13:30Adam Erhart · Tutorial
The DARK Psychology That Makes Clients CHASE YOU
A 13-minute breakdown of why cold outreach destroys your positioning and the five-step Watering Hole Method for making clients seek you out instead.
February 3rdThe argument in one line.
The fastest path to premium clients is manufacturing genuine selectivity before you pitch anything -- when prospects feel they must qualify to work with you, they sell themselves without you ever pushing.
Read if. Skip if.
READ IF YOU ARE…
- A coach, consultant, or agency owner who currently explains services before qualifying prospects and regularly hears let me think about it.
- Someone who has tried fake scarcity and urgency tactics that felt manipulative and did not convert.
- A service seller who wants the psychology layer underneath sales tactics, not just scripts to memorize.
- Anyone who closes some deals but loses momentum between the call and the payment link.
SKIP IF…
- You want e-commerce or product marketing frameworks -- every example here is B2B high-ticket service selling.
- You need cold outreach strategy -- the framework assumes inbound or warm leads who have already raised their hand.
- You have zero clients or case studies yet -- Erhart explicitly warns the Gatekeeper Method backfires when you are operating from desperation.
The full version, fast.
Most service sellers fail not because their offer is weak but because they enter every conversation as the one who needs to convince. This masterclass teaches the reversal across five modules: open by implying a qualification process so prospects shift from evaluating you to hoping they qualify; use ten psychological principles to move someone from latent discomfort to urgent action; close by revealing urgency the prospect already feels rather than manufacturing fake pressure; systematize the full client pipeline from attraction to referral; and understand the cognitive biases that silently drive every buying decision. The through-line is that perceived scarcity, identity activation, and freedom framing reliably convert hesitation into commitment.
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00:00 – 00:50
01 · Cold open -- the red button hook
Frames the masterclass around psychological reactance using a physical red button prop. Thesis: clients chase you when they feel they might not qualify.
00:50 – 04:59
02 · Psychological Reactance -- the Red Button Effect
Jack Bream research explained. Real selectivity vs fake scarcity. The shift from do I want this to am I good enough for this is where the sale is made.
04:59 – 09:45
03 · The 4-Step Gatekeeper Framework
Move 1: Gatekeeper Open. Move 2: Criteria Reveal. Move 3: Mirror Close. Move 4: Final Filter. Full 30K deal walkthrough in under 20 minutes, no pitch deck.
09:45 – 17:27
04 · The But You Are Free Close
Carpenter 2013 meta-analysis (42 studies, 22,000 participants): freedom-acknowledging phrase nearly doubles compliance. How pullback language converts hesitation into recommitment.
17:27 – 18:32
05 · Video 2 intro -- 10 Dark Psychology Tactics
Segment transition with different set and camera. Overview of the ten tactics to follow.
18:32 – 21:04
06 · Latent to Realized Pain
What happens if you are still doing the same thing in three years -- cracks comfortable stasis and turns vague dissatisfaction into urgent action.
21:04 – 22:54
07 · Perceived Control
Guide the conversation but make them feel like they are leading it. Micro-permissions and binary choices where all roads lead to yes.
22:54 – 24:59
08 · The Pit of Darkness Story Framework
Start your origin story at the lowest point, not the success. The lower the pit, the more people believe the climb is possible for them.
24:59 – 26:55
09 · The Adventurer Frame
Positioned as one step ahead, not guru at the summit. Documenting the journey creates inbound leads because people buy access, not authority.
26:55 – 28:50
10 · Throw Rocks at the Enemy
Identify the common villain. Sharing an enemy builds a tribe faster than sharing a benefit.
28:50 – 30:42
11 · Objection Inversion
I cannot afford it becomes that is exactly why we are talking. Write your top three objections and find the belief hiding inside each, then flip it.
30:42 – 32:50
12 · Future Pacing
Polaroid language: paint the sensory scene of life after yes. People buy a future version of themselves, not deliverables.
32:50 – 34:43
13 · Status Shift Framing
From overworked freelancer to respected authority outconverts feature lists because people buy identity upgrades, not skill sets.
34:43 – 36:34
14 · Identity Activation
If you are the kind of person who -- mirror the buyer self-concept and they purchase to stay consistent with that identity.
36:34 – 38:44
15 · Dangerous Simplicity
Strip the mechanism, sell the effect in one sentence. Complexity feels like work; simplicity feels like momentum. Test on a beginner -- if they cannot repeat it back, cut further.
38:44 – 46:18
16 · Video 3 -- The Black Sand Method intro
New set, hourglass prop. Zeigarnik effect, decision fatigue (2% drop per minute), commitment-consistency principle. One-call closes maintain natural momentum, not pressure.
46:18 – 54:58
17 · Black Sand Breakdown -- 4 Steps
Step 1: pain scale + what would make it a 10. Step 2: investment inquiry. Step 3: story stack. Step 4: choice architecture with three speed tiers.
54:58 – 1:08:49
18 · The Freedom Close Structure
Four-card framework: separate value from commitment, invite obstacles, craft the freedom close, practice the pause. Science behind why offering an out doubles yes rates.
1:08:49 – 1:16:49
19 · Video 4 -- The Client Machine System
Third set. Attract, Capture, Convert, Multiply pipeline. Systems thinking applied to the full client acquisition funnel.
1:16:49 – 1:36:39
20 · Video 5 -- 15 Cognitive Biases Every Marketer Uses
Rapid-fire walkthrough of biases including anchoring, social proof, loss aversion, reciprocity, and confirmation bias applied to sales and marketing.
1:36:39 – 1:37:40
21 · Blind Spot Bias close
Final bias: the tendency to see others as biased but not yourself. Ends on the meta-point that awareness makes you a more ethical practitioner.
Lines worth screenshotting.
- When you chase prospects you have already lost -- the power dynamic is set in the first sixty seconds of any conversation.
- Psychological reactance means the moment you imply something might not be available to someone, they want it more -- this is the entire engine behind the Gatekeeper Method.
- Real selectivity requires genuinely being willing to turn people away; fake selectivity is detectable and destroys trust instantly.
- The question what would make your pain a 10 forces the prospect to articulate the full cost of doing nothing in their own words, which is more persuasive than any argument you can make for them.
- Adding but you are free to choose to any request nearly doubled compliance across 42 studies and 22,000 participants -- the mechanism is removing defensive resistance, not manipulation.
- Three pricing options outsell two or four because of the Goldilocks effect; preselecting the middle option captures 68% of decisions via default bias.
- Mirror neurons fire when you tell a client story -- the listener literally experiences the outcome as their own, which is why story stacks outperform feature lists.
- Every minute a prospect spends deliberating without deciding, their likelihood of saying yes drops by roughly 2% -- a two-week think-it-over period loses about 20 points of close probability.
- The Adventurer Frame converts having no credentials into a trust advantage -- people buy access to someone figuring it out so they do not have to.
- Objection inversion turns the most common deal-killer into the reason to buy: I cannot afford it becomes that is exactly why we are having this conversation.
- Future pacing works only when the vision matches the prospect current starting point -- aspirational images that feel unachievable produce disbelief, not desire.
- Status shift framing sells identity change, not service features -- from freelancer to respected authority outconverts learn how to package your services.
- The Zeigarnik effect means a booked call creates a cognitive loop the brain must close -- prospects who schedule are far more likely to buy than those who say they will get back to you.
- Throwing rocks at a shared enemy is not negativity -- it signals whose side you are on, which converts an audience into a tribe.
- Dangerous simplicity is not dumbing down -- it is removing the mechanism and selling the effect, because clarity creates momentum and momentum produces action.
Stop pitching. Start qualifying.
WHAT TO LEARN
Clients who chase you are the product of a conversation structure that puts the qualification burden on them -- and every tactic in this masterclass serves that single reversal.
02Psychological Reactance -- the Red Button Effect
- The human brain treats restricted access as a threat to freedom, triggering an automatic desire to restore it -- this is why implying something might not be available makes people want it more.
- The moment a prospect feels they might not qualify to work with you, their internal question shifts from do I want this to am I good enough for this -- that shift is where the sale is won or lost.
03The 4-Step Gatekeeper Framework
- Open with I want to make sure we are a good fit rather than an explanation of your services -- the former positions you as the gatekeeper, the latter positions you as the salesperson.
- The Mirror Close hands the approval decision back to the prospect after you have already granted it, removing pressure while preserving commitment.
- The Final Filter confirms implementation readiness and reinforces the prospect self-image as someone who acts quickly -- identity alignment, not pressure.
04The Freedom Close
- Freedom-acknowledging language works not because the request changed but because the frame changed -- same ask, completely different psychological context.
- When you give someone an obvious out and genuinely mean it, they stop looking for the exit -- authenticity is what separates the technique from a manipulative script.
06Latent to Realized Pain
- Latent pain becomes realized through future-pacing questions -- what does your life look like if nothing changes in three years turns vague discomfort into felt urgency without manipulation.
- People are like frogs in slowly boiling water; your job is to raise the temperature just enough that they jump by clarity, not force.
08The Pit of Darkness Story Framework
- People do not buy the perfect origin story -- they buy the comeback, and the depth of the pit determines how believable the climb appears.
- Sanitizing your story by skipping the worst moments removes the connection that earns trust -- the low point is the part people remember.
09The Adventurer Frame
- Positioning yourself as one step ahead and documenting the journey creates inbound leads because people buy access to someone figuring it out so they do not repeat the mistakes.
- Being the one holding the flashlight slightly ahead is enough to win the sale for the right audience -- the summit is not required.
10Throw Rocks at the Enemy
- Identifying a shared enemy signals tribal loyalty and converts an audience from viewers into believers who feel represented.
- Drawing a clear line about who you are not for makes the right people lean in harder because they feel safe and understood.
11Objection Inversion
- Objections are not walls -- they are doors waiting to be opened from the right angle; agree with the objection first, then reframe it as the reason to act.
- The most common objection (I cannot afford it) contains the exact reason they need the solution -- surface that logic and the objection collapses.
16Video 3 -- The Black Sand Method intro
- Anyone who scores below a 7 on the pain scale has not flipped their decision hourglass yet -- ending that conversation immediately keeps your positioning clean and respects both parties time.
- The Zeigarnik effect means a booked call creates a cognitive loop that must close -- the longer you wait to follow through, the more urgency leaks out through decision fatigue.
17Black Sand Breakdown -- 4 Steps
- The investment inquiry converts an abstract problem into a concrete financial loss calculated in real time by the prospect -- this is more persuasive than any ROI argument you can make.
- The story stack works because mirror neurons fire when we hear stories -- the listener experiences the success as their own.
- Three pricing tiers structured by speed exploits Goldilocks and default bias; preselecting the middle converts roughly 68% of decisions.
18The Freedom Close Structure
- Separate value from commitment: establish what the outcome is worth before asking for any decision so the commitment is evaluated against value, not price.
- Inviting obstacles before closing prevents objections from appearing after the pitch -- surface them inside the conversation where you can address them directly.
Terms worth knowing.
- Psychological reactance
- A motivational state triggered when people perceive their freedom is being restricted. In sales, implying limited access makes prospects want something more intensely, named after Jack Bream 1960s research.
- Gatekeeper Method
- A four-move sales framework where the seller positions themselves as the qualifying authority, shifting the prospect from evaluating the seller to proving they deserve to be a client.
- But You Are Free (BYAF)
- A compliance technique validated in Christopher Carpenter 2013 meta-analysis of 42 studies: adding a freedom-acknowledging phrase to any request nearly doubles the rate of agreement.
- Latent to realized pain
- The process of surfacing a prospect unacknowledged dissatisfaction through questions about their future trajectory, turning vague discomfort into felt urgency.
- Black Sand Method
- A four-step closing framework built around the metaphor of an hourglass: the prospect decision momentum is already falling; the seller job is to maintain flow, not create pressure.
- Zeigarnik effect
- A psychological principle where unfinished tasks occupy ongoing cognitive resources. A booked discovery call creates a mental loop the prospect brain is driven to close by making a decision.
- Choice architecture
- The deliberate design of option sets to guide decisions. Three tiers (DIY / partnership / done-for-you) exploits the Goldilocks effect and default bias to steer prospects toward a preferred option without overt pressure.
- Story stack
- A storytelling technique presenting three short case stories calibrated to three buyer types (skeptic, fast mover, validator) so one reliably resonates with each prospect.
- Future pacing
- A persuasion technique using sensory, concrete details to help a prospect vividly experience what their life looks like after saying yes, making the outcome feel real before any money changes hands.
- Adventurer frame
- A positioning stance where the seller presents themselves as one step ahead on the same journey rather than an authority at the summit, making expertise feel accessible and collaborative.
- Decision fatigue
- The finding that the longer someone deliberates without deciding, the less likely they are to choose yes. Erhart cites an approximate 2% drop per minute of unresolved consideration.
- Identity activation
- Marketing language that speaks directly to who the buyer believes they are or wants to become, triggering a purchase to stay consistent with their self-image rather than to solve a functional problem.
Things they pointed at.
