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You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.

A 68-minute live intervention at Unleash the Power Within where Tony Robbins strips a successful entrepreneur's every excuse down to a single root: the need for control.

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Big Idea

The argument in one line.

Every business problem that persists past competence is a psychology problem, and the psychology problem underneath almost every stuck entrepreneur is an addiction to certainty disguised as professionalism.

Who This Is For

Read if. Skip if.

READ IF YOU ARE…
  • A solo founder or operator who's plateaued at the same revenue level for two or more years despite knowing what needs to change.
  • Someone who describes their problem as 'capital' or 'valuation' but hasn't taken a deal that was offered to them.
  • A business owner who does everything themselves and calls it a strength while privately exhausted by it.
  • Anyone who has ever said 'I just need to get big enough first' before they'll take the next real risk.
  • A founder whose personal life and business life feel like they're running on the same broken loop.
SKIP IF…
  • You're looking for tactical fundraising or investor pitch advice — the business specifics here are secondary to the psychological diagnosis.
  • You're early-stage and the core problem really is capital, not psychology holding capital at arm's length.
TL;DR

The full version, fast.

Pixi runs a family distillery business doing $3M in revenue, claims she's stuck on working capital and valuation, and Tony spends 68 minutes unraveling the real block: a need for control so entrenched it's sabotaging investor conversations, intimate relationships, and her own sense of purpose. The session maps a four-stage chemistry of transformation — satiation, dissatisfaction, emotional threshold, insight — and shows what happens when someone reaches the insight stage but still won't jump through the opening because certainty isn't guaranteed on the other side. The lesson for the room: your business plateau is almost never a business problem.

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Chapters

Where the time goes.

00:00 – 03:20

01 · The presenting problem

Pixi introduces herself: distillery business, $3M revenue, stuck on working capital and valuation. Tony immediately reframes — it's not a capital problem.

03:20 – 10:20

02 · Operators vs. owners

Tony dissects the difference between a self-employed operator and a true business owner using McDonald's as the example. Introduces the core diagnostic: if it can't run without you, it's a job.

10:20 – 17:00

03 · Fear is the chokehold

Tony surfaces the real block — Pixi is scared. Scared of what? Losing control. The conversation pivots from business mechanics to personal psychology.

17:00 – 27:00

04 · The personal backstory

Pixi's former husband left after she built everything. Tony traces how that wound is still running her business decisions — she picks people she can control, talks investors out of deals, and connects with herself through pain.

27:00 – 36:00

05 · Masculine, feminine, and the control trap

Tony explains the polarity framework: Pixi developed her masculine to survive, but staying in that mode is why she's alone and why investors feel the friction. Feminine leadership isn't weakness — it's trust.

36:00 – 43:00

06 · Certainty vs. significance

Pixi says she wants to be 'huge.' Tony unpacks why: she wants significance to feel validated. The problem — significance at the top of the hierarchy is a moving target that never lands.

43:00 – 53:00

07 · The transformation chemistry

Tony lays out his four-stage model: satiation → dissatisfaction → emotional threshold → insight. He uses the room to show that Pixi has reached the insight stage but won't jump through the opening because certainty isn't guaranteed.

53:00 – 59:00

08 · Business is a spiritual game

Tony's philosophical reframe: business forces measurable growth, which makes it more honest than most spiritual practices. When you serve others, you stop suffering. When you focus inward, the business stalls.

59:00 – 1:05:00

09 · Trust, respect, and aligned needs

Tony defines trust as aligned interests, not blind faith. The formula applies to investors and intimate partners equally. Pixi is going on four dates a week but judging before she can be vulnerable — same pattern as her investor conversations.

1:05:00 – 1:08:30

10 · The real ask and the real fix

Tony closes the business thread: a 10x multiple on a flat $3M business won't happen. Stop asking for it. Find a strategic partner at a lower multiple who grows the pie. The mirror runs both ways — same thing she's avoiding in love.

Atomic Insights

Lines worth screenshotting.

  • There is no such thing as a business problem. Every business problem that persists is a personal problem in disguise.
  • If your business can't run without you for a month, you don't have a business — you have a self-employed job with unusually high risk.
  • You can't have certainty and significance at the same time. To do something huge, you have to let go of certainty first.
  • The four-stage chemistry of real transformation: satiation → dissatisfaction → emotional threshold → insight. Miss any stage and the breakthrough doesn't hold.
  • An opening for transformation closes if you hesitate too long. When insight arrives, the window is real and time-limited.
  • Control and love are incompatible. You cannot build trust with partners — business or intimate — while trying to control the outcome.
  • McDonald's doesn't make the best burger. It built the best system. A business that can't function without its founder isn't a business.
  • When energy inside a business goes toward internal conflict and positioning, it stops going toward customers. Trust and respect aren't soft culture values — they're the ultimate efficiency lever.
  • Significance as a primary driver guarantees you'll never feel significant enough. The target moves with every milestone.
  • Talking investors out of a deal isn't due diligence — it's a control mechanism disguised as risk protection.
  • A $3M business flat for multiple years will not get a 10x multiple. The market prices growth, not potential and not story.
  • Suffering only happens when you're focused on yourself — what you're not getting, not receiving, not experiencing.
  • Business is the most honest spiritual game because it's measurable. You can't fake growth the way you can fake inner peace.
  • The difference between an owner and an operator is simple: an owner can leave for a month and the numbers go up.
Takeaway

Your business plateau lives in your psychology, not your market.

WHAT TO LEARN

The ceiling most founders hit isn't capital, customers, or competition — it's the psychology that turns those into excuses for not taking the next real risk.

  • Business problems that persist past competence are almost always psychology problems — specifically, some version of fear disguised as a practical constraint.
  • If you can't walk away for a month without the business suffering, you don't have a business — you have an operator's job with a founder's title.
  • The four-stage transformation chemistry — satiation, dissatisfaction, emotional threshold, insight — explains why people who 'know what they need to do' still don't do it: the insight arrives, the window opens, and fear of losing control makes them wait until it closes.
  • Certainty and significance, when they sit at the top of your hierarchy of needs, actively block the growth and connection you say you want. The sequence matters more than the needs.
  • Trust in any partnership — investor, employee, or intimate — is a structural question, not a character question. When interests are aligned, trust follows. Start there.
  • Control is an illusion; influence is real. Founders who trade control for influence unlock scale. Those who don't stay operators forever, regardless of revenue.
  • The same psychology running your business plateau is usually running your personal life plateau — and fixing one without seeing the other is why most 'business breakthroughs' don't last.
  • Business forces measurable honesty that most other growth contexts don't. You can't fake a P&L the way you can fake spiritual progress. That's the gift of being in it.
  • An investor's 'no' almost always means your offer doesn't meet their needs — not that your business lacks value. The fix is to understand their needs first, then structure accordingly.
  • Going on dates four times a week but judging every candidate before genuine vulnerability is possible isn't effort — it's managed distance. The same pattern shows up in hiring, partnerships, and investor meetings.
Glossary

Terms worth knowing.

Operator vs. Owner
An operator makes all decisions, controls all outcomes, and is personally required for the business to function. An owner builds systems and culture so the business runs without them. Robbins argues most founders who call themselves CEOs are actually operators.
Emotional threshold
The third stage in Robbins's transformation chemistry — when change moves from 'should' to 'must.' It's the moment pain in the current state becomes more certain than the fear of changing.
Satiation
The first stage of the transformation chemistry. Things are going well, but the rewards feel smaller than they used to — not because the situation got worse, but because growth is being called for and the current path no longer delivers it.
Polarity (masculine/feminine)
Robbins's framework for attraction and partnership dynamics, borrowed from relationship psychology. Opposite energies attract; when both partners operate in the same energy mode, polarity collapses and connection weakens.
Six Human Needs
Robbins's model of universal human motivators: certainty, variety, significance, love/connection, growth, and contribution. He argues that certainty and significance, when placed at the top of someone's hierarchy, reliably block the growth and love they actually want.
Resources

Things they pointed at.

04:15productMcDonald's
1:03:05productRobbins Research International ↗
43:50productUnleash the Power Within (UPW) ↗
Quotables

Lines you could clip.

10:20
“If you're not in Hoover Dam, you're not fucking stuck.”
Punchy standalone line that reframes 'stuck' as a mental state, not a circumstance. Zero setup needed.→ TikTok hook↗ Tweet quote
04:15
“If you cannot sell it, it is not a business.”
One-sentence rule that hits hard for any founder. Universal.→ IG reel cold open↗ Tweet quote
20:40
“There is no such thing as a business issue. It's always a personal issue.”
The thesis of the entire video in one line, spoken early.→ newsletter pull-quote↗ Tweet quote
58:36
“Suffering only happens when you focus on you — what you're not getting, not receiving, not experiencing.”
Philosophical line, stands completely alone, counterintuitive framing of suffering.→ newsletter pull-quote↗ Tweet quote
59:58
“Business is a spiritual game. It's designed to make you grow. There's no better game I know of.”
Reframe that surprises people — pairs well with a clip of someone grinding.→ TikTok hook↗ Tweet quote
The Script

Word for word.

