often.
11:22I find that a lot of times those activities are activities that help you get reconnected with yourself, that help you sort of draw back in to who you really are and build that connection. Number six is to keep your word to yourself.
11:35Do the things that you say you're going to do. If somebody that you knew was always telling you they were going to do something and they never did it, would you believe them? You'd be like, "Okay, yeah, for sure." If you repeatedly tell yourself that you're going to do something and you don't do it, and then you wonder why you don't believe in yourself.
11:56You have to keep your word to yourself. And you this can happen with small things at first. Like make small promises to yourself and then keep them.
12:05But don't make promises to yourself that you can't keep. Don't like pack your schedule with things like, "I am going to do all of these things." And then you're only going to beat yourself up when you don't do them. Don't set yourself up for failure like that.
12:16Include buffer time and make promises to yourself that you can keep. Because keeping promises to yourself trains your brain to see yourself as trustworthy. And self-trust is extremely important for confidence and belief in yourself.
12:33Number seven, cut the people pleasing. If you struggle to say no and allowing people to take from you, one, you're not teaching other people to respect you. And then you're also not teaching yourself that you are someone worthy of respect.
12:50Kindness is not always giving everybody what they want. And kindness also involves being kind to yourself and taking care of your own energy first. I remember when I first heard that you got to be a bad person to manifest, it took me off guard at first.
13:06Like, "Huh? You got to be a bad person to manifest?" But I like that saying because if you haven't really gotten comfortable saying no and not people pleasing, it is going to feel like you're being a bad person.
13:18It will feel like that. Over time, you'll begin to understand that you're not being a bad person, you're just taking care of yourself and honoring your own energy, values, and boundaries. But at first, you will feel like a bad person.
13:29That's how it feels. But the bottom line here is that it really will be difficult to say no if you don't know what your values and boundaries are. A lot of times your boundaries are learned through experience.
13:43So, it's okay if at first, you know, somebody drains your energy or someone makes you mad or, you know, frustrates you a little bit, right? But if you are angry, frustrated, or drained, those are clear signs that a boundary needs to be put into place.
14:00And so, you learn through experience where you need to place boundaries. And as long as you honor that, don't hold yourself don't hold it against you that you know, you didn't know, because how could you have? But when you see these clear signs, don't ignore them.
14:16And getting clear on your values is something that you absolutely can do today. I have all of the people that I coach in the very beginning of working with them.
14:26Like, who are you beneath the conditioning, beneath the programming? Like, you came to this planet and you were programmed. Your brain was designed to be programmed.
14:35You were conditioned by your environment, by the people that raised you. And you have to then wake up to this fact that you are not your conditioning and you're not your programming. You are something much deeper than that, right?
14:47And when you become aware of that and you kind of go on this journey of discovering like, who am I really and what is actually the most important to me, then you become very clear on your on who you are and what your values are. Like, what are your core wants and needs in life, then it becomes a lot easier to say no to things when they don't align with your values.
15:07But if you don't know what your values are, it's going to be very difficult to set boundaries and to say no. Number eight, protect your mind from people who normalize limitation. Confidence is contagious, so is doubt.
15:21I say this coming from personal experience. I grew up around people and the people even that raised me like would doubt my goals and dreams and laugh in my face and be like, "How are you going to do that?" Now, you can use that 100% as fuel, which is what I did. But also, you get to this point where you're on this journey of building belief in yourself and confidence and it's just again, it's a self-respect thing where you don't really allow or tolerate anyone that doesn't believe in you and that doesn't have this sort of like confident or abundant mindset.
15:57And I totally get that that can be a very lonely journey at first because it was for me as well, but when you shift your energy and you begin to live in this new state with this new mindset, I promise you you will be attracted to more people that have the same mindset. And when you get around people that have this mindset, it just becomes so much easier to be confident, to believe in yourself, right?
16:21And we could dive into the neuroscience of this. We've got emotional contagion, which is this psychological concept where emotions are contagious, energy is contagious. And I'm sure you've heard that spiritually, but scientifically speaking, it is true.
16:35We've got mirror neurons, which were discovered in monkeys. They were recording one monkey's brain activity and this monkey was watching his friends, his monkey friends, eat food. And what they they saw this monkey they were recording from his brain activity look like he was eating food and they were like, "He's not eating food.
16:52Why does his brain activity look like that?" Because he was watching his friends do it. Your brain activates in ways similar to the people that you are around. There's also brainwave synchronization, where your brainwaves actually sync up with the people that you communicate with.
17:07And the level of sync correlates to the level of connectedness that you feel with the people. So the whole saying that you become like the people you spend the most time with is 100% true. Now, this includes people who gossip or talk badly about successful people.
17:23If you are around people if you yourself or people that you surround yourself with gossip or talk badly about others or especially people who are successful, you are literally training your brain to view success and view that level as unsafe, as bad because you're talking bad about people that are successful. There are so many other reasons why talking badly about others and gossiping and focusing on negativity is not good for your brain.
17:52So many reasons. This is really the major one when it comes to confidence, right? Surround yourself with people who think big, take risks, and put themselves out there.
18:01What I have noticed about really successful people is that they don't have the time or the mental energy to focus on what other people are doing to tear them down. And so be like that. If you want to identity shift into a very successful, very confident person, super confident people don't feel the need to tear others down or talk badly about others.