11:40bookChristopher Carpenter (2013) BYAF meta-analysis
02:00bookJack Bream psychological reactance research (1960s)
Lines you could clip.
03:00
“When you are chasing, you are already losing.”
03:40
“You are not creating fake scarcity around your availability. You are creating real selectivity around who you choose to work with.”
45:50
“When I ask them what would make it a 10, I am really getting them to describe the full cost of doing nothing -- and once they say it out loud, their brain wants to resolve it.”
31:10
“People do not buy coaching. They buy how they think coaching will change them and make their lives better.”
25:50
“You do not need to be the guide who has already reached the summit. You just need to be the one holding the flashlight, walking slightly ahead.”
37:10
“Complexity feels like work. Simplicity feels like momentum. And momentum is what makes people take action.”
35:20
“People will fight harder to protect their identity than to solve a simple pain.”
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00:00You're about to watch something that took me over a decade to figure out. Not tactics, not scripts, not some guru nonsense that sounds good but doesn't actually work. This is the actual psychology that makes clients chase you, close themselves, and pay premium prices without you ever feeling salesy.
00:15You see this red button? In the first video, I'm gonna show you exactly why you wanting to press it right now is the same psychological trigger that makes clients chase you instead of the other way around. Now, here's the thing, most people will watch the first video, maybe the second, and then click away thinking that they got it.
00:29They didn't get anything because what you learn in video number one about the gatekeeper method, it unlocks what happens in video three with the black sand and what clicks in video four transforms everything by video six. So if you're serious about building a business that doesn't require you to beg for clients, block out the next couple hours.
00:46Let's start with the red button.
00:50Can I tell you a secret? There's one psychological trigger that completely flips the sales game. So instead of chasing clients, they start chasing you.
00:57It works so well the first time I used it, I honestly felt like I was cheating. Now, you might have noticed I've got a big red button sitting here on my desk. I'll explain why in just a minute.
01:05But first, here's what most people get wrong about sales. They try to convince people to buy when they should be making clients prove they're a good fit. I know that sounds backwards, but it's exactly what keeps people stuck trying to prove their worth instead of making clients prove theirs.
01:19When I started using this trigger, prospect started saying things like, what do I need to do to work with you? No chasing, no awkward follow ups, just inbound demand. And this isn't just theory.
01:28I've used this same principle to help business owners, entrepreneurs and creators land million dollar clients including teams at Google and Amazon, Meta and other brands you've definitely heard of. So in this video, I'm gonna show you what this psychological trigger is, the surprising science behind why it works and how to apply it right away and flip the dynamic in every client conversation.
01:46Plus, I'll give you a simple four word phrase backed by 42 studies that doubles your close rate. But first, let me show you exactly what this red button has to do with all of it. Okay.
01:57So here's the psychological principle that makes this work, and this is backed by decades of research. It's called psychological reactance, but I like to call it the red button effect.
02:06Imagine for a second you walk into a room and there's a big red button with a sign above it that says do not press. Well, what's the first thing that you wanna do? Press it.
02:13Obviously, that's reactance in action. Think about when you were a kid and your parents said don't go in that room.
02:19Well, what's the first thing you wanted to do? Go in that room. It wasn't because the room was interesting, it was because someone told you that you couldn't.
02:25And the moment that someone restricts your access to something even something that you didn't even care about just a few seconds ago, your brain perceives it as a threat to your freedom and threats to freedom trigger an almost primal urge to restore that freedom immediately. Here's what the research shows. Back in the nineteen sixties psychologist Jack Bream discovered something fascinating about human behavior.
02:46When people feel their freedom is being threatened or limited in any capacity, they experience psychological reactance which is an intense motivation to restore that freedom. In other words, the moment you make something feel limited or restricted or hard to get, people want it more. This is why kids want the toy that their sibling is playing with or people want to get into the exclusive club with a line outside and buyers want the product that's almost always sold out.
03:09But here's where most business owners get this completely wrong. They think scarcity means saying, I only have three spots left left or this offer expires Friday, but that's not psychological reactance. That's just usually fake scarcity and your prospects can smell it a mile away.
03:22Real psychological reactance happens when you make people feel like they need to qualify to work with you. Let me say that again because this is critical. You're not creating fake scarcity around your availability, you're creating real selectivity around who you choose to work with.
03:35And the moment someone feels like they might not qualify, like they might not be good enough for you, well, their brain kicks into overdrive trying to prove that they are. That is when they start chasing you and the science behind this is fascinating. When someone perceives themselves as being evaluated or judged, they automatically shift from do I want this to am I good enough for this?
03:52And that simple shift, well, it changes everything because now they're trying to convince you instead of you trying to convince them. Stanford research on social psychology shows that people value things more when they have to work for them and one of the most powerful forms of work is proving you're worthy of something.
04:08This is why people will camp outside a store for a limited edition sneaker drop but won't buy the same shoe sitting on a shelf or why exclusive clubs with velvet ropes and strict door policies are more desirable than places that let anyone walk in. The harder something is to get, the more we want it. Not because the thing itself changed, but because the challenge of getting it makes it feel more valuable.
04:29So when you make prospects feel like they need to qualify to work with you, they subconsciously assign more value to your services. Not because your services changed, but because the context changed.
04:39Now, at this point, you may be thinking, that sounds great, Adam, but how do I actually do this without sounding like an arrogant jerk? Good question, my friend. Good question.
04:47That's exactly what I'm about to show you. But before I show you how to do this right, let me first show you what I used to do because it was a total disaster and the perfect example of what not to do. So here's how things used to go.
05:00I get on sales calls and I'd be in full sales mode. So here's what we do, here's how it works, here's why it's amazing, here's our results. Now, usually, the prospect would listen politely and then say, this sounds good, let me think about it and I'll get back to you.
05:14And then, nothing. Everyone ghosted. I'd chase up with them with a series of follow-up emails, hey, just checking in, do you have any questions, are you still interested?
05:21It was exhausting and it didn't work which just so happened to be two of my least favorite things. And all because the entire time I was the one trying to convince them, I was the one chasing and when you're chasing you're already losing. So I flipped the script and everything changed.
05:34That's why I want to give you the exact framework I The same one I've used to land 5 and 6 figure clients in under thirty minutes without pitching, without persuading, without pushing. I call it the gatekeeper method and it works because it shifts you from being a salesperson to being the one that they have to impress. Think of it like applying for a membership at some exclusive country club.
05:53You don't just walk in and demand a membership card, you submit an application, you provide references and you hope that the board votes you in. That's the energy that this framework creates and it's made up of four simple moves. So, me walk you through each one now starting with move number one, the gatekeeper open which takes place in the first sixty seconds of any conversation.
06:11Most people start sales conversations like this, thanks for reaching out. I'd love to tell you about what we do. But, that immediately positions you as the one trying to sell.
06:19Instead, I start with the gatekeeper open that goes like this. Thanks for reaching out. Before we dive in, I wanna make sure we're a good fit.
06:26I'd hate for either of us to waste time if this isn't the right approach for where you're at. I've learned my method works really well for certain situations, but not all. Does that make sense?
06:35So watch what just happened here. You didn't say no. You didn't create fake scarcity.
06:39You just implied that there's a qualification process, and they might not pass it. And when you do this, their brain immediately shifts from should I buy to am I good enough? Psychologically, what you just did was trigger reactants.
06:51Their brain just registered that working with you isn't guaranteed. It might not even be available to them. And the moment that that happens, they want it more.
06:59It's like that red button. The moment you hint, they might not be able to push it, they wanna push it even more. Or to put it another way, you're the one that's holding the and they just realized that they might not make the list.
07:11Okay. Let's keep going with move number two, the criteria reveal which happens around minutes two to five of the conversation. So now that you've established that you're the gatekeeper, you need to reveal your criteria.
07:21Otherwise, kinda just sounds like you're posturing. So here's how I do it. I say something like, the reason I ask is because I found this approach works best for people who are already generating revenue but feel stuck.
07:31For example, clients who know their business works but can't figure out why their marketing isn't consistent tend to see results fast. People who need a few weeks to think it over usually end up not moving forward and I'd hate for that to happen. So here's what's going on behind the scenes.
07:45You gave them two clear paths. Path one, I'm already making money but stuck. I want results fast.
07:50That's a good path. Path two, I need weeks to think about it. This is the path that goes nowhere.
07:55They will always choose to see themselves as path one and the moment they do that, well, they've just sold themselves to you. You created a self selection mechanism. You set the bar and they started reaching for it.
08:06Okay. Move number three, the mirror close which happens around the five to ten minute mark. Now, sadly, this is where most people completely mess it up.
08:13Everything's going good, things are flowing smoothly but then they get to the end of the conversation and say something silly like, so would you like to move forward? Bad move. That's you selling them again.
08:23Just like that, you undid all of the psychological positioning that you built before. This is why instead I use the mirror close and it goes something like this. From everything you've just told me, I think this would work really well for you.
08:33The real question though is, does this feel like the right fit for what you're trying to accomplish? That's a powerful line because watch what just happened. You decided they're qualified, so you took that pressure off them.
08:43Now, the only question is whether they think it's right, which means you've completely flipped the power dynamic. And here's the psychology behind this. By telling them they're already a great fit, you remove that am I good enough pressure, which means that reactance trigger is gone.
08:57But, by asking them to decide, you created something even more powerful, commitment to their own identity. The moment they say, even internally, I'm the type of person who takes action, you just handed them a mirror. Now, if they hesitate, they're not saying no to you, they're contradicting themselves and people hate doing that.
09:12So, instead, they commit even harder. Okay. Let's move on to move number four, the final filter also known as the close.
09:18If they say yes, you don't celebrate. You confirm by saying something like, perfect. Just so I'm clear, you're ready to implement this week.
09:25Right? Because like I mentioned, this only works if you're the type of person who takes action quickly. What you're doing here is reinforcing their self image as someone who implements fast.
09:34You're also creating one final qualification hurdle which makes them even more committed to proving they're the right fit. But here's the key, you don't stop there. Instead, you move on to part two by adding one simple forward phrase that changes everything and that phrase is, but you are free.
09:47Let me explain. Back in 2013, communication researcher Christopher Karpenter analyzed 42 different studies and found that simply adding a phrase like but you are free to accept or refuse to the end of a request significantly increased compliance rates. So why does this work?
10:01Well, it's because it removes psychological pressure. The moment you emphasize someone's freedom to say no, they stop feeling sold to. It's like offering someone an open door and the moment they see it, they slam it shut themselves to prove they're saying.
10:13Essentially, you're giving them a genuine out and paradoxically when people feel that freedom when they know that they can just walk away without any judgment, they're more likely to say yes. This is because you're acknowledging their autonomy. You're making it clear that they're in control and that removes all resistance.
10:27Now, the exact words that you use here don't matter as much as making sure that you emphasize their freedom. For example, you can say you're free to choose or obviously no pressure or if you need more time you're completely free to take it, that kind of thing. So, what do you do then if they do hesitate?
10:42I mean, you just open the door for them. What if they actually walk out? Well, if they hesitate here, the answer is to pull back even more by saying something like, no worries at all if you need more time.
10:51You're completely free to take as long as you need. Like I said, I'm selective about who I work with. I'd rather you think about it and be absolutely sure than rush into something you're not ready for.
11:00Watch what happens. In my experience, nine out of 10 times they'll say, nope. No, I'm ready.
11:04So, what just happened psychologically? Well, you gave them an out and they doubled down on their commitment instead. Because here's the thing, when you emphasize their freedom to choose, you didn't reduce their commitment, you actually increased it.
11:15So now, they feel even more compelled to prove that they're the kind of person who takes action quickly which is the exact identity they claimed at the beginning of this conversation. But let me walk you through how this actually played out in a real conversation I had last month. A potential client reached out asking about my services and like I mentioned before, my old instinct was to immediately explain what I do and why it's great but as we've already covered here that creates the wrong dynamic right from the start.
11:38So, instead I opened by saying I want to make sure we're a good fit that my approach works really well for certain types of businesses but not for everyone. And then almost like clockwork exactly as we were expecting, the interesting thing happens and he immediately asks what kind of businesses I typically work with. And what's happening behind the scenes here is that without even really realizing it, he made a shift from evaluating me to hoping he qualifies and trying to understand what he needs to do to get there.
12:01So, I explained my criteria. I work best with people who are already generating revenue but feel stuck with inconsistent marketing and who are ready to implement within thirty days, not people who want to explore options for months. His response, oh, yeah, I'm definitely interested.
12:14I've been wanting to fix this for months. And notice what just happened, he's already proving he fits the criteria before I even explained what I actually do or made any kind of offer. In other words, the psychology is working exactly as designed.
12:24From there, spent about ten minutes just asking questions to understand his situation. So, no pitch, just questions. Then, provided he actually is a good fit, I tell him that I think he'd be a great fit and ask if he feels this is the right approach for what he's trying to accomplish.
12:37He says yes immediately and asks what the next step is so I lay it all out. Onboarding form, uh, implementation call scheduled for Thursday and I confirmed that he's ready to start this week since this approach works best when people implement quickly. He says, yes, absolutely.