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00:00Is it a skill problem or a psychology problem? Quick. On the surface, most of you would buy this theory.
00:04She doesn't have working capital, but it's psychology. See, you all think this is a business issue. There is no such thing as a business issue.
00:11It's always a personal issue. The choke hold on the growth of this business is what? The psychology and skills of the leader.
00:18Fear is the basis of all your lack of progress. The real truth is she's scared, and that's what's getting in the way of everything.
00:24What are you scared of? What's the truth? I'm by myself.
00:28What if I can't do it?
00:37What's your name? Where are you from? I'm Pixi.
00:40Pixi. What a cool name. Thanks.
00:42Pixi, where are you from? Charleston, South Carolina. From South Carolina, ladies and gentlemen.
00:49Tell us, Pixie, what business you in? How's business?
00:52I'm in business development, currently focusing on distilleries.
01:00Okay. And how's business? Business is good.
01:03Mhmm.
01:06Yeah. How many got that? She said over the affirmation business is good.
01:12That means it's not in trouble. It's doing pretty good. Right?
01:16Pretty good. And what's the choke hold on the growth to the next level? Working capital.
01:21Really? So tell me about that. Explain that to me.
01:25To open the markets that I'm in. Oh, by the way, just to help you, whenever somebody has a limiting belief from now on, if we hear it, we'll be totally respectful.
01:36Because it's not about making somebody wrong. Because how many of us have limiting beliefs we're not even aware of? How many of you can think of something you used to believe ten years ago that you would have fought to defend, that today you think it's pretty absurd you even believe that shit?
01:47Say, aye. Aye. So there's zero judgment.
01:50Are you you following me on this? If you do this with judgment, it doesn't work. I've had challenges
01:55bringing in capital. I get offers.
01:58They're just not offers that I'm happy with. I see. So it's not working capital is a problem.
02:03It's having working capital at the price points or valuations you want. That recognizes my value. And why are people not recognizing your value that you see?
02:13Lots of people tell me different reasons.
02:16They tell you different reasons. What's the real reason? What are the reasons they tell you?
02:22I think my business, I'm making it more complicated than it they can understand.
02:30More competent than they can understand or more complicated than allows a business to be able to grow exponentially and scale?
02:40My background in financial services made me give so many other risks and try to make sure that people were absolutely prepared that they could lose their money, that I think I'm continue to do the same thing.
02:56Which is So I can almost talk them out of investing in me because I care for their risk, even though I don't think I'm very risky.
03:07So is it a working capital problem? Yes or no? No.
03:11Yes or no? No. Is it a skill problem or a psychology problem?
03:14Quick. Psychology. How many see this immediately?
03:18But on the surface, most of you would buy this theory. She doesn't have working capital because many of you would say, me too. But your reasoning, it may be different than hers, but it's the same reason.
03:28It's psychology. Her psychology is, I need to protect them at all costs, but right now, she feels like she talks them out of it.
03:35There's truth in that. But she also gave us some insight that's even more true. She's making the business too complex.
03:41It is not a business if it is not duplicatable. It's a fucking job. A job with a lot of risk.
03:48Some of you do not have a business. You're self employed. By the way, I'm not being derogatory.
03:53You must know if you're in this room, I fucking die for you. Well, no, I won't do that because I've almost done that recently. Fuck that.
03:58But I would give my all for you twenty hours a day no matter how I feel. I'm here to serve you. But to serve you, I gotta tell you the truth.
04:04There's nothing wrong with being self employed. If you're self employed, you get to call the shots, you get to decide the time, the energy, the money, all those things. But you are always gonna be an operator and you will always be stressed.
04:15And you will never have freedom. Because you never, even if you want to, have the ability to sell that business because it's too fucking complex, or it's too dependent upon you.
04:25It is not a business. McDonald's, do they make the best burger? Yes or no?
04:30No. No. The most successful company of its type in the world.
04:34Because they built a system that an idiot can join. Anyone can be put in. You can replace the people.
04:39The system is solid. A business is a system of adding value. If you don't have a system that you can't walk away from, you cannot sell it.
04:47If you cannot sell it, it is not a business. Now many of you in this room are a psychology of, don't ever wanna sell this. And I understand that.
04:54We'll explain this later on. But it's a mistake. It's not a mistake that you don't wanna sell it.
04:59It's a mistake not to run it as if you were going to. Because if you run it as a business that's scalable, you will be more profitable if you keep the business. You'll have more choices and you'll have more freedom.
05:09So right now, this business is dependent primarily upon whose decision making capabilities?
05:13So it's not about mine. I'm asking, whose is it? Okay.
05:18A lot about mine, but but but I'm Everybody saw that. Maybe I just saw that. Your first gut reaction.
05:24No, it's not. Yes, Well, it no. Because so we're a family run business.
05:28I have nine children. Six of them are running the distilleries, and they really are all independent CEOs.
05:35And they do make the decisions. They run the operations. I get to come out and do the rain making.
05:40We do build high visibility brands and negotiations to try to move some of those brands. It took time to build them up to the point where they can be sold. Jean Paul DeJore is a good friend of mine.
05:50Good. Mine too. Yeah.
05:51That's cool. And? And so I'm just that's where I'm I'm stuck.
05:57Well, there do you know all the electricity in this room comes from where? Anybody know?
06:03Hoover Dam. It's not far from here. It was built in nineteen twenties.
06:07Alright? During the depression, and we're employed people. They built this dam.
06:10It's one of the largest dams in the world, hydropower. When they were building it, six people during the time of building fell in, and they're still there.
06:19They're stuck. If you're not in Hoover Dam, you're not fucking stuck. Okay.
06:24But your psychology your psychology is stuck. How many follow this?
06:28Right? And when you think you're stuck, mentally you are. There is no stuck.
06:33This is pure psychology. This has nothing to do with the business whatsoever. The choke hold on the growth of this business is what?
06:39The psychology and skills of the leader. And it's more psychology than skills here. At least 80%.
06:45How many follow here? Say, I. I.
06:47So help me with what you're stuck with, because I'm unclear.
06:50I'm trying to get my valuations high enough so that right now, I don't have any debt or investors.
07:03Built this by myself. K. And I'm doing about Now,
07:09by the way, I did the same thing for years and was equally proud. Sometimes that's fucking stupid. Yes.
07:14It is. Because you're not able to scale. You're limited to what you can physically do.
07:18That makes you stay an operator. So it sounds good, but I don't know any truly successful business that doesn't have any investors or any debt.
07:28There's only very few. So it might it feels good to an individual.
07:33She's trying to meet her needs. She is not thinking like an owner, she's thinking like an operator. That is her problem.
07:40Raise your hand if you follow it. It's not a capital problem. It's not a quality product problem, it doesn't appear to be.
07:47Seems like the business is growing if other people are interested in investing in it. It's a psychology problem. And that psychology, she's getting in her own way.
07:54She's got all kinds of reasons. I'm talking people out of it's one reason. I'm not getting enough valuations, another reason.
07:59I'm following you, it's another reason. She got every reason except the truth. You're the only reason.
08:07So what is it that's getting in the way in you? One thing you've told me is you talk people out of the business. Why you talk them out?
08:15You say, because I don't wanna have risk. Well, you believe in your business as much as you say you do, then it wouldn't be much risk. So maybe you don't believe in as much as you think you do.
08:25No, I do. Or is it you think you should have no investors? Because notice she was very proud of that.
08:29How many noticed that? Raise your hand. Investors, no debt.
08:32She's really proud of that. Well, that can be a good thing, but not if you're trying to grow.
08:37I was saying that's where I am now. My hallucination was that I had to figure out to get the highest valuation so that I wouldn't be arguing my value because it's it's a disruptive platform, and it was hard to explain it to people, so I just said, oh, I'm just gonna do it and show them.
08:54Great. So now you've done that. Yes.
08:56And now I'm afraid.
08:57Okay. So now we got to the real piece. Raise your hand if you fall.
09:01We're going through this whole conversation to get to the truth. The real truth is she's scared. And that's what's getting in the way of everything.
09:07What are you scared of? What's the truth?
09:13I'm like, what if I can You're on your side. You don't have to feel bad about this because once you know what it is, you can fix it, honey. What if I can't do it?
09:20I'm by myself. I know that we've heard that story four times. You tell that story all the time.
09:26And then you get tears like this, and you feel sad inside, and you connect with yourself by telling that you're alone. It's the way you feel sorry for yourself.
09:35And by the way, I'm not judging you. Please feel me. I'm pouring love into you right now.
09:39It may not feel like love in the moment, but it really is, honey. You have a habit that is in the way.
09:46Your habit is I'm on my own, I've been on my own forever, and there's some pride in that, and there's sadness in that. You're not on your own. You have six children, is what you said, are running these Yeah.
09:54Six running, but nine kids, five grandkids. And nine kids. That's pretty awesome.
09:58So you got six kids, so you're not alone. You don't have a man in your life, it sounds like. Is that true?
10:02True. Or a woman? Do you want a woman or a man?
10:05Man. Okay. Just I don't wanna assume shit in the day and age we're in today, you know?
10:10Okay? So you want a man, there's not a man in your life. And how much of that affects you on a day to day basis?
10:18A lot. Yes.
10:20See, you all think this is a business issue. There is no such thing as a business issue. It's always a personal issue.
10:28It's always something in you that needs to shift to go to the next level. Some things like this, you don't see at first, and then they become obvious. Some things are almost never obvious unless you dig.
10:37Fear is the basis of all your lack of progress. And many of you are fearless type of people, so you don't relate to this at all. But you're fearless while you're in your threshold of control.
10:48If you get beyond your threshold of control, you will discover that there's fear in there. Cause it's in all human beings, cause what we all have is a 2,000,000 year old brain.
10:55And it's designed to look for what's wrong and fight it or flight from it, run from it, or freeze and hope nobody notices. And that's what people do in business and they don't even know that's what's going on. There is no saber tooth tiger that's gonna kill you anymore, so so now we worry about what people think, how much money we have, and this woman is doing quite well.
11:12Even if there's a struggle to have this many kids all running different distilleries, she's doing pretty freaking well. Her life and business is good. Right?
11:23But she's afraid if I sell this business, what are you really afraid of?
11:32If I get these investors, what are you really afraid of? I'll lose control. That's right.
11:36And you have the illusion that you're in control now.
11:43By the way, this need to control is why she's alone, feeling alone. She isn't really alone, but she's feeling alone.
11:51She's valuing this sense of certainty. Are you following me on this now? And significance.
