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Burnout is the result of poor system design, not lack of discipline—and the antidote is building intentional time architecture, capacity limits, and relationship systems that allow you to achieve massive goals while operating in a harmonious rather than hustling state.
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- A high-output founder or executive who runs on hustle culture and suspects burnout is coming, but hasn't yet systematized your time or measured where it actually goes.
- An entrepreneur with multiple active projects who feels overwhelmed despite hitting goals, and wants a framework to reclaim energy without abandoning ambition.
- Someone who's achieved external success but feels trapped in a grind, and is open to the idea that the problem isn't your work—it's your system design.
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- You're early-stage and still figuring out product-market fit; this is about optimization for people who've already proven their model works.
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- You're skeptical that data-driven time tracking and capacity limits actually prevent burnout—you believe burnout is inevitable at your ambition level.
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Burnout is a design flaw, not a badge of honor, and the fix is treating time as your only finite resource and engineering a harmonious system around it. Track every hour, score how each block makes you feel, then drive friction to zero by attacking second-and-third-order consequences before saying yes to anything new � Dyrdek now runs six companies, 336 episodes, and a podcast on 23% of his time by ruthlessly compressing wardrobe changes, meetings, and prep windows. Define an ideal lifestyle first and fit work into it, not the reverse. Stack evolution goals (health, life, wealth, work) on top of quantifiable weekly numbers, gamify the 75% hit rate, and systematize relationships with scheduled date rhythms, morning calendar emails, weekly family syncs, and standing therapy.
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01:16hostEd Mylett
01:16guestRob Dyrdek
Where the time goes.
00:00 – 01:16
01 · Cold open + intro
Clip from mid-conversation plays as hook, then Ed introduces Rob as entrepreneur-optimizer, not TV personality.
01:16 – 05:54
02 · Pursuing the ideal self — four years of real data
Rob revisits his 2018 theory. Key finding: the ideal self is always off in the distance, the pursuit is the joy, not the destination. He achieved all 2016 goals by 2020 and grew into a completely different person in the process.
05:54 – 13:23
03 · The value of time — core philosophy
Rob critiques Ed's grind-through-it mode. Introduces his Dalio + Dispenza + Sadhguru synthesis. Core: if you want a rich life you must find joy in every part of it, which requires intentional time design. Introduces time tagging every hour and the Google Calendar dashboard.
13:23 – 20:21
04 · How Rob navigates his own time
The Ridiculousness deep dive: 60 episodes per year tearing his soul out to 336 episodes in 42 days at 5 hours per day. Every friction eliminated one by one: in-person prep to digital, voiceover cuts, clip reduction, shoot day consolidation, wardrobe changes removed. Total = 4% of his life.
20:21 – 24:43
05 · Practical application — meetings
Ed applies the framework to meetings: why are they all 30 or 60 minutes? Because we block that time so we fill it. Most are 14-minute meetings in an hour's clothing.
24:43 – 30:34
06 · Living to one million hours
Rob's target: one million hours = 114 years and 54 days. Time as percentage of life: 23% work, 28% sleep, 4% = 1 hr per day for a year. Blood work, net worth, and qualitative happiness data all trend up. Proof you can keep getting healthier, wealthier, and happier indefinitely.
30:34 – 36:33
07 · Systems for managing state of mind
Rob's 5-section mind model: dwelling, rectifying, experiencing, creating, wishing. Target: toggle between experiencing and creating. Beyond creating is the magnetic state where answers arrive without asking questions. Ed identifies this as the vibrational frequency he sometimes hits but cannot sustain.
36:33 – 46:33
08 · Momentum as a trap / harmony over hustle
One glass of wine can pull you from the magnetic state. Rob describes how momentum trapped both of them — saying yes because this might be the one. Only after defining the whole could he start declining. Harmony over hustle: design life and business simultaneously.
46:33 – 48:03
09 · Creating systems for every part of life
Ed's synthesis: do you have a process or system for it? If not, it will not be sustainable. Not a personality thing, a system thing.
48:03 – 54:16
10 · Energy protection and relationship systems
Qualitative daily rating (0-10 on life/work/health) surfaces energy-draining people. Cleared everyone. Then applies same lens to wife: structured date cadence, daily calendar email with love quote, Thursday family sync, biweekly in-home therapist.
54:16 – 59:40
11 · Goal framework — evolution, quantifiable, gamified
Evolution goals (infinite, directional) stack with quantifiable goals (measurable) and gamified discipline (track completion rate, target 75%+, beat your own numbers). As standards rise the evolution goal expands.
