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Best of Ed Mylett's Motivational Speeches
A 47-minute compilation from five live stages, built around one argument: the pain you survived is the skill that makes you worth listening to.
April 9th 2023The argument in one line.
Leadership is not a title or position — it is influence, and the level at which you lead sets a hard ceiling on everything you and everyone around you can achieve.
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- You have told yourself you are not a leader because you do not manage a team or hold a formal position.
- You are building a business or community and your results have plateaued without an obvious reason why.
- You want a compounding self-development framework you can practice one week at a time over several months.
- You are new to Maxwell's work and want a clear entry point into the 21 Laws.
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- You are already familiar with the 21 Laws and looking for advanced, tactical content beyond the foundational principles.
- You need concrete step-by-step exercises rather than conceptual frameworks.
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John Maxwell argues that leadership is influence — nothing more, nothing less — which means every person who affects another person's decisions is already a leader. The Law of the Lid states that your leadership level is the hard ceiling on your organization's performance: a 5/10 leader will never produce a 7/10 team. The fix is daily deliberate practice across each of the 21 laws, starting with the lid, because raising it also raises who you attract (Law of Magnetism) and compounds your capacity to keep growing (Law of Process).
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00:00hostEd Mylett
02:17guestJohn Maxwell
Where the time goes.
00:00 – 01:37
01 · Series introduction
Ed introduces the new weekly 21 Laws series, outlines the three-session structure (foundation, influence, legacy), and pitches the free workbook and Q&A format.
01:37 – 02:47
02 · Maxwell enters: origin of the book
Ed introduces Maxwell, who explains the book was born on a golf course — a publisher mentioned a 'laws of management' book, sparking Maxwell to ask: what makes something a true law?
02:47 – 05:11
03 · Building the 21 Laws
Maxwell describes the two-year process of developing the laws — starting with ~60 candidates and whittling down. Criteria: timeless, cross-cultural, gender-neutral, produces positive life change.
05:11 – 09:47
04 · The Law of the Lid
The cornerstone law: your leadership ability is the ceiling on your results. Maxwell explains the 1-10 scale, how a 5/10 leader produces a 4/10 org, and how raising your lid raises everyone around you including who you attract.
09:47 – 10:43
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10:43 – 13:27
06 · Redefining leadership as influence
Ed asks Maxwell to address the 'I'm not a leader' objection. Maxwell defines leadership as influence — nothing more, nothing less — and argues that a parent, teammate, or any person who affects others is already leading.
13:27 – 15:12
07 · How to develop as a leader
Maxwell's prescription: take one law per week, practice it, act before you fully understand. Law of Process — leaders develop daily, not in a day. At 79, Maxwell still practices daily.
15:12 – 15:52
08 · Close and CTA
Ed and Maxwell exchange gratitude; outro card with workbook download and subscribe CTA.
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- Leadership is influence, nothing more and nothing less — which means a parent, a teammate, or a peer without a title is already a leader.
- In the history of organizations, none has ever risen above the leadership lid of the people running it.
- A 5/10 leader produces a 4/10 organization — and no amount of strategy, talent, or capital fixes a lid problem.
- When you raise your leadership lid, you simultaneously raise the ceiling for everyone on your team without requiring them to change.
- The Law of Magnetism: you attract who you are, not who you want — which means the team quality problem is usually a self-development problem.
- A top performer will never choose to follow a leader two or three levels below them in capability.
- Maxwell started with 60 candidate laws and spent two years whittling them to 21 — the word 'law' required timelessness, cross-cultural fit, and evidence of positive life change.
- Leadership books did not exist before the mid-1990s — only management books did, because speed was manageable until it suddenly was not.
- The difference between a principle and a law: a law is timeless, cross-cultural, and applies equally regardless of gender or context.
- Waiting until you understand something before acting is the single biggest mistake in leadership development — you understand by doing.
- Leaders develop daily, not in a day — the Law of Process means small consistent reps compound into capability over months.
- At 79, Maxwell still practices leadership growth daily, which is evidence that growth capacity itself can keep expanding.
- Once you start growing your leadership capacity, you develop the ability to learn more, faster — compounding returns on the same investment of time.