11:58Those are the driving forces right now, and they are trapping her. Because she's also connecting with herself through her pain. Her pain is that I have a man in my life, I gotta do the whole fucking thing myself.
12:10But she's focused on what she doesn't have instead of what she Has. Does have. You can't build on failure.
12:16So she's building and she she straps herself to it. She makes herself grow. She's a very fucking strong woman.
12:22But she gets tired of being fucking strong, don't you? Yes. What's this really about?
12:29Tell yourself the truth, Pixie. Cool name.
12:33I'm I'm really pissed off. I'm really pissed off.
12:37About what? I have worked my ass off my whole life. I supported a man.
12:42I built him to big big big business. I did all the work. I had all the kids.
12:46I took nothing. I slaved. I wanted nothing.
12:49I got no significance, no recognition. And then at the top of the game,
12:55he walked out the door. Yes. And then you took all that you built.
13:00And now I don't know what to do. I do know what to do. I'm afraid to do it.
13:03Give her a hand for that. She knows what to She's afraid to do it. Alright?
13:06So forget the fear for a moment and tell me, what do you need to do? Fuck the fear for a moment.
13:16Just put it aside. What do you need to do? Because here's the deal, you're living in the story of your past and here's the truth, you did all those things because you chose to do them.
13:26I'm not saying he was a good man, I don't know. I've made a good man, terrible man, maybe a lazy ass. I don't know.
13:31I'm not here to deal with him because he's not here. I'll be happy to deal with him. Send him.
13:35I'll fuck him up for you. Well, make things straight. But in the meantime, that's not gonna change your life.
13:40The only thing gonna change your life are your decisions. And you made the choice to do all those things truthfully because it fulfilled you at some level. Yes.
13:47So don't give me this bullshit about how you sacrifice. It's what everybody does in postmortem. Yes.
13:52But you did at the time because it fulfilled you. Now, you're not fulfilled because it didn't end the way you wanted it to. But you do have the business and you do have your children, which are pretty magnificent, sounds like, because most people's children, you know, they're off doing something else.
14:04Your children are all in business with you, most of them. So you have a family business that you love, and it's grown and it's doing well. But the story that I built all this and sacrificed and have nothing, I'm stuck because what you really want is you don't wanna have to use your masculine all the time.
14:19True? Yes. And you developed the masculine because you had to.
14:23Yes. How fucking cool is that? It means you have access to feminine and masculine.
14:26But you can't be in control and in a relationship with a masculine man. That's why you're alone.
14:35Because it takes opposite energies to have an attraction that's that strong. That's not to say she can't have a relationship, but you can't have a dynamic passionate relationship because she's the masculine.
14:46So who's she gonna bring? A feminine man. And then she'll be, in the beginning, happy because she could control him.
14:52That's why you like that guy. But then you end up being angry because you can't trust someone who you can control. Because that means some other woman could control him.
15:02So you lost respect for him. You lost polarity with him. True?
15:06Yes. So then you took over more, used more of your masculine. And by the way, it's wonderful.
15:10You can do anything you want. Any woman can use her masculine orphans. Any man can have masculine.
15:14Do we both do we all have both? Yes or no? Yes.
15:17But, we have a core, and if your core is not respected, even if you succeed, you're unfulfilled. Her core is feminine. She's just been away from it forever.
15:26And she thinks she has to be masculine to run her business, which is not true. Feminine has more power if it's used properly. If you think masculine has more power, watch A feminine woman walked by with a bunch of masculine men, they can't even fucking control themselves.
15:38Who's in charge? She's in charge. It isn't even looks, it's freedom.
15:43A woman that is Gentlemen, how many think a woman who is truly happy messes you up? How many gentlemen here think that's one of the sexiest things in the world? Make some noise, so they just hear you.
15:53Every man here who's visual, most men are triggered to be visual, it's the way we're wired, will respond visually to a certain woman, but every man here knows what it's like to be around a super attractive woman who's just horrible to be with. Who's so full of herself, so whatever.
16:06Right? And I know you ladies know what it's like to be around a guy that's like that. Same thing.
16:11It's really handsome, but holy shit. Being in relationship with him is hell. All he cares about is himself.
16:16Right? So we're not looking at that. We're saying she can have what she really wants, but she can't have it as long as she stays in this masculine mode.
16:23Who's running the business, she can't be that all the time if she wants to be fulfilled. And she's angry that she's not fulfilled, and she's worried that she'll never have that fulfillment.
16:33So the business is clouded by what's going on with her personally. Raise your hand if you follow this.
16:40So is she smart enough to figure this out? Yes or no? Yes.
16:43But what she doesn't wanna do is be out of control, because she thinks out of control equals pain when the truth is you aren't in control in the first place. The most you have is influence. And you know, if you get great at influence, you'll have the illusion of control.
16:56What you really have is influence. You can't even control your kids even though you think you can. They'll still do what the fuck they want even if you condition them long enough.
17:03Eventually, they'll do what any masculine man will do. They'll break out.
17:08You can't hold somebody in one place like that. So I want you to get, here we're talking about business. This is what's really going on.
17:15What's the choke hold? Her psychology. It isn't even a skill.
17:19It's just pure psychology. Because she wants to be in control. By the way, some of you can't relate to this.
17:24You go, oh, I'm not like that. I have a great relationship. But you're equally committed to control, which is why you're a fucking operator.
17:31That's why you're still stressed. Because the only way you're gonna be able to grow businesses dynamically, any business, is not be in control.
17:38Because once you're in control, you're make all decisions. If somebody makes a mistake, you go crazy and then you start doing it yourself again. The only way I was able to grow is to go through the pain of It's like children.
17:48They're gonna make their own choices and some aren't gonna be great. And they affect you. But that's the only way they're gonna learn.
17:54You can teach them, you can share with them, but you gotta get through those stages. And you gotta be better at picking partners or business associates. In your case, maybe partners as well.
18:03By the way, who'd she stick with? Everybody she has the sense of control of, her kids.
18:10But there's no man there. Because no man wants to be controlled. He's masculine.
18:12A little feminine guy will. And he doesn't have to be gay to be feminine. Some guys have been nurtured to be feminine.
18:19They've been taught by their mothers to please everybody. How many of you ladies in the room can't stand a man who's always trying to please you, drives you fucking crazy? Make some noise if it's true.
18:28Men are confused by this, but if I don't please her, she's pissed.
18:33What the fuck? There's a difference, gentlemen, between pleasing a woman and being a pleaser, isn't there, ladies? Right?
18:40But she's picked pleasers in the past, and then she ends up presenting them. She's picked people she could control. Your only way out of this is to give up the illusion of control, because you're not you're not in control of whether you're gonna live or die tomorrow.
18:52A truck could come hit you, something could happen to you, something happened to your business. You have very little control. You have influence.
19:00And you can have influence with these new investors. You can influence with new people if you increase your skills and you shift your psychology from control to influence. By the way, that's a little more collaborative, but that's how you grow things.
19:13I'm a partnership model.
19:14Yes. I I hear that. But then there's partnership model, then there's reality of what's going inside you.
19:20Cause the truth is, you'd have some partners right now if you thought you could control them. And one of the reasons she wants to cover all their risk, is she doesn't want the risk of someone she can't control.
19:32And she talks them out because she doesn't really want somebody there she can't control, and she's bringing somebody new in outside the family. Raise your hand if you follow this. So the person running this business shouldn't be the person running this business if you wanna grow it.
19:48So So what do you wanna do? Do you wanna keep growing the business within the family? Do you wanna sell Why do you wanna sell the business or some part of it?
19:54You want additional capital to grow? I wanna be huge. And so I wanna bring huge.
19:59I wanna be huge.
20:01Huge. Huge.
20:04I feel like I'm talking to Donald Trump. What the hell is this? Yes.
20:08I want to be huge. I want to be huge. Huge.
20:11Why do you wanna be huge? What need is driving that quick? Nothing wrong with that, but it's good to know what it is.
20:17She wants certainty and significance together. They don't go together.
20:24Only in the mind. In reality, to do something huge, you gotta let go of your certainty and take some significant what? Risks.
20:32Risks, and they'd all work out. But if your certainty is it doesn't matter, if it doesn't work out, I'll do something else. I'll find another way, then you can have enough certainty to take those risks to do something significant.
20:41But she's trying to keep one foot on first base while she gets to third. You can't do that.
20:47You gotta let go of first base to get to third, much less make it home and score. Mixed metaphor, but you get the Mixed metaphor for her.
20:57Right? So the question is, what needs to happen here?
21:05How many of you know what needs to happen here? Raise your hand. If you think you know what needs to happen here, raise your hand.
21:10Oh gosh, more of you know than that. You should trust yourself. What needs to happen here?
21:16What do you really want?
21:20You wanna be huge, so what will happen when you're huge? When you're huge, what will happen? I will
21:25feel validated enough to share my message with the world, which is what I've been trying to do. I see. No, you won't.
21:34Because the same doubts you have now will happen when you're huge.
21:39Because you have a habit of thinking that keeps showing up. And that habit is, I'm alone. Then you'll be huge and alone.
21:46Aren't you huge now compared to what you used to be? Think about where you started. Tell me where you started.
21:53Yeah. I Yeah. What?
21:55I started at like $10,000
21:57a year in sales. Yes. And what are they now?
21:59Over 3,000,000. Give her a hand, ladies and gentlemen. That's amazing.
22:06And 3,000,000 puts her in the top 5% of all businesses on the face of the earth, plus she's doing it with her family that she loves. But it's not enough.
22:15Don't get me wrong. I I like doing things huge too.
22:20But the difference is, I'm doing it because I wanna have a huge impact, not because I wanna be huge. I'm already fucking huge.
22:27Look at me. Right? So I didn't need to work on that one, I guess.
22:33The difference is you're doing it for significance, but significance when you get there, it's never enough. How many found, no matter how much you get, you want more?
22:41Let me see. Show hands. So the reason you want more is because we're meant to grow.
22:46If you were got satisfied, you'd stop growing. And when you grow, you have something more to give. And what makes your life meaningful is giving beyond yourself.
22:55There's only so much joy you can hold in yourself from food or alcohol or drugs or sex or success or business or growing. There's only so much you can feel by yourself. If you wanna trust this, if you wanna know, like people say, you're you know, I'm selfish, you're selfish.
