24:45Brenda Turner · Talking Head
How to Be a Magnetic Speaker
A 25-minute case that confident speaking is not a technique to learn but a block to remove.
December 6th 2024The argument in one line.
Camera awkwardness is not a performance deficit but an ego-manufactured story about judgment, and the cure is redirecting attention to the person you are serving rather than improving how you perform.
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- A coach, consultant, or practitioner with real expertise who freezes or over-thinks every time a camera turns on.
- A business owner who has tried tactical camera tips and still feels stiff, because the block is mental, not mechanical.
- Someone just starting to post video content who dreads rewatching their own footage and picks it apart.
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- You are looking for camera settings, lighting rigs, or editing tutorials. This is entirely mindset and practice.
- You already post regularly and feel comfortable on camera.
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Camera self-consciousness is entirely ego-manufactured, the belief that how you appear to others matters, and no performance technique resolves it because the premise is false. The presenter builds the case with a dog analogy (animals have no self-concept, so they are never stiff on camera), then offers four sequential practices: redirect attention from yourself to the person you are helping; treat yourself as an instrument and start each session with a brief intention to let your highest self speak; practice speaking out loud daily so the camera stops feeling foreign; and open your heart to the process the way you would for a child learning to draw. The cumulative argument is that naturalness is not a skill you acquire but what remains when you stop performing.
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00:00 – 05:21
01 · Just Be You: The Dog Argument
Roscoe the dog is never awkward on camera because he has no concept of being observed. Self-consciousness is a cognitive construct the ego manufactures, not a natural state. The premise of how do I be natural is itself the problem.
05:21 – 07:42
02 · Focus on Them, Not You
Redirect attention from yourself to the specific person you are trying to help. When you internalize that you are there for people reversing disease or healing trauma, the question do I look good on camera becomes obviously small.
07:42 – 09:47
03 · Be an Instrument
Flagged Warning: Woo Talk Ahead. Frame yourself as a conduit rather than a performer. Start recordings with a brief prayer or mantra, please speak through me, to hand authorship to a higher version of yourself and remove the ego's stake in the outcome.
09:47 – 13:51
04 · Talk to Yourself
Practice speaking out loud daily on walks, anywhere. Camera naturalness is a trained habit, not a talent. Actors and public speakers rehearse constantly. Sub-practice: talk to yourself about your work encouragingly. Berating yourself trains the camera to feel threatening.
13:51 – 16:49
05 · Open Your Heart
Approach your channel the way you would a child who wants to learn drawing, open-heartedly, without demanding it be Picasso. A physically open posture toward the camera shifts the energy. This is the permission slip that lets the other four practices land.
16:49 – 17:51
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Lines worth screenshotting.
- Camera awkwardness is not a real problem; it is a story the ego invents about what other people think of you.
- Dogs are never awkward on camera because they have no concept of out-there versus in-here, no audience and performer, just presence.
- The ego's job is to convince you it matters whether people like you on camera; the moment you believe it, the stiffness starts.
- Redirecting attention from yourself to the specific person you are helping collapses camera anxiety faster than any confidence drill.
- Treating yourself as an instrument rather than the author removes the ego's stake in the performance; you are not responsible for being good, only for being open.
- Speaking out loud to yourself daily on walks trains you to hear your own voice as normal before the camera is ever involved.
- Berating yourself after every video teaches your nervous system to associate the camera with punishment; encouragement does the opposite.
- Naturalness on camera is not a talent but a practiced habit, the same way actors rehearse lines and speakers rehearse talks.
- Opening your heart to early-stage work without demanding it be good is the emotional permission slip that makes the other mindset shifts stick.
- The premise of how do I be better on camera is already wrong; it assumes there is a performance gap to close rather than a story to drop.
Naturalness on camera is not acquired, it is uncovered.
WHAT TO LEARN
The reason most people feel stiff on camera is not a skill deficit but an ego story, and the four practices here dissolve the story rather than patch over it.
- Self-consciousness on camera is not a natural state. Animals do not experience it because it is a cognitive construct, a story the ego tells about what observers are thinking.
- The premise of how do I get better on camera is already the problem: it accepts the ego's framing that there is a performance gap to close rather than a story to drop.