18:20They just don't cuz they already feel secure in themselves. Number nine, don't let temporary circumstances define your identity. Don't even let your present circumstances define your identity.
18:30When I was in my PhD and I was kind of realizing that in order to make my dreams come true, I was going to need delusional level confidence and belief in myself. Like I just knew it because I would listen to interviews of all of these successful people and there's a very common thread in the mindsets of most successful people and it's delusional level belief in themselves.
18:50And so I knew that I was going to need that and so I worked on developing that. And I remember when I first kind of graduated, I moved across the country to Miami Beach to start my business and work on becoming a full-time creator and start start a business and do what I'm doing now, I really didn't have logical reasons to be as confident as I was.
19:16When I moved across the country, I had 30,000 Instagram followers. In less than 2 years, I hit a million Instagram followers, and now I have 2 million. But I really like when I decided to full send that dream, I really didn't have like logical reasoning behind why I should believe that I was going to be able to do that.
19:36And I remember when I actually told someone that used to be in my circle that I had this dream of reaching this certain financial income, and this person literally laughed in my face and said, "Who told you you could do that?" Now, I don't have a relationship with this person anymore. And of course, that motivated me to prove them wrong, and within a couple of months, I did it.
19:56I reached that financial goal, but my reason for these examples is really just to say that there wasn't really a reason that I thought there there wasn't a reason to believe I'd be able to do that. There wasn't. And so, you can't let your temporary circumstances, your present circumstances, define the level of belief that you have about yourself.
20:14And yeah, that might seem delusional. It might. But in my opinion, you kind of have to have that delusional level confidence.
20:20Like I I see it all the time. Like out there, there's this there's this kind of common advice that I see that oh, you're not going to feel confident until you go out and achieve things.
20:29Like I have a hot take where no, I think that you got to feel confident before you go out and achieve things. And if that's delusional, fine. But that confidence and that energy is going to make you so much better when you actually go and do the thing.
20:42And yes, going and doing the thing and putting your that will help to build confidence as well. We already covered that earlier. But I'm giving you permission right now to believe in yourself and to be confident in yourself without having any real huge wins or big things that you've done.
20:59Like it's fine. And this moves us into number 10, which is going to wrap it all up and send us home. And it's really honestly, in my opinion, the important point that I'm going to make in this entire video, which is that true confidence comes from knowing yourself.
21:16True confidence comes from knowing yourself on a deep level, on a soul level. Because if your confidence relies on achievements and external validation and wins and doing things all the time, then it can be taken away from you in any moment.
21:31But when your confidence comes from within because you know who you are, that's extremely powerful. I My life completely changed, my level of confidence completely shifted when I developed trust in myself and trust in the divine. Now, I didn't used to believe in a higher power or be spiritual at all or anything like that.
21:52I did not used to be that way at all. Um and my confidence completely shifted when I understood that I was divinely guided and protected, that I'm connected to everything that exists and that I'm not alone, and that I am divine life force energy in a human body. When you begin to believe that your life has meaning and that you are here on this planet for a reason, then you will also begin to understand that doubting yourself is doubting the divine.
22:19And I'm going to say that one more time because it's important. Doubting yourself is doubting the divine. And if you're like, "Okay, I'm cool.
22:27Like how did you develop trust in yourself?" Start listening to your own intuition. Like practice it. Now, I had an interesting way of working on trusting myself, which was actually when I was in my PhD, I would go hiking and I would purposefully go off trail and get kind of lost.
22:43Google Maps, I still had maps, so I wasn't actually getting lost. I wasn't in danger.
22:46But I would get lost on purpose. And then I would try to get back to my car without checking the maps. And at first, I would, you know, I'd get like halfway back and then I would check because I would start to question myself.
22:57And every time I would do that, I'd be like, "Damn, I was on the right track. I shouldn't have questioned myself. And over time, I started to build that trust in myself listening to myself.
23:07This is where I developed this whole kind of saying that I tell all the other people that I coach, which is that you don't need to know how to get to the top of the mountain from the bottom. All you need to know is the next right step.
23:19And that is applicable to so many different areas of life. You practice trusting yourself by listening and acting on your own intuition, and then over time you get better at that. But all this is to say that true confidence comes from remembering rather than proving.
23:34Like real true confidence is not about proving to yourself that you're worthy. It's about remembering that you already are. Remembering that you are divine life force energy in a human body.
23:44And that you're divinely guided and protected. Like imagine if you could have that level of trust in something that it you almost become fearless. And that's what happened to me.
23:53I kind of had this whole realization before I went into the PhD, and people would ask me like, "Oh, aren't you scared?" Cuz I was moving to a different state that I've never really been to before. People would ask me like, "Oh, aren't you scared?" And I just wasn't because I just had this trust and this belief that I was divinely guided and protected.
24:11If you made it all the way through this video, shout out to you. I hope that you get the most extreme level of confidence and belief in yourself that you ever had using these tools. And if you want help, if you want to work with me, if you want to go through the MindCraft method and experience the community and the program and the transformation, you can find links for that and everything that you need to know about coaching with me and and the MindCraft program will be in the description.
24:46But other than that, I'm sending you so much love and until next time, stay blessed. >> Mhm.
The Hook