12:50Send me the details and that conversation turned into a $30,000 deal in about twenty minutes. No pitch deck, no convincing, no handling objections. So now, let's make this actionable for you.
13:00Here's exactly how you implement the gatekeeper method starting today. Step one, craft your gatekeeper open. Write out your version of the following opener to use in the first sixty seconds of the conversation.
13:10Before we dive in, I wanna make sure we're a good fit. I'm selective about who I work with because in search of reasoning, does that make sense? Now, your reasoning could be my approach only works for certain types of businesses or I've learned this gets the best results with people who insert your criteria or I only take on clients who are ready to implement quickly.
13:27Step two, define your criteria for the reveal. Your goal should only be to work with perfect fit clients, the kind of people who are gonna love you and love what you do and want to tell everyone about just how great you are and the kind of people who you're going to be able to get the best results for. So, what makes someone a good fit versus a bad fit?
13:43You want to be specific here. If you're a business coach for example, your criteria could be do they need to be generating revenue already? Do they need to be ready to implement within thirty days or do they need to have tried other approaches first?
13:54The more specific your criteria and your selectivity feels, well the higher the bar that you're setting for them to reach. Step three, practice the mirror close. Instead of, would you like to move forward?
14:04Practice saying, based on what you've told me, I think you'd be a great fit. The question is, do you think this is right for you? Now, here's the key.
14:10You need to practice saying this out loud multiple times before you ever get on a sales call. Say it in the mirror, say it in the car, say it until it feels completely natural coming out of your mouth because if you stumble over this line or it sounds rehearsed in the moment, you're gonna kill the psychology. It needs to sound conversational and it needs to sound genuine and the only way to get there is repetition.
14:29Step four, use pullback language for the final filter. Whenever they hesitate, give them an out. No worries if you need more time, I'd rather you be sure than rush into something.
14:37This triggers psychological reactants and usually makes them recommit immediately. Here's the thing, you're not trying to pressure anyone anyway. Hard selling just doesn't work.
14:44It creates buyers remorse and difficult clients. After all, you're the expert. If they're not ready, they're not ready.
14:50So, when you give them this out, you gotta mean That authenticity is what makes this technique so effective. Step five, reflect their own words back to them. When you're talking, listen to how they describe themselves and their situation then reflect it back.
15:02They say, I've been wanting to fix this for months. You say, so you're past the research phase. You're ready to actually solve They say, need to get this done quickly.
15:09You say, got it. So you're looking to move fast on this. They talk about taking action before.
15:14You say, sounds like when you decide something's right, you commit to it. You're not putting words in their mouth or inventing personality traits. You're just mirroring what they're already telling you.
15:21Now, before you go out and start using this, I need to give you three important warnings because if you get these wrong, the gatekeeper method will backfire on you. Warning number one, your selectivity has to be real. This only works if you genuinely have criteria and you're actually willing to turn people away.
15:35If you'll work with anyone who's got a pulse and a credit card, people are gonna sense it immediately. You can't fake selectivity. It's got to come from genuine standards about who you work best with.
15:43Warning number two, don't confuse confidence with arrogance. There is a big difference between saying I'm selective because I want to ensure great results and acting like you're just too good for most people. One is professional positioning, the other just makes you sound like a jerk.
15:56You're the gatekeeper, not a bouncer on a power trip. Warning number three, this doesn't work if you're desperate. If you need every deal that comes through the door, you're not gonna be able to pull this off convincingly.
16:05The selectivity has to come from genuine confidence in your results, not manufactured scarcity because you're broke. And look, if you're in that position right now, that's okay. I get it.
16:14We've all been there. But this method works best when you have at least a few wins under your belt and you're not operating from scarcity. So, get a few clients first, do some work for free if you have to, build some case studies and testimonials, then come back to this method once you've got some momentum.
16:28Now, look, the gatekeeper method is powerful but it's just one psychological trigger. Here's the thing, the most effective salespeople don't just use one technique, they stack multiple psychological principles together.
16:38If you're ready to stop chasing clients and start choosing them, these next 10 techniques are gonna flip the power dynamic for good. For example, there's a way to frame your transformation story that makes people see themselves in your journey. So they believe if you did it, they can too.
16:51There's a technique for turning objections into reasons to buy without being pushy or manipulative. And there's a framing method that makes people feel like your offer was designed specifically for who they want to become. Now, you understand the gatekeeper method.
17:04You know how to flip from chasing to being chased, but that's one trigger. What if you had 10? Not surface level tricks, I'm talking about the dark psychology that most people are too uncomfortable to even talk about.
17:15The stuff that actually makes money like how to use your lowest moment to build instant trust or how to flip someone's objection into the exact reason they should buy. Let's go deeper.
17:27If you've ever struggled to sell your product, your service, your course, or your coaching and you're wondering why people say, looks cool but never buy, it's not because your offer sucks. It's because you don't understand the dark side of marketing psychology. Now, before we go any further, I want to make something really clear.
17:43I have nothing to sell you in this video. I'm not using any of these tactics on you, I'm giving them to you because if you're a business owner, a coach, or a marketer, you need to understand how these work. Not so you can manipulate people, but so you can use these tools ethically, powerfully, and with full awareness.
17:59Because the truth is these tactics are being used right now every day in ways that get people to take action, say yes, and buy now. The question is, will you ignore them or will you learn how to use them to actually help people make decisions that are good for them? Well, that's what this video is about.
18:15So let's dive into 10 of the most powerful and, yes, darkest psychological tactics and strategies being used in sales and marketing today. And this first one, this one changes everything about how you frame the pain someone's already living in even when they don't see it yet.
18:32Tactic number one is called latent to realize to extreme pain. I appreciate. Sounds fancy, but it's actually pretty simple.
18:38Most people won't move until staying where they are feels more painful than changing. That's the truth. And if you want to sell more of anything, your service, your course, your coaching, you need to learn how to create that moment of realization.
18:50So let's make this real. Think of someone who has a decent nine to five job. They make okay money, their life isn't great but it's not falling apart either.
18:59They get by, but underneath the surface, they hate Mondays. They feel invisible at work. They mindlessly scroll through their phone at night to distract themselves from the fact that their life doesn't really feel like their life.
19:10If you ask them how things are going, they'll say something like, yeah, I'm doing alright. But if you ask them a more powerful question like, what happens if you're still doing the exact same thing in three years? Silence.
19:21That's the crack. That moment when alright stops feeling alright at all.
19:25That's what we call latent pain becoming realized. It was always there, they just didn't know it yet. And this is where you turn the screw, not to be cruel but to show them what's possible.
19:34For example, other people in their field building online businesses or growing audience or attracting clients through marketing that works, taking control of their time and their income and suddenly what they currently have starts to feel like a trap. Now, you say something like, if you don't make a move now, you're going get left behind.
19:51That's extreme pain. That's the moment that the sale is made. Because the second someone truly feels the cost of doing nothing and not just understands it intellectually but feels it emotionally, well, they start searching for a way out.
20:02And if you've positioned your offer right, you become that way out. Now, here's how to apply this. Start by asking better questions.
20:09Questions that uncover the problem behind the problem. Don't just ask what they want, ask why they haven't already achieved it. Ask what their current path looks like in two years, three years, five years from now.
20:20Ask how they'd feel if nothing changed. Next, use future pacing. Help them visualize what their inaction actually cost them.
20:27Don't just say, you'll be stuck. Show them. Describe the frustration, the regret, the opportunity slipping through their fingers while their competition gets sharper and faster and further ahead.
20:36Then you agitate. Raise the stakes. Point out the costs of doing nothing.
20:40Make them feel again more emotionally what staying put will actually mean. Because here's the truth, people are like frogs in a pot of slowly boiling water. They won't leap until it's too late.
20:50So your job is to raise the temperature just enough that they jump, not by force but by clarity. That's how you move someone from stuck to sold. Okay.
20:58Let's move on to the next tactic now.
21:04Tactic number two is called perceived control. Here's what you need to know. People don't want to be sold to.
21:09They want to feel like they're the ones making the decision. So the trick is this, you guide the conversation but make them feel like they're the ones that are leading it. Let me show you what this looks like.
21:18Not that long ago, a client I was working with was struggling to close discovery calls. She had the expertise, her offer was solid but people kept saying, let me think about it, then go sing her.
21:27So, we changed just one thing. Instead of jumping straight into her sales pitch, she started every conversation by saying, would it be alright if I shared a few ideas that might help based on what you just told me? That one question changed everything.
21:39Why? Because when the client said yes, and they always do, even though she was steering the conversation the entire time, the client felt in control. It felt like it was their choice, not like they were getting some sales pitch that they didn't ask for.
21:51And that's the magic. They still take the action, but it feels like it was their idea all along. So how do you apply this?
21:57First, ask for permission. Not fake permission, but like real micro agreements that make your clients and your customers feel like they're saying yes to each next step. For example, do you want me to walk you through how this might work or can I show you what others in your space are doing right now that's working?
22:12Second, give them choices. Even if all roads lead back to you. For example, would you prefer we do this one on one or start with a strategy call?
22:20Or the classic, would you rather fix x first or y? Third, position your offer like a decision, not a demand. You're not saying buy this, you're saying here's the path that I'd take if I were in your shoes, it's totally your call.
22:32Because when someone feels ownership of a decision, they're far less likely to resist it. That's why this works. Think of it like this, you're not dragging them toward a sale, you're laying stepping stones.
22:41So they're the ones walking but you chose the path that they take and that's how you stay in control by giving it away. Okay. Next, let's move on to tactic number three which is a little dark.
22:54This is why tactic number three is called the pit of darkness. If you want to sell transformation and not just a product or service, then your story can't start at the top. It's got to start at the bottom because the lower the pit, the higher the payoff.
23:07Let me explain. There was a coach I worked with who wanted to sell his high ticket program. His pitch was polished, his content was super slick, but his story went something like this.
23:16I used to be stuck, then I found this framework, And now, I'm making great money doing what I love. Now, technically, on the surface, it sounds fine. But there was no emotion there, no tension, no risk, no darkness.
23:27So we rewrote it. We started his story with the moment that he hit zero in his bank account. The part where he was sitting on the floor crying because a client ghosted on an invoice that he desperately needed.
23:36The part where he almost gave up. Then we built the climb from there. And that changed everything because people could see themselves in his struggle.
23:44So now, they didn't just admire him, they related to him. When you share your pit, your low point, your breakdown, the I almost quit moment, you earn trust. And when you show the rise that you made after that, you create belief.
23:56Belief that if you made it out, then maybe they can too. So how do you use this? First, find your pit.
24:02What was the worst moment? The moment before you figured things out? Where were you mentally, emotionally, financially?
24:08Second, this part's important, don't sanitize it or water it down. Don't skip the part where it sucked the most. That's the part that people remember.
24:16That's the part that Bill's connection. Third, show the turning point. What changed?
24:20What did you do that pulled you out of it? Make sure that that lesson is clear and make sure that your offer connects to that journey because the more dramatic the contrast between where you were and where you are now, the more compelling that your transformation becomes. It's the same reason that every great movie and every bad movie too actually starts with a fall.
24:37We don't care that the hero wins in the end, we care how far they had to climb in order to get there. No one buys the perfect origin story. They buy the comeback.
24:44So don't hide the pit. That's the part that sells. But what do you do if you still don't feel like you've made it or you're still battling impostor syndrome?
24:52Well, that's where this next tactic comes into play. So let me share that with you now.
24:59Tactic number four is called the adventurer frame. This one's a game changer if you've ever felt like you weren't expert enough to sell what you do. Here's the thing, people don't always want a guru.
25:09In fact, often the more polished and all knowing you appear, the harder it is for your audience or your customers or your clients to relate to you. So instead of positioning yourself as the expert at the top of the mountain, try positioning yourself as the adventurer, someone in motion, learning, exploring, sharing, testing, all of their journey in real time.
25:26I once worked with a guy trying to sell AI consulting services but he was new to the space, had no credentials, no past clients, no real authority, just curiosity and strong desire to learn. So we reframed everything. Instead of saying, I'm the expert, he started saying, I'm building a system to help small businesses use AI to save time and grow faster and I'm documenting everything that works along the way.
25:46And guess what? He started getting inbound leads fast Because when you're an adventurer, you invite people to come along for the ride. They're not buying expertise, they're buying access to someone figuring it out in real time.
25:58So they don't have to. And here's how to apply this. Start by admitting where you are in the journey confidently, not apologetically.
26:05Say things like, I'm testing this strategy right now and here's what I've learned so far. Or I'm not the world's leading expert on this, but I am obsessed with figuring it out and applying it to real businesses. Second, create in public.
26:17Share your experiments, your wins, your failures, your losses, your tests along the way. Show people what's working, what's not. Transparency builds trust.
26:26Third, lead the way. Even if you're only one or two steps ahead of your clients or customers, that's enough. You're still someone who can save them time and avoid mistakes and help them make progress faster.
26:35This is the power of the adventurer frame and it turns not being an expert into your superpower and your point of differentiation. Think of it like this, you don't need to be the guide who's already reached the summit. You just need to be the one who's .