23:10I've been selfish, you've been selfish, but that's not our nature. I'll prove it to you. When you have a great experience that really lights you up, what's the first thing you wanna do?
23:18Share. With who? Stuff.
23:20People you love. Why? Because our nature is to grow and give, because as we grow and give, it makes it bigger for us too.
23:27We feel more alive. So if she's being huge, so there's more to give and grow, that's different. But she's doing it to be validated.
23:34She wants to be significant because she doesn't feel significant because the man left her life. She's thinking she can prove to herself and the world that she's significant, and people listen to her. No one's gonna listen to you unless you got something worth saying.
23:47It doesn't matter how huge you are or how small you are or in between you are. You are huge already to compare to most businesses. Certainly not compared to Google or Facebook, but that's not what this is.
23:58And maybe not to Anheuser Busch, but they've been around a little longer than you. So
24:06I do have a message to share. What is it?
24:09We're here. Tell us.
24:12That through love and possibility, everything is possible. Mhmm.
24:16And that partnerships are more important than anything.
24:20I see, but you're not doing that.
24:22I always thought I was. And my model is a cause marketing model in one of the most lucrative industries on the planet.
24:30I'm an ordained minister running distilleries, and I don't drink.
24:38That's interesting.
24:41So now you it gets hard to explain to investors. Why
24:45come back to your message. So you're not really doing partnerships and that's your message. So no one's listening not because of the size of your business, but because you aren't doing that.
24:52And you're not doing that because you wanna be in
24:57Not in control. But my Not in control? No.
24:59No. I no. That's Yes.
25:01Why I'm not Yes. No. My model is partnership.
25:05So every brand that I launch is a partnership model, and we bring in lots of people on a particular brand. Right. So that's all run as like a mini little business.
25:13I understand. That's a partnership model. So now it's the umbrella that I'm trying to figure out how to leverage the value of that, whether it's franchising
25:23or selling off brands You you can make a decision. Try any of those. What is getting in the way?
25:30I'm afraid.
25:31Of what?
25:32Failing
25:33or not Let's see she'll have here. Okay. So that's we all have that in common, but we're not all stuck.
25:40What's the difference?
25:50Because it isn't just fear of failure. She's afraid she'll fail if she doesn't have control. Raise your hand if you see this.
25:57And she sees it, but doesn't wanna see it, because she doesn't like the way it sounds. I don't wanna let anyone down.
26:03I feel you
26:04don't wanna fail and you don't wanna be let down by anyone as well. Because you feel let down by your former partner. Yes.
26:11Your former husband. Yes. But honey, he had different values than you did.
26:16That's for sure. I learned that at UPW. That's good.
26:20Well, now you know, so he had different values than you. It isn't even that he didn't love you, it's he had different values. You have different values.
26:26And so your values have been rewarded up until now, but the same level of thinking as I said earlier. That got you where you are is not gonna get you where you wanna go. That's why you're stuck.
26:34You're trying to use the same level of thinking. You're trying to let your wounds drive you instead of the opportunity drive you.
26:40If the opportunity was driving you, you'd join you'd find those partnerships, you'd negotiate those deals, you'd have certain, you'd make it happen, you know how. You have to let go of what the fuck happened with this man. It's over.
26:51It's been over for a while. You gotta stop the story and feeling sorry for yourself about doing this loan. You chose all this shit.
26:58You chose him. True? True.
27:00And you chose him because you could control him, you thought?
27:03No. Actually, he was controlling me.
27:06You say that now, but you've done everything truly that you wanted to do. You said you did it for him.
27:11Yes. You did it because you wanted love. Yes.
27:14You thought if you succeeded enough, he would love you more. Yes. And you succeeded more and he didn't love you more.
27:20Yes. Because in order to succeed, you became masculine and he didn't have polarity with you.
27:26He wanted control.
27:28He wanted control. So you guys fought over control and that's what your relationship became about, and now he's gone. Because he probably found somebody that he could control or that made him feel like he was in control.
27:37You don't. Now you're trying to partners in with the same mentality. I don't wanna go any longer in this because I'm only going long enough that everyone get value.
27:44How many are getting value for this for you at this stage, and you can see some relationship, even though it may not be about an intimate relationship, how many of you overvalue control right now in your business, and it's a choke hold? Let me see, raise your hands.
27:55So it's been worthwhile to have this discussion up until now. Don't wanna go much longer, because it's starting to get circular unless you wanna make a shift. Let me help all of you and show you what's missing for her right now.
28:03If you're gonna have a transformation, there's a chemistry I've learned in a transformation. There's a few elements.
28:10Jot them down right now. Because if you're not there yet, you're missing one of these. So here's what I'm looking for.
28:15The first thing that starts to create the chemistry of a real huge breakthrough, of a huge transformation is satiation. Satiation means that it's not that everything's wrong.
28:26Right, David? It's that things are going really well, but they've been going well for a while in a similar way. And so now, even though it's good, you're kind of satiated.
28:37It doesn't reward you at the same level. There's still rewards, but not at the same level. It's like if your favorite meal was steak and lobster, and you had it every day, three times a day for three months, you know, it's still a great meal, but you're gonna get satiated.
28:51You're gonna go, fuck. This is good shit I'm having. Why am I not enjoying it?
28:55Because you're satiated. And the reason you get satiated is life, the universe, God, whichever you prefer, is calling you to grow.
29:03That's the whole purpose. Business is a spiritual game. I hope you get this.
29:07It's designed to make you grow. There is no better game than I know of to make you have to grow because there's immediate feedback. Lots of people say, I'm gonna grow spiritually, and they go to a cave and they meditate and shit.
29:18Any idiot can make yourself feel good meditating by yourself. Try getting a relationship with humans on a consistent level and keep growing and be in a great place.
29:28That takes a lot more spiritual development than sitting by your fucking self and praying. Nothing wrong with sitting and praying. I think it's a beautiful thing.
29:34I do it too. But in business, you can't fake it out. Think about it.
29:38What are the things people get pissed off about if you talk about? Bodies and money are two things people get pissed off about because they're fucking measurable. If I say I'm spiritual, you go, no, you're not.
29:48I go, look, you're not spiritual. You don't even feel how spiritual I am. I get to make up what spiritual is in my mind.
29:54You can't ever measure it. And if you judge me, you're not being spiritual. So I don't have to grow shit.
29:58I just have to tell myself I'm spiritual to feel good, and I don't have to do shit. But inside, I know I'm not growing. How many follow?
30:06Right? So nobody likes talking about things that are measurable. Money is measurable.
30:09Business is measurable. Your body's measurable. I can see you're full shitting me if you're massively overweight.
30:15So she's wanting to do things that aren't quite so measurable where she can stay in control and do things that are measurable and win. But satiation is the first step.
30:24But you know what? Satiation makes you start to look for a new way because you need to grow. But most people will not grow with satiation alone, and she is satiated with this.
30:34She's satiated doing your business the same way. That's why she wants to change. Tell me if I'm right or wrong.
30:39Absolutely. So, but And so she's interested, but she's not executing.
30:44Is she capable of executing? Making progress massively? Yes or no?
30:47Could she go out next week and make a deal if she was committed to it? Yes or no? And maybe she doesn't get the valuation she wants, but life doesn't give a fuck what you want.
30:56There's a value in the marketplace. And you can make up what you think it is all day long. But she could then have a partner and grow that with them to a much higher valuation and make more than she does by herself and maybe become an owner.
31:08But she's not doing because all she is is satiated. So if you get satiated long enough, it will lead to the second piece of chemistry I look for to help someone transform, dissatisfaction. Now, it's not just that you're doing something that's good and you're not feeling as good about it, you're doing the same shit and it doesn't feel good anymore.
31:26Now, it actually is a little painful. And now you're dissatisfied.
31:31This is not enough. And now, would the drive be more or less than just satiation? Which one?
31:36It would be increased. Now you're gonna have an increase to say, I gotta solve this. Right?
31:41Maybe maybe I'll go to Tony Robbins seminar and then blame him. You know, because I'm I'm dissatisfied. He must be the fucking reason.
31:49Right? There's gotta be something not me. I don't wanna deal with me.
31:52Let me deal with something else. But in business, reason I say it's a spiritual game, I love business because I know it's a spiritual game.
31:59It's the most exciting game of all. What's the game of business? Do more for others than anyone else in your industry.
32:05Add more what? Life. Treat your client, love your client like thyself.
32:11Does that sound similar? It's like, what do you do? It's the ability to take what you think about and create it in real life by adding value to other people.
32:19To me, I don't think if there's anything more spiritual. And the more spiritually developed you are, the faster you can do that. It doesn't hurt, it's just my hand, it's okay.
32:26The faster you can do that, you can do it with such intensity, because your mind and your heart are aligned. But when you're not aligned, when you're in this, know, satiated, dissatisfied, you're kinda looking.
32:37You're kinda like dabbling. You're not into mastery. She wants mastery, but she's not doing what it takes.
32:43And if you don't solve it, and you keep being dissatisfied, it will lead to a threshold experience. Step three is the threshold, emotional threshold.
32:51Emotional threshold is, have you ever been in a relationship way too long?
32:56Who's been in a relationship way too long here? Say, I. I.
33:00You were satiated, you were dissatisfied, you kept saying I gotta do something about it, but then you go, oh, it'll get better in the future. It was good in the past.
33:08I think this will work out, and you rationalize. Who's done this shit before? Raise your hand and say, I.
33:13If you don't raise your hand, you lie above the shit too, don't you? Raise your hand and say, I, if you've ever done this. Okay?
33:17So you get to a point where one day you go, it's been painful in the past, it's been painful in the present, it's been painful in the future. Fuck this, I'm out of here. And you finally make a move.
33:26Who's ever done this before in some area of your life? Say I. I.
33:30So the emotional threshold is there's now it's more than satiation. It's more than dissatisfaction. Now you feel like I gotta do something now.
33:39Are you there? I am urgently there. Yes.
33:42I feel like you're there. But here's what's missing. When you get that emotional threshold where change becomes not a should, but an absolute what?
33:50Must. Must. When that happens, you'll get an insight.
33:54That's the next step. It's a moment of insight. And the insight might be, fuck.
34:00It's not my ex husband, it's me. It's not my clients, it's me. It's not my sales people, it's me.
34:08It's not a lack of cash flow, it's me. It's not enough capital, it's me. It's something I'm fucking doing.
34:15And you get the truth. And the truth has the opportunity to set you free. But for the truth to set you free, there's one final piece.