- Redirecting attention from yourself to the specific person you want to help is the fastest single adjustment because the ego cannot hold center stage when it is not the subject.
- Treating yourself as an instrument removes the ego's stake in the outcome; the practical version is starting each recording with a short set intention before pressing record.
- Speaking out loud daily on walks or alone trains your nervous system to hear your own voice as normal before the camera is ever involved.
- How you talk to yourself after filming shapes how your nervous system relates to the camera: encouragement trains approach, self-criticism trains avoidance.
- Openness to early imperfect work, treating your channel like a child learning to draw, is the emotional permission slip without which the cognitive reframes do not stick.
Terms worth knowing.
- The ego (as used here)
- Not the Freudian construct but the inner voice that generates self-evaluative thoughts, especially when visibility is high. The presenter treats it as a distinct part of the psyche that can be acknowledged and consciously deprioritized rather than silenced.
- Be an instrument
- A framing in which you treat yourself as a conduit for your highest knowledge or subconscious expertise rather than a performer who must be evaluated. Common in spiritual and improv-comedy practice; used here to dissolve the ego's grip on outcome.
- Woo
- The presenter's self-aware label for content that draws on spiritual or intuitive ideas rather than empirical research. She flags woo talk before sections on soul, higher self, and heart-opening so secular viewers can calibrate their engagement.
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01:38
“Dogs and cats don't really have a concept of self being self-conscious. They don't have a concept of: what are people gonna think of me?”
04:06
“The ego has manufactured this problem of being self-conscious. The ego has gotten in there and kind of infiltrated this whole experience and hijacked your ability to just be yourself when a camera's around.”
09:13
“You're an instrument. You can start your filming with a mantra or prayer: please speak through me. Practice trusting whatever comes out of your mouth is exactly what needed to come out.”
09:58
“Practice talking to yourself out loud like a crazy person.”
13:29
“If you're berating yourself every time you post a video and you say, oh, I hate the way I look, that really, really dampens your ability to be you on camera.”
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00:00Hey. In today's episode, I'm gonna help you to be you on camera, meaning supernatural, just yourself, no weird kind of stiff camera stuff, just you, and that's gonna help your channel to grow.
00:13The first thing I wanted to show before we jump into the practices, um, is a demonstration of a really great natural camera presence.
00:24Okay? So I'm gonna pop my dog, Roscoe, on the screen, and there's a reason for this. Okay?
00:31This video is gonna help you to become supernatural on camera. So I rescued Roscoe, by the way, on the December 15.
00:39And as we can see on this video, Roscoe has no idea that he's on camera.
00:46He's also got no idea that his ears are so big that I can't even fit his ears in the in the frame. He's got no idea that his ears are so cute and massive that they don't even make camera lenses big enough for these giant old ears. But he's not self conscious.
01:01He's not nervous about the fact that I've got a camera on him. He's not weird. He's not, like, you know, doubting himself.
01:08He's just being Roscoe. And in my opinion, we can glean from that video and from all of our pets, from your your cats, your ferrets, your parrots, whatever pet you have, your tarantulas, all you all of you strange tarantula having pet folk.
01:28We can surmise that pets are onto something. Okay?
01:32And I believe we can can take a huge first the first gem I wanna offer in today's session to help you to be supernatural and yourself on camera is that dogs and cats and all animals, they don't really have a concept of self being self conscious.
01:49They don't have a concept of what are people gonna think of me. They're not worried about, um, how are people gonna perceive me?
01:57Not once in the history of animals existing have they ever thought, oh, no.
02:02I hope they like me. Like, I I highly doubt it.
02:07Another thing that dogs and cats and all animals don't have is a sense of out there and in here. They don't have a concept of them and I. They're simply existing and being in this moment now.
02:20And I think we can really get a lot from just that kind of demonstration that I just showed.
02:27It's so amazing to be around dogs and cats because they don't have a concept of of you and I. It's just now. It's just we.
02:36It's just here. It's just let's just be. So the first most important thing I would like to pop onto the screen, and every time that I put a key point in today's episode, I'm gonna note it with a bell so that we can integrate it.
02:50So the first thing is to just be you.
02:55Just be you. Just be you, meaning exactly what we just kind of covered.