59:40 – 1:00:21
12 · Wrap + social CTA
Ed calls it an all-timer. Rob Dyrdek social slide (Manufacturing Amazing) closes.
Lines worth screenshotting.
- Burnout is a design flaw, not a badge of honor — it means you went past your capacity limit, not that you worked hard enough.
- Rob Dyrdek achieved every goal he set in 2016, became his ideal self, and discovered the pursuit itself is what generates joy — arrival is not the destination.
- Tracking all of your time changes your life because it forces you to see the gap between how you think you spend it and how you actually spend it.
- Every person operates under the same construct of time — energy may vary, but you cannot work past capacity sustainably regardless of how high your energy is.
- The ideal version of yourself is always off in the distance because you grow into the person you imagined and can now see further — the horizon moves with you.
- Highly optimized time, clear vision, and beautiful rhythm can still produce overwhelm — the problem is not planning quality but volume relative to capacity.
- Friction elimination in your daily environment is the underrated driver of sustained output — the things that cost energy without producing value must be removed.
- A harmonious life generating hundreds of millions used only 23% of Dyrdek's available time — efficiency, not volume, is the actual output variable.
- Designing your time with intention is not a productivity hack — it is the foundational precondition for having a rich, fulfilling life.
- The magnetic creative state — where ideas flow without forcing — is reproducible through environmental and rhythmic design, not through hustle.
- Relationship systems — structured, intentional time with family rather than reactive time — produce the same compounding returns as business systems.
- Asking yourself why you don't feel like doing something you scheduled is diagnostic data — the answer reveals a design problem in your life, not a motivation problem.
Burnout is a design flaw, not a badge
What it teaches
Rob Dyrdek built a life generating hundreds of millions while using only 23% of his time — and shows exactly how he did it, down to the systems he runs for his marriage.
01Cold open + intro
- Opening with a clip from mid-conversation — where the guest challenges the host's grind mentality directly — frames the whole episode as a productive disagreement rather than mutual validation.
02Pursuing the ideal self — four years of real data
- The pursuit of the ideal self is the point — not arriving at it — because as you grow toward a goal you become a different person, and the ideal keeps expanding ahead of you.
- Having real-world data from four years of living a thesis — rather than theorizing about it — is what makes the advice credible enough to act on.
03The value of time — core philosophy
- Tracking every hour by category and viewing time as a percentage of your total life forces you to question whether your actual allocations match your stated priorities.
- Time design is not a one-time optimization — the world keeps changing and you keep changing, so the design must be continuously adjusted or it decays.
04How Rob navigates his own time
- Every source of friction is a design problem with a system solution — the right response to friction is to apply a process or remove the activity, not to endure it.
- Iterating on a TV show format over years — cutting prep time from three hours to fifteen minutes, reducing wardrobe changes, consolidating shoot days — compressed 336 episodes into 4% of one year.
05Practical application — meetings
- Meetings that default to thirty or sixty minutes fill that time by design; setting the actual required length cuts most meetings by half without losing any of the value.
06Living to one million hours
- One million hours of life experience is 114 years — treating your remaining hours as a finite, trackable resource changes what you are willing to spend them on.
- Blood work, net worth, time data, and qualitative happiness scores trending upward simultaneously are the proof that getting healthier, wealthier, and happier simultaneously is not theoretical.
07Systems for managing state of mind
- The mind operates across five states (dwelling, rectifying, experiencing, creating, wishing); the highest-output state is the magnetic state, where answers arrive without questions — and it requires protecting everything that feeds it.
- Even a single glass of wine or a disruptive text can break the magnetic state — which means the state requires active, system-level maintenance, not just occasional effort.
08Momentum as a trap / harmony over hustle
- Momentum is a trap when it causes you to say yes before you have defined what the whole of a good life looks like — only after defining the whole can you evaluate whether any opportunity improves or disrupts it.
- Designing harmony from the start is not something you can retrofit — if you build the business first and plan to fix the life later, you will not have harmony when success arrives.
09Creating systems for every part of life
- If something important in your life does not have a process or system behind it, it will not be sustainable over time — this applies equally to health, relationships, and business operations.
10Energy protection and relationship systems
- A daily qualitative score (zero to ten across life, work, and health) surfaces energy-draining people and situations before they become chronic problems.
- A marriage can be systematized with a structured date cadence, a daily calendar email with a love quote, a weekly family sync, and a biweekly in-home therapist — each layer removes a specific friction point.