- The book 'Developing the Leader Within You' was the first book to claim that leadership is a learnable skill, not an innate trait — before that, people assumed leaders were born.
Every person leads — the only question is how well.
WHAT TO LEARN
Leadership is not a position someone grants you — it is influence you already exercise, and your current level is the ceiling on every result you produce.
01Series introduction
- A structured, sequential curriculum — one law per week, across three thematic sessions — gives you a repeatable system instead of isolated inspiration.
02Origin of the book
- The best frameworks are built by starting with too many ideas and ruthlessly eliminating the ones that do not hold up under scrutiny.
03Building the 21 Laws
- A genuine law must be timeless, cross-cultural, and produce verifiable positive change — most leadership advice fails at least one of these tests.
- What we call a leadership crisis in organizations is usually a management crisis that speed exposed — leaders see ahead, managers optimize what is already there.
04The Law of the Lid
- The single most accurate predictor of what you will build is your current leadership level — not your idea, your funding, or your team.
- Raising your leadership ceiling automatically raises the ceiling for every person around you, without requiring them to change.
- You attract people at roughly your own level of development; the talent problem is almost always a self-development problem in disguise.
06Redefining leadership as influence
- Leadership is not positional — anyone who influences another person's decisions is already leading, whether they hold a title or not.
- Removing the title requirement from leadership shifts it from something you wait to be given to something you practice starting now.
07How to develop as a leader
- Action precedes understanding in leadership development: waiting until you feel ready means waiting indefinitely, because clarity comes from doing.
- Leaders grow daily through consistent practice, not through single breakthrough moments — the compounding is slow at first and dramatic over months.
- Increasing your growth capacity through practice means you eventually learn faster and at a higher level with the same amount of daily effort.
Terms worth knowing.
- Law of the Lid
- Maxwell's first law of leadership: your leadership ability sets the ceiling on your personal effectiveness and your organization's performance. A 5/10 leader can only produce up to a 5/10 result; raising the lid raises everyone around you.
- Law of Magnetism
- You attract people who are at roughly your own leadership level — not the people you wish you could attract. Improving yourself raises the caliber of people naturally drawn to work with you.
- Law of Process
- Leaders develop daily, not in a single day. Growth in leadership is cumulative and requires consistent practice over time rather than episodic bursts of learning.
- 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership
- John Maxwell's bestselling book published in 1998 outlining 21 principles of leadership that are timeless, cross-cultural, and verifiable across history and context. It remains a top-selling leadership title more than two decades after release.
Things they pointed at.
02:13book21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership
07:36bookDeveloping the Leader Within You
12:00bookThe 360 Degree Leader
Lines you could clip.
05:32
“Leadership is influence — nothing more, nothing less.”
08:33
“In the history of mankind, no organization has risen higher than the leadership lid of those who lead it. It just does not happen.”
14:08
“The big mistake people have is they say, as soon as I figure it out, I will do it. And I look at them and say, no — you have to do it to figure it out.”
14:47
“Start now, start slow, but go.”
10:01
“We attract who we are, not who we want.”
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00:00 – 01:37steadySeries launch and structure
01:37 – 02:47steadyOrigin of the 21 Laws
02:47 – 04:04denseCriteria for a leadership law
05:11 – 09:47denseLaw of the Lid — detailed breakdown
09:47 – 10:43sparseSponsor break
10:43 – 13:27denseLeadership redefined as influence
13:27 – 15:12denseLaw of Process — daily development
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00:00Alright. Welcome back to the show, everybody. So I cannot tell you how excited I am to let you know that every week on Thursdays, we are releasing what I believe is the greatest series in the history of any book written on the topic of leadership.
00:11You will now get access to either through audio or video on our channel, the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership with John Maxwell himself every single week, each lesson, each law broken down by the master directly through the camera or through your headphones into your life here on the Ed Mylett show. We've structured this journey into three distinct sessions to help you master these principles.
00:33Session one is your foundation, the internal character required to lead. Session two moves into your influence, how you connect and how you build elite teams.
00:43And session three is about legacy, how you multiply your impact for generations. Leadership is a discipline.
