47:17Ed Mylett · Talking Head
Best of Ed Mylett's Motivational Speeches
A 47-minute compilation from five live stages, built around one argument: the pain you survived is the skill that makes you worth listening to.
April 9th 2023The argument in one line.
The life you once promised yourself has not expired — it is waiting on the other side of the discomfort, consistency, and small daily decisions you have been postponing.
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READ IF YOU ARE…
- You had a clear vision for your future at some point and have quietly drifted away from it.
- You find yourself in a low-energy season — going through motions without momentum or direction.
- You know what you need to do but keep waiting for better conditions before you start.
- You are frustrated with slow progress and need a reminder that the process is supposed to feel exactly like this.
SKIP IF…
- You are looking for a tactical or strategic framework — this is motivational audio, not instruction.
- You want attributed ideas from specific speakers — the compilation format strips most attribution.
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This two-hour compilation argues one thesis across dozens of voices: the life you promised yourself is not gone, but you have been choosing comfort over commitment every day since you stopped pursuing it. The recurring mechanism is a set of reframes — discomfort is not a sign to stop but a sign you are growing; waiting for the perfect moment is how big dreams die; regret is the only real failure; and the gap between intention and action is bridged only by daily execution, not by more inspiration. The final impression is not hype but quiet urgency: your potential is unfinished, time is not guaranteed, and the only path is to start now and stay in.
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00:00 – 03:30
01 · The Wake-Up Call
Opens with the core accusation — you had dreams, you drifted, you let the ordinary world talk you out of extraordinary. Establishes the stakes: today could be your last chance to care.
03:30 – 15:00
02 · Stop Waiting, Start Moving
Multi-speaker assault on the planning trap. Dreams die in preparation. The planning phase should be three seconds long. Make your move before you are ready.
15:00 – 30:00
03 · The Obstacle Is You
The internal enemy — fear, the inner critic, the belief that you are ordinary. Reframes the enemy from external circumstances to internal permission.
30:00 – 50:00
04 · Pain as the Path
Sustained argument that discomfort is not a stop sign but the actual mechanism of growth. Two kinds of pain — suffering and effort. Effort leads somewhere. Ease is the real danger.
50:00 – 1:10:00
05 · Daily Execution Over Motivation
Mastering the mundane: success is built day by day, not in moments of peak inspiration. The people who win can operate at a high standard when they feel nothing.
1:10:00 – 1:30:00
06 · Bet On Yourself
Self-reliance as the foundation. You cheer for others but take a backseat for yourself. Ownership of mistakes, problems, solutions. The only person you can rely on every single day is you.
1:30:00 – 1:45:00
07 · The Long Game
Patience and persistence under uncertainty. Hard work pays off but no one tells you when. The greatest growth happens right after the moment you almost quit.
1:45:00 – 2:02:37
08 · No More One Day
Closing call to action. The Stoics on time as a finite resource. Seneca on fools who are always getting ready to start. Final message: today is day one. It all starts with you.
Lines worth screenshotting.
- Big dreams do not die from lack of talent — they die in the planning phase where people prepare indefinitely and never begin.
- Regret hurts more than discipline — the pain of not doing outlasts the pain of doing.
- Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship — comfort kills more potential than failure ever could.
- The darkest place a person can be is alive but not living — standing still while time runs.
- You are your own biggest enemy; no external circumstance holds you more reliably than your own beliefs about what is possible.
- Conditions will never be perfect — there will always be a reason to wait, and waiting is the decision.
- The most powerful voice you will ever hear is the one inside your own head, and it is usually fueled by fear.
- Sacrifice temporary fun for permanent dreams — the two are not compatible at scale.
- Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure; achieving everything and feeling empty is worse than not achieving it.
- Growth requires goodbyes — becoming a better version of yourself means some relationships, habits, and identities cannot follow.
- The greatest moments of growth happen right after you feel like quitting — but you do not.
- Hard work pays off, but no one tells you when — patience under uncertainty is the real discipline.
- You do not get external things without growing internally; acquiring them without growth means you will lose them.
- Winners write history — get through the hard season first, then you can tell the story however you want.
- The bus runs every day: resources, options, and paths exist; the only question is whether you are willing to take them.
Seven lessons from 122 minutes on not quitting.
WHAT TO LEARN
The compilation makes one argument in eight chapters and two hours: the distance between who you are and who you promised yourself you would be is closed daily, not dramatically.
- The planning phase is where most big dreams die — preparation without action is a comfortable form of self-sabotage.
- Regret is more painful than discipline over a lifetime; the ache of not trying outlasts any short-term discomfort from trying.
- Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship because comfort does not require you to adapt or grow.
- Mastering the mundane is the rarest skill in personal development — most people quit when the work becomes repetitive, which is precisely when it starts to compound.
- Your inner voice is the most powerful voice you will ever hear, and left unmanaged it defaults to fear and limitation rather than possibility.
- Growth requires goodbyes — the version of yourself that is capable of more cannot coexist with every habit, relationship, and identity you currently hold.
- Hard work pays off but no one tells you when; the discipline of patience under uncertainty is what separates the people who finish from the people who almost did.
- Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure; achieving external goals while remaining internally unchanged means you will not hold onto what you built.
- The greatest growth always happens right after the moment you felt like stopping — the act of not quitting at that point is the mechanism, not the reward.
- Your story is still being written — nothing that has happened up to this moment determines what is possible from this moment forward.
Terms worth knowing.
- Valley of death
- The mid-point of any meaningful pursuit where initial excitement has worn off, the goal is not yet visible, and most people quit. Treated as an inevitable and universal stage, not a signal to stop.
- Delayed gratification
- The discipline of tolerating present discomfort in exchange for a future reward. Framed as the single most reliable predictor of whether someone achieves what they said they wanted.
- Mundane mastery
- The ability to execute high-standard repetitive daily tasks without requiring motivation or novelty. Presented as the rarest and most underrated skill in personal development.
- Depth perception problem
- The tendency to perceive your goal as further away than it actually is, which creates behaviors that perpetually keep it there. The video argues you are often one conversation, relationship, or new thought away from a trajectory change.
Things they pointed at.
26:24bookSeneca (Stoic writer)
26:24bookMarcus Aurelius
37:25bookZeno (founder of Stoicism)
1:51:45bookMark Manson — what pain are you willing to endure
Lines you could clip.
03:28
“Big dreams go to die in the planning place — preparing myself is the biggest con job we work on ourselves.”
04:43
“Regret hurts more than discipline.”
08:51
“The darkest place someone can be is when they are alive but they are not living.”
39:19
“Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship.”
53:41
“You are going to die one day and every single person whose opinion you are afraid of is also going to die one day.”
1:48:17
“The fastest way to change your life is to start keeping the promises you make to yourself.”
1:59:30
“The greatest moments of growth and success happen right after you feel like quitting — but you do not.”
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00:02Everybody's trying to grow and there is an incentive for you to stay in the same place
00:07because not that many people grow. The best revenge is to not be like them.
00:12How serious are you about your dreams? Is the first thought when you wake up in the morning, how am I gonna take one step closer towards my dreams today? How am I gonna make today count?
00:24Because today is all that matters. What if I die next week and I have one week to make my dreams come true? How serious would I be then?
00:31Because that could happen. You don't even have tomorrow guaranteed, let alone next week.
00:36Your first thought in the morning should be those dreams. And if you're not that serious about your dreams, then you need to get clear on what those dreams are, what you really want. But you can't know that until you know who you are, until you get to know who you are.
00:51Are you willing to accept the responsibility? And part of the answer to that is reduce the damn responsibility until it's tolerable. You don't have to fix everything at once.
01:01You could just start by fixing the things that you could fix. So do it. See what happens.
01:08Ordinary people, they hate progress. They love to say oh, that's impossible. That's why they stay ordinary.
01:12That's why they stay where they are. These people, they preorder their own life failures. How are you sitting around saying, oh, I can't do that.
01:18You haven't even tried. If you tell yourself things are impossible, your mind is gonna do everything within its power to justify that thought. Therefore, you're not gonna do anything.
01:26You're gonna forever stay ordinary because your mind didn't even think possibility. Depriving yourself of the ability to think experimentally, it deprives your whole life.
01:35It deprives your life of even being alive. You just trapped yourself. You put yourself in a prison and said, this is my reality.
01:41Impossible, useless, unable.
01:44All these words are stupid. These are the words that people who don't do anything notable in life, they love to use those words. They love to say that's impossible.
01:51For you, not for me though.
01:53And I made a promise to myself from that day that I was gonna work that hard every single day so that when I do retire, I have no regret.
02:02And that was the most important thing for me is to leave no stone unturned.
02:07If they can do it, I can do it. And that's the mentality. If somebody else can do it, you can do it.
02:15And I said to myself, I will do it and I will do it better. That's the mentality.
02:21And another thing, whatever everybody else says is not important. So if they tell you your best is not important. The important is that you say you're the best.
02:39It's a lot easier to sit around and make a list of what you're gonna do in the future.
02:48What's easier? It's easier to take out a pen and a piece of paper and write things down. And so people will substitute that action for the action will actually change them and make them better and move them closer to that version of who they know they can become.
03:05So let's just be careful. Just be careful. Be careful of getting caught in that planning phase of who you can become.
03:14Be careful of that planning phase because the planning phase should be about three seconds long and it is time to go get after it.
03:24Make your move before you're ready. I'll tell you where big dreams go to die.
03:30They go to the planning place, preparing myself and it's the biggest con job we work on ourselves.
03:38There are so many bones of big dreams in that great chart where people there's always gonna be a set of reasons to wait.
03:52When you wanna achieve the highest goal of all time, you are gonna have to learn how to get your ass kicked all the way up that damn mountain. If I wanna be way up here, it's gonna take a bunch of small micro failures along the way.
04:06But you have to understand that that is part of the process.
04:11The reality is when you do things that are easy in life, you don't value them as much. When you do things that are difficult and that require you to dig really deep, then you value them more.
04:22It's easy to quit. It's easier to try something that's already been done before. It's harder when you don't know what the end result would be.
04:28It's harder when you face the uphill challenge and you deal with it. You face it head on. It's where you build confidence in yourself.
04:34That's where you you build your own self esteem. You know, things are given to you, you never have a sense of how difficult it is to actually earn it.
04:43Regret hurts more than discipline. Because when you're disciplined and you act on the things that you're supposed to do, you won't ever have to look back and say, dang, woulda, coulda, shoulda.
04:58So do it now so you don't have to do it later.
05:03The most powerful voice you'll ever hear is the one inside your own head because that voice is often fueled by fear and insecurity. Your mind can remind you of the past.
05:15It can criticize you and make you question your self worth, but you can change that. Don't be afraid to question the stories you create in your head.
05:23Focus on what you want and you'll start to see opportunities where obstacles once were.
05:29You get up in the morning, what are you gonna do? I'm a win today. Well, just by saying that you're gonna win today, you ain't gonna win today.
05:35It's a jungle out there. See, most of us, we come out to compete every single day. The jungle comes to win because the jungle is always prepared.
06:00You know, the things that you think about all the time that you don't tell anybody. Right? You can do that for.
06:06You actually can achieve it and you should believe in yourself. You should believe in those things because they're there for a reason. They're not in your mind.
06:14They're not in your heart just to be there.
06:18Ever you feel negative or unhappy about anything, you say, wait a minute, I'm responsible. I'm responsible for my life. I'm responsible for what happened.
06:25I can't change the past. I'm not gonna spend a second worrying about the past.