11Goal framework — evolution, quantifiable, gamified
- An evolution goal (infinite and directional) stacks on top of a quantifiable goal, which stacks on top of a gamified discipline system — track the completion rate, target 75%, and let the standard rise as it compounds.
12Wrap + social CTA
- A conversation this dense rewards multiple listens — the first pass gives you the framework, the second pass gives you the details that land differently once the framework is in place.
Terms worth knowing.
- Quantum field
- A concept popularized by author Joe Dispenza referring to a field of pure potential where focused thought and elevated emotion are believed to influence reality. Used loosely to mean tuning one's energy to attract outcomes.
- Second and third order consequences
- The downstream effects of a decision beyond its immediate result. Second order is what happens next; third order is what happens after that, including the time, energy, and obligations a choice locks you into.
- Time matrix
- A personal framework for viewing every hour of the year as a percentage of total available time, then assigning value and intention to each block. Used to evaluate whether activities are worth their share of life.
- Rhythm of existence
- A personal operating system that maps the constants and variables of a year (weekends, holidays, work cycles) so time can be designed and predicted rather than reacted to.
- Pickups
- Short supplemental takes filmed after the main shoot to cover missing lines, reactions, or transitions needed in editing.
- Voiceover
- Narration or commentary recorded separately from on-camera footage, then layered over the edit during post-production.
- Ikigai
- A Japanese concept meaning "reason for being," popularized by a book of the same name that links purpose, longevity, and happiness through lessons from Okinawan centenarians.
- Supercentenarian
- A person who has lived to age 110 or older. Used as a longevity benchmark in long-life literature.
- Law of attraction
- The belief that focused thought and elevated emotional state draw matching circumstances and opportunities toward a person. Often framed as an unexplained force operating beneath conscious effort.
- Magnetic state
- A described mental mode where life is so well-ordered and energy so high that answers and opportunities appear before the person actively seeks them. Positioned beyond proactive, reactive, or inactive states.
- Evolution goal
- A long-horizon, open-ended goal tied to a core life area (health, relationships, wealth, work) that keeps expanding as the person grows, rather than ending at a fixed finish line.
- Quantifiable goal
- A measurable, numeric target (weight, revenue, reps) that ladders up to a larger evolution goal and provides concrete feedback on progress.
- Gamified discipline
- Turning daily habits into a tracked scoring system so beating yesterday's numbers becomes the motivator, rather than relying on willpower alone.
- Harmony over hustle
- A philosophy that prioritizes designing a balanced, low-friction life and business system from the start, rather than grinding hard and trying to restore balance later.
Things they pointed at.
06:54channelRay Dalio
06:54channelJoe Dispenza
06:54channelSadhguru
35:00bookIkigai
Lines you could clip.
01:00
“I have completely organized, perfectly designed time, beautiful rhythm, clear vision and goals, executing everything within this beautiful matrix. I'm highly optimized. Why am I overwhelmed? Because I went past capacity.”
27:30
“You are the machine, and you design the machine to go from thing to thing to thing till you're exhausted, then you complain, then you overcorrect.”
46:30
“If you don't build harmony from the very beginning, you won't have harmony when you find the success.”
51:30
“Happiness is really just consistent joy.”
Where the conversation goes.
01:16 – 05:54densePursuing the ideal self
05:54 – 13:23denseTime philosophy and tracking
13:23 – 20:21denseContent production optimization (Ridiculousness)
20:21 – 24:43steadyMeetings and practical time design
24:43 – 30:34denseLiving to one million hours
30:34 – 36:33denseMental state model and magnetic state
36:33 – 46:33denseMomentum, saying no, harmony over hustle
48:03 – 54:16denseRelationship systems
54:16 – 59:40denseGoal framework
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00:00I'm a work lots of hours guy. I'm a pound it. Let's go grind bingo.
00:05And you're like, hey. That's not exactly how it works, bro.
00:10Hey. There's a better way. And sometimes I'll, you know, I'll watch your stories, and it's like, I don't feel like going today, but I gotta get up and I gotta make it happen.
00:19And I'm like, man, why are you putting yourself in a position where you don't feel like going today? You know what I mean? Like, that's It's fair.
00:26You know, if you wanna have a truly rich, fulfilling life, you have to find joy in every part of it. In order to do that, you have got to use your time with absolute intention. When I started tracking all of my time, my life changed.
00:42We all are in the same construct of time. Yes. Our energy may vary, but we all have control to take care of ourselves, to do more things that we like, to begin to evolve our life in a way to where we have higher energy, but we all have a limit.
00:57I have completely organized perfectly designed time, beautiful rhythm, clear vision and goals, and executing everything within this beautiful matrix. I'm highly optimized.