00:49It's not a title. And in every episode, I'm giving you the rep, one clear high stakes action for you to execute that week.
00:56To track your progress, we've created a full 21 page leadership workbook. Just click the link in the show notes right now to download the entire playbook. It's free.
01:05Our gift to you. Between each session, John Maxwell and I are hosting q and a sessions to solve your specific leadership struggles. Isn't that incredible?
01:14So if you want us to answer your question, here's how you do it. When you click the link to download your free workbook, you'll see a section to submit your leadership question directly to John and I. We're pulling our q and a topics directly from that list.
01:25So if you want your situation navigated by John and me, get that workbook and submit your question ASAP. We've never done anything like this on the show. I'm so excited.
01:34So I hope you enjoy it, everybody. God bless you. Max out.
01:37My education on leaderships come from one man, and it's a book, the number one sold book in the history of leadership books, the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership. I everybody's a leader because leadership is in folks. There are 21 irrefutable laws of leadership, but there is one undisputed
01:53vote of all time on the leadership topic. The 21 irrefutable laws of leadership is a book to help you really become a better leader.
02:03So leadership is one of the most discussed topics on planet Earth. It's also one of the most misunderstood. My education on leaderships come from one man, and it's a book, the number one sold book in the history of leadership books, the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership written by the man to my left who also happens to be my hero.
02:21We're gonna get in the nitty gritty on leadership here today, everybody, with the number one expert on planet Earth, mister John Maxwell. John, welcome back to the show.
02:28Ed, I love you, and I always love being with you, and I love when we get to do stuff together. I do too. I do too.
02:34You
02:35are my hero, as everybody knows, and my first introduction to you was actually this book. Yes.
02:42Did you write it to find me, or why did you actually write the book? I wrote it to find myself.
02:48You know, a lot of times what we write is for ourselves, and then we say, hey. This helped me. Maybe it'll go help someone else.
02:53But I wrote the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership.
02:57Interestingly enough, the idea came on a golf course. You and I love to play golf.
03:02Yeah. I was playing golf with one of my publishers. And he said, John, I just finished reading a book on the laws of management.
03:10And he said it was a it was a terrific book. So I said, Victor, I wanna write a book on on the laws of leadership. And then I began to ask myself, okay.
03:19What really makes a law? Because, I mean, you can have a good principle. You can have a good thought on leadership, but the this the the word law kinda gives gravitas.
03:27It's kinda like, this is kinda bigger than a principle. Mhmm. So I, first of all, developed kind of a grid.
03:33What what what would be a law of leadership? And I it has to be obviously about leadership, but it has to be, for example, timeless.
03:39If it's truly a law I mean, the law of gravity is it's the law. I mean, it it doesn't come in and go out with time. So it has to be timeless.
03:46It has to be able we I have to be able to it has to fit in every culture. It has to be fit male and female.
03:53It has to fit all of that. And and it has to it has to have positive life change in people's lives.
03:59So I began to list what these laws were, and literally for two years, all I did was work with what would be a law of leadership.
04:08For two years, and I I started off with about 60. I was gonna ask you. Yeah.
04:12And and just kept whittling down whittling down. And then I would talk to people like you, and I'd say, do you think this is truly a law? And sometimes they'd strike it down.
04:20So, anyway, I I after a couple years, I got to the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership, and so I I wrote the book. And then for three years, I went on a book tour with it around the world because it became a bestseller the first week it came out, and it just stayed there on the bestseller list.
04:34In fact, the twenty one year of fear of laws of leadership sells as many books today twenty plus years later, as it did the day the book came out.
04:42You're kidding me. I it's just it just keeps
04:45it just keeps on going. I gotta tell you on the show, you know, I probably interviewed 800 oh, going on a thousand people. And one of the things people ask me, what do these folks all have in common?
04:56And they all of them have something in common, but the vast majority of them have told me they've read this book. In fact, last week, the last podcast that I did was a gentleman who was the president of Tesla for ten years. And as the interview was over in passing, he asked me if I knew you because you're also his hero.
05:13And I said, yeah. In fact, I do. I consider him one of my great friends.