06:31Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice.
06:46And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.
06:54Everything else is secondary.
07:00Your biggest enemy is you. People don't understand it's you against you. The only person that gets in your way is you.
07:07Nobody else.
07:09And stuck is a signal that you've stopped growing. And when most people feel stuck, they don't understand that it's tied to a fundamental need for growth.
07:18We believe it's an existential crisis and we blow up our lives. For most human beings, what actually will get you feeling like you're not stuck is having something in the future that you're looking forward to. Learning anything gets you back in touch with a fundamental need.
07:34It makes you start to feel like things are moving, and from that place of feeling a little bit more empowered, you'll be able to make better decisions about what big things need to change in your life.
07:48Your current situation is not your final destination. There's more to your life and I know right now it's hard for you to believe that, but I need you to believe it. Like everything everything you're currently facing is building you for something greater.
08:03You're more than your struggles, you're more than your pain. I know you feel like nobody understands you, nobody gets you, I know you feel alone and isolated. So I wanna tell you, I'm proud of you for not giving up when it's so easy to.
08:17I know what darkness looks like. I know what it feels like to be alone with no motivation, no drive, no passion.
08:29And what has to come out of your fucking soul in the darkest of times, but if you are able to get up every morning, have no passion, no drive, no motivation, and still get up with that kind of fire, you will be successful in life.
08:47I guarantee you that.
08:51The darkest place someone can be is standing still. The darkest place someone can be is when they are alive, but they are not living.
09:00The darkest place someone can be is when they are no longer making progress.
09:06Everyone talks about the destination, but very few people talk about the journey. That's where the iron is forged.
09:13In the monotony of doing the right thing day in and day out, your part of the deal is to keep showing up for yourself, to stick around and see what happens when you really go all in. Don't just settle for mediocrity.
09:26Just hold up your end of the bargain and watch how life will turn in your favor.
09:42We all know when we're relaxed, exactly the person we wanna become. The question is, do we believe we can make humble?
09:50Very few people are gonna tell you this, but growth hurts. Becoming the best version of yourself comes with a lot of goodbyes. Sadly, the only way for some people to learn to appreciate you is to lose you.
10:03It's really uncomfortable, but you need to do it if you wanna grow.
10:08The pain that you feel today though is going to be the power that you're going to feel tomorrow.
10:13It's not glamorous, it's lonely. As you start changing, everything around you starts changing.
10:21It's not even fun in the beginning. And so you'd either have to have an incredible amount of hope or a ridiculous amount of inspiration and delusion, or you have to be in so much pain that the alternative to continuing this pain that you're in is to try something different because it's the only thing that might be slightly less painful than what you're doing.
10:44Most people lack the ability to master the mundane task. They get bored very easily. They don't feel like doing things.
10:50They don't understand that to build a life, it is mundane. It is the same things day in and day out, operating at a high level, holding a high standard, executing with discipline. Most people just can't do that because they don't have the endurance to do that.
11:03Don't have the fortitude to do that. They don't have the perseverance to do that, which is why it's important for you to build yourself in someone who does. That way you can follow the path to success because there is only one path and the only path there is is day by day by day by day over the course of a period of time.
11:19You've gotta be okay that there's gonna be people that don't think you're qualified. You gotta get okay that there's gonna be some people that wanna see you fail. You're gonna have to get okay that there are gonna be some people that never understand you, that never support you, that never cheer you on, and you're okay to do it without their applause.
11:40You're okay to do it without their approval. You gotta get to a season and a space and a time where it's okay. I wasn't doing this for you anyways.
11:50Nobody is going to give you anything that you have not earned. Nobody cares how tough your upbringing was. You have to remember that whatever you've gone through, it pales in comparison to the hardships previous generations endured and they overcame them.
12:07And if they overcame them, you can overcome them too.
12:14Courage. Courage is the key to life itself.
12:19A lot of people were born in situation was about just I'll never get out of this. So they won't. I say to people say, well, I I would like to have done so and so and so.
12:31So many could have done it. So well, I couldn't get out of there. Man, the bus runs every day.
12:43You will offend people as you're pursuing your vision. You even believing that anything is possible will offend people. You maximizing your potential will offend people who are so limited in their thinking that instead of progressing their lives and their mindsets, they want to stop you from being the best version of yourself.
13:05And you can either live your life to please them, shrink yourself to a point where they will be happy and comfortable with you or you can have the shameless audacity to do it anyways, to go after your dream anyways, to learn, to grow, to maximize your potential anyways regardless of who it offends.
13:25You do what you love, you will work harder than you ever have worked and are harder than you could ever imagine. Your dreams will call for that kind of commitment.
13:35It took an insane work ethic for me to get here. It took time and commitment and sacrificing.
13:47If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. You will continue to get what you have always gotten.
13:56If you want different results in your life or your work, all you have to do is change your mind.
14:05You feel that pressure inside of you and it's very heavy. You're motivated. You feel it.
14:10I've got to get up in the morning. I've got to do this. I've got to accomplish this.
14:13When that pressure goes away and and you don't feel any pressure in your life, you can do anything and there's no consequences for it. You'll just waste time, you'll waste years, you'll waste months, you'll never accomplish anything.
14:27You give somebody a deadline, right, they'll accomplish in two months what it would take some two years to do without a deadline.
14:36It's that necessity, it's that sense of this is this is sword at my back. I've got to get it done.
14:43Of your life, you know, find the things that you can enjoy. Be curious. You don't have to have all the answers.
14:49I'm a hardcore believer that everybody has something that they're really really really good at.
14:57That could be world class great every single human being on this planet. And the hard part is just finding what that is.
15:04It is not everyone's job to make sure that you feel good. It is not everyone's job to solve your problems. It's not everyone's job to make sure you're happy.
15:14That's on you. Only you. Understand that you are where you're at because of the decisions you made and the actions that you took.
15:22And if you manage to convince yourself that it's everyone else's fault that you're miserable, not only is your entire life a lie, but you will be stuck in that misery forever.
15:31Sacrifice temporary fun for permanent dreams or sacrifice your permanent dreams for temporary fun.
15:38And the reality is a lot of you guys are willing to sacrifice your permanent dreams for some temporary fun.
15:45It's never been so easy to win because so many people are checked out, so many people are scared, so many people aren't doing the work. It's the time to roll up your sleeves and in many ways, spend the next month getting lost from the world, optimizing yourself, building your battle sheets and game charts.
16:10Dialing in your daily habits so that you bring it on when you come back out into the world.
16:25Fenica famously said, while we wait for life, life passes. When you understand that your days are counted, that your days are limited, you begin to work with urgency towards your goals, you begin to work with urgency towards the things that you want in life. People say, well, I'll start tomorrow or I'll get started when the new year hits.
16:43It doesn't work that way. Life passes you by with no urgency, but day by day.
16:48And so many people live and wake up like accidents that they forget this beautiful principle that life is in your control. And if you want to experience a certain type of outcome and a certain type of future, you must input the necessary labor today.
17:01On the one side, you can make your ideas about what you would like to have, where you would like to be. This is the one side.
17:10So your focus is on what you would like to have, where you would like to be. Other question is, what are you willing to sacrifice through how many different pains, conflicts, challenges are you willing to go through?
17:28Because there is something that goes hand in hand, like walking up the mountain. Walking to the peak is not gonna get more easy. The higher the altitude, the more difficult it becomes.
17:39The challenges are not gonna get easier the higher you reach.
17:43There's two sides of pain that I don't think a lot of people really understand. Right? There's there there's one side of pain that's the suffering and the discomfort side of pain because that hurts.
17:55You remember what that felt like. But then there's another side of pain that's called effort.
18:03It's called glory. It's called if you can find a way to push through pain, there's something greater on the other side of it.
18:13Imagine you're on your deathbed and standing around your deathbed are the ghosts representing your unfulfilled potential. The ghost of the ideas you never acted on. The ghost of the talents you didn't use.
18:26And they're standing around your bed angry, disappointed and upset.
18:32They say we we came to you because you could have brought us to life, they say. And now we have to go to the grave together. So I ask you today, how many ghosts are gonna be around your bed when your time comes?
18:49Being a human being is not easy as opposed to an animal because we're born and nobody gives us a direction. And it's a very, very difficult process. You wake up in the morning and you don't really know what you can do.
19:00You could choose 12 different paths can be very confusing and very overwhelming. When you find that sense of purpose, when you find what I call your life's task, everything has a direction. Everything has a purpose.
19:10Your energy is concentrated. It's not like you're just going down a single narrow pathway. It's not like life becomes boring and it's just about discipline and solving problems.
19:19It's actually the most exciting thing that could ever happen to you because you never have that lost feeling. You wake up in the morning, you go, yeah, this is what I need to accomplish. Yesterday ended last night.
19:30If you were successful, I got something for you. It ended last night. You you can't live on yesterday's success.
19:36If you failed, I I got good news for you. It it ended last night. Today matters.
19:43Yesterday. We overestimate tomorrow, and we underestimate today. And and it's today what matters.
19:49Fastest way to losing yourself is to try and make everyone else happy. The best thing you can do is be a true north.
19:57Be you. Shine your light. Know what your core values are.
20:01Know what your belief system is. Know what your morals and your character should be and live by that.
20:09I learned recently how grateful I am for storms.
20:16Quiet skies don't show you how strong you are.
20:22Calm doesn't force you to level up. No, it's when the ground shakes we learn to endure.
20:30We're forced to find within ourselves a resilience that was once tucked away.
20:37They say confidence is earned and well it's earned because when we walk through hell, we give our greatness permission to walk alongside us.
20:48The perfect moment has already come and gone time after time, but you're sitting here still waiting for it. You think it's gonna knock on your door and say, hey, I'm the perfect moment.
20:57I'm here. But the truth is there's two types of people. The person that says, oh, I really care.
21:04I'm gonna die one day. What does it matter? Or there's the person that says, I've got one life and I'm going to live it.
21:13My definition of a creative life is any life where your decisions are routinely based more strongly on your curiosity than your fear every single day in all your realms of your life. And then your life itself will become a work of art, and it doesn't matter what you make or produce or leave or influence. It's just that you will create a life that will be really interesting for you.
21:36You don't have to feel good about it. You just have to keep going. The feeling will pass, but you will remain.
21:43You are greater than your feelings. Going to bed late and waking up early to work for a few days won't kill you. You're not going to burn out, you're doing what it takes.
21:53Hard times last long, but an epic story feels like a lifetime.
21:59It's always darkest before the sun breaks in the morning. It's always darkest.
22:05But you know the sun is going to come up. Think of the sun.
22:12Think how dark it is before the sun comes up. When you're and down and you see no hope or no way out of your condition and you're seething in these emotions, try to remind yourself, do you think the sun is going to come up or is it not going to come up?
22:35The sun always comes up and that's your hope.
22:39You think that big changes are what are gonna make you happy. That's not the answer.
22:45What makes you happier are the little things. Happiness is the smallest things because your whole life is made up of all the little things that you do every single day.
22:57That's how you build a happier life. So pay attention to when you wake up, the first thing you look at every morning, being kinder to yourself.
23:08The little things are everything because they add up to one big happy life.
23:25Real self worth comes from doing hard things.
23:31We keep talking about self love. We keep talking about loving yourself, believing in yourself.
23:38That happens naturally when you go through something difficult.
23:44The day that turns your life around.
23:48And under this subject, we're gonna talk about the emotions that can change your life. Human beings are emotional creatures and emotions are powerful for life change.