01:07Why am I overwhelmed? Because I went past capacity.
01:16Welcome back, everybody. Today's gonna be amazing. I have a really good friend here today.
01:21One of the most downloaded shows we've ever done before because he'll surprise you. You know him from television. He's an incredible television personality with ridiculousness and a million other projects that he's done, but I don't know him from that.
01:33I know him from his brilliance as an entrepreneur and as a human optimizer of himself, of time, and in everything connected to him. And he's a very, very good friend of mine, and I love my conversations with him.
01:49He's one of my favorite people I've ever met in my life to talk with, if not my favorite.
01:54And I thought today I'd just let you sit in on one with us. We're gonna talk today with the great Rob Dyrdek. Welcome to the show, brother.
02:01Hey. Thank you for having me. It's nice to to to go from Laguna's a beautiful place to do a show, but it's it's nice to come to Hollywood into the fancy studio as well.
02:09This is more your, like, comfort level, isn't it? This Hollywood thing? You were saying No.
02:13It's not. I stay I stay away from this area of the city.
02:17You know what I'm saying? When I'm driving over here, I'm like, man, haven't been here in forever. Look at this place.
02:20I think that one it certainly has changed over the years and it hasn't improved, but that's probably a whole other conversation.
02:26But we are going to dinner down the street from here, so you have to make sure I stay safe. Yeah. And and again, I've arranged our dinner on the other side Got it.
02:34As we enter Beverly Hills. Okay. Okay.
02:36You, quieter, peaceful location. Thank you, sir. More on your level.
02:39You were saying before we started though, it was four years ago that we did our show. Mhmm. And that at the time when we were doing the show, there were a lot of theoretical things that you talked about on that show that you believed in that you were implementing into your life.
02:53And now you're like, now I have some data to really validate some of the stuff that I believe in. So what are some of those things that, like you said on the show, and you're like, and now I've seen in real life the results from those things? Yeah.
03:03You know, I think the most profound one was
03:06really about sort of what I really discovered and talked a lot about in 2018, we did the show, was that life is about this pursuit of the ideal version of yourself. Right?
03:18And and this has been something you've talked about forever where it's it's this idea of putting out into the future what you want to become and then building a plan and strategy and putting all the energy and effort to go and achieve it.
03:34Right? And you will grow into that person over time. And so that pursuit, we talked a lot about as being really important.
03:41And I was talking a lot about it from the business lens and and doing it from a balanced perspective. Yeah.
03:50And what happened for me in in that conversation is it led to what happens when you reach that person. Mhmm. And I made the comment of, I think, like, when you eventually get to the ideal version of yourself, that you sort of settle in to sort of a rhythm, and your pursuit wouldn't quite be the same.
04:11And within four years, I achieved all of the goals that I set in 2016 and became the ideal version of myself.
04:22So I actually, rather than guessed at what would happen to me when I finally reached the ideal version of myself, I actually experienced it. And what was so profound for me is since you grow into your ideal self, you're growing along the way, and as you learn more and see you begin to see further, so the ideal version of yourself is always off in the distance.
04:52And it's not about ever ending the game and that you're there. It's actually the pleasure and the actual joy that you get from living is in that pursuit.
05:05The difference was is I learned to control that pursuit and grew in a systematic harmonious way, and then grew beyond what my ideal version at that time would become because I grew into a completely different person by the time I got there.
05:22Do you guys all get it now?
05:25See what I'm talking about? It took four minutes, and there you get it. So his wife's my dude to talk to.
05:29He is special. The success that he's had in his life isn't by mistake.
05:36And I'm not just talking about his financial or television success, I'm talking about kind of father he is, kind of friend he is, kind of husband he is. None of this is by mistake.
05:45In my life, I have some really brilliant entrepreneur friends and I have some really brilliant personal development friends. I don't know anybody with the combination of both like you.
05:54I don't. One of the things I'm learning from you, I wanna go right to some of your stuff. I'm a work lots of hours guy.
06:02I'm a pound it. Let's go grind. Bingo.
06:06And you're like, hey, that's not exactly how it works, bro.
06:11Hey,
06:13there's a there's a better way. So why don't you share with us the better way? What your theory about hours and time and also the value of a minute, the value of time.
06:25Yeah.
06:26It's funny because, you know, sometimes I'll watch your stories and it's like, I don't feel like going today, but I gotta get up, I gotta make it happen. And I'm like, man, why you don't feel like why why are why are you putting yourself in a position where you don't feel like going today? You know what I mean?