The bait, then the rug-pull.

The same action, two different energy states, two different outcomes — that is the opening salvo. Before a single credential is mentioned, the claim lands: confidence is not optional decoration on top of effort, it is a biological variable that changes results. What follows is twenty-five minutes of a neuroscientist-turned-coach making that case with brain science, client stories, and a spiritual kicker most viewers will not see coming.

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Named ideas worth stealing.

00:57list

The 10 Confidence Levers

  1. Regulate your nervous system
  2. Stop rehearsing failure mentally
  3. Best-case visualization + mirror work + affirmations
  4. Build evidence aggressively
  5. Take care of your physical body
  6. Keep your word to yourself
  7. Cut people pleasing
  8. Protect your mind from people who normalize limitation
  9. Do not let temporary circumstances define your identity
  10. Know yourself at a soul level

A 10-step neuroscience-backed system for building extreme confidence, structured so each lever addresses a specific biological or psychological mechanism.

Steal forAny 10-tip listicle video on mindset or productivity — the nervous-system-first opening is a differentiator worth borrowing
07:08model

Affirmation + Dopamine Pairing

Affirmations feel hollow when you are in a low state because you cannot wire in a belief you do not feel. Pair them with a dopamine-generating activity (walking, dancing, jet skiing) to pre-load the emotional state that makes new beliefs stick.

Steal forAny advice on making positive self-talk actually work
20:21concept

Confidence Before Achievement

The mainstream advice is achieve things, then feel confident. The counter-position here is that confidence is the precondition for achievement, not its reward. Feeling it first — even without logical basis — produces better outcomes.

Steal forPitch decks, founder mindset content, any permission to believe in yourself narrative
CTA Breakdown

How they asked for the click.

VERBAL ASK
24:06product
“If you want to work with me, if you want to go through the MindCraft method and experience the community and the program and the transformation, you can find links for that in the description.”

Soft, earned — 24 minutes of value before any pitch. Single mention, no pressure, no repeat.

FROM THE DESCRIPTION
PRIMARY CTAWhere the creator wants you to go next.
OTHER LINKSAlso linked in the description.
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