26:49And for the right audience, that's more than enough to win the sale.
26:55Alright. Tactic number five is called throw rocks at the enemy. So let me break that down now.
27:00Now, this one's controversial but insanely effective because sometimes the best way to connect with your audience is to stand against something. Let me explain. When someone is trying to make a change, whether that's starting a business or hiring a coach or switching careers, they're not just facing challenges.
27:15They're facing resistance, doubt from others, criticism, internal fears, and often haters. So when you stand beside them and throw rocks, metaphorical rocks at their enemies, you're not being negative, you're being loyal. You're showing them whose side you're on.
27:29I once worked with a fitness coach who helped women ditch diet culture, but her messaging was just way too soft. She was trying to appeal to everyone including the people that she secretly wanted to rebel against. So, we made a shift.
27:40Instead of saying, let me help you get healthy, she started saying, I help women break free from the toxic diet industry that profits off shame. Boom. Now, she had a common enemy and that meant her audience didn't just see her as a coach.
27:52They saw her as an ally, a defender, a voice for what they believed in but couldn't say out loud and her business exploded. So how do you apply this? First, start by identifying your audiences, your customers, your clients enemies.
28:04These enemies could be a mindset, a system, a broken process, even a person. For example, if you help people grow their businesses without hustle, the enemy is grind culture. If you help people get clients without cold dms, the enemy is sleazy sales tactics.
28:19If you help creators build slow sustainable growth, the enemy is overnight success gurus. Next, make it crystal clear who you are not for. Draw a line in the sand.
28:28When you do that, the right people lean in harder because they feel safe and understood and represented. And finally, speak their frustrations out loud. Say the things they wish they could say.
28:37Use your content to call out what's broken, and then show them your way of doing it better. Because when you share an enemy, you create a tribe. Okay.
28:45We're on a roll here. Let's keep going.
28:50Tactic number six is called objection inversion. You see, one of the biggest reasons people don't buy is also one of your greatest opportunities to close the sale if you flip it. Because what feels like a deal breaker at first often turns out to be the exact reason they should say yes.
29:04Let me show you what I mean. A while back I was helping a business coach who offered a premium service and he kept running into the same objection. This sounds amazing but I just can't afford it right now.
29:12That was his sticking point and at first he tried to defend the price or justify the ROI but it never worked. So instead, we inverted the objection. He started saying, I totally get that and I just want to point something out.
29:25If getting clients and increasing revenue is the exact thing you're struggling with, isn't that why we're having this conversation in the first place? Now, instead of avoiding the objection, he turned it into the reason to take action. Suddenly, not being able to afford it wasn't a block, it was the proof that they needed And this works with almost any objection.
29:42Objections like, I don't have time right now become exactly. That's why you need systems that take less of it. Or I've tried stuff like this before and it didn't work.
29:50Well, that becomes, and how much longer are you going to keep trying what's not working? Or the classic, I'm not sure I'm ready objection. Well, that becomes no one ever is, but waiting rarely makes you more prepared.
30:01Action does. So, next question then is, how do you apply this? Well, you start by writing down your top three most common objections.
30:07The ones you hear again and again and again. Then ask yourself, what belief is hiding inside this objection and how can I flip it? Not by arguing but by agreeing with it and reframing it as the reason to buy.
30:19Remember, you're not bulldozing their resistance. You're using it to your advantage because here's the truth. Objections aren't walls.
30:26They're simply doors waiting to be opened from the right angle. And when you flip the script, you don't just break down resistance, you weaponize it.
30:36Next up, tactic number seven. Personal favorite of mine and one of the most ethical and yet also persuasive ways to help someone take action. Now, we touched on this briefly before but it's worth going into more depth here which is why tactic number seven is called future pacing and it's one of the most powerful tools in persuasion because people don't just buy your offer, they buy a future version of themselves.
30:56So your job is to make that future version of themselves feel real. I remember working with an agency owner who was struggling to get people to book for long term retainer deals. His pitch was good, his case studies were solid, but everything he said was rooted in what he did, not what life would look like for the client after working with him.
31:13So we made a simple change. Instead of saying, I'll write your landing pages, emails and help you optimize conversions, he started saying, imagine waking up and your funnel's already making sales while you're out walking your dog or getting coffee or spending time with your kids. No more scrambling, no more guessing, just a system that brings in leads while you focus on running the business.
31:33And that changed everything. Because now the client wasn't just buying marketing, they were buying peace of mind and space and freedom. That is future pacing.
31:41Showing someone what their life looks like after they've said yes. So here's how to use it. First, know what your audience really wants, not just the surface goal, but the emotional payoff behind it.
31:51Is it confidence or freedom or credibility, safety? Next, you really want to paint the scene and use sensory details on real life situations.
31:58So don't just say you'll grow your business. Say things like, you'll open your inbox to see leads already booked for the week. You'll stop second guessing every post and you'll get your evenings back.
32:08A copyright a friend of mine calls this as it should paint a picture of what things look like. And finally, Future pacing only works if it feels achievable.
32:17So match the vision to their current starting point. Make it feel like a natural next step, not some weird fantasy that's never going to happen. Because the truth is people don't buy coaching, they buy how they think coaching will change them and make their lives better.
32:30So give them a window into that future and make them really feel it. It's like offering them a test drive, but instead of a car, you're letting them take their new identity for a spin. And once they've seen it, it's very hard to go back.
32:40We can take this a step further though using something called status shift framing. So, let me walk you through that now in tactic number eight.
32:50Status shift framing, which is actually quite tricky to say, is all about understanding that people don't just buy to solve problems, they buy to upgrade who they are. And when you understand that, your marketing changes because you stop talking about features and start talking to identity. But let me show you what I mean.
33:06I once helped a consultant who ran a group program for service providers. Their pitch? Learn how to package and sell your services more effectively.
33:13Now, honestly, it was clear, but it wasn't aspirational. So we reframed it. Instead of just promising a skill set, we made the transformation about status.
33:21The new version looked like you'll go from blending in as a freelancer to standing out as the authority. The one clients pursue, not the one having to chase them down.
33:28That one shift reframed the entire offer and conversion rates jumped. Why? Because people don't just want to make more money, they want to be seen differently by their peers, by their clients, and most importantly by themselves.
33:39So here's how to use status shift framing, which is still tricky to say. First, define the before and after identity. Who are they right now and who are they going to become after working with you?
33:48For example, from overworked freelancer to respected expert, from faceless business to trusted brand, from guessing marketer to confident strategist. Second, use the right words to reflect that shift in identity. In other words, don't just say here's what you get, say here's what this makes you.
34:05This confirms their new identity. So kind of confusing though, so here's more examples. This is what high performing consultants do or smart founders invest in positioning early and this is how leaders delegate without losing control.
34:17Remember, you're not just selling transformation, you're selling self perception and when you raise their status, raise you the value of what you offer. Because here's the truth, people will fight harder to protect their identity than to solve a simple pain.
34:29So give them a new identity, a better one, because your offer isn't just a result, it's a reflection of who they believe they're becoming. Speaking of identity, talk let's about tactic number nine now.
34:43Tactic number nine is called identity activation. People make decisions based on who they believe they are or who they want to become. And the moment you speak directly to that identity, they start to listen differently.
34:54Because when your messaging says, this is for people like you, it doesn't feel like marketing, it feels like belonging. I saw this work brilliantly with a client who sold a content strategy course. Before, her sales page was focused on tactics, headlines, formats, algorithms, all good stuff.
35:08But her conversion rates were pretty flat, so we rewrote it with one goal, activate the buyer's identity. We started using lines like, if you're the kind of person who obsesses over making things better, this course is for you. And if you're tired of playing the content game safe and you're ready to lead, not follow, you're in the right place.
35:24This messaging started attracting a different kind of buyer. People who saw themselves in the language, people who said, this finally feels like something made for me. So here's how you can use this.
35:33First, define the identity of your ideal customer. Not just demographics or job titles, but what they believe about themselves. Are they creators, builders, visionaries, underdogs, rebels, professionals who are tired of guessing?
35:45Second, speak to that identity in your marketing. Say things like, if you're the kind of person who or this is for people who've always known they were meant for more or most people play it safe. You're not most people.
35:57And third, reinforce their decision with that identity. When they take action, affirm it by saying things like, this is exactly what high level people do and you made a smart move, most people would have hesitated. You're not just selling a service here, you're confirming who they are or who they want to be.
36:11Here's the key, people will do almost anything to stay consistent with the story that they tell themselves. So if you can make your offer part of that story, they'll buy just to stay aligned because the sale doesn't happen in the pitch. It happens the moment that someone says, yeah, that's me.
36:26Next up, tactic number 10 and it's called dangerous simplicity.
36:34If you want people to buy, you have to make what you're offering feel simple, dangerously simple. Because complexity feels like work, simplicity feels like momentum, and momentum is what makes people take action.
36:45Now, I've got more examples for this one than pretty much all of the other ones combined. But for the sake of time here, let me tell you about a digital product creator I worked with who had an amazing system for generating leads. The system worked, I've seen it myself, but the way that he explained it, I'm talking charts and jargon and 17 steps and multiple frameworks.
37:02Well, by the time someone finished reading his offer, they were overwhelmed. So, we stripped everything down to one single line. I'll help you set up one system that brings in new leads while you sleep.
37:12That's it. Same process, same value, but now it felt doable because instead of selling the mechanism, we sold the effect and we made it feel like something that anyone could act on immediately. So here's how to use this.
37:23First, simplify your language. Remove the layers, don't try to impress with technical details, aim for clarity. Instead of a modular framework to optimize top of funnel performance, say a simple way to get more of the right people reaching out to you.
37:36Second, name the outcome in one sentence. If someone asked you, what do you help people do? Could you answer it without pausing?
37:42If not, you got to keep cutting. Third, test your new messaging on a beginner. If they can't explain it back to you in their own words, it's too complex to sell it at scale.
37:50Here's the truth, you're not dubbing things down, you're speeding them up because, yes, your customers may want to learn, but more than that, they want to win. They want clarity, momentum, and results, not just more information. So if you can make the path feel obvious and the next step feel close, they'll take it.
38:05Think of it like this. People don't want to buy a 175 page playbook.
38:09They want the one sentence shortcut that they can use right now. You give them that and they'll automatically believe that you can give them everything else. You just learned 10 techniques.
38:18Future pacing, the pit of darkness, objection inversion. But here's what separates people who know this stuff from people who actually profit from it. Can you get clients to close themselves?
38:27No pushing, no convincing, no let me think about it. They talk themselves into buying. See this black sand?
38:33In psychology, black represents finality. Once a decision moment passes, it's gone forever. What you're about to learn is how to keep that sand flowing in your direction.
38:44Can I tell you a secret? The first time I used this one psychological pattern, I closed a $5,000 client in twenty seven minutes and it genuinely felt like I was cheating. Since then, I've used it to close over $5,000,000 in deals, not with pressure, not with proposals, but with a thirty minute conversation that flips the entire sales game on its head and it all comes down to understanding this black sand.
39:03Look, most people try to sell by chasing, convincing, explaining, even discounting, but if you're chasing the deals already lost. You're turning every sales call into a waiting game and while you're following up someone else wins the deal just by showing up with momentum.
39:17But when you flip the hourglass the right way, when you trigger this exact psychological switch, clients start asking how fast can we start instead of can you send me a proposal. In the next few minutes, I'm gonna show you the psychology pattern behind what I call method.
39:31Why it gets people to close themselves without any pressure, the four step framework that's generated $400,000 in just the last ninety days plus the exact words that flip the hourglass in their mind. But here's what ninety percent of people get completely wrong about this.
39:44They think it's about creating urgency. It's not. This is about revealing the urgency that already exists.
39:50Miss this distinction and your hourglass becomes a time bomb that explodes the deal but let me show you exactly what I mean. Think about your last sales call that went nowhere. Let me paint you a picture.
39:59You get on a call, you're excited, you start explaining your service, showing your results, maybe even offering a discount. Meanwhile, your prospect is leaning back and they got their arms crossed, they're saying things like send me some information or let me think about it and get back to you. That's you trying to create urgency where none exists.
40:16You're chasing them and when you chase, you've already lost. But watch what happens when you reveal the urgency that they already feel. When I started using this pattern, prospects started saying completely different Instead of, let me think about it, I was hearing how fast can we start?
40:29Instead of, send me a proposal, they were asking, do you take credit cards? No chasing, no awkward follow ups, just immediate commitment. I've used the same psychological principle to sign everyone from small mom and pop shops to major clients like Google, Amazon and Meta.
40:42If you apply this, you'll be ahead of 90% of other business owners still doing discovery calls or sending proposals and waiting weeks for them to hopefully make a decision. This is especially important right now because every prospect who books a call with you has already flipped their hourglass. They're actively looking for a solution but that black sand it runs out fast.
41:00The average buyer talks to five to seven vendors. If you miss your window, well, they just go with someone else who understood the urgency. Here's the key that most people miss.