05:16He said, well, the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership changed my life. Yeah. I'm curious.
05:21Of all of the laws, is there one that stood out to you? I kinda know this answer, but is there one that stands out more than others, or they all like children? You love them equally.
05:29Well, I love them, but, uh, not equally.
05:32The law of the lid, which is the first one, Ed, I put it first, and here's why.
05:39If if a person buys into the law of the lid and I want us to talk about it for a moment. If they buy into the law of the lid, they'll buy into the other 20 laws. Okay.
05:50That's a fact. And the law of the lid just says how well you lead determines how well you succeed.
05:56In other words, the reason I began teaching on leadership, I was in my twenties, and I came to the conclusion that everything rises and falls on leadership.
06:05And when I came to that conclusion, I said to myself, if that is true, then if I can teach myself, if I can teach other people how to lead well, then it'll rise.
06:15Well, now we we're we're we're taking that lid, and it's going up. And and if I don't know it well, of course, it it it can fall. So the law of the lid basically just says that the most important thing you can do to succeed in life is really learn how to lead.
06:31And that's true in business. That's true in government. That's true in ministry.
06:35The ability to learn how to lead because how well I lead not only determines how well I succeed. How well I lead determines how well the people that are on my team succeed.
06:44So let's say that between a one and a 10, I'm an average leader. I'm a five. What that means is that my organization will come up to my , and it'll be a probably a four, but it cannot be a six or seven.
06:57Because in the history of mankind, no organization has risen higher than the leadership lid of those who lead it.
07:05It just doesn't happen. Now here's the good news. You can grow as a leader.
07:09And when I wrote the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership, I'd already written the book developing the leader within you Mhmm. Which basically says in fact, Ed, that was the first book written that said you can develop yourself as a leader.
07:23Up until that time, two things are very significant. One is people thought leaders were kinda born. Secondly is if you go back because I wrote that in the late nineteen nineties.
07:33If you go back, there were no leadership books in bookshores. Wow.
07:37They were management books. Great point. I mean, Peter Drucker, he was a management guru, and you met but what happened, Ed, was, um, you can't manage speed.
07:48And so by the late by the mid nineteen nineties, things were happening so fast that you couldn't manage them anymore. And somebody says, we gotta get ahead of them, and that's what leaders do.
07:57They see more and before. And so, therefore, all of a sudden, leadership began to be the thing. And so I said, you can develop yourself as a leader.
08:04And then in developing yourself as a leader, I began with the lid saying to yourself, if you have a five, you can learn leadership skills. You can go to a six.
08:14With a lot of time working on your skills, you can get to a seven. Now every every time I raise my leadership lid, guess what I do? Now I raise the room of potential for all the people on my team.
08:25So so so when you raise your lid, you raise the lid of everybody around you. And so, therefore, the law of the lid just I just said, if people can understand it and they can really learn it and they can embrace it and they can do it, they're not only gonna help increase their ability and and the people's ability, but also one more thing, Ed.
08:43When I raise my lid for if I'm a five as a leader, guess who I attract? Fours, threes, twos, and ones. Great point.
08:51In the history of mankind, there's never been a person that is a nine and say I wanna follow a five. Very good. And so, therefore, every time I raise my leadership lead, I also raise the quality, the type of person I attract because in the 21 laws, the law of magnetism is we attract who we are, not who we want.
09:09Very good. And so I've had people all the time. They'll say they'll say, well, I I would like to have people that, you know, hardworking, great attitude, you know, teachable, and I'm taking my little list.
09:19When it's done, I look up and say, now are you hardworking? Are you teachable? Because if you have those qualities, people will migrate to you.
09:26If you don't have those qualities, they won't. So that law of LID helps us draw better people. It helps us it helps us improve our leadership.
09:34It's just the it's kind of like the essential law that if you get it, then now you say, I wanna learn all the other 20. Yes. Because now they're gonna help me.
09:42What all the other 20? Why they do? They help me my list.
09:44So I gotta tell you, when we started this podcast,
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10:43Let me ask you one more question about this. Because for me, obviously, you know the impact of your work, and the fact that this is gonna be on the channel on a regular basis where people getting access to these laws is just mind blowing to me. But one of the other things that you've done for me, you've changed the definition for me of what a leader is or looks like, meaning this.