03:03Dogs and cats are only themselves. They can only be themselves.
03:07And just like you, you can only be yourself. You're only ever yourself in this moment. And the thing that happens with human beings is we see a camera in front of us, and we make it mean a lot of different things.
03:17We make it mean, um, I want you I I don't wanna put my thoughts of what you make it mean, but if you wanna share in your in the comments, what does your ego make the camera mean? For some people, they make it mean people might not like me.
03:32I might not be good on camera. I might be awkward on camera. What are people gonna think?
03:37And there's also thoughts way in the back that you can't even see or hear because your ego's buried in in your junk drawer. And it's like, I'm not good enough. I don't sound good enough.
03:48My voice isn't good enough. All these things that maybe you're not even aware that you're thinking them. So how do we fix this?
03:57The good news is there's actually no, um, problem here.
04:03The good news is the ego has manufactured this problem of, uh, being self conscious about something that it's totally manufactured a problem.
04:14The the premise of the question of, like, how do I be myself on camera, and how do I be natural on camera, how do I show up on camera?
04:24Um, it's solving for the problem that the ego has created, which is the premise that it matters what people think about you, that it matters if people like your videos, that it matters if people like the way you show up on camera, that it matters if you're good enough, whatever the hell good enough means.
04:44All of these thoughts that the ego has gotten in there and kind of and jack hijack your ability to just be yourself when a camera's around. Um, there's no there's no ultimately, I want you to know just before we get into the actual practical how to's I'm gonna give you.
05:00I want you to understand that there's actually no problem here except for the one that the ego's kind of created and sucking the joy out of the whole thing. Because the whole thing is actually really joyful and and really easy.
05:13By the end of today's episode, I'm most positive that you're gonna feel so much better the next time you turn a camera on. Okay? So practical strategy that we're gonna jump into, very important.
05:25I wanna give you some practicals as to let's focus on your person and not on you. See, the ego has made it your mission to be miserable.
05:34This is what they this is the nature of the ego. Your ego, which is a huge part of you know, we don't wanna we don't wanna get rid of the ego, but the ego is a huge part of this whole process.
05:45We have to understand where the ego must reside. Where we put the ego is in the backseat.
05:52The ego wants you. If you don't put it in the backseat, what the ego is going to do is it's going to convince you that it's very important what people think about you.
06:04Truth be told, that is exactly why we're so stressed out about when a camera turns on, how we show up and how we talk on a camera and why we get real stiff. Because the ego says, you better do good.
06:15If you don't sound really good on a camera, this whole thing's one big giant mess and you look like an idiot. See, it's very much like this.
06:24If we stop believing the ego and we say, I understand. I hear you. I hear you, .
06:31Now get in the back seat because it doesn't matter. I'm focused on the person that I need help. There's some high level teachers watching this watching this channel.
06:41Um, I've worked with many of them over the past year. And the things that people are accomplishing with their clients and with their businesses, it's changing lives.
06:50It's saving lives. There are people watching this channel who are helping others to reverse diabetes, to help heal childhood trauma, to help them to relieve chronic pain and illness.
07:02There are doctors here that are helping watching this channel that are helping people to reverse diseases.
07:10When we focus on those bigger problems that we're solving for people, do you see how silly it is to think of something like, um, what if they don't like me? Do you know?
07:19And this isn't a make wrong because I have that ego voice. You have that ego voice. We're never gonna be free of that ego voice.
07:26It's just a really important thing that we don't believe it. We don't listen to it. Okay?
07:30Let's get into another tangible besides focus on them, not on you.
07:35Always focus on your person. Okay? But the next tangible I'd like to offer is a little bit of woo woo.
07:42Just a little. We're gonna go back and forth between the woo and the practical woo.
07:46The woo in this channel is always grounded in practical application. But the woo that I'd like to offer you coming up ahead is that you're an instrument here, and it's not actually you talking.
07:57Okay? It could be you talking. And that version of us that's nervous to be in front of the camera, that's that's kind of the ego.
08:06So the ego wants to get in here and say, you better be liked. If people don't love you, you're not good enough.
08:12You're gonna look stupid on camera, so let's do it the right way. And then that you that shows up is the tight, not real you.