41:08Once someone takes even a small step forward towards solving a problem, their brain wants to stay consistent with that action. As an example, have you ever started a free trial just to check things out but before you know it, you're setting things up and going through dashboards and looking at stuff? Well, that's the commitment consistency principle working in real time but I like to call it the black sand method.
41:27See this black sand? Once it starts flowing it doesn't stop. It can't go backwards, it only moves in one direction and here's what nobody realizes.
41:35In psychology, black represents finality. Once a decision moment passes, it's gone forever.
41:40But here's what's fascinating. Watch this. The moment that I stop the flow something dies, not just the sand but the energy, the momentum, the decision itself.
41:50Now, watch what happens in the human brain. The moment someone books a call with you, their mental hourglass flips. They've admitted that they have a problem.
41:58They've committed time. They've started visualizing a solution. The black sand is already falling.
42:03Your job isn't to convince them to buy. Your job is to maintain the momentum that already exists until they convince themselves. Here's what's crazy.
42:11The research found that people who made even a small commitment first were 400% more likely to make a larger commitment later. But, here's the part that most people miss. This only works within a specific time window.
42:21So let me explain what's actually happening in your brain. There's something called the Zeigarnik effect. Your brain literally can't let go of unfinished tasks and they create what psychologists call cognitive tension.
42:31Essentially, imagine your brain like this, when you start something like drawing a circle but don't finish it, well your brain keeps dedicating mental resources to it. It's like having 20 browser tabs open or listening to a song and stopping it right before the beat drops or hearing a joke but having the person get cut off right before the punchline.
42:49It drains your energy and it needs that completion in order to feel satisfied. So, when someone books a call with you, they've opened a mental tab, like mental tab that their brain wants to close but if you let too much time pass, that moment is gone. MIT neuroscientists found that this cognitive tension has a half life and it's not very long.
43:06In fact, after only about forty eight minutes of discussion without decision, the emotional brain kind of checks out and the logical brain takes over. This means the excitement dies, the fear creeps in and that's why the black sand matters. But here's where it gets even more interesting.
43:20Stanford researchers discovered something called decision fatigue. Essentially, every minute that someone spends thinking about a decision without making it, their likelihood of saying yes drops by 2%. I mean, do the math on a two week think about a period and, uh, it gets ugly pretty quick.
43:34Now, here's where most entrepreneurs completely missed the mark. They think that doing one call closes means high pressure tactics. They think it's about being pushy but watch this.
43:44Pressure actually stops momentum. The black sand stops flowing and the deal's dead. Let me be crystal clear about this.
43:51The black sand method isn't about pressure. It's about maintaining the natural momentum that already exists. You're not pushing them forward.
43:58You're simply removing the friction that stops their natural movement toward a solution. Here's how things used to go for me and maybe you can relate. Actually, let me tell you about one specific call that changed everything for me.
44:07It was a regular Thursday, 2PM, had the perfect prospect. There was a growing business, a clear pain point, they had budget approved, we talked for an hour, there was great chemistry, they loved everything and then came those famous horrible last words. That sounds perfect.
44:21Let me discuss it with my team and get back to you. I followed up Friday, still discussing. Monday, need more time.
44:27Wednesday, we're looking at other options and by next Friday, radio silence. I got totally ghosted. Their hourglass wasn't just empty, it just didn't exist anymore.
44:35The urgency was gone. The excitement was dead and they'd already mentally moved on. And, here's the part that really hurt, about two months later I saw one post about them working with one of my competitors, someone who probably wasn't better than me but they were faster.
44:47Basically, my old approach was exhausting and and it didn't work which just so happened to be two of my least favorite things. I was burning through leads doing free strategy sessions creating custom proposals and still losing deals to cheaper competitors. Then, it hit me.
45:00Every time I gave them time to think about it, was basically taking their hourglass and stopping the momentum completely. I wasn't being respectful of their time, I was wasting it.
45:09So, I flipped the script completely and what happened next changed everything. That's why I want to give you the exact framework that I used. The same one that's closed over $5,000,000 in thirty minute conversations without proposals, follow ups or let me think about a moments.
45:21But first, let me address the elephant in the room because at this point you may be thinking, Adam, this sounds manipulative. It kinda sounds like you're rushing people into bad decisions and that's a fair point. So, let me ask you this.
45:31If someone has a problem that's losing the money every single day and you have the solution, is it ethical to just let them suffer for two more weeks while they think about it or is it more ethical to help them decide quickly so they can start getting results? So the question then is how do you keep that black sand flowing and turn micro commitments into a $5,000 decision without pitching or pushing or proposals.
45:51Well, like I mentioned, I call it the black sand method and here's why this matters for you. This method works because it acknowledges a simple truth. Your prospects decision hourglass is already running.
46:01You're not creating urgency, all you're doing is acknowledging the urgency that they already feel. Think of it like a hospital emergency room. When you show up with a broken arm, they don't hand you an hourglass and say come back when the sand runs out.
46:11No, they diagnose, they prescribe and they treat while the urgency is real. That's the energy that this creates.
46:17So, here's how to do it step by step. Step one, the diagnostic open. This step is where you check how much black sand is left.
46:23But before I show you the script, let me tell you why this works. Like we talked about really quickly before, in psychology, there's something called the consistency principle. Once someone states a position publicly, they feel this internal pressure to remain consistent with it.
46:36This is why the wrong way to have a sales conversation and something I did for years would look something like, let me tell you about our services and how we can help you. This fails because you're talking about you. Their hourglass is running out while you're giving a pitch that nobody asked for.
46:49So, here's where most people lose the sale and completely ruin the call. They ask how painful is the problem? The prospect says seven or eight and then they move on.
46:57That's a huge mistake. So, here's the right way. Say something like, before we go any further, I need to understand where you are.
47:02On a scale of one to 10, how painful is this problem for you right now? Now, watch what happens. They pretty much never say five.
47:08It's basically always seven eight nine or 10 and here's where the psychology kicks in. Whatever number they give you you follow-up with you said it's an eight what would make it a 10? Now you're not asking them to increase the pain you're getting them to describe the full cost of doing nothing the lost revenue, the wasted time, the frustration, the if it keeps going something breaks moment.
47:28And once they say that out loud they can't unhear it because here's the whole point in one sentence. When I ask them what would make it a 10, I'm really getting them to describe the full cost of doing nothing and once they say it out loud, their brain wants to resolve it. That's the switch.
47:41That's why this question works. They start persuading themselves and when you let them articulate the urgency, you never have to sell it.
47:48But, what about anyone who answers under a seven on the pain scale? Well, the truth is their hourglass isn't even flipped so here's exactly what to say. It sounds like this isn't a critical priority right now.
47:57Why don't we reconnect when it becomes more urgent? Then, say nothing and watch how often they immediately bump their number up. Here's something you can try this week.
48:04Keep a notebook and track the numbers. You'll see that 90% or so are at eight or above and they're telling you that their sand is running out fast and when you get them to verbally commit to urgency, the black sand starts falling faster in their mind.
48:16Let me show you exactly how I set this up in HighLevel HighLevel which if you're not familiar is the software I use to automate my entire business. So I'll make sure to put a link in the descriptions below where you can get access to an extended free thirty day trial as well as thousands of dollars of free trainings and templates and scripts and resources so can try it out for yourself.
48:32First is the form that asks them how much pain this issue is causing them which they can choose anywhere from one to 10 and then we move them on to this automation. Depending on what number they pick, anyone seven or higher gets taken to the calendar for them to book a call and anyone under seven gets a different sequence because they're not ready for the black sand yet and I don't wanna waste either of our time.
48:51Okay. Let's move on to step two, the investment inquiry. Now, here's where the black sand gets even more powerful and sadly, most people mess this up.
48:57The common mistake that most people make at this point is asking, so what's your budget? But this kills momentum because you're asking them to think about limitations and not possibilities. The right way is a three part investment inquiry.
49:09Our one goes like this, if we could solve this problem completely, what would that be worth to your business annually? Then they give you a number. Let's say somewhere between 100 k and 500 k per year.
49:18Part two, and what's it costing you right now to not have this solved? Here's where they calculate their losses. Let's say 10 to 50 k per month.
49:26Then, part three. So, every month that passes costs you roughly x amount of dollars. Is that math right?
49:32And here, they confirm their own urgency. Now, watch what happens to time perception here. When they say 50 k per month in losses, they're not just giving you a number.
49:39They're watching black sand turn into lost dollars. Every grain that falls is money gone forever. And as you're talking to them, make sure to listen for them to pause and look up when calculating.
49:49That's them fast forwarding through their mental hourglass. Once they see the compound losses, the current moment feels desperately urgent. Here's an advanced move.
49:58After they calculate the losses, stay silent for three seconds. I know it's gonna feel like a really long time when you're actually talking to them but trust me, you wanna let that black sand fall loudly in their mind. Okay.
50:09Let's keep going. Step three, the capability confirmation. This is where 90% of people completely blow it.
50:14They forget about the black sand entirely and start just feature dumping on people saying things like, we can definitely help with that. We offer social media management and funnel building and email automation and CRM setup and SEO and web design. But rather than sealing the deal, what you did was just turn their hourglass into a teacher's lecture and the momentum now completely gone.
50:33Dead. Buried. Out of here.
50:35This is why the right way to do things here is to use what I call the story stack method. Use it by saying something like this, I've helped 47 businesses with this exact same problem. In fact, let me tell you about a few of them real quick.
50:45Then, you tell these three stories. Story one is designed to address the concerns of the skeptic. For example, Maria in Dallas was losing $30,000 a month in misleads.
50:53She was skeptical because she'd been burned before but in twelve weeks, she started having consistent seventy three k months and she did it without hiring a single person. Story two is there for the fast mover. It goes something like this, Tom in Denver needed results yesterday.
51:07His competitor was eating his lunch. In thirty days simply by using this one missed call automation, he went from three leads a week to three leads a day. And finally, story number three which highlights the validator.
51:17Here's an example. Jennifer in Portland wanted to see what others in her industry did so I showed her five case studies and she signed up before I finished the third one. Now, what's important to notice here is how I gave three different stories for three different types of people.
51:30That's because there are three buyer types and one of these stories will resonate with each type of person. The really important thing to know is the psychology behind it although which is that when we tell stories, mirror neurons fire in their brain so they literally experience the success as if it's their own and the black sand starts flowing toward their own success not away from it.
51:48Step number four, the choice architecture. Now for the magic where we flip the hourglass one final time. But first, let me show you the biggest mistake that people make here and please do not feel bad if you're doing this, most people are.
51:59The fatal error here is finishing your call with, so do you wanna move forward? This is bad because this is a binary choice. Yes or no?
52:07Fifty fifty odds. You just bet your entire sale on a coin flip. So, let me show you what I built inside HighLevel instead.
52:13This is called the choice architecture and there's deep psychology here. Three options, three different speeds of sand flow. Here's what to say.
52:20Based on everything you've told me, you have three paths to stop the bleeding. Option one, DIY Sprint. You implement iGUIDE four ninety seven.
52:28Your hourglass, but I show you how to flip it faster. Ninety day timeline, best for hands on operators who like to build things themselves. Option two, partnership track.
52:36We build it together, $5,000. We synchronize our hourglasses, thirty day implementation, best for fast movers who want expert guidance.
52:44Or option three, done for you. Rapid, I handle everything, $12,000. I flip every hourglass while you focus on delivery.
52:51Fourteen day turnaround, best for just fix it mindset with budget to match. Okay.
52:56Let's be real for a second here about this whole hour glass thing because you probably don't want to use the hourglass metaphor this literally or this directly with clients because it feels a bit too pushy. But here's what's actually happening. Clients appreciate clarity about time.
53:09They know their sand is running out and they're drowning. What you're offering here is three different life preservers and there's another powerful psychological trigger taking place here as well. You see, the brain processes three options differently than it does two or four.
53:23Two feels limiting, four feels kinda overwhelming, but three feels just right. It's called the Goldilocks effect. And when you pre select the middle option, sixty eight percent of people choose this.
53:33It's called default bias where the brain assumes the default is the recommendation. But wait, there's more.
53:41You can make it even more powerful by adding the magic phrase but you are free to choose any option or none at all. Adding this simple phrase alone doubles compliance rates. Here's why.
53:49The moment you emphasize their freedom, their brain stops defending and starts deciding. So here's your black sand action plan. Number one, get a real hourglass.
53:57Keep it on your desk and flip it at the start of every call. It grounds your urgency and reminds you of the principle. Number two, build your diagnostic scorecard.
54:05Use a one to 10 pain scale so you know where the decision hourglass is already at. Number three, document your story stack. You want one skeptic story, one fast mover story, and one validator story, thirty seconds each.
54:16Number four, create your choice architecture. You wanna give people three options and named by speed with the middle one preselected. Number five, master time bridges.
54:24Every feature, every benefit and every question links back to time lost or time gained. And finally, number six, deliver the black sand clothes. Do it calmly without pressure, just clarity and momentum.
54:35Now, you understand the hourglass. You know why asking what would make it a 10 gets them to sell themselves. But, there's one phrase that shortcuts everything you just learned.