34:22When you get the insight, which by the way, have we given her the insight? Has she seen what's true during this discussion? Yes or no?
34:28Yes. Yes or no? Yes.
34:30She's seen it. But when that insight happens, there's an opening. And that opening is a little scary because you don't know what's on the other side.
34:38But it's an opening. It's a chance for a breakthrough. And what must you do while you're in this state?
34:43You gotta jump through that opening. Even though you're not sure what's on the other side, and that's what she's not doing. She's come all the way to the insight.
34:52She knows the truth. But what's happening now? The opening there, we claim her true identity's there, but she wants to stay in what?
34:59Control. Control. There's no control to jump through an empty opening if it's not on the other side.
35:04She's afraid of what's on the other side. So she stays here, and here's what happens, watch. She just demonstrated it for you if you watched.
35:11She waited too long, and now the opening is closing. And once the opening closes, you have to start the whole fucking process all over again, which can take years of dissatisfaction.
35:23That's it for satiation, dissatisfaction. Hit another emotional threshold.
35:27Get another truth. But if you let fear dominate you, you don't jump through the hole. Now, you know what I used to do with people like her?
35:32I used to kick people through the hole. I'd just pick them up and throw them through it, whatever it took. And some people around ten years ago or twenty years ago would tell you they saw me do this shit, and it worked.
35:43But then I'd see them a year or two or three years later, and it worked for six months, nine months, twelve months, because I did it. They didn't own it. And so afterwards, they'd come up with some story like, well, you know, Tony didn't he didn't program me properly.
35:57He didn't condition me enough. It's a conditioning process to go through this. You have to make yourself do it enough times until you won't hesitate anymore.
36:04You'll just do it. And some of you are already there in your business. You've done it multiple times.
36:08So we got to figure out what's the next one for you that's in the way. Because there's always something in way if you're not at the level you want to be. And most people, when you get to the level you want to be, there'll be a new level because we want to grow and want to give.
36:17That's what makes life meaningful. So the question is there's a big opening here, but she's wanting absolute what, my friends? Certainty.
36:25Certainty about what's on the other side before she jumps. And that's why she's, what she calls stuck. She's not stuck, she's actually on a treadmill going in circles.
36:37Big ass circles. And then she's mad because she thinks it should be different because she thinks someone else should help her. If she had found the man who had been her partner and done everything the way she wants and busted ass and they had this incredible business that was huge.
36:51How big is huge, by the way, so I know? Because you're doing 3,000,000, what's huge?
36:55A 100,000,000. 100,000,000. And when you get to a 100,000,000, what will huge be?
37:01I might be satisfied.
37:03Yeah. Total bullshit. How many of you guess total bullshit?
37:06Let me see what she has. Right now, she'd be satisfied, 3,000,000 to a 100,000,000, but then she'll get to a 100,000,000 and she'll get satiated. She'll get dissatisfied.
37:14She'll be looking at Eisenhower Bush or somebody who's doing multi billions and she'll go, we're fucking nothing. And she'll go, no one's listening to me because I'm not big enough. She thinks that she gets big enough, people listen to you.
37:22No, they'll listen to you when you fucking own and live what you're talking about. But you're not doing it.
37:28I'm not being critical, but you're not. You can tell me you are because you got these business partnerships when you start something. That is not the message.
37:35You said, with partnership and love, anything is possible. And that's not what you're doing. You're really saying, with partnership, I can control and love.
37:43Anything's possible. And control and love don't go together, by the way. Who here wants to be controlled by someone you love?
37:49Let's see a show of hands. Okay. Maybe in moments, sir, I understand.
37:52Right? But not all the fucking time. They don't go together.
37:58Your message is confused because it's not real. So I've taken you all the way to the opening, and I'm not gonna kick you through. That's your job.
38:05I'd be happy to. I used to do it all the time. Makes me look good.
38:08I don't wanna look good. I want you to have what you deserve. You will not get it if I build the muscle in me.
38:13You have to build the muscle in you. My If I do all the calisthenics here, I get stronger. And you get to admire me.
38:19I'm not here to be admired. I'm here to have you admire yourself because you've earned it. And you can't earn it because you're pushing yourself through the hard parts.
38:26You're too busy telling yourself the story of what didn't happen the way you thought it should. If the man in her life had done all that shit, she wouldn't be as powerful as she is. True.
38:34True or false? True. If she had the man she thought she wanted back then, she wouldn't be as strong as she is.
38:41Now, if she can get herself back together and find her center, let her feminine flow as well, and trust her feminine, I think she has to be masculine every moment to be successful if she could tap into her real source. See, the feminine has to trust.
38:55I mean, ladies, I have so much respect for you. If you've ever gone on a date, it's insane. Because the statistics show the most dangerous thing you can do is be around a male by yourself.
39:06They're dangerous fuckers to be around. And you guys have the courage to go out with this crazy fucker you don't even know? That's crazy shit.
39:15But not her, she's not doing that. She's keeping it safe, keeping it close, and telling herself she's courageous because she's doing it on her own. She's created a badge of courage for something that isn't something to be a badge for.
39:28It was back then, honey. But that's an old story now, you've gone beyond it, except you keep using it.
39:35You're using it for significance. You're using it to explain why you're not where you wanna be. And you're using it to make yourself feel sorry for yourself because you work so hard, you don't really connect with yourself very much unless you're in enough pain.
39:49And so now you're creating pain when you don't need it. How long ago did you divorce this man?
39:54In our state, you have to be separated for a full year before they approve it. So it's been about nine months since he left. Okay.
40:02How long are you gonna mourn this shit before you move on? I'm at 86% of myself, and that took nine months.
40:11So I was hoping at UPW I was gonna come out a 100. But I went from 70 to 86.
40:16Yeah. I'm glad you're so precise about it. So what does it take for the other 14% to be connected here?
40:22Are you a fucking accountant? What the fuck is this? I am a CPA as well.
40:26Yeah. Oh, you're a CPA. It sounds like it.
40:29Okay. Well, understand where some of the control comes from now. So if you're 86%, what needs to happen for the 14% to happen now?
40:37When would now be a good time and what would it take?
40:39I'll tell you honestly?
40:42No. Lie to me. That's what I love to hear.
40:45Yes, honestly.
40:49I wanna do something bigger and better on my own than what I even dreamed of of doing with wusband.
40:57So what is that? Tell me what that is. But do you understand why she's not making progress?
41:03One part of her wants to do it bigger and better on my own. The other part's pissed. I'm doing it by myself.
41:09So she's being pulled in multiple directions. So she's not able to marshal all her resources. Because she's not sure who should be in charge of this business.
41:17Now the woman I just spoke to a moment ago, I think that woman could actually run the business. Did you notice the one I was talking to a moment ago here? The woman who was lit up like a Christmas tree?
41:26But are you doing that so you can prove to him you didn't need his ass? Or are you doing it what are you doing that for? I just think that would get me to a 100%.
41:34I don't think that would be about him.
41:36I think that would be about me.
41:39So, you know, it's interesting because we talk about all the time being attacked Well, I thought you did this all yourself anyway, he was a lazy fuck.
41:46I didn't say that. I said I worked my ass off. You said you sacrificed everything did.
41:52I did.
41:54You did?
41:55I carried the weight.
41:57And you have the business and your children in it? Yes. And he does not?
42:01Correct. So you did this for you and your family?
42:07Yes.
42:08Uh-huh. Why is it so painful as it is?
42:11No. I mean Yes? I'm a nurturer.
42:13Right? I'm a mom, so I protected my kids for sure.
42:16But honey, you did all this for love, and he was the wrong person because you have different values. You didn't do this for him, you did it for love. You hoped if you did all this, he would love you.
42:24Just like you hope if you're big enough, you'll have love from people, and they'll all respond to your voice and message. But they won't, because they all have their own lives.
42:31Before I found out, I was driven by love and significance. After UPW, I came Love
42:36is what you want. If you're driven by love and significance, you'd have another confusing experience. But really Certainty and significance.
42:44How many follow what we're talking about here? Raise your hand if you follow. And by the way, certainty and significance are the one you know, there's nothing wrong with certainty and significance, we all need them.
42:52But the sequence makes a difference. If you know the right number of phone numbers to reach somebody on the phone, and you dial the wrong sequence, you don't reach them. If you have a vault with all the treasures which she has inside of herself and you try to reach it with the wrong sequence, even though it's the right thoughts, it's not gonna happen.
43:09You got the wrong sequence.
43:11So I was running on that program and what You still are. Well, no. What I came to realize is what really drives me is growing and giving.
43:18Meaning, that's what would make you more fulfilled. That's what will make me But if that was true, if that was driving you right now, I'm not talking about what you want, I'm talking about what's make how are you operating? It's not hard to say you're operating because you're operating based on certainty and significance.
43:31You want total control certainty, and you want to be the one who's huge, which is significance. There's nothing wrong with either one of those.
43:37It's just that they will never fulfill you Agreed. In that level.
43:42But growth and contribution would, but in order to grow, you still wanna have control.
43:48So my is that if I got big enough, then when I talk to people about my true mission, and my mission statements, and my vision, and sharing the gospel, that they'll listen to me because
44:05And what happens if they listen to you? First of all, it's not true. Because when you get really big, how many people have grown really big and then found people resent you who you loved, and you hadn't You think they're great, but they resent your success or your financial free Who's that experienced this already?
44:20In fact, the more successful you become, are your chances of being rejected increased or decreased as you become more successful? Which one? In the world we're in today, massively increased.
44:30Today, powerlessness is the power. Victimhood is the power in our culture.
44:36Unfortunately, it's true. So, no, it won't.
44:40Then people will resent you. They won't listen to you. The people who listen to you are gonna listen to you because they connect with you.
44:45It's not gonna be because you're huge. Your platform is not gonna increase by doing a $100,000,000.
44:51It's a delusion. I said hallucination.
44:54Yeah. Yeah. Delusion's a better word.
44:56Okay.
44:59And we're taking a lot of time on this, and again, I'm hesitant. I wanna shift gears, but I also at the same time, there's an opportunity that she could step through. This is your last 190.
45:09That's a little more than three minutes. What do you need to do now? What's the truth that could set you free?
45:16What have you been not acknowledging? What's the illusion, delusion you need to let go of so you can move forward? Tell me the truth.
45:22Tell us the truth. Tell yourself the truth. We don't matter.