23:58Now, of course, emotions are so powerful, they can go either way on you. Emotions can either build or destroy. So you really have to employ emotions properly.
24:08We call civilization the intelligent management of human emotions. If you can intelligently apply your emotions in the right direction, no telling what can happen could turn your life around one day would be sufficient.
24:20You have to become the kind of person that can push through the hard times. Most people can't do that. Most people cannot push through the challenging, draining, the frustrating times that make everybody else quick.
24:32So you have to build yourself into someone who has the discipline, the fortitude, the grit, the perseverance to become someone who is literally incapable of quitting.
24:47What I've learned is to always keep going. Always. No matter what happens, the storm eventually ends.
24:53And when the storm does end, you wanna make sure that you're ready.
24:57Don't cheat yourself. Don't sabotage your dreams by chasing cheap dopamine. Delay your ratification.
25:03Understand that the game is long and the road is difficult and that you're by yourself. And if you cheat yourself, well, you're gonna be cheated by everybody else.
25:13Level up, focus on becoming the best version of yourself, and don't do the things in life that are gonna set you back. That which you know you're not supposed to do, you don't do it.
25:25The life that you have is the life that you chose. If the life that you have is not a life that you like, make different choices. So if the life that you have is not a life that you enjoy, you are responsible.
25:37Cling to it. Things will get better once you get over this downtime and the difficulty is that people can't think of that when they're so depressed and so hopeless and they reach bottom.
25:52They can't visualize that things will ever get better. But for those who have courage and have faith and hope that things will get better in my life, they can look back a few years later and say, wow, look at me now.
26:08Some have it and some don't. Some will stay down, they will never get up off the floor and others will endure and they have courage and they have hope and and and life will get better.
26:23It always does.
26:26Loneliness is a timeless thing, tragically. Stoicism is founded in a moment of loneliness. Zeno loses everything in a shipwreck.
26:34Seneca's best writings come from exile when he's sent far away from the people that he loves. Marcus Aurelius is the most powerful man in the world, but also by the very nature of his power and responsibility and fame, he was isolated.
26:48He was lonely just as you might be today.
26:53You have to start looking at uncertainty and transition and that feeling of I know there's much more to me as a positive and not a negative and start leaning into it.
27:03Because let me tell you something, there is so much more to you. Like you haven't even figured out who you fully are yet.
27:10Like that is a beautiful thing to know that there's still more to discover about yourself. There's still more to learn about yourself, you know, and and that's a beautiful thing to know that, right? And so often we just allow fear, doubt, or I wanna control everything to keep us from exploring that, from really really, you know, stepping out of our shell and expanding who we really are.
27:38Most people never succeed in life because they're waiting for conditions to be perfect. They're waiting for the sun to shine, the temperature to be right, all the stars to align, and then have some sort of sign that tells them to go.
27:54And I'm here to tell you guys that will never happen.
27:58Conditions will never be perfect. Things will never align. There will always be a reason for you to put off what should be done right now for a later time.
28:10That is a success and life truth.
28:15There's two ways to see the world. Some people see the thing that they want and some people see the thing that prevents them from getting the thing that they want.
28:29Don't spend your life living for other people, being a box checker for what feels right to them. Put yourself first.
28:37There's nothing worse than living with regret. So take a risk, bet on yourself, do the thing that nobody thinks you can do, shock the world.
28:48What do you have to lose?
28:51A blade does not become strong until it's been through the fire several times and this is just your first or second time through the fire and there's a lot of hammer work that has to take place and then you're gonna have to go back in the forge again and it's hot and it melts you down and you're uncomfortable.
29:08You've got a lot more forge time left. You've got a lot more hammer blows left and it takes time. Embrace the process.
29:15You say Duane want process? Life. Embrace the journey and the process of life.
29:29If you will change, everything will change for you. You don't have to change what's outside.
29:36All you've got to change is what's inside.
29:40To have more, you simply have to become more.
29:45I wish you the courage to be warm and the world will prefer you be cool. I wish you success sufficient to your needs. I wish you failure to temper that success.
29:57I wish you joy in all your days. I wish you sadness so that you may better measure joy. I wish you gladness to overbalance degree.
30:06I wish you humor and a twinkle in your eye. I wish you glory and strength to bear the burdens. I wish you sunshine on your path and storms to season your journey.
30:19In order for something new to come, something old must go. And that old can sometimes mean let go of what you know until now.
30:32Most people try to create a new personal reality as the same personality and it doesn't work. You literally have to become someone else.
30:42If you keep thinking the same thoughts, keep demonstrating the same behaviors, keep living by the same feelings and emotions, your personal reality is going to stay exactly the same.
30:56But if you have new thoughts that lead to new choices that demonstrate new actions that create new experiences, that cause you to feel differently, you will begin to walk into a new future.
31:10Sometimes you will have to convince yourself that it's possible. That you can go from zero to hero, from peasant to kiwi, if you change the way that you think. And if you don't know how to change the way that you think, begin to digest new information.
31:22Stay away from the haters. Stay away from the losers. Stay away from the people with weak minds and weak mentalities, and find those people that empower you.
31:30Find those people, elevate your spirit and your soul, and understand that your potential my friend is limitless. You my friend are limitless, but you must believe. And if you can believe, all things are possible.
31:42All you have is this moment, so you have to continuously focus on bringing intention to this moment and keep reminding yourself that what decision can I make in this moment that is aligned with the best version of myself, that is aligned with the vision of where I'm trying to get to?
31:57If you look at stories of great men, of great women in history, that story always has a lot of disadvantages that were overcome.
32:07There is something in the process of overcoming hardship that creates greatness.
32:14Most people quit through that process. If you can survive it, then your story will be a great one.
32:22You gotta bet on you. It's so funny that you believe in others. You would bet on others.
32:28You would support others. You would be there for others. But when it come to you, you take a darn back seat.
32:35I don't understand it. I'm a bet on me.
32:39I needed somebody and they didn't do it. So I decided at that point, I guess, I don't need you.
32:47The only person I need is me. And I'll be damned if I'm ever gonna need somebody. I ain't needing somebody.
32:54I'll be damned if I'm ever gonna need somebody again.
32:58Don't be afraid of people rejecting. Stick to your guns. That fear, it just withers the soul and makes what you create just like everything else out there.
33:08But when you think, no,
33:11I'm gonna be myself, I'm gonna mind what's different about me, I'm gonna be bold and confident. Confident.
33:17Those who are who are trying to follow all the trends don't have impact.
33:22Find out what you're good at. Find out what craft or thing or what are you good at.
33:30What you have an aptitude for? Do you like history? Do you like math?
33:34Do you like artwork? Do you like music? Do you like You find out what you have a natural inclination towards.
33:40You find out what you're good at and then you figure out how to help other people with that thing that you're good at. And once you figure that out, that's purpose. Two plus two equals four.
33:50So what are you good at? How can you help other people? That's your purpose.
33:55Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you. And you can change it.
34:03You can influence it. You can you can build your own things that other people can use. Shake off this notion that life is is there and you're just gonna live in it.
34:14Embrace it. Change it. Improve it.
34:17Make your mark upon it.
34:19Remember, you guys only have one life on this earth. Okay? It's not too late to change everything.
34:26Get up, guys. Late today the day.
34:30The more I listen to this, the better my life gets. If they don't have what you want, don't listen to what they say. There's no greater waste of time than justifying your actions to people who have a life you don't want.
34:46Build a vision of what you would like to accomplish between now and the end of the year and then make a written description of that vision. Paint the picture with words.
34:59Vision. Vision is going to direct your life if you like it.
35:05Use it constructively. See what you want. Don't spend any time thinking of what you don't want.
35:12When you get a picture in here, make it big, make it beautiful. You'll be glad you did.
35:18What we feel is what manifests. It's the energy that we put out that we get back. Claim it in your heart right now.
35:25Who do you wanna be? How do you wanna feel? What do you want to give?
35:30And what do you want to receive? And ask yourself that. Design your day every single day.
35:35You have the power within you to design your life. What you see is a reflection of what you believe. So are we gonna say yes to a new belief system now?
35:47Do the thing and you'll get the energy to do the thing. Do the thing and you'll get the energy to do the thing. Don't wait.
35:55Start right now whether you're ready or not. Just say, I'm going after it. I'm going to get it and your present circumstance has got nothing to do with where you're going.
36:04You've gotta accept yourself for what you've done wrong. Do your best and also find some difficult to do because that gets away a lot of the anxiety that you carry around in your body.
36:16Difficult things make regular life less difficult.
36:21Anything is possible here that you're only limited by your imagination. Now, it's not gonna be handed to you. You have to you have to find your way through and there will be times that you're going to hit dead ends, but you have to pick yourself back up.
36:36You have to be smart. You have to calculate another route, and then you keep moving forward.
36:42At some point, everything's gonna go south on you. Everything's gonna go south, and you're gonna say this is it.
36:48This is how I end. Now you can either accept that or you can get to work.
36:56That's all it is. You just begin. You do the math.
37:01You solve one problem and you solve the next.
37:05And it doesn't matter how you get knocked down in life because that's gonna happen.
37:10All that matters is that you gotta get up.
37:13For God, be somebody. Be something more than what you see in the mirror.
37:19Let the world be your mirror. Don't let them judge you because the mirror can't judge you.
37:25You judge what you see in the mirror.
37:37There's a great Chinese expression, a great old proverb, the best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now.
37:45Just be the best version of yourself in anything that you do. You don't have to live anybody else's story. Sometimes people make it seem like you have to have certain prerequisites or or crazy life story in order to be successful in this world, but the truth is you you really don't.
38:01It doesn't matter where you come from, what you have or don't have, what you lack. All you need to have is an undying passion for what you do and a relentless drive and the will to do whatever it takes to be successful.
38:15There's a moment when every boy realizes no one's coming to save him, and that's when he becomes a man.
38:23And some boys never get there and stay children forever.
38:27You're not allowed to give excuses because excuses are a sign of weakness. We give no excuses when we fail.
38:36Failure is just fertilizer to help us grow as a team.
38:41Guys, in life, you know, winning isn't everything, but training to win is.
38:47Having the will to win, that is everything. Whether you win or not, you're gonna you wanna fail. You gotta get back up and try it again.
38:55But if you don't have the will to win and you aren't trained to win, that's where you're really missing missing the mark, guys. You ever had a gut feeling that
39:06maybe you were meant for more?
39:08What if you were everything you could be?
39:12Fall down seven times, get up eight. Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship.
39:23We're all trying to improve ourselves. No one's perfect. This is not I'm not perfect now.
39:27I never will be. You're not and you never will be, but you're better than you were yesterday and you're gonna be better tomorrow.
39:34You know the greatest lesson my mother ever taught me? When I was a kid, whenever I started, I had to finish it. Whether I got in the midst of something and then care for a coach, whether I got in the midst of an organization and then care for a leader, my mother would never let me start something and stop because she would always say, the person that you will become by enduring the process is far more important than the person that you have to deal with in the midst of the process.
39:57Your present or past results have absolutely nothing to do with what's gonna happen from this point forward.
40:06You see, I kept thinking, well gee, I'm such a mess up. You know, I've done everything wrong up till now. I'm 26.
40:12I'm broke. I'm not happy. Everything was wrong.
40:16That's all in the past. Every moment is a new moment.
40:22Success is a strange thing. Presumably, we want success because we think a more successful life will bring us more happiness, meaning, and fulfillment. Here's the problem.