54:44Four words backed by 42 studies nearly doubles compliance rates. I almost didn't include this one. It sounds too simple.
54:50People hear it and think that can't be, then they try it. Watch what these four cards reveal.
54:56Can I tell you a secret? There's a four word phrase backed by 42 psychology studies that gets clients to say yes without you needing to push. The first time I used it felt like a cheat code.
55:06Instead of let me think about it, I got let's do this just like that. Now, you might have noticed these four cards sitting here. Each one represents a move inside what I call the freedom close and by the end of the video, you'll know exactly how to use them to get clients to say yes.
55:21No pressure, no pushiness, no awkward closes. But first, here's what most people completely misunderstand about trying to close a sale with a potential client. Most people try to convince people to say yes by pushing harder, by adding urgency, by handling objections like an old school used car salesman.
55:38But when you use the phrase that I'm gonna show you here in just a minute, something strange happens. Clients start convincing themselves to buy. You stop chasing, they start leaning in.
55:47And it's not just me, I've used this same approach to help business owners close deals worth hundreds of thousands of dollars including teams at Google, Amazon and Meta. So in this video, I'll show you what the forward phrase actually is, why it works so well, there's research here you're definitely gonna wanna see, how to use it in your very next conversation and the one mistake that ruins it, even if you say the words perfectly.
56:07And when you hear what the researchers found, you're gonna understand why this phrase works even when everything else fails. But first, let me tell you a quick story that changed how I closed sales forever. Back when I was first getting started, I used to do everything right like by the book exactly how I'd been taught.
56:22I'd build rapport, I'd ask great questions, I'd show them exactly how I could help, then I'd hit the close and I could see it. The prospect's energy changed. Their eyes started darting side to side or avoiding looking at me.
56:33Their guard went up and I'd start to hear all of the usual excuses like, let me think about it, uh, I need to talk to my partner, can you send something over? Same objections every single time and the worst part was that I knew they wanted my help but I could still feel them pulling away and I had no idea how to stop it.
56:50That was until I flipped my approach completely. I stopped pushing at the very end and started releasing pressure instead and that's when everything changed. So let's talk about these four cards I have in front of me now.
57:00Each one is a move inside what I call the freedom close method. You see, here's something strange about human psychology. When people feel trapped, all they think about is the exit.
57:09But if you give them an obvious way out, make the door wide open for example and suddenly they stop looking for it. The freedom close works in the exact same way. You're not trapping them into a yes.
57:19You're opening the door so wide that walking through it becomes their choice, not yours. But before I walk you through the four moves, let me show you why this works because the science behind it is kind of crazy. So back in 2013, a researcher named Christopher Carpenter did something no one had done before.
57:35He didn't run just one study on this phrase, he analyzed 42 different studies with over 22,000 participants across multiple countries to see if this actually worked and the results were shocking. What he found was that by adding a simple freedom acknowledging phrase to any request nearly doubled compliance rates. That's a 100% increase in people saying yes just from four words, but it gets better because this works across every context they tested.
57:59Street requests, email asks, sales conversations, donation requests, surveys, face to face interactions, even written communication where you can't use tone of voice or body language.
58:10This is why someone asking for directions gets more help when they add but no worries if you're busy. It's why a waiter saying no pressure but we have a great dessert menu actually sells more desserts than a hard push. And this is why someone is far more likely to make a donation to a fundraiser when they feel like there's no pressure behind it rather than when they feel coerced or manipulated or pushed into a decision that they don't necessarily want to make.
58:32All of this works not because the request changed but because the frame changed. Same request, completely different response.
58:39In other words, this phrase doesn't just work on easy decisions, it works on hard ones too. Now, the official name for this technique is the but you are free technique or BYAF for short.
58:49I call it the freedom close. Now, here's where most people completely miss the mark. They think that this is just a clever line that they can memorize.
58:57They throw but you are free to say no at the end of a pushy pitch then they wonder why it doesn't work. Now, here's where most people completely miss the mark. They think that this is just a clever line to memorize and then they throw but you are free to say no at the end of a pushy pitch and then they wonder why it doesn't work.
59:11But that's like putting a cherry on top of a burnt cake and then wondering why nobody wants to eat it. The freedom clothes only works when you actually mean it, when you genuinely give someone permission to say no and you're okay with that outcome. Well, when you do that something shifts in how you deliver it.
59:26Your voice changes, your body language relaxes, they can feel the difference and that's when it works. This And is just one technique but when you stack it with others, things get crazy but I'll show you more what I mean at the end.
59:37For now though, let me show you how to actually use this starting with move number one, the value confirmation.
59:45Let's flip over the first card, the ace of spades which here represents value because that's your first move. Most people rush straight to the close. Big mistake.
59:55They say something like, so ready to get started? Instead, try saying this. Before we get into next steps, I wanna make sure this actually makes sense for you.
1:00:04Based on everything you've shared, does this feel like it would solve the problem? When you say that, here's what's happening in their brains. You just separated the value question from the commitment question.
1:00:13Most people bundle these together which creates resistance. The prospect here is ready to get started and their brain immediately jumps to money and contracts and obligations. But by splitting these apart, you get a yes on value first and that yes creates momentum for everything that follows.
1:00:30You'll know this is working when they nod before you finish the sentence. They're not bracing for a pitch, they're confirming their own decision. Try this on your next call and watch how they lean forward instead of pushing back.
1:00:43Second card, the king of hearts which represents the obstacle. This is where you surface what's actually holding them back. Now that they've confirmed the value, here's where it gets powerful.
1:00:53You ask one simple question. Is there anything that would stop you from moving forward? That's it.
1:00:58And here's the counterintuitive part. When people voice their concerns out loud, those concerns often feel smaller. It's kinda like turning on a light in a dark room.
1:01:06Well, those monsters that were previously hiding in the corner seem to disappear. An objection that felt insurmountable only a few seconds ago now becomes a simple question when they actually say it. You'll know this is working when they actually tell you their real objections.
1:01:18Most people hide their concerns because they don't want confrontation. So they'll nod along, they'll say everything sounds great and then they'll ghost you later. But when you invite these obstacles, they feel safe sharing them.
1:01:29I had a client a little while back who finally admitted that he was worried about the time commitment. He'd been hiding that objection for weeks, literal weeks where everything seemed perfect and then he just randomly disappear. But once he said it out loud, we addressed it in like two minutes and we're able to quickly move forward.
1:01:48Okay. Third card, the queen of diamonds which represents freedom. This is the move that flips the conversation and where most people mess it up.
1:01:56Once you've addressed their concerns, most people go straight for the close saying something like, so let's get you signed up. Well, don't do that. Say this instead.
1:02:04Look, I think this could really work for you, but there's no pressure. You're completely free to say no, take more time, or tell me this just isn't the right fit. I'd rather you make the right decision than feel pushed into something.
1:02:15When you genuinely release pressure, you eliminate the thing that they were actually resisting. They weren't resisting your offer, they were resisting being controlled. Well, remove the control and the resistance disappears.
1:02:26You'll know this is working when they respond pretty much immediately. Nine times out of 10, they'll say something like, no, I'm ready or actually let's do it. The freedom you just gave them becomes permission to move forward.
1:02:39Fourth card, jack of clubs, the pause. This is the move most people skip, but it's the one that seals everything. After you deliver the freedom close, you do nothing.
1:02:49Nothing. Stop talking. Just let the silence sit for five to seven seconds.
1:02:54Don't fill it. Don't add more words. Don't backpedal.
1:02:57Don't say, so what are you thinking? Just wait. Now, I promise you the moment after you say you're free to say no, your instincts are going to be to keep talking.
1:03:06Every fiber of your being is going to want to fill that silence but you gotta fight that urge. The pause is where the decision happens. You fill it, that magic disappears.
1:03:14Now, if they still seem uncertain, pull back even more. Saying something like, honestly, if you're not a 100% sure, I'd rather you take the time you need. I only want clients who are genuinely excited to move forward.
1:03:24Remember earlier when we talked about the open door? Well, we wanna make sure that they don't feel trapped. We wanna show them exactly where that exit is.
1:03:32Well, the pause is you stepping back from it, you not blocking the exit, you're not even standing near it and that's exactly why they decide to stay. You'll know this is working when they're the ones to break the silence first and they pretty much always break it with a yes. That confident pause on your part communicates something that words just can't.
1:03:49It shows that you're not desperate, you're not anxious for their answer, you genuinely meant what you said about them being free to choose and that security well kind of magnetic. The opposite of that energy is neediness, desperation, basically begging and neediness is a sales killer.
1:04:04Let me show you exactly how this played out just a couple weeks ago. A business owner reached out, runs a consulting firm about 5,000,000 in annual revenue but he was stuck in a plateau. He'd been at that number for around two years.
1:04:15He tried hiring, tried new offers and everything that he could think of but nothing seemed to move the needle. We had a great conversation, I understood his problem, I showed him how I could help, mapped out exactly what we do together but when we got to the end I could feel that familiar tension building.
1:04:29His energy shifted, he started talking faster, he was about to give me the let me think about it. So instead of pushing I said look I genuinely think this could help you break through the ceiling but there's no pressure at all. You're completely free to say no or take more time if you need it.
1:04:43I'd rather you make the right decision than feel rushed. Then I stopped talking. Five seconds of silence as usual felt like an hour but I could see him processing, thinking, making a decision.
1:04:52Then he said, no. You know what? I've been thinking about this for months.
1:04:55I keep putting it off and waiting for the right time. So let's just do it. $35,000 deal closed in that moment.
1:05:01No pitch deck, no pressure, no handling objections, no. Let me send you a proposal. The freedom I gave him became the permission that he needed to give himself.
1:05:09So here's exactly how you implement the freedom close method starting today. Step one, separate value from commitment. Before you mention next steps, you've got to get them to confirm the value first by asking, does this feel like it would solve the problem you described?
1:05:22Write this question down, practice it in front of the mirror until it feels natural. The goal here is to get a yes on value before you ever bring up commitment. After all, if they don't feel like this is going to help them, there's pretty much no point saying anything else.
1:05:35Step number two, invite obstacles. Now, I know this feels backwards, but it's pointless to try to pretend that objections and concerns just don't exist. So you're much better off facing them head on.
1:05:45So after they confirm the value, ask what would stop them by saying something like, is there anything that would prevent you from moving forward? This surfaces hidden objections so you can address them. Please do not skip this step.
1:05:57Hidden objections don't disappear. They just show up later as ghosting. Step number three, craft your freedom clothes.
1:06:03Write out your version of the freedom clothes and it should include three elements. Number one, acknowledgment that they might say no. Number two, genuine permission to take more time.
1:06:13And number three, zero pressure language. Here's a template you're free to use exactly as is or adapt. I think this could really work for you, but you're completely free to say no or take more time.
1:06:22I'd rather you make the right decision than feel pressured. Step number four, practice the pause. After your freedom close, sit in silence for a full seven seconds.
1:06:30Time it with a clock if you have to. It's gonna feel uncomfortable, pretty much unbearable the first few times you do it. That discomfort though is the signal that you're doing it right.
1:06:38The pause is where they make their decision, so you don't want to steal that moment from them. Step number five, mean it. This is the most important step of all.
1:06:46You cannot fake this. If you deliver the freedom clothes but you're secretly desperate for the yes, they're gonna feel it. Your voice is gonna tighten, your energy will shift and the whole thing falls apart.
1:06:56You have to genuinely be okay with them saying no. You have to actually believe that a wrong fit client is worse than no client at all which believe me, they are. That energy is what makes this work.
1:07:06Now, before you run out there and try this, three warnings. Get these wrong and the freedom close method will backfire. Warning number one, you can't fake freedom.
1:07:14Now, I know I just said this but it's worth repeating here. If you say the words but your energy is desperate, it's not gonna work. People can feel when you're genuinely okay with a no versus when you're using a technique to try to manipulate them.
1:07:26The freedom has to be real. If you're not there yet, if you need every deal in order to survive, work on your pipeline first. This method requires abundance thinking, not scarcity.
1:07:35Warning number two, the pause is non negotiable. I've watched people deliver a perfect freedom close and then immediately ruin it by filling the silence with you're free to say no. So what do you think?
1:07:46I mean, no pressure but just stop. The pause is where the magic happens. Every word you add after you're free weakens the effect.
1:07:54Don't skip it. Warning number three, this isn't a trick. The freedom close method isn't about manipulating people into a yes, it's about transferring the decision back to them in a way that removes resistance.
1:08:04If your offer isn't good for them, this won't save it. Good offers plus freedom equals yes. Bad offers plus freedom still equals no as it should.
1:08:13If you want to pressure people into decisions that they're later gonna regret, this isn't for you. I only work with clients who are excited to work with me and you should want the same. You've got the gatekeeper method, the 10 dark psychology tactics, the black sand, the freedom close.
1:08:26That's the conversation handled. But what about everything that happens before they get on a call with you? Because here's the truth, you can master every closing technique in the world but if you don't have a system bringing people to you in the first place, you got nothing to close.