45:25Except it'd be inspiring to see you have the freedom you deserve if you wanted it. But you can't have freedom by hanging on to what you've been hanging on to.
45:34How many follow?
45:37I would like to say that. What's the delusion you have to let go of? What's the illusion?
45:43You told it multiple times to us, and you know if you have any intelligence, it's not true. But you've told yourself the story so long, you keep telling it. That somehow, when you get huge enough, you can tell people the gospel of what you believe and they will now listen.
45:57Yes. And if that happens, what would you get?
46:02I would feel like I was living my purpose.
46:05So you're not living your purpose now. Living with your family, growing a business, expanding it, that's not your purpose. Your purpose is to have a $100,000,000 business where you tell people what you believe and they listen and comply?
46:19I picked this woman randomly. Some of you go, this is bizarre. Wait till you get to the next person.
46:26Your mind will be blown when we get to the truth, because the truth is so far from what most of you are telling your limitations are, it's crazy. And some of you don't even think it's a waste of my time. My business is fucking crushing it.
46:36And it is, until it's not. Seasons change. So it might be good to figure it out now, so you can grow without having to have the little glitch in between.
46:47So you last hundred and twenty seconds, and you're on your own after this, which means you're probably gonna have the I don't wanna be on my own. And you're gonna have to start all this I don't wanna be on my own.
46:57That's the thing. I don't wanna be on my own. What do you want?
47:02I don't wanna be on my own, but I wanna be in control. And you know it's true, that's why you laughed. So you don't wanna be about yourself in your intimate relationship or in your business?
47:13Both. Which one's the one that's more important to you?
47:17Well, I feel if I was intimately connected,
47:20I'd feel supported and then I could do anything. So the truth is, we just need to get you laid on a regular basis. And all this shit would go away.
47:30So maybe this whole thing is you should be focusing not on your business, but on finding someone to share your life with. And then you wouldn't have all these trapped energies going on.
47:42But here's the problem, you can't even have an orgasm and be in control. Ladies, true or false?
47:51True. If a woman's trying to be in control, she won't have an orgasm. Now, a man, yeah, you can get that guy to do anything.
48:03Women need a reason to make love. Men just need a fucking place.
48:09But a woman, if she is trying to be in control, she will not be able to have an orgasm because orgasm is letting go completely. That's female physiology. It's not my perception.
48:20I'm actually good in that department. Nine kids for a reason. Well, that's encouraging.
48:24What's what's your room number if people might be interested?
48:30See, by the way, look how look how big she smiles when we talk about this subject. There's a different woman here. Give her a hand.
48:34Look at this face over here. Look at this.
48:41So we're out of time, so I'm gonna offer you to tell me the three things you need to do to change it all now. And they're not the things you want to tell me, they're the things that are true. So if what you want is to not be alone anymore, that's kind of a hard thing because you're focused on what you don't want instead of what you do want.
49:01And the more you focus on what you don't want, wherever focus goes, energy what? Flows. So what do you want?
49:08You keep telling us what you don't want.
49:12I want to invite people to be my partners.
49:17No. No. No.
49:17Stop going to the business. Why did you go to business? Why do most people spend more time in their business than in their intimate relationship?
49:24Because they feel more in School. In the business. In an intimate relationship with someone who's of the opposite sex or same sex but opposite energy, because that's what attracts you, They're like another species.
49:39So you're not in control there. You can do it. Guys, how many of her done things you thought you did everything right, and she's pissed and you've done nothing?
49:45Gentlemen, make some noise if you've ever had this experience. Go.
49:51Don't have to do anything. She can get pissed and then, by the way, she gets happier doing nothing, but you forget that. You think it's all you.
49:55I made her fucking happy. Was me.
50:01So instead of going for what you control, let's talk about for two minutes, that's all we got left.
50:11This is it. No more time distortion. Tell me what you want in your intimate relationship because that's what's fucking it up.
50:24You're good at orgasm, I hear. Yes. Awesome.
50:28You're on your way.
50:30I wanna trust somebody.
50:32Ah. There you go. Pretty hard to have a partner with no trust.
50:37In order to trust someone, what do you have to do to be able to trust someone? This is pretty important question for all of you to answer. To trust someone.
50:42By the way, in business, you need two things, trust and respect. Jot them down.
50:47If they're not there, the business is hurting. If you look at your organization and it's not growing you want, there are people in the organization that don't trust each other, or they don't respect each other, or both. When trust and respect are there, something interesting happens.
51:00Energy goes outward to serve customers. When there isn't trust and respect, the energy used internally amongst people being pissed or frustrated or positioning.
51:09There's only so much e. The ultimate e in business is energy. It's either going for external marketing to support clients, or it's going to internal marketing to resolve all the influxes of problems where people don't respect and don't trust each other.
51:23If your business is not growing, I don't care what you think. I can promise you there's a lack of trust and respect.
51:30So if you wanna be able to trust someone, someone tell me, you tell me. What has to happen for you to be able to trust somebody? Anyone tell me.
51:38What do gotta do to trust someone? Worry. Raise your hand.
51:41Tell me. What do you gotta do to able yes, sir. Respect them.
51:43You gotta respect them. What do you gotta do to be able to respect them? Let's go.
51:48Let's go. That's just his model. It's not actually accurate.
51:52Could you trust an enemy? Is there a situation which you could actually trust someone who's an enemy?
52:00Yes. I don't believe in enemies, but if you think of them, yes. Yes.
52:03If your needs are aligned, you can trust someone. I do.
52:09But you made a poor choice in the past, you blamed him. You picked somebody whose needs were not aligned with your own. That's part of life.
52:16That's not something bad. It's just that's how you learn. But then you froze because you don't ever wanna experience that again.
52:22But instead of learning. See, I've done business with people. I remember I did business with somebody nobody on my team trusted, and I said, guys, here's why we can trust them.
52:31We're gonna set the agreement up this way. When we win, when he when we win, he wins huge. When we lose, he gets massive pain.
52:38And guess what? We had a great five year relationship, built things like crazy.
52:42Because all of our values and needs, all of our interests were aligned. Raise your hand if you follow. That structure has to be either in a business partnership or an intimate one.
52:51And then how do you know you can respect somebody? You only respect somebody if they bring something to the table you don't have. If they bring the same thing to your table as you, you might like them, but that doesn't make you respect them.
53:02You respect somebody because they bring something to the table.
53:05That is right on point for me. I know.
53:09Thank you for confirming what I already know. But here's the problem. You aren't operating from the very beginning.
53:16You're not willing to trust even the beginning of the process. You're wanting it to all be the way you want it upfront, and trust and respect are earned. You gotta be able to trust enough to open, but the kind of trust you're calling absolute trust, you get through time with someone.
53:32But you aren't even giving it enough time, because you're busy trying to become huge over here, because you think you have control of that. Clearly, you don't, because you're not fulfilled in the side. See, this is the part that makes it messy.
53:43I know this is not probably what you wanted today, because I'd love to give you some fucking strategies, which we're gonna do, don't worry. They're gonna blow your mind.
53:49You're gonna, holy fuck. I could fuck up and grow my business a 100%. We're gonna give you those.
53:53But without solving this, and not this because you're different than her, but whatever those internal conflicts are, it won't get implemented. Or it'll start to get implemented and then you'll pull back. Who knows what I'm talking about here?
54:04Say I. I. So you want a relationship with someone who?
54:12I can trust and respect. Who would that be?
54:18Let's call it a man for starters. You said you want a man. Yes.
54:23You trust and respect. Yes. How do you know?
54:29Well, I definitely would go through making sure our values were aligned.
54:33That's great. And
54:37I think I would see the signs now.
54:40Okay. Yes. Because you have more experience.
54:42Yeah. Yeah. Just like business, you have more experience, you make better decisions.
54:45Right? Yeah. But right now, how much are you working on this plan to find a man you trust and respect and can deepen a relationship with?
54:52How much time do you give that?
54:54I just gave up a year to come here. What do mean you gave up a year? Oh, I literally said I'm gonna commit this year
55:01to No. But I want you to see her model the world. I'm sorry.
55:03I wanna move on, but it's just too helpful. Everything in her model is I gave up.
55:10What kind of fucking bullshit is this? This is martyr bullshit. This is why she's alone.
55:18I gave you didn't give anything up. I'm committing.
55:21I'm I'm investing in myself. I'm investing in you. I'm investing in this room.
55:25No. You're investing in me. You're investing in you.
55:28Yeah. This is bullshit. You're investing you only if you believe it's worthwhile, and you're investing in believe it's worthwhile.
55:33You're part of National University. I'm willing. I'm willing.
55:35So you're going to three programs in a year or two years. That's not giving up your year. Poor choice of words.
55:42No. No. No.
55:43You always choose those words in the interactions I've had with you so far. Everything is what you give up. That's why you're alone.
55:51That's the most selfish way to look at life. Not saying you're a selfish person, because I don't believe you are. I believe you're a really giving person.
55:58But you've come up with this story, so you could feel them in control. And the best way to control is, I'm giving everything.
56:04I'm the one. That's significance. That's not love.
56:08Raise your hand if you follow this. So you're giving up and no one wants to be around somebody who's constantly being told how much you gave up. Fuck you.
56:14I don't need you to be here. Go. I'll give you money back right now.
56:16I don't need a penny from you. If you think you're investing in me, you're fucking mistaken. I'm here because I choose to serve.
56:23Don't I need to do a fucking thing the rest of my life for money. But this is what lights me up is to see people have a breakthrough. That's why I'm still talking to you after all this time.
56:31Because I really want you to have it, but I'm not gonna force it. That's the difference. It's the only difference here.
56:36Can you see the pattern? How many can see the pattern of everything is I've given something up? How can you possibly be happy in your life when everything's a sacrifice?
56:45You won't be happy, but you'll feel validated and significant.
56:52This is bullshit. You've done what you wanna do. You came here because you want this for you.
56:56You didn't want it for the people in this room. Don't even fucking know them. You're not invested in this room, and you don't even know me.
57:02You believe I can help you, and you are right, but you have to do the work. Mhmm. I won't do the work for you because it won't last.
57:09Mhmm. I'd love to. Part of me just love to.
57:13I love being a hero. Don't you guys? But rather than be a hero, I'd like to see you actually have long term success.
57:21That's the sweetest way I can put that.
57:26Do you see the pattern?
57:29Yes.