40:29We sacrifice the thing we want, happiness, for the thing which is supposed to get it, success. Failure can make you miserable, but I'm not sure that success will make you happy.
40:38I am only worthy of love, acceptance, and belonging if I succeed. Now powered by internal feelings of insufficiency, this person is driven to achieve many things.
40:47They're prepared to outwork, out hustle, and out suffer everyone else because they're not just running toward a life they want, they're running away from a life that they fear. Success and progress ameliorates the feelings of insufficiency.
40:57Therefore, success and progress have become prioritized above everything else. Character is at the core of a person. Something they can't control.
41:05Something that comes from deep within and it causes people to have patterns of behavior. And you wanna find people who have a strong character to associate with as opposed to a weak character. And what a strong character is is people who are adaptable, who are fluid, who could admit that they are wrong, who can learn from their experience, who can take criticism.
41:27So I want you to focus not on people's charming exterior, instead focus on that deep inner quality, that core, that character, because that's who they really are. Your character is creating what happens to you in life.
41:39There's the famous quote of the ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus, character is fate.
41:45As I continue to experience life and find myself, I realize that hope isn't what I thought it was.
41:56Through a lot of sorrow, it's actually been redefined for me. And I asked myself the question, what if my pain is actually my hope?
42:09So many of us are at war with ourselves within. We have that inner conflict conflict because we're trying to portray this image that is, you know, acceptable in the world around us that we think is acceptable instead of just staying true to you.
42:24And yes, when you stay true to yourself, you're gonna people are gonna look at you a certain way. People are gonna try to knock you off your path. There's gonna be a lot of external things that, you know, try to sway you this way or that way, but you gotta stay true to you.
42:38Here's my best advice. Welcome all experiences.
42:43You never know which one is gonna turn everything on.
43:00But as a matter of conscious experience, the reality of your life is always now.
43:06And I think this is a liberating truth about the nature of the human mind. In fact, I think there's probably nothing more important to understand about your mind than that if you want to be happy in this world.
43:18The past is a memory. It's a thought arising in the present. The future is merely anticipated.
43:27It is another thought arising now.
43:32Okay. What what we truly have is this moment.
43:39It will not be easy. You will get knocked down. You will be copied.
43:44People may even try to destroy you. You will feel like giving up, and it absolutely will be worth it.
43:54If world class was easy, everyone would be doing it.
44:02The people will never rise above the opinion of themselves. Work on yourself. What do you wanna choose to focus on?
44:10When we commit to self mastery, we give ourselves the best shot of becoming the best and greatest versions of our self that we can be.
44:18And then we get to become the example and the invitation to others. Be the change you wish to see in the world.
44:27The life, the existence that we are living is connected with suffering. So the reason why we suffer is either because of greed, we want more than we need, of hate, we get something we don't want to have, or ignorance or sometimes called not knowing because we don't know the outcome of our actions.
44:55You were born to do something great with your life. You were not born for any other reason. Now it could be in a big way or a small way.
45:02You were born to do something special with your life. And when you were a little boy or a little girl, there was probably somebody. I pray, but I bet you there was somebody who made you feel a particular way about you.
45:12As I got older, that feeling went away because the rest of the world didn't make me feel that. I want you to picture the face of that person who made you feel that way. I don't care if it was your mom, they could be gone now.
45:21Right? Okay. Let me tell you something about them.
45:24Okay? They were right.
45:27You have no idea when lightning is gonna strike in your life, but I stay wildly attuned to the potential magic.
45:38Right? And it's like always paying attention because like the universe is trying to give you what you want.
45:49The universe is fighting so hard to give you what you want and you're just missing it.
45:58Patience, the thing that goes beyond hustle and hard work, the discipline of patience.
46:05Right? Because we all talk about hustle, we talk about working hard, we talk about grinding, this, that, and the third, but nobody talks to you about patience.
46:14Nobody speaks about that patience because in the patience that's where you're make it or you're gonna break.
46:29All great things in life come from delayed gratification. From like the ability to say, I know that the thing I want is on the other side of something that sucks. Every single thing you want in life is on the other side of something that sucks.
46:41Be willing to endure that in order to get the thing you want.
46:46Our issue is depth perception. We think it's further away than it is and because we think it's so far away, we create patterns and behaviors in our life that perpetually keep it there and that's what we do in our life.
46:58But what if that's the great lie of life? And what if the truth is that you're one relationship away, one meeting away, one conversation, one new thought, one new emotion, one new tactic or strategy away from completely changing the trajectory of your life?
47:16And this thing that people do, they avoid discomfort. It sounds ridiculous, but then it just creates more discomfort. You don't realize that in embracing discomfort and forcing yourself to do something very uncomfortable that you can control.
47:33I am happy if I discover limits. This can be physical limits. It can be limits in terms of strength.
47:40It can be limits in terms of your level of stamina. Because always when I hit them, I know this is my next project. This is the next area in my life right now which is directly being mirrored in front of my eyes.
47:54This is your limitation. And so on the one side, this is motivating to me, but on the other side, it also just cultivates this constant drive, this constant fire.
48:08Most difficult thing is keeping keeping your goal and your eyes set on that and not being distracted. I think the easiest thing in life is to give up on whatever, you know, whatever you're focused on or whatever you're hopeful for. The hardest thing is to continue to keep going, but we have to.
48:26Like, we have to continue to hold on. And I would imagine for so many people out there that is that is probably the most difficult thing.
48:34It's not about what was or what could be, but what is. And being where your feet are and putting yourself in a position to appreciate even if you want more and you aim towards achieving more, be grateful for what you have.
48:50And this and and we spend most of our lives forgetting this truth, repudiating it, fleeing it, overlooking it and and the the horror is that we succeed.
49:04We we manage to never really connect with the present moment and find fulfillment there because we are we are continually hoping to become happy in the future and the future never arrives.
49:23You're not gonna find yourself overnight. You're not gonna become everything you hope to become become in a day. Everything takes time.
49:32You're not supposed to know everything about how your story unfolds. You grow by making small decisions over and over again.
49:40So be patient and give yourself time because even with all the uncertainty, one thing's for sure, you will get there.
49:54Just remember, slow progress is better than no progress.
49:59Just stay positive and never give up. You will get there.
50:12First step before anybody else in the world believes it is you have to believe it.
50:19There's no reason to have a plan b because it distracts from plan a. Very simple.
50:25This is what I believe and I'm willing to die for it.
50:30Period.
50:33I mean, are no manuals, no shortcuts, no secrets. You write your own manual, you develop your own shortcuts, you find your own secrets.
50:42You go where you're drawn to go and you learn by doing the work. I mean, you're scared, if it all seems like too daunting, if the the machinery of it all seems too big and scary and overwhelming, it's great.
50:56You wake up in the morning and you do it anyway.
51:00Don't get better automatically. You only get better because you intentionally make a decision to get better.
51:07You have to go from being a person of good intentions to a person of good actions. That's the great separator.
51:19Most important key to achieving great success is to decide upon your goal and then launch.
51:27Get started. Take action. Do something.
51:30Move. The act of taking the first step is what separates the losers from the winners or the winners from the losers. There are times in life when you're going through a hard time and you think you're going through a test.
51:46That's not a test.
51:48The test is how do you go through the hard time.
51:53And if it's a test that you are designed to fail, how do you handle that failure?
51:59Your story is gonna be the greatest story that's ever been told. I'm so glad that you got overweight. I'm so glad that your mindset's all over the place.
52:08I'm so glad you haven't been treating the people that you love the greatest. I'm so glad you haven't been working your ass up. I'm glad you haven't changed people's lives or make enough impact yet.
52:17I'm glad you got comfortable with complacent because when you change, the story is gonna be that great.
52:23The understanding that winners write history, which means that no matter how difficult whatever the season that you're going through is, just win.
52:35Like, keep going until you win. And then once you win, you can rewrite whatever history you want.
52:44And that has gotten me through those harder periods because I just knew that I needed to get through to the other side.
52:53You really want son? You're gonna find a way ultimately and it might not be today or next year or five years or ten years, but this thing takes priority and precedent over all other things.
53:08When you don't want something as much as you think you do, of course bro. Just like you said, don't nobody wanna live a hard life.
53:14We all wanna make life easy for ourselves, for our families, for our mothers, boom boom. That's amazing. And the thought of that is amazing.
53:21Is sometimes your desire might not be enough fuel. You gotta have a strong desire and when you have a strong desire that outweighs all other.
53:41You are going to die one day and every single person whose opinion you're afraid of is also going to die one day and in three hundred years, it's probably not going to matter to people whether you did the thing you said you were going to do or you let people's opinion beat you into submission. And I got news for you, whether you do it or not, people are gonna see it.
53:57They're either gonna make fun of you for trying or they're gonna say that you had so much potential and you just didn't try in life or whatever. No matter which direction you go in, it's gonna come with some bullshit. You can put up with people's opinions and people's comments and actually do the thing you want to do or you can put up with people's opinions and people's comments and die with regret.
54:13What you choose to do with your life as long as it doesn't harm anyone else isn't that important to people. Most people are just focused on their own shit, doing their own thing, worried about their own life. So fuck it.
54:24There is no guarantees. Even if you work hard, there's no guarantee it's gonna work out.
54:30I do believe hard work pays off but no one tells you when and that's the that's the the the test. Can you maintain your patience when you don't know when the end is coming?
54:41You don't know when it's gonna pay off. You just believe in yourself regardless of who who believes in you.
54:48Take ownership. Don't make excuses. Don't blame any other person or any other thing.
54:57Get control of your ego. Take ownership of everything in your world, the good and the bad.
55:06Take ownership of your mistakes. Take ownership of your shortfalls.
55:11Take ownership of your problems, and then take ownership of the solutions that will get those problems solved.
55:20If it seems impossible, it's even better. You do it anyway.
55:27And as you go, like I said, remember that amidst all that machinery, you're the one who's gonna make the picture. You and the spark, in the end they're one in the same.
55:39You guard that because it's precious.
55:44Now it's time to get to work.
55:48Maybe this chapter of your life is meant for you to do it alone. Maybe this is the time for you to practice independency, to do the things you've always known but kept putting off for some reason.
55:59Maybe this phase is for you to be a little bored and lonely because it might be what you need as you're putting the pieces back together. It might not be fun, but it's necessary because in order to evolve into the next version of yourself, you need to find out who you truly are.
56:19Everything you do, every choice you make move you in the direction of what you say your vision is. And when you do that, the forces of life rise up to meet you. The reason why most people have such chaotic lives is because they're living in chaos in their head.
56:34And as soon as you get clear, it clears up.
56:48You may be in your darkest hour, know that night don't last forever. There's a morning coming in your life.
56:56Stay down till you come up.
57:05The only way to get good is to start with just okay.
57:14A current life today is the result of the price you have sown up to now. If you don't like what you're getting out, what you have to do is you have to put in something different. We find that all successful people are goal oriented.
57:24There's an old saying, you can't hit a target that you can't see. So you have to ask yourself, what is the price that you have to pay to achieve the success that you desire? And you have to write it down and make a plan and work on it every day.
57:39Never say you can't do it. Say I haven't done it yet. I haven't done it yet.
57:44And that's true with everything. It's like there's nothing that you can't do. You may not have done it yet.
57:49We don't know if you can do it or not until you really practice and then you find out if you can do it or not or how well you can do it.
57:58So if you notice but you only get one life.
58:02One shot, one chance.
58:05And every single day you have a choice. You can sing your song with greatness or you can let the world silence that voice.