1:08:39What you're about to see is one system that does both jobs, gets clients, delivers results. It's the same machine.
1:08:47If trying to get more clients feels like a full time job, you're doing it wrong. Most agency owners, coaches, and service providers are stuck in the same pattern. They spend hours on outreach and content and networking just to land a client.
1:08:58Once they do, they shift all their focus to delivery. Marketing stops, the pipeline empties, a few weeks later, they're back to chasing leads again. Income goes up one month and then crashes the next.
1:09:09It's this constant reset. I know that because that used to be my reality. I've built three separate 7 figure agencies over the past decade plus and none of them scaled until I changed just one thing.
1:09:19That one thing was I stopped treating client acquisition and delivery as two separate problems. Since then, I've helped over a thousand service based businesses rebuild their offers around a single system that brings in clients and delivers results at the same time. In this video, I'm gonna break down why your current model is holding you back, what it takes to stop the income roller coaster, and how to build one system that attracts and serves clients without burning you out.
1:09:43I call this system the client machine. It's a four part system for getting clients and keeping them. You build it once, you use it to get your own clients, and then you install the exact same thing for every client you land.
1:09:53That's your offer, that's your service, that's your entire business. And you're not selling marketing, you're selling systems. And the four parts are pretty simple.
1:10:00Part one, attract, never chase again. Part two, capture, never lose a lead. Part three, convert, never miss a call.
1:10:07Part four, multiply, never start from zero. Same system, two revenue streams, one machine. And I don't mean that in some abstract way.
1:10:15You literally build these four things. You then use them to land clients, then you turn around and install the exact same automations, the exact same workflows for the clients that you just landed.
1:10:24You're not selling them something that you don't use yourself. You're showing them what's already working for you and then offering to do the same thing for them. Now, if you want passive income without talking to real businesses, this isn't it.
1:10:35This is for people who want leverage, not lottery tickets. But here's why this matters right now. AI just changed everything.
1:10:41Voice AI can answer phones twenty four seven. Automations can respond to leads in seconds. You can offer what agencies used to charge 5 or $10,000 for at a fraction of that cost, but most businesses have no idea this exists.
1:10:53They're still answering their own phones, still responding to leads the next day or not at all, Still losing customers to whoever gets there first. And no, this isn't some janky sketchy robot voice that makes people hang up. This is actual conversational AI that qualifies leads, answers questions, and books appointments.
1:11:10It works and I use it every day. In twelve to twenty four months, everyone's gonna be doing this. But right now, this is your edge.
1:11:16So let me show you what the whole system looks like piece by piece. Part one is attract. The goal here isn't to get more followers or more likes, it's to initiate conversations because conversations lead to clients.
1:11:26So we use what I call micro trigger posts, simple content designed to start a conversation. Let me give you a real life example though. Let's say that you're an HVAC company.
1:11:35Well, you post a short video that says something like this. As an HVAC tech, I'm not supposed to tell you this, but most AC problems don't need a full system replacement. For example, the company I used to work for would quote $8,000 replacements on units that just needed a $200 capacitor.
1:11:49Comment AC below, and I'll send you our free AC diagnostic checklist. That's it. One video, one keyword, one automation.
1:11:55Someone comments AC. The system replies to their comment automatically, sends them a DM with the checklist, and it adds them to your CRM.
1:12:02Comment, DM, conversation, client. And the industry doesn't matter.
1:12:06This works for dentists and roofers and lawyers, anyone where trust beats ads. And here's the psychology behind why this works so well. When someone comments publicly, they're making what's called a micro commitment.
1:12:17They said yes to something small and once they've said yes once, they're more likely to say yes again. So small commitments lead to larger commitments. Plus, these posts don't take a lot of time to create.
1:12:27You can film four of these in under ten minutes. Just post one a day then watch the DMs roll in. Here's the double win.
1:12:33You use this to get your own clients then you sell it by saying I'll create content that brings you leads. Part two is capture. Attract is there to get attention.
1:12:41Capture is there to, well, capture it. If you respond to a lead in under five minutes, you are 100 times more likely to connect with them than if you wait thirty minutes or more. But most businesses take hours, sometimes days.
1:12:52By then, the leads already talked to three different competitors, probably signed with whoever answered first. So we build speed to lead. The moment someone reaches out through a form, a comment, a message, anything, the system fires automatically.
1:13:04There's an instant SMS, an instant email, there's an internal notification so the lead hears from you in seconds and this alone puts you ahead of 90% of businesses. But, here's where it compounds.
1:13:15You use this so you never lose a lead to slow response, then you sell it by saying something like, every lead gets a response in sixty seconds. Part three is convert.
1:13:23This is where most businesses bleed money without even realizing it. Most businesses miss 30 to 60% of their calls, sometimes more. That $3,000 job they called at 7PM while you were at dinner, well, it went to voicemail, but they didn't leave one because people rarely do.
1:13:37You may have called them back the next day, but no answer, and they're gone. That was a customer, and you'll never know what that call was worth. So to fix this, we set up Voice AI.
1:13:46Now, instead of them getting voice mail, every call gets answered. Instead of chasing people back, appointments land on your calendar. Instead of guessing what you missed, you wake up to booked revenue.
1:13:55Then there's no shows. The people who book appointments that don't show up. Well, to fix that, we install a simple reminder system I call no show prevention that sends a confirmation, twenty four hour reminder, and then day of reminders.
1:14:08Altogether, this cuts no shows nearly in half without you chasing anyone. And this is where things get really unfair because again, you use this so that you never miss a lead even at 2AM. Then you sell it by saying something like, phone answered 247, calendar full, no shows cut in half.
1:14:22Part four is multiply. This is the easiest money you'll ever make. Your past customers already know you and trust you and they've paid you before.
1:14:30This is why a repeat customer is five to 25 times more valuable than a new one and yet most businesses completely ignore their past customer list. So we run a reactivation campaign. Simple message to people who already said yes once before.
1:14:42But let me give you an example of what this looks like. For dentist, it might be, hey, it's been a while since your last cleaning. We've got a free teeth whitening session for patients who booked this week.
1:14:50Want me to save you a spot? Let me give you another example. For an auto shop could be, hey, noticed it's been six months since your last service.
1:14:57We're doing free wiper blade replacements this month for returning customers. Want us to save you a set? Both of these examples have the exact same structure.
1:15:04We're just using different bait. Either way, the AI handles the back and forth. And the math checks out fast.
1:15:10500 past customers, if only 3% come back at $500 each, that's $7,500 in pure profit. No ads, no cold outreach, just one simple fully automated campaign.
1:15:19Then there's reviews. Reviews compound everything. Trust, SEO, conversations.
1:15:25This is why we set up an automation that asks for a Google review after every completed job. Now, here's why this matters for you. You use this to generate revenue this week from people who already trust you, then you sell it.
1:15:36Again, something like sales this week from your existing list or 20 new reviews in thirty days. So here's what you actually have. Attract, you post content that starts conversations, then you sell content creation.
1:15:48Capture, you respond in seconds, then you sell speed delete. Convert, you answer every call and fill your calendar, you sell twenty four seven answering and booking. Multiply, you reactivate past customers and generate reviews, You sell reactivation and reputation.
1:16:03I've installed versions of this for over a thousand agencies and local businesses across HVAC and dental and legal and home services. It works the same every time. The beauty here is that you're not scrambling to figure out what to deliver.
1:16:14You're not building two separate businesses. You build one system that does both jobs at the same time. Attract, capture, convert, multiply.
1:16:22You just saw how to build one machine that runs your entire business. Now, I'm giving you a complete psychological arsenal. 15 cognitive biases and marketing triggers that make people buy from the halo effect to something called blind spot bias.
1:16:35And here's what's crazy about that last one. These triggers are so deeply wired into how we think they work even when you know they're being used on you. So pay close attention to that.
1:16:43It changes everything.
1:16:47In this episode, I'm gonna unpack 15 different psychological triggers and cognitive biases that we as marketers use on a pretty much daily basis to help influence and persuade and guide people in the direction that we want, which is typically to buy stuff. Now if you have a business and want to get more customers, more clients and more sales, these will help.
1:17:07And if you work for a business and want to get them more customers, more clients and more sales, well, these will help. And if you've ever shopped at a business, well these cognitive biases and psychological triggers are important for you to know so you can arm yourself against unethical and unscrupulous marketers trying to sell you things you just don't need.
1:17:24But I must say these principles, these psychological triggers and these cognitive biases are so powerful that even when you know they're actively being used against you, you still can't stop them. Like some kind of weird marketing magnet that just draws you in and takes all your money. Alright.
1:17:40So let's get to it. Alright. So the first psychological trigger, cognitive bias that you need to be aware of is something known as the halo effect.
1:17:48Essentially, the halo effect is really just a fancy term for that first impression bias or the fact that the first impression that you have with a brand or a business or a person, well, it's going to influence all of your future interactions with that brand or person or business and is gonna influence them a lot. Basically, that first impression, that first exposure to a message or a person or a brand or a business is so heavily weighted that it's going to color and influence and really direct all of your attitudes and beliefs and understandings about this person and about this business moving forward and well into the future, even even if they're wrong.
1:18:24This is why as marketers, it is incredibly important to really make sure that you're evaluating all of your marketing, specifically those first touch points, those first interactions that someone could have with your brand or with your business and really make sure that you're putting your best foot forward.
1:18:40But there's another advantage as well to really making sure that you're making a positive first impression with someone and that is that it's going to buffer against any future possible negative experiences. And really that's where a lot of brand loyalty comes in is that if you're able to get the relationship started on a really solid foundation and really get it started on that right foot, well, it's going to help protect if something just doesn't go quite right moving forward.
1:19:04Your client, your customer are still going to perceive you and your brand and your business as more positive overall if that first impression worked out well. Thank you halo effect. Alright.
1:19:14And while on the topic of first impressions, the next cognitive bias we need to take a look at is the serial position effect. The serial position effect essentially just says that the very first piece of information and the very last piece of information are going to be taken and remembered and and viewed as far more important than basically everything else in the middle.
1:19:34This is why as a marketer I'm so obsessive about the customer journey and about the marketing funnel and really dialing in not just every step but specifically that first step where we're putting our foot forward, a lot of stuff about feet today, and introducing ourselves in the best way possible with a strong message and a really clear call to action as well as that final piece of the puzzle, that final call to action that gets them to essentially take some kind of purchasing or buying decision or whatever it is that's in your conversion funnel.
1:20:05In fact, I'm using the serial position effect right now. It's the reason that I started out this video with the halo effect because I know that it's an important one for you to remember and it's going to help to guide you and sort of push you in the direction of prioritizing your marketing, really making sure it's dialed in.
1:20:21And then I'm gonna wrap it all up with what I believe is one of the most important things that you need to be aware of as well so that it sticks in your memory. And on the topic of creating memorable experiences and things that are actually going to stick with and resonate with your clients, well, it leads us to the next psychological trigger or cognitive bias known as the recency effect.
1:20:40The recency effect essentially just says that we as humans, well we tend to give higher weight or more authority or more importance to the most recent bit of information that we've received rather than all the stuff we've heard before. This is the reason that one of the core strategies or core principles behind pretty much everything I do when I'm creating strategic marketing campaigns comes down to ways of increasing frequency and increasing touch points and essentially increasing the recency or how recently someone saw or heard or engaged with some kind of marketing content.
1:21:13To put this in perspective, let's just say that we're thinking about your client or your customer out there living their lives doing their thing. And you've got your business and your competitors business, both trying to get in front of them, both trying to win their business.
1:21:27Well, if one of you is going to be creating more content, more marketing, and more messages, there's a higher chance that they're going to see these things more recently which is going to impact their decision making and essentially evaluate the information they get more recently as more valuable.
1:21:44I think that all made sense. Basically, if they see your stuff most recently, they're gonna think it's more important. But there's another way that you can take advantage of that cognitive bias and turn it up a notch making it even more effective with our next psychological trigger known as the mirror exposure effect.
1:22:00Essentially, what the mirror exposure effect says is that the more somebody sees something, the more familiar they are with it, the more often you're appearing in front of your clients and in front of your customers, well, the more they're going to naturally like you and trust you. Both of which are unsurprisingly incredibly important to build a solid and sustainable business.
1:22:18So by trying to appear more often in front of your customers and in front of your clients, you kinda get to kill two birds with one stone. What a terribly morbid analogy. You get to show up more recently meaning that they're going to trust your message and view it as more important and holding more weight and you're also gonna take advantage of the mere exposure effect by showing up more often which naturally leads to an increase in likability and trust.
1:22:40This is why when it comes to marketing, more really is more, especially if we're trying to increase frequency and increase touch points. Now, this doesn't mean you need to create completely unique content across all of the different platforms.
1:22:52You can reshare and recycle and take away pieces from different parts and share it on different networks and automate the entire process so the whole thing happens on autopilot behind the scenes. But you do need to do it and this means a little bit of groundwork right up front to set up the whole system and then it can serve you for weeks, months and maybe even years to come.
1:23:12Alright. Now let's hit our next one which is all about loss aversion. This one is relatively simple and should come as no surprise that people hate missing out on stuff.