08:21If you be you, like my like beautiful Roscoe and your insert your pet's name here, you just be like, Mittens, the beautiful Siberian kitten or whatever. Um, and you just show up and allow the higher version of yourself, aka your soul, aka the divine beloved, aka your higher self.
08:40If you wanna get more secular and a little bit more just practical with it, your subconscious mind, the highest aspects of your intellect maybe, you let that part talk through.
08:52Now we're not relying on being good. Okay? So now we're not relying on being good.
08:59So we need the bell for this. We're going to be an instrument.
09:06We're an instrument. We're not the ones doing it.
09:09. So you can start your filming with a mantra or prayer or whatever, uh, just an incantation, a devotion saying, please speak through me.
09:23You're you could even say that to yourself, to the highest aspects of your of yourself. Please speak through me.
09:31And then practice trusting whatever comes out of your mouth is exactly what needed to come out of your mouth. However you say it is how it's meant to be said, and then post it and move on. This is a really nice way to let go of being too stiff.
09:44It helps you to trust the process. Okay? Now we're gonna go into a little bit more of a practical strategy, and that's on your screen.
09:54Right now, I put these very important words is to talk to yourself. And I am talking about talk to yourself out loud like a crazy person. For the introverts on this channel, you probably already do this.
10:07For the introverts that are extra quirky, maybe the theater geeks, I know for a fact you've been doing this for a long time. There are a lot of people watching this channel who probably already kinda do this inside your own head.
10:19I want you to practice talking to yourself out loud sometimes. When you're on your walks in nature, just talk to yourself out loud.
10:28Practice your lines out loud. Talk about your videos out loud. Talk about your ideas out loud.
10:33Why do we do this? We do this so that you can start hearing the sound of your voice, and it's not so foreign to be alone, quote unquote alone.
10:43We're never alone, by the way, but alone and speaking out loud. A lot of people expect you turn the camera on, you sit in front of a camera, and you do that once a month, and it's gonna be natural and flow like fine wine.
10:54But the truth of the matter is just like in the movies, actors and actresses recite their lines. Public speakers, they recite and practice all the time. Anybody who's speaking in front of an audience or even in front of a camera, most of us are talking to ourselves practicing all the damn time.
11:13This isn't something you need to take, like, you know, a job that you, like, have to do. I don't want you treating this like something you need to whip yourself with. I just want you to have fun with it and just get used to hearing your voice out loud.
11:26This helps you to hear, like, hear what your voice is.
11:31And when I'm talking about your voice, I'm not just talking about your speaking voice. I'm talking about your deep down voice, like your thoughts, your your essence, your thumbprint, your delivery, just all of it, how you'd like to interface with your work.
11:45The more that you talk to yourself out loud like a crazy person, the more comfortable you're gonna be. When a camera turns on, it's not gonna be so foreign to you. K?
11:54So practice speaking out loud, and also practice being your own best friend. That's another reason we talk to ourselves.
12:02If we're really supporting our own work, aka talking to ourselves in an encouraging way, this is this is an aside.
12:11This is like a little bonus tip. Talking to yourself in an encouraging way, like being your own biggest fan and best friend.
12:21When you're making a video, after you've made a video, a lot of people who when they first start out, they think, oh, I don't like the sound of my voice. I don't look that good here, and they start nitpicking themselves. I want you to do the opposite.
12:31And when you talk to yourself about your work, you're gonna say, good job. We got that done. I literally still do this.
12:39I'm proud of you. We we did it. We got it.
12:41We got one done. That's really good. Really well done.
12:43I'm not saying you can't, like, analyze your work. I'm not saying that you can't know where you could improve next time.
12:50But I'm saying for right now, when you're talking to yourself about your work, talk to yourself lovingly. There's no there's no fixing if you're if you're berating yourself every time you post a video and you say, oh, I hate the way I look. I hate the way I sound.
13:04I hate this. I hate that. I hate this.
13:05I hate that. A lot of people when they first start out, they're doing that. And guess what?
13:11They get guess what the inner parts of yourself are gonna feel like every time you turn a camera now? You know, it's like this. It's like, ugh.