58:13You see millions of people die with regret. My question is, is that gonna be you? Getting to your final days of life knowing you're about to die with your dreams because you never acted.
58:26A lot of you expect more out of people like me, out of people on Instagram, people on TV, people in the world.
58:33You expect more out of people like us than you do from your self. You need to stop expecting more from other people than you do from yourself. Start looking inward on exactly who you wanna be and exactly how you wanna get there.
58:50If you wanna be the best of the best, if you wanna survive no matter what happens, if you wanna thrive no matter what happens, you can't second guess yourself. I can't gamble on you if you're not willing to gamble on yourself.
59:02I can't trust you unless you trust yourself. You're asking me to be honest with you. When was the last time you were honest with yourself?
59:09There's always a reason. If your business is not thriving, there's a reason. If your health is not thriving, there's a reason.
59:14If your relationship is not thriving, there's a reason. And you know what the crazy thing is? Everybody in this room knows exactly what that reason is.
59:21But you won't have that honest conversation with yourself. But you tell everybody else, be honest with me. Everybody wants somebody to be honest with them until it's time to be honest.
59:31Just start with one little habit. Just one little good thing that you do and do it a lot. Once that becomes part of your nature, part of who you are, add another.
59:41Expand upon that. Because here's the thing, you didn't get here overnight. These things don't happen in a day, a week, or a month.
59:48It started with one little bad habit that grew and evolved to a point where you had to step back and look at your life and say, what the hell happened to my life? So what makes people think that moving in the opposite direction is gonna be any faster?
1:00:01Start with that one little habit, grow it, evolve it, and then one day you'll step back and look at your life and say, what the hell happened to my life? Except this time, you'll have a smile on your face.
1:00:13Only when effort always goes unnoticed. Get used to it. No one roots for you until everyone roots for you.
1:00:20That's just how it works.
1:00:23If you're complaining more than you're talking about your vision, then your inertia. Energy goes into those lower frequencies, doubt, worry, fear, and now you're in that dynamic. But if you start talking about possibility, even if you don't know how to get there, then your energy starts to go up.
1:00:38You know, what if you ask a what if question? What if all my needs were met? What would I be doing in my life?
1:00:42What if everything is really working together for my good? What if all the bad things that have happened in my life are leading me to activating some great potential in my experience? Ask them what if question and you start to notice little tiny miracles happening in your life.
1:00:58Things start to manifest. You don't know how they got there.
1:01:01How do you know that you're on your path? Because it disappears.
1:01:06That's how you know. How do you know that you're really doing something radical because you can't see where you're going? That's how you know.
1:01:13But everything you have lent on for your identity has gone.
1:01:21Ever you take on anything worthwhile in life, you're going to go into the valley of death in that process. You're going to get to a place where you wanna quit. Everybody goes through the same journey.
1:01:31You're gonna be in the valley of death. You're gonna wanna quit. Most people quit.
1:01:33If you have purpose, there's a reason why you're doing what you're doing. You gotta have purpose, your why. If you don't have your why, when you get into the valley of death, which everybody goes into, you're gonna quit.
1:01:44Because why are you doing this? It's too hard. Go do something else.
1:01:49I get it. It hurts. But you know what?
1:01:54It's supposed to. Because if it didn't, you wouldn't change. If it was easy, you'd just stay the same.
1:02:02All of this pain is medicine for your soul. It's part of learning and growing and you're stronger now because of it.
1:02:10So don't shy away from the pain because sometimes it's our greatest teacher.
1:02:18Just don't quit today. Tomorrow take care of yourself. Whatever we gotta do tomorrow, just don't quit today.
1:02:24Little step. Alright? I'm not gonna worry about quitting for the rest of my life.
1:02:29I'm not worried about quitting tomorrow, tiny step. Tomorrow, what are we gonna do?
1:02:34Well, I don't know, but I'm not gonna do that today. Just today.
1:02:41You just wanna outdo yourself every day. I say life is like a gym.
1:02:46If you look over to the right, there will always be somebody in better shape than you. But if you look to your left, there's someone who would die to be in your position.
1:03:08Look up. Get up and don't ever give up.
1:03:15You tell everyone or anyone that has ever doubted, thought they did not measure up, or wanted to quit.
1:03:26You tell them to look up, get up, and don't ever give up.
1:03:35I promise you it's possible because only impossible is that exist are the ones you create.
1:03:42You'll miss a 100% of the shots that you don't take. So shoot away. Stop playing it safe because the only strikeout in life is not stepping up to the plate.
1:03:55Said the only strikeout in life is not stepping up to the plate.
1:04:01Don't get better automatically. You only get better because you intentionally make a decision to get better.
1:04:08Here's how this works. You have to go from being a person of good intentions to a person of good actions.
1:04:17Old shows you who you are if you watch and pay attention. Why? Because you are a reflection of it.
1:04:22So what you see in the exterior is a reflection of what's happening inside, but you can change what's inside.
1:04:29This may sound really elementary and you've probably heard it a thousand times before, but don't quit. Don't stop.
1:04:37If you're in it, if you're in the trenches, if you feel like you can't do it anymore, if you feel like there's no light, if you feel like you have no idea what in the hell tomorrow is gonna look like, just keep going.
1:04:51Take another step. Even if you're taking an inch, just move an inch. Move another inch.
1:04:55Just keep going. Don't quit. Don't quit.
1:04:59You quit,
1:05:00100% certainty,
1:05:03you won't make it. You keep going inch by inch, a little bit, I guarantee you'll get there at some point in time.
1:05:11A strong person isn't someone who's never knocked down. A strong person is someone who can recover quickly, is someone who can get back up, is someone who can shake themselves off and keep going. So do not envy the people that you see on your left or to your right that just keep on climbing with no difficulties.
1:05:29Hard times may build character, but ultimately it exposes it.
1:05:35When you're nothing, nothing. And change yourself into something to extract greatness from nothing.
1:05:46It takes every bit of who you are if you choose that route.
1:05:52No matter what it is that you are walking through right now, you have what it takes to come out on the other side full of life and with a new found gratitude.
1:06:06The dark times, they're just a lesson. They're not a life sentence.
1:06:12You can't stay motivated, stay consistent. Consistency gonna bring back your motivation. No matter what it is, that consistency staying on points, staying disciplined, staying focused no matter on days that's hard, they will make the other days that you are motivated that much greater.
1:06:29Get the last rep. You will get tougher every time you push through, you build strength.
1:06:37Not just physical strength, mental strength, tenacity, will.
1:06:43Not just born with will, you create it, you develop it through effort. And every time you put forth effort, your will, your discipline becomes stronger.
1:06:54And every time you quit, your will and your discipline gets weaker. Do not allow that.
1:07:03Cannot allow that. Every rep counts. Not just in the weight room, but in life.
1:07:11Every rep counts.
1:07:15Don't wait until they tell you you are ready. The world might say you are not allowed to yet.
1:07:26I waited a long time out in the world before I gave myself permission to fail. Please don't even bother asking.
1:07:37Don't bother telling the world you are ready.
1:07:42Show it. Do it. Ever try.
1:07:48Ever failed. No matter. Try again.
1:07:53Fail again. Fail better.
1:07:58The world is yours.
1:08:03Make mistakes because if you make mistakes, then you're building something new.
1:08:09It means you're learning, living, and pushing yourself to overcome your fears.
1:08:15Mistakes are not failures. They don't define you. Everyone's afraid of making mistakes, but I hope you're one of the few people who embrace it.
1:08:25Because that's how you make a difference in your life and to the rest of the world.
1:08:31Always keep going. No matter what happens, the storm eventually ends. And when a storm does end, you wanna make sure that you're ready.
1:08:39And so I've really learned to put one foot in front of the other, good, bad, or indifferent, because eventually that storm passes.
1:08:46If you don't exercise or draw out the potential in yourself, you are going to feel depressed. You're going to feel anxious because you know in your heart that you are leaving everything that you could potentially do and potentially become on the table, and that is gonna bother you.
1:09:03That is gonna make you feel depressed. That is gonna make you feel dark. What is it you're trying to do?
1:09:07What is your mission? What kind of shape are you in? How do you eat?
1:09:11How do you train? What are you reading? What's your environment like?
1:09:14Are you spending all this time scrolling, or are you spending time moving forward?
1:09:20What matters is that dash between your birthday and your death date. There's millions of people that say it next year, tomorrow, when I get time, took their talents, took their vision, took their gifts, took their dreams, took their passion, took their purpose, took their standard to the grave.
1:09:37So no more one day. No more someday. Start today.
1:09:44Make today your day one. If you made that decision, welcome.
1:09:51Because the road to the greatest you has just begun. Like I always tell you, it all starts with you.
1:10:05First step before anybody else in the world believes it is you have to believe it.
1:10:12There's no reason to have a plan b because it distracts from plan a. Very simple.
1:10:18This is what I believe, and I'm willing to die for it.
1:10:22Period.
1:10:25I mean, are no manuals, no shortcuts, no secrets. You write your own manual, you develop your own shortcuts, you find your own secrets.
1:10:35You go where you're drawn to go and you learn by doing the work. I mean, you're scared, if it all seems like too daunting, if the the machinery of it all seems too big and scary and overwhelming, it's great.
1:10:49You wake up in the morning and you do it anyway.
1:10:52Don't get better automatically. You only get better because you intentionally make a decision to get better.
1:11:00You have to go from being a person of good intentions to a person of good actions. That's the great separator.
1:11:12Most important key to achieving great success is to decide upon your goal and then launch. Get started.
1:11:21Take action. Do something. Move.
1:11:24The act of taking the first step is what separates the losers from the winners. Start the winners from the losers. There are times in life when you're going through a hard time and you think you're going through a test.
1:11:39That's not the test. The test is how do you go through the hard time.
1:11:45And if it's a test that you are designed to fail, how do you handle that failure?
1:11:52Your story is gonna be the greatest story that's ever been told. I'm so glad that you got overweight. I'm so glad that your mindset's all over the place.
1:12:00I'm so glad you haven't been treating the people that you love the greatest. I'm so glad you haven't been working your ass up. I'm glad you haven't changed people's lives or make enough impact yet.
1:12:10I'm glad you got comfortable with complacent because when you change, the story is gonna be that great.
1:12:16The understanding that winners write history, which means that no matter how difficult, whatever the season that you're going through is, just win.
1:12:27Like, keep going until you win. And then once you win, you can rewrite whatever history you want.
1:12:36And that has gotten me through those harder periods because I just knew that I needed to get through to the other side.
1:12:46You really want something? You're find a way ultimately and it might not be today or next year or five years or ten years, but this thing takes priority and precedent over all other things.
1:13:00When you don't want something as much as you think you do, of course, bro. Just like you said, I don't wanna live a hard life.
1:13:07We all wanna make life easy for ourselves, for our families, for our mothers. Boom boom. That's amazing.
1:13:12And the thought of that is amazing. It's sometimes your desire might not be enough fuel. You gotta have a strong desire and when you have a strong desire, that's out
1:13:40You are going to die one day and every single person whose opinion you're afraid of is also going to die one day. And in 300, it's probably not going to matter to people whether you did the thing you said you were going to do or you let people's opinion beat you into submission. And I got news for you, whether you do it or not, people are gonna say it.
1:13:56They're either gonna make fun of you for trying or they're gonna say that you had so much potential and you just didn't try in life or whatever. No matter which direction you go in, it's gonna come with some bullshit. You can put up with people's opinions and people's comments and actually do the thing you want to do, or you can put up with people's opinions and people's comments and die with regret.