11:03And I think a lot of people feel this way. I'd like you to speak to it. I think they think they're not a leader.
11:08I think when they picture a leader, they're picturing someone who's the CEO of a company only. Position. Right?
11:13It's a position, or they're the head coach of the Dallas cowboys. Now that's a leader. But me, I'm not a leader.
11:19Right? They're thinking that about themselves. Of course.
11:20Who how do you know if you are one? You know, when I started off,
11:24I knew that if I was gonna talk about leadership, I was gonna have to define what I think it is. So after much time, a lot of time, I came up with a conclusion that leadership is influence.
11:35Nothing more, nothing less.
11:38Your ability to influence people. In fact, I love that proverb. It says, he that thinketh he leadeth and hath no one following him is only taking a walk.
11:46And I there are no kind of people taking walks. In fact, I wrote a book called the three sixty degree leader that helps a person know that you can lead from the middle of the pack. You can lead up.
11:55You can lead beside. You can lead others. And the moment that we understand that leadership is influenced, then all of a sudden, mom at home says, wait a minute.
12:04I'm I'm a leader. I I have influence with my family. I've got influence with my children.
12:09And the reason I wanted everybody to understand that is in our own world, to our own degree, Ed, we always influence people.
12:19The moment I feel that I can influence people Mhmm. Now it gives a gravitas for me to learn how to do it. Mhmm.
12:26And so let's get rid of the leader titles and all that, and let's just say, look. Where you are, what you're doing right now matters. So now learn to use influence in a positive way to help people where you are right now, and you'll begin to add value to them.
12:42And once you add value to people, then I'm I promise you, they'll follow you. That's so good. You
12:48if someone's watching this week by week, would there be some advice you would give them if they they
12:54watch one of the laws or listen to one of the laws? Is there something that you would recommend they do as they're doing that weekly? Some sort of daily practice?
13:02Of course. You of course, you know as well as I do, Ed. If you don't practice it, it doesn't happen.
13:07I mean, uh, action is in fact, I had somebody there. They said, now what's the best action to take? And I said, any action.
13:14Would you just get going in the game? Because you and I know that it's the action that allows us to learn. When I start moving, I find out a lot about myself.
13:24Yeah. I find out a lot about my journey, what I'm doing. So what I tell the people is, in fact, another one of the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership is the law of process that says leaders develop daily, not in a day.
13:38So as you're watching this weekly, understand it's a process.
13:43Okay? And take one at a time and practice them. If you practice them, you'll learn.
13:49And understand this.
13:53The ability and the willingness to take action will give you what you need to know that you don't know now. The big mistake people have is they say, as soon as I figure it out, I'll do it.
14:04And I look at them and said, no. No. No.
14:06You have to do it to figure it out. And so I would take each law, and I would practice them and take it slowly and understand. In few months, I can promise you, you're going to be a better leader than you are right now, and that's okay.
14:21By the way, I'm 79. I'm still growing every day.
14:26Mhmm. I'm still practicing every day. I'm still learning every day.
14:30And once you begin to learn the process of growth, you develop leadership growth capacity. And now you have the ability to learn more quicker and in greater degrees because you've increased your capacity. So start now, start slow, but go.
14:49Mhmm. Trust me. You'll begin to see growth in your life.
14:53You'll find out sooner or later that you'll not go to the next level. You'll start to grow to the next level. So good.
15:00Everybody,
15:01there I just feel so blessed that we're doing this. Yeah. I'm so blessed that you're in my life.
15:05I'm blessed that can't believe I love you. I can't believe we're doing this on the channel Yeah. Get that they're getting access to this.
15:10It's like this is like a dream come true for me. There are 21 irrefutable laws of leadership, but there is one undisputed goat of all time on the leadership topic.
15:21Yeah. And that is this man to my left. And so thank you so much Thank you.
15:24John Maxwell for being a part of the show. It's my joy. I love you, man.
15:28I love you too. Enjoy everybody. God bless you.
15:30Max out.
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