13:17I better be good. I better be perfect. Um, there's a there's a, you know, a prison guard in here who's going to say mean things to me every time I film a video, and that really, really dampens your ability to be you on camera.
13:34So have fun with this. Turn on the camera. Cheer yourself on.
13:38Be your own biggest fan. If you are your own if you were your own biggest fan, it really comes through on the camera.
13:46It really helps people to, like, trust you. Have your own back. Okay?
13:51Let's move on to the kinda more woo, but this is very important, and it go it should go without saying, but I have to say it because I think this is a lost art, and that's to open your heart to yourself and to your work.
14:07To get in front of a camera when you're first starting out and you don't have any audience yet here on YouTube, um, especially those business owners.
14:16You've had clients in person. You've been building up your business for a long time. A lot of people watching my channel are business owners already.
14:24And you wanna grow your business online, and it feels a little bit maybe silly to be in front of a camera. And you're posting your videos, and maybe they don't get as many views as you would hope in the beginning.
14:35That's totally normal, by the way.
14:39Can you open your heart to your work? In the beginning part, like, there's a beginning part to all of our journeys. Can you open your heart to this process and take it as a journey?
14:50Can you open your heart to your what you're exploring? Can you be like a child with this whole thing? And just like if you had a child who was trying to become an artist and they said, hey, can we go to the craft store and can we get some crayons?
15:03And we can we start, you know, start this process? You wouldn't close your heart to that child and say, but you're not really good enough.
15:12But you're not Picasso. Like, do you know what I mean? If we open our hearts to this whole process, really open, open, open, and I mean this in a sincere way, um, the energy centers in your body.
15:26A lot of the times, what people are doing when they when they approach their work, they're kind of they're kind of going like this. So they got one eye kinda closed, and they're they're not willing to open their heart to the work.
15:38And what I mean by open your heart to your work, I mean, your heart to the deeper aspects of what's trying to come through you. So when you get in front of a camera, it's not just about, you know, making YouTube videos. It's about just letting yourself be who you are on a in in a camera setting or not a camera setting and just whatever wants to express itself from you out into the world.
16:00Opening your heart to see what's in here. What are we doing here? What do we wanna explore?
16:05What kind of ideas do we wanna talk about? Turning the camera on opening your heart like this. I'm gonna give you one just one just simple tool for opening your heart in this moment right now, you can feel when you open your heart to a person, when you open your heart to something you love, when you open your heart to to a warm cup of coffee in the morning, Those things that bring you a lot of joy.
16:31When you open your heart to an adventure, a road trip, if we take an open hearted stance with our work when you turn the camera on and you really open your heart to the whole thing, magic happens, And you really are able to just then be yourself on camera.
16:46So be yourself, open your heart to your work. I wanted to let you know, by the way, before I let you go, we're gonna be doing a lot of this in the YouTube breakthrough challenge. And so the YouTube breakthrough challenge is my five day beautiful live experience where we're gonna make or grow your YouTube channel in real time.
17:05We're gonna be working through all this stuff in real time. Get yourself on the wait list. Everybody who's on the wait list, they're gonna get first dibs on tickets.
17:12And when tickets sell out, they sell out. So sometimes the waitlist sells out the tickets. If you're on the waitlist, you get first dibs.
17:19So that's brendaturner.com/yt for the waitlist. If you missed this challenge, please join the waitlist anyway.
17:26That way you'll know when the one happens. Okay? Okay.
17:29And if you wanna know how to actually get your videos really popping, really polished, you're definitely gonna wanna check out this video where I talk all about the five sacred p's of YouTube.
17:43Five sacred p's, you can't you can't make a good video without these five sacred p's. And so go ahead and check that out, and I'll see you in the next
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The dog does not know the camera is there. That is the whole video, or it would be if you could absorb that fact in three seconds rather than seventeen minutes. Brenda Turner opens with her rescue dog Roscoe to make a case that naturalness on camera is not a skill you build but a story you stop telling about yourself.
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Four Practices for Camera Naturalness
- Focus on Them, Not You
- Be an Instrument (set an intention before filming)
- Talk to Yourself (out loud daily practice)
- Open Your Heart (approach work with childlike openness)
Four sequential practices for dissolving camera self-consciousness, ordered from cognitive reframe to physical and habitual practice.
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