1:14:12What you choose to do with your life as long as it doesn't harm anyone else isn't that important to people. Most people are just focused on their own shit, doing their own thing, worried about their own life. So fuck it.
1:14:23There is no guarantees. Even if you work hard, there's no guarantee it's gonna work out.
1:14:29I do believe hard work pays off, but no one tells you when. And that's the that's the the the test. Can you maintain your patience when you don't know when the end is coming?
1:14:40You don't know when it's gonna pay off. You just believe in yourself regardless of who who believes in you. Take
1:14:48ownership. Don't make excuses. Don't blame any other person or any other thing.
1:14:56Get control of your ego. Take ownership of everything in your world, the good and the bad.
1:15:05Take ownership of your mistakes. Take ownership of your shortfalls. Take ownership of your problems, and then take ownership of the solutions that will get those problems solved.
1:15:20If it seems impossible, it's even better. You do it anyway.
1:15:26And as you go, like I said, remember that amidst all that machinery, you're the one who's gonna make the picture. You and the spark, in the end, they're one in the same.
1:15:39You guard that because it's precious.
1:15:43Now it's time to get to work.
1:15:47Maybe this chapter of your life is meant for you to do it alone. Maybe this is the time for you to practice independency, to do the things you've always known but kept putting off for some reason.
1:15:58Maybe this phase is for you to be a little bored and lonely because it might be what you need as you're putting the pieces back together. It might not be fun, but it's necessary because in order to evolve into the next version of yourself, you need to find out who you truly are.
1:16:19Everything you do, every choice you make move you in the direction of what you say your vision is. And when you do that, the forces of life rise up to meet you. The reason why most people have such chaotic lives is because they're living in chaos in their head.
1:16:34And as soon as you get clear, it clears up.
1:16:47You may be in your darkest hour, noted night don't last forever.
1:16:53There's a morning coming in your life. Stay down till you come up.
1:17:07You have to learn to do things you hate in order to do the things you love. No payoffs come without sacrifice. Imagine how much further you'd be if you did things even when you didn't feel like doing them.
1:17:20People think there's some complex formula to winning when the most basic one is do what you said you were going to do before it became inconvenient.
1:17:30Practice. Practice. Practice.
1:17:31And do not accept failure. Maybe it shouldn't be repetition, maybe the answer should be persistence. Because we all repeat something, but very few of us really will persist.
1:17:41Get out there. Do what you wanna do. Not accept no.
1:17:46If you love what you do and it's making you happy, all the hard work and perseverance will pay off. I once had a guidance counselor tell me that I shouldn't play basketball, that it would never amount to anything for me.
1:17:59His negativity towards me made me stronger. You can't stop people from trying to limit your dreams, but you can stop it from becoming a reality.
1:18:09Your dreams are up to you.
1:18:17The more you value comfort, the less you value progress. Discomfort is a necessity for fulfillment.
1:18:24We are made to face challenges, to set goals and conquer them, and to build great things.
1:18:31Realize that the resistance in your mind is the only thing that makes things hard. So embrace the difficulty because that's where you'll find your true purpose.
1:18:53We all know when we're relaxed exactly the person we wanna become. The question is, do we believe we can become them?
1:19:01Very few people are gonna tell you this, but growth hurts. Becoming the best version of yourself comes with a lot of goodbyes.
1:19:09Sadly, the only way for some people to learn to appreciate you is to lose you. It's really uncomfortable, but you need to do it if you wanna grow.
1:19:19The pain that you feel today though is going to be the power that you're going to feel tomorrow.
1:19:25It's not glamorous. It's lonely. As you start changing, everything around you starts changing.
1:19:32It's not even fun in the beginning. And so you'd either have to have an incredible amount of hope or a ridiculous amount of inspiration and delusion or you have to be in so much pain that the alternative to continuing this pain that you're in is to try something different because it's the only thing that might be slightly less painful than what you're doing.
1:19:55Most people lack the ability to master the mundane task. They get bored very easily. They don't feel like doing things.
1:20:02They don't understand that. To build a life, it is mundane. It is the same things day in and day out, operating at a high level, holding a high standard, executing with discipline.
1:20:11Most people just can't do that because they don't have the endurance to do that. They don't have the fortitude to do that. They don't have the perseverance to do that, which is why it's important for you to build yourself into someone who does.
1:20:20That way you can follow the path to success because there is only one path. And the only path there is is day by day by day by day over the course of a period of time.
1:20:30You've gotta be okay that there's gonna be people that don't think you're qualified. You gotta get okay that there's gonna be some people that wanna see you fail. You're gonna have to get okay that there are gonna be some people that never understand you, that never support you, that never cheer you on, and you're okay to do it without their applause.
1:20:51You're okay to do it without their approval. You gotta get to a season and a space and a time where it's okay. I wasn't doing this for you anyways.
1:21:00Nobody is going to give you anything that you have not earned. Nobody cares how tough your upbringing was.
1:21:09You have to remember that whatever you've gone through, it pales in comparison to the hardships previous generations endured, and they overcame them. And if they overcame them, you can overcome them too.
1:21:25Courage. Courage is the key to life itself.
1:21:31A lot of people who are born in situations that say, well, I'll never get out of this. So they won't. I say to people who say, well, I I would like to have done so and so and so.
1:21:42Some of you could have done it. Some of couldn't get out of here. Man, the bus runs every day.
1:21:55You will offend people as you're pursuing your vision. You even believing that anything is possible potential will offend people who are so limited in their thinking that instead of progressing their lives and their mindsets, they want to stop you from being the best version of yourself.
1:22:16And you can either live your life to please them, shrink yourself to a point where they will be happy and comfortable with you, or you can have the shameless audacity to do it anyways, to go after your dream anyways, to learn, to grow, to maximize your potential anyways regardless regardless of who it offends.
1:22:36You do what you love, you will work harder than you ever have worked and are harder than you could ever imagine. Your dreams will call for that kind of commitment.
1:22:47It took an insane work ethic for me to get here. It took time and commitment and sacrificing.
1:23:10If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. You will continue to get what you have always gotten.
1:23:19If you want different results in your life or your work,
1:23:23all you have to do is change your mind. You feel that pressure inside of you and it's very heavy.
1:23:31You're motivated. You feel it. I've got to get up in the morning.
1:23:34I've got to do this. I've got to accomplish this. When that pressure goes away and and you don't feel any pressure in your life, you can do anything and there's no consequences for it.
1:23:44You'll just waste time, you'll waste years, you'll waste months, you'll never accomplish anything. You give somebody a deadline, right, They'll accomplish in two months what would take somebody two years to do without a deadline.
1:23:59It's that necessity. It's that sense of this is this is sword at my back. I've gotta get it done.
1:24:05Love your life, you know. Find the things that you can enjoy. Be curious.
1:24:10You don't have to have all the answers. I'm a hardcore believer that everybody has something that they're really, really, really good at.
1:24:20That could be world class great. Every single human being on this planet. And the hard part is just finding what that is.
1:24:27It is not everyone's job to make sure that you feel good. It is not everyone's job to solve your problems. It's not everyone's job to make sure you're happy.
1:24:37That's on you. Only you. Understand that you are where you're at because of the decisions you made and the actions you took.
1:24:45And if you manage to convince yourself that it's everyone else's fault that you're miserable, not only is your entire life a lie, but you will be stuck in that misery forever.
1:24:54Sacrifice temporary fun for permanent dreams or sacrifice your permanent dreams for temporary fun.
1:25:01And the reality is a lot of you guys are willing to sacrifice your permanent dreams for some temporary fun.
1:25:08It's never been so easy to win because so many people are checked out, so many people are scared, so many people aren't doing the work. It's the time to roll up your sleeves and, in many ways, spend the next month getting lost from the world, optimizing yourself, building your battle sheets and game charts, dialing in your daily habits so that you bring it on when you come back out into the world.
1:25:46You deserve everything you're going through because you'd rather become good tomorrow than be good today. And this immense universal and timeless truth is really boils down to the fact every single thing, every single challenge, struggle,
1:26:09or behavior that you ever want to adapt or avoid asks of you to attain it or to fight it in this present moment.
1:26:24You are capable of so much, yet you choose to do so little. You have the physical and mental capacity to contribute something valuable to the world, and you elect to sit on the couch and waste away day after day, week after week, consuming everything and contributing nothing.
1:26:40You have the option to go out in the world and do something that makes the world a better place, and you just choose not to. You know, there are people that don't have a choice. There are people who are confined to the reality that you are choosing.
1:26:52And even on the days where they feel like going out in the world and doing something, they can't. And I guarantee those people would be willing to trade everything to be able to work out, to be able to go to work.
1:27:03Yet you have the audacity to complain. You don't even see how fortunate you are that you can do these things that you don't wanna do. And that choosing to not take advantage of that opportunity is an insult not only to the people that believe in you, but to the people who don't get to make that choice.
1:27:19And once you start dreaming about what you can become, the effect you can have, the joy it's gonna give you, the return that's gonna come, you just start designing this incredible purpose for your life. You can see yourself being uniquely benevolent, providing things for people they never dreamed they could have, helping them to accomplish things they never dreamed they could have come.
1:27:41How that's gonna make you feel, the kind of person you're gonna become from it, the joy you're gonna get from it. You just must ponder that and think about it, talk about it, and design it.
1:27:52What's your life gonna look like if you don't do it? What's your life gonna look like if you don't fucking go out and build what the fuck you wanna build? That you have this little vision in your heart and in your mind of what your life should be like.
1:28:05And what are you gonna feel like if you don't go do that? What are you gonna feel like in a year, five years, ten years, twenty years? When you die, what are you going to be saying?
1:28:17Because I can promise you, bro, that dream ain't going away.
1:28:22Most people dream of one day doing something. And because they dream of doing it, that never becomes a reality. If you ever wanna do something impactful, if you ever want to leave a mark on humanity, you've gotta be able to write down those goals, write down those plans, write down that dream, and then chase it down like it owes you absolutely everything, like your life depends on it because it does.
1:28:47A life worth living is a life worth recording. You have to write down those things. You have to set these goals.
1:28:54Set them higher each month. Set them higher each year. It doesn't happen overnight, but it happens every day and every night because the decisions made at day last at night.
1:29:07Ecclesiastes in life is nothing that stops you, because it is so heartbreaking, because it goes so deep.
1:29:14It carries the potential for the highest transformation. If you wanna see bad, it's gonna be bad. What happened to you is not gonna change.
1:29:22You can only determine what is going to be the consequence of what comes to you.
1:29:28How will you transform it? Will you let it stuck inside of you and it slowly eats you up from the inside?
1:29:35Or do you make something different about it? If you recite your excuses long enough, you will actually hypnotize your subconscious mind to think they're true.
1:29:48Most people, you can tell their beliefs by their words and then their behaviors. The positive psychologist call it a self fulfilling prophecy.
1:29:58Often in life, we go back to our old patterns of this means this. I'm not the best. I'm not that good.
1:30:04The people won't believe in me. People won't follow me. What are people thinking about me?
1:30:08We have all these questions that don't serve us. Thinking is the process of asking and answering questions to yourself.
1:30:15That's what a thought is. So when you wanna change your life, you change the questions you ask yourself. You begin to take control of the questions you ask yourself.
1:30:23That will change the meaning. It will change your life. The question creates the meaning.
1:30:27The meaning creates an emotion. The emotion gives you the quality of your life.
1:30:32Hear me very closely when I say this. A person's only limitation is in their development and use of their imagination.