1:23:22FOMO or the fear of missing out, that's real. This is why one of the most important and one of the most valuable tools that you have at your disposal as a business owner, an entrepreneur or a marketer is using some form of scarcity or urgency or essentially some kind of incentive that's going to disappear if they don't take action and take action soon.
1:23:43What this means is setting some kind of deadline or some kind of limited supply. Obviously, make it real, make it genuine, make it authentic. There's no room for fake deadline timers or any of that nonsense here.
1:23:54But given the option of taking action now or putting it off until later, most people put it off to later. And typically, later means never.
1:24:03Alright. Next, let's take a look at the compromise effect. Now the compromise effect essentially just says that, well, people are busy and got a lot of decisions to make.
1:24:12And often, it's hard, if not impossible, to evaluate all kinds of different selections and options and criteria. So if given the choice, they'll tend to compromise. What this means for you is that if you have a product or a service or something you're trying to sell, well, you're typically better to break it into two or three different options.
1:24:31Maybe a low priced option, a middle priced option, and then a high priced option. The key here is to put the one that you want to sell most in the middle as the compromise option essentially because this is the one that's going to get the most clicks, the most traction, and the most sales. There's an added bonus as well in that by having a higher priced option, well, you're gonna capture 10 to 20% of the market that always wants the premium option and 10 to 20% of the market that always wants the budget friendly or more economical option.
1:24:58And there's a way you can make that middle option, the compromise option even more appealing simply by labeling it most popular which takes advantage of the bandwagon effect. But I'm getting ahead of myself. We'll get to that in just a second.
1:25:10The other way to make that middle priced option seem that much more valuable and that much more of a good deal is by putting that higher priced option, well, quite a bit higher and taking advantage of a principle known as anchoring. Essentially what anchoring does is it takes advantage of the first piece of information or the first price that someone sees as kind of a mental anchor that they're going to use to compare all future prices or future options against.
1:25:35This is why if the first price that you can present to someone is incredibly high or incredibly expensive, well everything that comes after that is gonna seem a whole lot more budget friendly, a whole lot more approachable. Plus when comparing things side by side, let's say you do have those three different options and the high priced option which was anchored first is just incredibly high priced, well, it'll make that compromise option seem like a really really good deal.
1:25:59Plus anchoring like most of these psychological triggers and cognitive biases I'm sharing with you here today, well, there's a little bit of overlap between the serial position effect which gives more weight to the first and last pieces of information someone sees as well as the recency effect which is the most recent piece of information that someone's heard.
1:26:16Basically, with anchoring like with the serial position or with the recency effect, people tend to be a little over reliant on this kind of information, which again biases their future decision making.
1:26:26Okay. Let's move on to the next one, which is all about choice overload. So in the previous couple examples, we talked about three different options, low price, middle price, high price.
1:26:35But what if you want to go more? What if you want all the prices, all the choices, all the options? Well, you may be shooting yourself in the foot.
1:26:42This is because when we have too many choices, well, essentially, we limit the odds or the chances of someone doing any of them at all. And if they do take action, it's more likely they're gonna be disappointed with the choice that they made. It's the ultimate lose lose where they're unlikely to make a choice and if they do make a choice, they just ain't happy.
1:27:01Now, are a number of studies that go over this. The most famous one is the jam tasting study where they laid out a ton of different jams and they laid out just a few different jams. And when they laid out all of the choices, very few people bought and when they laid out just a few different kinds of jams, many people bought.
1:27:17As a marketer, your job is to eliminate the confusion, to simplify things for your customer and for your client. Not because they're not smart and unable to do the thinking for themselves, but because they are smart and the way that their brains naturally work will be to overanalyze and overprocess things which will often lead to inaction.
1:27:36So that's where you step in. You design a customer journey. You think through the process, through the choices they would need to have, the information they need to receive at every stage, and then you design the marketing funnel or the sales funnel or the customer journey to help walk them through every single step.
1:27:51Alright. Next up, we have the framing effect. This, I guess like all of them is kind of another favorite and one that I use pretty much every single day which is essentially just framing or positioning your offer or your message in a way that makes it more attractive to the person that you're trying to talk to.
1:28:07Here's the classic example that's often used to describe the framing effect. Let's imagine for a second that you've recently been diagnosed with a terrible medical condition. Sorry to hear.
1:28:15This isn't a very fun exercise. And two doctors come in to sort of lay out the options and let you know what the odds of success are for a couple different kinds of treatments. Doctor a says, well, with proper treatment you have an eighty percent chance of recovery going on to live a happy normal life.
1:28:31Doctor b comes in and says there's a twenty percent chance that it's not gonna work out so well for you and we better start making final plans. Now here's the thing, both of these pretty much said the exact same thing, eighty percent chance of recovery or a twenty percent chance of death. And yet because they were framed in the possibility of a recovery versus being framed as a very negative outcome, well most people like a lot of most people, well, they went with doctor a.
1:28:57This is why it's important when you're creating your marketing message that you're framing things appropriately in a way that connects with your clients and with your customers and yes, of course, talks about their problems and their pains and their frustrations, but also frames them in a way, kind of spins and positions them in a way where success and a solution is possible and is possible for them.
1:29:17After all, one of the biggest and most important lessons in all of marketing is that it's always about the client. It's always about the customer. It's always about who you're speaking to, what their needs are, what their pains are, what their frustrations are, and how you can communicate the solution to them.
1:29:33And on the topic of them and the people you're trying to serve, we'll move on to the next cognitive bias which is the IKEA effect. The IKEA effect is an amazing phenomenon where essentially people just value things more when they get to play a part in its creation. The classic study that was done on this is they had a group of participants build a bunch of little Lego creatures, little Bionicles.
1:29:55Anyway, people built these things and then were asked to assign a value to them. And unsurprisingly, they assigned value to the ones that they created as worth more money.
1:30:05Essentially, the mere fact that they spent time, energy, they were now a part of this process made them perceive that these little Lego creatures were worth more than they actually were. Now the marketing key here is to incorporate and to include elements of engagement and connection.
1:30:21And including your clients and your customers and your audience and the people you seek to serve in as much of the creation process as you possibly can. This is why I'm such a big fan of asking for feedback and asking for comments and asking for surveys and guidance and advice anything I can do to keep the conversation going.
1:30:39On that note, it'd be a perfect time to ask you to smash that thumbs up button and make sure to leave me a comment below this video with what your biggest takeaway is so far from all of the different cognitive biases that we've talked about. And just for doing that, I want to thank you in advance because you're such a smart and capable and amazing person.
1:30:56Now, of course, I believe that. I know you're smart, I know you're amazing and I know you're capable. But what I also just did there was take advantage of a cognitive bias known as the Pygmalion effect.
1:31:06So let's talk about that now. The Pygmalion effect also known as the Rosenthal effect is essentially the cognitive bias, psychological trigger where high expectations lead to better performance and better results.
1:31:18Basically, when you put higher expectation on the people that you serve, on your clients, on your customers, as well as on your friends and family, well, the result tends to be higher performance. This is why treating your clients and customers as smart and capable and respectable people, well, it's not just kind of common sense but it actually turns out to be pretty good business practice as well because in return they're more likely to act smarter and more capable and more respectable which is good for you, good for them, good for everyone.
1:31:46But you already know that. Right? And that leads us perfectly to our next cognitive bias, confirmation bias.
1:31:51What the confirmation bias says is that we as humans when we receive new information, well, we tend to run it through a certain kind of filter where it confirms and sort of affirms the beliefs and the identity that we already have. Basically, you read something that's relatively neutral, doesn't take a position one way or another, well, you're more likely to view it as taking your position and supporting your views.
1:32:14Whereas someone else who has the complete opposite mindset or complete opposite beliefs provided that article or that piece of content is relatively neutral, well, they're gonna believe that it supports their views and their beliefs. Understanding this and you can really start to see how people get into such hot water with different views and different beliefs.
1:32:32Now the key here and the way to tap into confirmation bias is to first really understand your ideal target market. That person that you want to serve and that really wants to do business with you and understand what makes them tick. What do they believe?
1:32:45Who do they feel they are? What do they want and what do they not want? When you do this, you're able to frame pretty much all of your future content and really allow them to just start nodding their heads in agreement with everything you say because you're confirming things that they already believe, making you seem more relatable and more authentic and more likable.
1:33:04When you're able to confirm someone's beliefs as right and affirm their identity as right, well, they really start to buy in. This is powerful stuff. Alright.
1:33:12Next, let's talk about the Peltman effect or risk compensation theory. It's actually also known as the zero risk bias, but names aren't important here. What is important is understanding just how much people don't wanna take any risks.
1:33:25Now, I kinda touched on this when we talked about loss aversion, but this is essentially taking your marketing and your messaging that extra step further, really making sure that your offer, your business is as low risk or no risk as possible. Basically, if given the choice between a business or an offer that had some element of risk and a business or offer that had basically no risk, well, most people, if not all of them, are gonna go for the no risk one.
1:33:49So how can you overcome this level of risk? Well, the obvious answer is by including some kind of guarantee. Money back guarantee, thirty day guarantee, whatever guarantee.
1:33:58But sometimes you're not in a position to offer a guarantee in which case you really have to double down on your marketing, specifically the social proof elements by providing testimonials and case studies and proof of results and basically just saying that what you're claiming is true is actually true. Also, doing your best to establish trust early and often throughout the relationship and taking advantage of that halo effect by making sure that that first impression is a good one by again putting your best foot forward again with the feet, with a nice and clean and professional design and message and essentially presentation to your market.
1:34:33The beauty is is that when you do this, especially when you're able to tap into elements of social proof, which is essentially just showing that other people like the you're trying to serve have done this and they've been okay while you're also tapping into another psychological trigger known as the bandwagon effect. The bandwagon effect is all about doing what other people do.
1:34:52Like my mother used to ask me, if all the cool kids jumped off a bridge, would you jump off a bridge too? And according to the bandwagon effect, yes. Yes, I would.
1:35:00And I wouldn't be alone. Most people would join me if all the cool kids were doing it because that's what we do as humans. We look to other people, especially people that are like us or that we aspire to be like in order to help us make decisions.
1:35:12This is why providing elements of social proof and testimonials and showing others who've gone before done the same things and had great results from it is such a powerful motivator to get someone to take action. The more proof that you can show that other people have had success, the better. And the closer that these people match the identities or beliefs or values or appearance of the people you're trying to reach, well, the better as well.
1:35:35After all, what you're trying to overcome here is the objection that people like me don't do that. And if you're the one that's able to say, oh, yeah, they do. People like you do that all the time.
1:35:43Your business will grow. Alright. Next, let's talk about blind spot bias, which of all of the biases and psychological triggers we've talked about, this one is perhaps my favorite and also the most interesting.
1:35:55Basically, what the blind spot bias says is that all of the things that I've just talked about including a ton of other cognitive biases and psychological triggers I didn't have time to get to, well, all of them are invisible to the people that you're trying to talk to. They don't know they're happening. They're so deeply rooted in our fundamental makeup and our psychology as human beings that we can't recognize when they're actively being used against us even when we're being told they're being used against us.
1:36:21Yes. That's right. Even if someone is to come out and tell you, hey, don't let anchoring impact your future decision.
1:36:28Well, it still seeps in. This is because our brains are busy busy places and we have to rely on these mental shortcuts to quickly evaluate information and help us make decisions. Now, of course, the best way to use all of the cognitive biases and psychological triggers that I've discussed with you here, the best way and also importantly the most ethical way is to make sure that you're building them on a solid marketing foundation.
1:36:51Let's be honest. You just watched two hours of psychology that most people will never understand. The gatekeeper method, 10 dark psychology tactics, the black sand, the freedom clothes, the client machine, 15 triggers.
1:37:01And I know what might be happening in your head right now. You're either thinking this is exactly what I needed and you're ready to actually build something or you're already looking for the next video, the next tactic, the next thing to consume that makes you feel productive without actually doing anything. Do you remember what I said about the blind spot bias?
1:37:17These principles work even when you know they're being used. So, let me use one on you right now. If you're the kind of person who takes action, who implements instead of just consumes, I put together my complete agency OS.
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Named ideas worth stealing.
04:59list
The Gatekeeper Method
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Four-move framework positioning the seller as the qualifying authority, flipping who has to prove themselves in the conversation.
Steal forOpening any discovery call or DM conversation where you want to set a high-value positioning frame immediately
17:27list
10 Dark Psychology Tactics
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38:44list
The Black Sand Method
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Closing system built on the principle that urgency already exists in the prospect -- the seller job is to surface it, not manufacture it.
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“Let me put a link in the description below where you can get access to an extended free thirty-day trial as well as thousands of dollars of free trainings and templates.”
Embedded mid-content during the HighLevel workflow demo -- soft affiliate integration that feels like a tool recommendation rather than a hard pitch.
MENTIONED ON CAMERA
FROM THE DESCRIPTION
PRIMARY CTAWhere the creator wants you to go next.
OTHER LINKSAlso linked in the description.
Visual structure at a glance.