57:29What do you see? Tell me what you see.
57:36I see I see sufferings. Some Yes.
57:41Feel victimized or murdered Yes. You feel victimized. Suffering.
57:45But who's doing the victimization? No. No.
57:47I don't I'm saying I don't believe I'm a victim. I'm too but I feel I feel I'm suffering.
57:53Suffering comes from focusing on who? Fail. When someone says, oh, no.
57:58I'm suffering because my kids aren't doing well in school or they're on drugs or something. I'm suffering because I'm worried about them. No.
58:04The reason you're suffering is you think you have failed your kids. Otherwise, you'd just be focused on the solution. The suffering is you think, I fucked up.
58:12I didn't do it. It's about me. The only time you suffer is when you focus on you, what you're not getting, what you're not receiving, what you're not experiencing.
58:19Which is why I love business, because business makes you, if you're successful, have to focus on those you're serving, if you're gonna be successful. And when you're serving others, you're not thinking about yourself. And you're lit up, and spirit is coming through you, Instead of the fucking mind that's always trying to figure out how do I make myself get what I want, look good, feel good in the moment.
58:37That's not business. Business is how do I make you get what you deserve. And then you're not selfish, and so you're free of your own fucking mind, and your heart and spirit is what's running you.
58:46And that's why business is a spiritual game for those that are successful. Those that failure, business is a fucking pain. And that's why I don't want you to stay operators, my friends.
58:56Because to stay an operator, you gotta focus on yourself. Because you're worried about your sense of control. If you can get loose of that, just even for a little bit, and focus on serving the client, focus on serving your internal associates and partners and your employees, and get juiced about that, you won't be thinking about you.
59:13And all of a sudden, shit will flow. Good stuff will flow. You'll see a transformation.
59:18You'll build a culture, because that's what you need. You need a culture. A culture does well when you're not there.
59:24People don't say, in the early days of my business, everybody said, what does Tony think? What would Tony say? What would People don't ask anymore.
59:29They go, what is right? Because they we know what we know what I value, what the company values is what's right. I want people to do what's right.
59:36Make your own fucking choices. You don't even need come to Tony. And all of a sudden, I got businesses growing, and I began to have more reach and more impact.
59:45Because I gave up control. I still have influence. And I choose where to put that influence, where I can have the most impact.
59:52But then I look for people that are better than me in some area, who can also influence. And now you have a real business instead of a job you call a business. You're no longer just self employed.
1:00:03You really are an owner. Owners could leave for a month. The company you are part of to play part of the seminar is Robins Research.
1:00:11That's one of my 54 companies. I've been there twice in the last year. I've probably been there six times in the last three years.
1:00:17And the company has grown 20% compounded per year for ten straight years. How is that happening?
1:00:24Because I built a great team. We have a great culture, and that doesn't mean we don't make mistakes or mess up, but we catch them, we solve it, we go for the next level, we keep on growing. And I'm gonna show you precisely how I've done that the next few days.
1:00:36I'm gonna show you how to do it with your business with precision, but none of that shit will work till we get through this bullshit. And you have your own version if you're not if you're honest with yourself. We all do.
1:00:44And even if you're highly sophisticated in your business and going great, the next level's gonna take a different level of thinking. So it might might be less gross distinction. It might be a more simple, refined distinction.
1:00:54But that little 10 degree shift you make, take it out a month from now, six months from now, a year from now, it's a different destination. It's a different destiny. It's a different level of success or failure.
1:01:04How many follow? Say, I. I.
1:01:06It's the level of thinking. So what you want is a relationship with a man you can trust and respect.
1:01:12We're out of time. How are you gonna do that? How much time do you spend on that now?
1:01:15That was my question before you told me you invested in everybody in this room and you invested in me and you sacrificed the whole year of your fucking life and all this bullshit fucking stories. I'm investing the time because I'm surrounding myself with great people.
1:01:27Wait. Then you didn't sacrifice anything. You didn't sacrifice a year.
1:01:29No. I you're right. I committed invested.
1:01:31I said Well, why do you keep using that term? Because you've used it around him. You've used around your kids.
1:01:36You've used around me. It's very seven. It's just training in the words.
1:01:39But I did have a distinction just now. Tell me. I'm this is perfectly ironically suited because I'm in the business of disruptive spirits where all I do is serve people.
1:01:50And what you just said is we need to disrupt our spirit and learn to serve. And I'm like, wait a minute. I'm in disruptive spirits, and all day long, I serve.
1:02:00So let's bring it back to you instead of what's fun out there. How much time are you spending on finding this man that's so important to you?
1:02:08How many hours a day? A week?
1:02:14A month?
1:02:16Just tell me the truth. I I am spending time. Really?
1:02:20Tell me. How much time?
1:02:22Every I go to the dating sites. I hired a personal finder, whatever you call those Personal finder.
1:02:30Matchmakers.
1:02:31Matchmaker. Uh-huh. Yes.
1:02:33I go on a lot of dates. How many dates you've been on in the last nine months?
1:02:39Oh, I go on a lot of dates. How many have you gone in the last nine months? No.
1:02:42Like breakfast,
1:02:43lunch, dinner. How many Four times a week. No.
1:02:46I'm doing that work. Four times a week. Yes.
1:02:50And you're going to people that people have pointed you in the direction of? Yeah. People bring people.
1:02:54And what happens when you get to these dates? Watch this. I
1:02:59haven't
1:03:00Four times a week, you're going on dates and what happens?
1:03:03I have a great time. I love people. Okay.
1:03:06And? I feel like I haven't met anybody that's at my could have an understanding of what I'm doing.
1:03:17How could they have an understanding of what you're doing when they've not been around you long enough to know that?
1:03:22I'm just saying that the people that so far I've met haven't I like, intolerate entrepreneurs and like, oh, that was a bad match.
1:03:30That kind of thing. I see. Yeah.
1:03:33So what needs to change? I need a better dating pool for sure.
1:03:41No. What if I were to tell you that you're busy judging other people because you're so afraid to lose control? That it's impossible to get to a point of any intimacy because you're making judgments before you can get there because you don't wanna be vulnerable, because you're afraid that vulnerability leads to pain.
1:03:58And so then you take You say, I'm doing it because you're trying Mhmm. But you don't really give your all because you're still keeping in reserve.
1:04:05And then you go to work on the business because you're more comfortable there, but then you're frustrated there because to grow that piece, you gotta be in partners with people that don't agree with everything you're saying, and so you're not in control there. So now you call it stuck, and that's the whole fucking story in one minute.
1:04:19So I'm I'm gonna be done here. Until you are willing to tell yourself the truth that I'm not in control and I need to open up and be fucking scared as shit and be vulnerable as hell, there'll be no progress in your personal life and very little in your business life.
1:04:42I'm there. And when you get to a $100,000,000, assuming you got there, you will still have the same fucking problems.
1:04:48But you won't get the 100,000,000 trying to control everything. So what will you do now on the business side? Tell me three things and we're done.
1:04:54What are you gonna do so this conversation led to something productive, Victor? Yes. I am going to
1:04:59tighten up my plan and my ask. Okay. I'm gonna meet with a lot of investors.
1:05:05Yes. I'm gonna sing my story. What's the multiple you're looking for?
1:05:10At least 10 oh.
1:05:12For the investors. What you're selling them some part of your business for a multiple, I assume. Is that right?
1:05:16Yes. What's the multiple?
1:05:19Probably 10 times.
1:05:21Okay. Is that aggressive for the size of business you're in? What's the tempo of growth you have?
1:05:25How much have you grown in the last ten years per year annualized?
1:05:28The last two and a half years I've been three, almost three years, been exactly the same, but it's because I can't open up additional markets. You will never get a 10 times multiple unless somebody's stupid.
1:05:39Because what is a multiple based on, ladies and gentlemen? Those who know that, if you're gonna sell a business, sell a multiple of your earnings or your gross. Depends on the industry.
1:05:46It's the industry. If it's a highly scalable business, if it's software, you might be able to get a multiple of your gross. I remember when Mark Benioff, know, you his business was doing a 100,000,000, mine was doing 200, and he was getting valuations like beyond anything I ever dreamed of.
1:05:57Because mine was based on earnings, it was based on revenues. Vision if you follow. And what determines is the pace of growth in the industry.
1:06:03So scalable business like that, you might be able to do it on revenues. Most business on earnings. But a small business with $3,000,000 of gross that's been at the same numbers for multiple years, they don't give a fuck what your story is.
1:06:14You aren't gonna get it. It it's it is the industry. I promise.
1:06:19It's about sustainability
1:06:20and managing a I understand, but you're not getting it for a reason.
1:06:24That's why I was just biding the time by myself. It's a timing issue in my industry.
1:06:34Okay. But you're not meeting the needs of investors. If you're meeting the needs of investors, you'd have their money.
1:06:39Raise your hand if you follow this. You are not meeting their needs. You're trying to meet your needs, not theirs.
1:06:44What if you could get someone who would give you six and a half times multiple, but you believe they really were intelligent and brought things to the business you didn't see and could help you grow it? Abs I would go two times multiple for a strategic partner. Great.
1:06:56Then that's what you should do. Stop this 10 times discussion. It doesn't make any fucking sense for where you are.
1:07:00Or you're gonna have to wait years until you can show an actual growth pattern that's dynamic. And that means you're gonna be alone for more years. Is that what you want?
1:07:08No. I wanna sell one brand this year. A better multiple for the investors that fulfills their needs, and make sure it's an investor that can give you more value so that you grow the business to a higher multiple at some point where you could sell part of it then and having a bigger return.
1:07:21You're wanting everything now without doing the work. You've done the work to set it up, and not the work that meets their needs. Same thing is true with the men you're meeting.
1:07:30You're focused on your needs. You didn't tell me anything about their needs. When I asked you the questions, you never said it.
1:07:36You told me about what they weren't doing for you. They don't understand me. They don't understand what I mean.
1:07:41How would they? There's not enough time. You didn't say anything about what their needs were and whether you could meet them or not.
1:07:46Your mistake, and I'm done, is you're focused on you. And you're not a selfish person. I know you're a good human being, but you are operating from a place that is so selfish because you're using significance and certainty, and those things make you selfish when they're the top.
1:07:59That is your only reason for failing, and you are failing right now. Failing to meet your desires, your deepest desires, which is love and growth.
1:08:10And you're not gonna have either one of those if you hang on to this. I'm done with the conversation.
1:08:14Thank you for your time. Give her a hand.
The Hook