1:30:43The mind could produce anything the mind could conceive and believe. If your imagination could see it, it could come into this world.
1:30:53Whether everyone calls it unrealistic or whether everybody supports it, everything you see started in the imagination.
1:31:11But Seneca says, a mind that has settled a character that is at peace with itself will always be home wherever it is, both in location and in time.
1:31:25Problem lies with us and not with the situation. And outrunning this or that occurrence of that fundamental problem is not a fix and it only makes us more stressed, more tired.
1:31:42See, nighttime can sometime be the darkest time in your goals, dreams, or aspirations. And that's why it's so important for you to set your goals while the light is still there. One day, the light will go out for good.
1:31:56And as it begins to flicker and the days of our lives begin to wind down, you will have a regret about what was, what could have been, what should have been. But not if you go ahead and chase down your dreams.
1:32:09I mean, you hunted down. You set trap short. No way I'm letting you get away.
1:32:14Every being
1:32:16has a destiny loaded and coded within them. People want their dreams to come true. Well, you have to come true to yourself to have your dream come true.
1:32:24But if one establishes an intention, then through universal law that intention is matched because so many people are listening to so many voices in their head, they're listening to so many external authorities, but within each being, there's a destiny trying to emerge.
1:32:51Incrastination is caused by the fear of success. Oh, if you did it, you'd win and you'd be better. So I didn't do it so I could be my comfortable self.
1:33:01Next thing I knew the opportunity passed. It felt so good just to be me again.
1:33:07All I'm saying about vulnerability is that when you are in uncertainty, when you feel at risk, when you feel exposed, don't tap out.
1:33:16Stay brave, stay uncomfortable, stay in the cringey moment, lean into the hard conversation, and keep bleeding.
1:33:24Stay brave.
1:33:27When it comes to being the person you want to be, what are you waiting for? What are you waiting for to get started? If this journey that you want to go on is something that you truly are passionate about and committed to, then waiting for everything to be perfect is absolutely the wrong answer.
1:33:42Getting started, taking that first step, that's the answer.
1:33:48Nobody starts out as an expert. Nobody starts out as a tremendous athlete or an incredible piano player or the expert in their field.
1:33:56They all start at the very beginning as a novice. They commit to the craft and they spend the time necessary to get to where they want to be.
1:34:07Understand that your story is being written as we speak. Oftentimes, wait we until we see some sign or some alert, a notification on our phone that tells us a guy, that opportunity, that relationship, that big break you've been praying for, it's coming.
1:34:23But that's not how life works. Good stories have plot twists in them. And up until this point, maybe every plot twist of your life has been negative.
1:34:32Family members got sick or passed away. Got fired from a job, the business deal fell through. That just means you're due for a positive plot twist.
1:34:40Twist. Make no mistake about it, it's coming. So keep your chin up, stay ready, your story is still being written.
1:34:53The magic that you're looking for in your life is found in the work that you are not doing. The supernaturalness that you are wanting in your life is found in the sacrifices you're not making, The community you're not in.
1:35:09The generosity you withholding. You're gonna have to confront fears.
1:35:13You're gonna have to do stuff you never done.
1:35:17What matters most is how you walk through the fire. You can walk through the fire complaining along the way or you can walk through the fire
1:35:25and create an example for everyone else so that the trials and tribulations of their own life seem trivial because they're comparing themselves the way you handle things.
1:35:39Tension is not what you can achieve, it's who you can become. There's a saying if you're too focused on results, you'll never change. But if you're focused on change, then the results are inevitable.
1:35:51If you achieve success without changing, you will not hang on to that success because maybe everything on the outside changed, but nothing on the inside changed. Pray to become the person who can achieve and sustain success.
1:36:06Potential is all about who you can become.
1:36:11And really what you need to do is just get off the couch and take that first step to whatever that journey is. Wherever you want to be, start it today.
1:36:21Not tomorrow, not once I get something done, start today. Take the first step no matter how small, no matter how ugly, no matter how imperfect. Take that first step because that first step is the beginning of getting you to the end.
1:36:37And it's the journey, it's the getting there, it's the falling down along the way and getting back up and dusting yourself off and learning through failure growing through challenges instead of going through them that will make you the person you want to be on the other side.
1:36:52Greatness is in you, but you have to take the first step to fight.
1:36:59Believing in something worth fighting for is when you unveil the true meaning and strength. The true realization of how it feels to carry on past the point that once broke you. Remember?
1:37:10Now look at you fueled by the fire of faith and belief that no matter what darkness throws at you, no matter what setback or excuse doubt has for you, you have an unshakable resolve that you are a warrior, a warrior of the light.
1:37:24You are the catalyst of cataclysmic change. You are the one with words that will change the world because you are guided by something greater than any enemy can challenge you with.
1:37:39Like, I can't say this enough. Stop waiting. You could get hit by a bus next week.
1:37:47Do not waste your life waiting, worrying, or wishing for things to change.
1:37:55You gotta want it enough to do the work.
1:37:59I prefer to be the kind of person who steps up and facing the challenge, than the kind of person who stays below the line and avoids the challenge.
1:38:10What kind of person do you wanna be? What do you want? How badly do you want it?
1:38:15How much do you want it to suffer?
1:38:19Learn how to handle the winters. They come right after falls with regularity. Some are long, and some are short, and some are hard, and some are easy, but they keep coming.
1:38:28You must learn to handle the nights. They come right after days. You must learn to handle difficulty.
1:38:33It comes right after opportunity. You must learn to handle recessions. They always follow progressions.
1:38:38See, it isn't gonna change. The lesson you must learn is how to handle it. And there's all kinds of winters.
1:38:43Right? The winter when you can't figure it out. The winter when it all goes smash.
1:38:48The winter when it turns belly up. The winter when it won't work, when you've run out of money and you've got a broken heart. See, those are winter times.
1:38:57Don't waste the failure. Because oftentimes what do we do when things don't go the way we want it to go, we throw the experience away. Right?
1:39:05But we learn more in moments of defeat than we do when we get the victory. Because when you get the victory, nobody can tell you nothing. But when you lose, you listen it.
1:39:17After you lose or when you get knocked out, stay down the front door. Understand why you lost. What were the reasons?
1:39:23Why are you down here? Why did you lose? Why did you get knocked down?
1:39:27Because if you just jump right back up, you're gonna lose again and again and you're gonna lose the same way. So every time I lost, I stayed down for a second.
1:39:37Minutes, hours, days, weeks.
1:39:42But when I stood up, I was different.
1:40:03If tomorrow was not a guarantee, how far would you push? If you thought that today was your last opportunity to ever do the thing, how far would you go?
1:40:12How far would you go? How fast would you run? How much would you sacrifice knowing you're never gonna lace it up again?
1:40:18You are willing to make the decision with the mindset, what if it does work out?
1:40:25I think at some point in every person's life, there is that collision between somebody else's expectations and hopes and dreams and yours.
1:40:35You have to have a lot of passion for what you're doing and it's totally true and the reason is is because it's so hard that if you don't, any rational person would give up. It's really hard and you have to do it over a sustained period of time. So if you don't love it, if you're not having fun doing it, you don't really love it, you're gonna give up.
1:40:57What if a lot of times I'll be in a tournament or I'll run or something like that and I'm all jacked up. Bodies broken, minds broken, spirits broken.
1:41:10I started to say, what if I could pull this off? It's the what if I can pull off a fucking miracle. What if I can become someone that no one thinks I can be?
1:41:22When you when you say you're gonna do something and then you follow through and you do it, not not not at the end when you you know, you cross the marathon, you finish it or or your hands raised. I'm talking about right now.
1:41:33The small steps in between the big successes everyone sees. No one sees this.
1:41:40Don't panic. Right now, this is a rebuilding stage.
1:41:44You need to stop looking at everything that's going wrong and start looking at everything that can go right tomorrow if you put in the work today. No more excuses.
1:41:53No more blaming other people for the hand that you're dealt. Take ownership of everything in your life. Move past the negative thoughts that tell you that you can't.
1:42:02You can get back everything else, but you can't get back today. So make it count.
1:42:17When a hero stumbles, but cowards rejoice. Nothing feels better to a coward than to watch a brave dyed fall.
1:42:30This life is not here to make you suffer. This life is here to make you understand what is your potential. Maybe there is something bigger that you can become.
1:42:39This is also meaning discover your potential.
1:42:43You may be frustrated with where you are right now, but think about the story that you can tell later when you're where you want to be. If you're working some shitty job right now or you're broke or you're in debt or you just got fired, it sucks right now.
1:42:56But one day this will be a chapter of your life that you'll not only be grateful for, but one that you can use to inspire other people. So before you start feeling sorry for yourself, remind yourself of the story that you're gonna tell later. Knowing how far you've come and being able to tell that story is going to be worth whatever you're going through right now.
1:43:17But when you come out on the other side, I guarantee you you're gonna be stronger than you ever thought possible.
1:43:25You lose more life trying to optimize everything than just living it. The stress of trying to be perfect is killing you more quickly than your imperfections.
1:43:31I will never wish for fewer epic stories at the end of my life. And I've never regretted failures. I've always regretted things that I didn't try.
1:43:41Dreams have a purpose, but those dreams are not necessarily to be fulfilled.
1:43:47They are a vehicle that gets you moving.
1:43:50Very easy to stay in that realm of comfort with the people at the bottom, but you'll never fly high enough. You may have to go at it alone and you may be your only supporter, but that's okay because that's the most important supporter. That's the one that you can rely on to put in the work every single day despite what you're going through because it's hard to rely on people especially ones who don't see the vision.
1:44:13This is one of the best questions I think to ask yourself when faced with a decision which is what would you tomorrow want you today to do?
1:44:31You might be dealing with a lot right now, and it might be easier to hide and run from it all.
1:44:38Don't. Embrace the storm. Let it harden you because on the other side of the struggle is a version of you that is stronger, healthier, and more unstoppable than you ever thought possible.
1:44:52Running away from the challenge won't get you anywhere, but showing up for yourself even when it's hard will stay strong.
1:45:01You got this.
1:45:06There's a self in you that wants to come out, that's there, that's buried within, that will feel better. When we bring it out, we feel better. The lower self is our animal nature.
1:45:16When you're bringing out the higher self, you're becoming human. Your lower self is your addictions. You're always wanting something easy and fast and quick.
1:45:25And when you indulge in that, you don't feel good. You wanna bring out that higher self, and I want you to confront that and not deny it anymore and see that it's in you, it's in everyone. It's not like every human has it.
1:45:37It's extremely democratic.
1:45:40Ultimately, happiness comes down to the decision of choosing to become aware of our mental afflictions or choosing to be ruled by them. This is what hard feels like.
1:45:51Did you think the thing that you wanted to try and achieve was going to be easy?
1:45:55No.
1:45:56Okay. So what's the entry price of trying to achieve this thing? Well, it's hard.
1:46:01Like you were here to be challenged by things.
1:46:06This is what hard feels like.
1:46:09You can be very grateful for what it is you have right now and still be ambitious with goals and dreams and visions that you want for yourself. And in fact, being grateful is part of being happy along the journey.
1:46:23Being happy along the journey takes three components. It takes gratitude, it takes a mission, and it takes discipline.
1:46:30And if you have those three things operating in your being, you're going to be happy along the way. That's reality.
1:46:37Do it sad, do it angry, do it heartbroken, do it miserable, do it excited, do it energized, do it happy, do it tired, do it confident, do it discouraged,
1:46:46do it anyway. Life is not just the passing of time.