The bait, then the rug-pull.

The question lands before the audience has settled: skill problem or psychology problem? Tony Robbins poses it about a woman named Pixi who says she needs working capital — then spends the next 68 minutes proving it was never about the capital.

Frameworks

Named ideas worth stealing.

04:15concept

Operator vs. Owner

An operator is self-employed with high risk; an owner has a system that functions without them. The test: can you sell it? If not, it's not a business.

Steal forany conversation about hiring, delegation, or scaling past solo-founder mode
28:29model

The Four-Stage Transformation Chemistry

  1. Satiation
  2. Dissatisfaction
  3. Emotional Threshold
  4. Insight

Four conditions that must be present in sequence for a real breakthrough. Most people get to dissatisfaction and stop. The insight stage opens a window — and that window closes if you don't act.

Steal forcoaching conversations, sales calls where the prospect knows they need to change but won't commit
20:14model

Six Human Needs — Hierarchy Matters

  1. Certainty
  2. Variety
  3. Significance
  4. Love/Connection
  5. Growth
  6. Contribution

Everyone has all six needs but runs them in different sequences. Certainty and significance at the top blocks the growth and love you actually want. The sequence, not the needs themselves, determines your outcomes.

Steal forunderstanding why successful people self-sabotage; diagnosing stuck clients or partners
52:00concept

Trust = Aligned Interests

Trust isn't about character assessment — it's about structural alignment of incentives. Structure the deal so when they win, they win big, and when they lose, they bear real pain. Applies to investors, employees, and partners.

Steal forstructuring any partnership, employment agreement, or investor relationship
CTA Breakdown

How they asked for the click.

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Storyboard

Visual structure at a glance.

open — crowd shot, Tony on stage
hookopen — crowd shot, Tony on stage00:00
Pixi at mic
promisePixi at mic01:06
Tony walks the floor
valueTony walks the floor09:26
Pixi emotional
valuePixi emotional17:00
Tony explains polarity
valueTony explains polarity28:13
Transformation chemistry intro
valueTransformation chemistry intro43:00
Business as spiritual game
valueBusiness as spiritual game58:30
Closing — the real fix
ctaClosing — the real fix1:07:30
Frame Gallery

Visual moments.

open — crowd shot, Tony on stage00:00Pixi at mic01:06Frame at 01:53 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.01:53Frame at 03:09 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.03:09Frame at 03:53 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.03:53Frame at 04:42 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.04:42
open — crowd shot, Tony on stage00:00Pixi at mic01:06Frame at 01:53 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.01:53Frame at 03:09 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.03:09Frame at 03:53 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.03:53Frame at 04:42 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.04:42Frame at 05:14 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.05:14Tony walks the floor05:59Frame at 07:11 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.07:11Frame at 08:03 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.08:03Frame at 08:38 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.08:38Frame at 09:37 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.09:37Frame at 10:25 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.10:25Frame at 11:29 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.11:29Pixi emotional12:05Frame at 13:20 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.13:20Frame at 13:43 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.13:43Frame at 14:57 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.14:57Frame at 15:28 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.15:28Frame at 16:28 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.16:28Frame at 17:33 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.17:33Frame at 18:13 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.18:13Frame at 18:50 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.18:50Frame at 19:54 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.19:54Tony explains polarity21:02Frame at 21:24 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.21:24Frame at 22:43 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.22:43Frame at 23:35 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.23:35Frame at 24:03 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.24:03Frame at 24:57 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.24:57Frame at 25:42 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.25:42Frame at 26:40 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.26:40Frame at 27:29 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.27:29Frame at 28:41 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.28:41Frame at 29:32 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.29:32Frame at 30:20 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.30:20Frame at 30:55 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.30:55Transformation chemistry intro32:06Frame at 32:57 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.32:57Frame at 33:41 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.33:41Frame at 35:05 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.35:05Frame at 35:10 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.35:10Frame at 36:23 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.36:23Frame at 36:51 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.36:51Frame at 37:52 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.37:52Frame at 39:17 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.39:17Frame at 39:37 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.39:37Frame at 40:17 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.40:17Frame at 41:31 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.41:31Frame at 42:09 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.42:09Frame at 43:11 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.43:11Frame at 43:51 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.43:51Frame at 44:57 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.44:57Frame at 45:30 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.45:30Business as spiritual game46:20Frame at 47:07 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.47:07Frame at 48:22 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.48:22Frame at 48:59 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.48:59Frame at 50:09 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.50:09Frame at 50:35 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.50:35Frame at 51:36 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.51:36Frame at 52:20 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.52:20Frame at 53:13 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.53:13Frame at 54:13 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.54:13Frame at 54:49 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.54:49Frame at 55:50 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.55:50Frame at 56:33 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.56:33Frame at 57:39 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.57:39Frame at 58:39 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.58:39Frame at 59:30 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.59:30Frame at 60:01 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.60:01Frame at 61:13 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.61:13Frame at 62:09 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.62:09Frame at 62:51 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.62:51Closing — the real fix63:42Frame at 64:13 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.64:13Frame at 65:42 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.65:42Frame at 66:17 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.66:17Frame at 66:53 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.66:53Frame at 68:13 from You're Not Stuck. You're the Problem.68:13
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