1:46:53Life is a collection of experiences, their frequency, and their intensity.
1:47:02Life is not just watching clock tick away. Life is a collection of experiences.
1:47:11Their intensity, their frequency. Whatever the span of your life turns out to be, here's what you want to fill it up with, experiences and the intensity of those experience.
1:47:21Success
1:47:24without fulfillment is the ultimate failure because the human mind is not gonna make you happy. This brain of yours won't do it. You have to direct it.
1:47:35And there's no worse fate than to achieve everything and not be fulfilled.
1:47:42There are a lot of voices in life trying to define us, tell us who we are. Sometimes they're uplifting, a parent telling us that we're talented, we can do great things.
1:47:53Other times they're negative. You're not attracted. There's nothing special about you.
1:47:58You made too many mistakes. You missed your chance. When you listen to all these voices, it's easy to think who's telling the truth?
1:48:06Who am I? Here's the key. The only voice that matters is your voice.
1:48:17The fastest way to change your life is to start keeping the promises you make to yourself. You chose this and even though it might be hard, you still owe it to yourself to see it through.
1:48:28Don't live with regret. Put it all on the line and let it play out the way it's supposed to. The last thing you wanna do is wonder what if.
1:48:37Don't give yourself that option. Make it happen now.
1:48:57Understand this. Keep rebuilding yourself in private, but make sure when you come back, you come back an absolute beast.
1:49:07Most people spend their entire lives wishing shit was easy. Wishing it was fair. It's not fucking fair.
1:49:13Wishing it would line up to be perfect for them and because they're waiting for this and because it's never coming, they never go. And when they never go, they never become anything. And that's what leads to a a wasted life.
1:49:24Conditions are never gonna be perfect. Things are always gonna be hard. The only hope that you have is to become someone who could push through that hard regardless of what the is going on.
1:49:34And if you can build that level of discipline, that level of mental toughness to execute when things are not ideal, when things are extremely hard, nothing can stop you.
1:49:47How many really uncomfortable situations are you putting yourself in that challenged you, that grew you, that pushed you to get to that next level of being who you are? Are you under the illusion and I love you as a friend, but I think sometimes you're under the illusion you're gonna get these external things you want without growing who you are.
1:50:05You could not be further from the truth. In fact, if you were to acquire those things without growing who you are, we understand the power of identity. You will eventually lose those things because they're not congruent with who you are as a person.
1:50:25Do all that you can do
1:50:27and when you've done all you can do and hell still comes to breakfast, let it finish out, then pick up the pieces, learn from it and start all over again.
1:50:42There's a a really great quote from Mark Manson where he talks about the most important question to ask yourself is what pain are you willing to endure in your life rather than what pleasure do you want? Because any pleasure or any pursuit that you want is going to come with an in kind payment of pain.
1:50:56Beautiful thing about life is that you get to choose your hard. Everything in life is hard, but you get to choose what your heart is. It's really hard to live a life of purpose working on something you care about.
1:51:05It's also really hard to live without purpose. You get to choose the thorns that you're gonna have on the path of your journey. It's something that I think about constantly.
1:51:13It's like how can I just endure this a little bit longer? How can I just embrace this hard of whatever it is that I'm going through?
1:51:22And the right choice is you can either go out and build your dreams, go all the hardship, get knocked down a million times, get punched in the face a million times, get told you're shit by everybody that you love and everybody that's around you, get made fun of, get laughed at, get picked on, become the joke, and continue to move forward, and then build your dreams and let your life speak for itself.
1:51:42Or the other choice is you can quit, and you could be worse than what you were when you started trying to be better.
1:51:49Don't talk about what you're gonna do. Don't just dream about what you're gonna do. Don't criticize somebody else for what they're not doing.
1:51:56You be it. Be about it. Be about that action and go do it.
1:52:01Keep your eye on your intention. Don't let any outside distraction or your own insecurity stop you from your goals. Embrace that struggle.
1:52:10Surviving that struggle will strengthen you.
1:52:16What can one man do except forgive his best? If you fail, you try again. If you win, you try again and get better.
1:52:24So as long as you maintain and you stay consistent, you'll forever be a winner and a champion and the people who love you in their eyes because they support you nevertheless as long as you try again and again and again.
1:52:37Legacy that you leave has gotta mean something to somebody. We gotta live for something bigger than ourselves.
1:52:50Some people will tell you that you don't need to change, but they're wrong because in order to achieve the things that you want to achieve, you have to destroy the current version of you.
1:53:01Improvement and growth is change. You can't expect to get the things that you don't have if you don't change the things that you always do. Change is inevitable.
1:53:11You either progress or regress. The choice is up to you.
1:53:19You're not being defined by a vision of the future, then you are left with the memories of your past and you'll be predictable in your life. If you're not creating anything new, that means you're believing in your past more than you're believing in your future.
1:53:33So then if the person is living in anger, impatience, resentment, frustration, and they're holding the intention of their future, there's no vibrational match between anything in their future because they're saying why hasn't it happened?
1:53:46They're waiting for their success to feel abundance, waiting for something outside to change how we feel inside. And if you're living in that lack and you know that you're creating your future, you're creating more lack.
1:53:58And if you're reacting to the people and conditions in your life that are all known to you, then your thoughts and feelings are equal to everything that you know. You keep creating the same life.
1:54:09It it is simply you are thinking a thousand different thoughts in one hour. You are doing around 500 different actions in that hour and experiencing 20 different emotions.
1:54:24And when you think about it through that lens, it is now this finite structure that if you live within complete intention to use your thoughts with intention that lead to intentional actions that create the feelings and emotions of joy, for the majority of your life, that little framework right there is how you can literally take control of time and ultimately create a harmonious existence for yourself.
1:54:56Really look back and think about all the things that led to you reaching those moments, it's gonna be the tough times. It's gonna be that depression.
1:55:03It's gonna be that anxiety. It's gonna be that heartbreak. It's gonna be that setback, that injury, whatever it is, that loss.
1:55:10All those things, right, in the moment felt like the end of the world. You're gonna look back in hindsight and see how they were actually building you up in a way that you just couldn't see in that moment.
1:55:22Remember, there is nothing in this world that can hurt you as much as your thoughts.
1:55:29And there is nothing in this world that can heal you as much as your thoughts.
1:55:45Most important conversation is the one you have with yourself. You wake up with it, you walk around with it, you go to bed with it, eventually you act on it.
1:55:54The fact is that you're more amazing than you've ever imagined. You're more qualified, more gifted, more useful, more meaningful than anyone has ever defined or told you you could be. There are times where you've tried to talk yourself into believing your value by looking in the mirror and you haven't gotten the right reflection because you haven't set it with the right inflection.
1:56:14You're missing out on everything because you're waiting for someday. You're waiting for someday to feel ready, someday for it to be perfect, someday Well, I'll tell you what, today is that Sunday.
1:56:31If you want to attract what you want, you've got to see yourself already with it. You don't get what you want, you get what you are. You've got to become what you want.
1:56:39You've got to realize the minute you hold your mind in harmony with the good you want, then you've already got it. It's only a period of time till it manifests in physical form. That's called the perpetual transmutation of energy.
1:56:51That is a law, first law of the universe.
1:56:56How badly do you want it? You've got to pay a price to be the best. The best pay a big price.
1:57:03You've got to work harder. You've got to commit more. You've to take more responsibility, you've got to deal with more ups and downs.
1:57:10If we can deal with that question, how much do you want it to suffer?
1:57:16The size of your dreams must always exceed your current capacity capacity to achieve them. If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.
1:57:28If you start off with a small dream, you may not have much left when it is fulfilled because along the way, life will test your dreams and make demands on you.
1:57:39That's not you.
1:57:41Spend the block, man. Spend the block. It might might be your day.
1:57:44It might not be your week, your month, your year. Spend the block. Knock again.
1:57:47Knock again. Keep calling. Keep showing up.
1:57:50Keep doing what you've been doing. It's gonna pay off. You don't see it right now.
1:57:54But I promise you, I promise you, it's happening.
1:58:00The roots are growing. The fruits are coming. I never ran track, but I've always heard that like if you ever wanna be faster, you gotta run with a bunch of people who are way faster than you.
1:58:08And there's something that happens with us as humans. When you are surrounded by those who are superior in their performance than you are, you're bound to be lifted up if you're as ambitious.
1:58:20If not Yeah. You're wasting everyone's time. You're more than a ripple.
1:58:24You're the one that will cause waves in life, but you gotta keep going.
1:58:28There's a thing called flow. You have to get into it and the only way to get into it is to get through the things that try to interrupt your flow. You're developing as a person, you're the whatever it is you were born to do, you gotta find out that one thing and invest yourself in it so much so that you gotta hold stock when everyone tells you that it has no value.
1:58:47You matter and you always have matter.
1:58:55Success is something you attract, not something you pursue. Success is looking for a good place to stay. So instead of going after it, you work on yourself, personal development.
1:59:06See, the major question to ask on the job is not what are you getting. The major question to ask on the job is what are you becoming?
1:59:15You wanna know the secret to achieving everything that you dream about? Don't quit.
1:59:22See, when you know what the destination is, there's a million paths to get there and it took me a long time to learn that the greatest moments of growth and success happen right after you feel like quitting but you don't.
1:59:38That's the secret. Keep going.
1:59:42Don't even panic. Don't panic. Don't panic.
1:59:44Right now there's a rebuilding stage. Right now. Right now you have a chance to rebuild.
1:59:48Look, go because what you're doing is you're looking at everything that went wrong, but you're not looking at what's gonna go right tomorrow. Once you sit back, just sit back. Write everything down.
1:59:57Write your list. Write that list down of where you wanna be, who you wanna be, where you wanna go. Look look at the world.
2:00:03Look around you. Look at your environment and say to yourself, what do I need to move out of the way in order so I can get to the places I'm trying to go?
2:00:10Your skill set is being developed under pressure, under denials, under rejection, under the people that have told you no.
2:00:18Those no's are things that you need. It needs you to fortify and believe in yourself until you can get to the point where it doesn't matter what anyone else says. You believe it with all your soul that I matter, that I was born to do something, and the greatness within me is going to touch other lives.
2:00:36You're not here just for you. The good that you have is to be presented to God at the end of your life, and when you present it to him, he'll ask you, how many other people did you bless? How many other people did you give it to?
2:00:48Because the one thing you don't want is regret, Not with the dash that we have. Our lives are way too short to live it just for us.
2:00:58That's why people have scars. They're a reminder in their memory. There's something you get past and there's something you live through but At the end of the day, they're almost there.
2:01:10All fools in life have one thing in common important for the stoics.
2:01:14Seneca says what they all have in common is that they're always getting ready to start. They are delaying to live because they think they have the future.
2:01:23They think they have forever. They say I'm not ready or they say I'm gonna do it after. I'm gonna do it once this thing happens when conditions are more favorable.
2:01:31They never say to themselves I'm never going to do it. They say I'm going to do it later. But no one knows what the future holds.
2:01:37No one knows how much time we have left. Life is happening right now the second. In fact, the time ticks by, the Stilts say, belongs to death.
2:01:44It's dead. It can never be recovered. So don't be a fool.
2:01:50Don't delay. You could be good today. Ruth's Reilly's reminds us.
2:01:54Instead, you choose tomorrow.
2:01:56You have to work harder than you think you possibly can. You can't hold grudges. It's hard.
2:02:01And it doesn't matter how you get knocked down in life because that's gonna happen. All that matters is that you gotta get up.
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