06:42Like, that's It's fair. You know, because, you know, I almost like to look at myself I've evolved into, like, a blend of sad guru, Ray Dalio, and and who's the great the the good doctor that's tapped into the quantum field are Dispenza.
07:00Dispenza. I I'm basically a combination of of Woah. All three of those.
07:04Woah. Dalio, Dispenza, and Sadguru. Right.
07:07Like that. That's that's me.
07:11The best combo ever. Look, when I think about what's intersected through me, it's that analytical, data driven side of Dalio.
07:18It's the tap into the quantum field of Dispenza, and it's the, hey, the reality you experience today is based off of every action decision that you have made in the past that is the sad guru sort of karma concept. Right?
07:33And and to me, you know, if you wanna have a truly rich fulfilling life, you you have to find joy in every part of it. And in order to do that, you have got to to use your time with absolute intention.
07:49And so for me, it's it's everybody knows that. Mhmm. It's the only resource you got.
07:53It's the only resource that's limited, man. You you locked up. And and for me Is that your impression of me?
07:59No. That was like a middle middle ground for me. Know what I'm saying?
08:02When it but it's I was halfway in it. I was halfway in it. You know?
08:06I push you towards, like, a wrestler voice. You know what I mean? But I'm when I started tracking all of my time Mhmm.
08:15My life changed. Right? Because it's like I I used to design what I called existence.
08:22Right? So I I built the rhythm of existence in 2015, which was essentially the operating system for my life.
08:29And so it had all these these principles and had all these things that I would do with my time, and then I would create a rhythm of the year, like when sort of all the constants were and when the variables would happen, you know, because your life flows around weekends and holidays and birthdays. It has this cadence that you can build sort of your time around that you can get better and better at predicting how to use your time more efficiently.
08:53But boy, I started tracking all of it. I would just you know, I'd plan a lot of it, and then I would be highly adaptive and adjust it. But the thing that I started doing every day is just tagging every hour and what did I do?
09:07And I eventually found somebody in 2020 that heard me talk about it and came in and and wrote a script that went into my Google Calendar that pumped that thing out into a dashboard. And now I could see how I used my time on a weekly, monthly, yearly basis by hour and by percentage.
09:31Mhmm. And so that that began to create this really interesting clarity as it related to, like, the time matrix from a percentage standpoint.
09:41Right? If you have, you know, eight thousand seven hundred and sixty hours in a year and you do something for three hundred and sixty five days a year for one hour, it's 4% of your life. Right?
09:53If you, you know, sleep seven hours, it's like, you know, 28% of your life. You know, if you work a forty hour a week, it's it's 23% of your life.
10:02So I began to see the structure of this time. And as you begin to understand and design it against how you want to use it, you begin to question its efficacy.
10:14How high of efficacy are you using with this actual time? And then when you decide to do something, you start thinking about it in second and third order consequences. Right?
10:23Because we'll get excited about an idea that we wanna do, and we just think about the idea. We don't think about the time, energy, and mental capacity that it'll take from, and then the long tail of that, because once we commit to something, what happens?
10:40We could be trapped by it. Right? And if it ends up taking way more time, it could end up being detrimental to your overall well-being and your balance in your in your mind.
10:52Right? So for me, as I began to do all that and really look at the time matrix, I began to put value on every bit of that time.
11:01And then I began to assess that time by how did it make me feel qualitatively. And that then began to make me continually adjust how I designed the time.
11:12Because what I realized is what's happening, the world's changing, you're changing at all times. You're evolving, everything around you is evolving.
11:19So you can't just make one great schedule, and there you go, you did it. You have a perfect time time management skills.
11:27Like, you constantly need to be adjusting how you use time and the value of that time and and and how you see you should spend that on an ongoing basis or on an ad hoc basis, like and you have to continually design it better and and better over time. And what I did was grow the skill set of continually optimizing time and assessing it and redesigning it that allowed me to get more and more efficient so I could go from, you know, doing 250 episodes of television, doing, you know, 52 podcasts, managing, you know, you know, if I have core six companies that I have to be actively managing inside it to go along with all my other pursuits and still do that with only 23% of my time.
12:13You know what I'm saying? Like, that is where you now have gotten so efficient that you choose efficiency
12:21over anything else that You mind giving them an example? Because I know it. Like for example, like when I've come to you with different things like, hey, I got this TV show idea, like, how much of your time is it gonna take?
12:30How does it make you feel? What's it gonna cost you somewhere else? You know, what percentage of it is for you?
12:34Even when we first started here, even this podcast, I'm like, it's this percentage of my time, it's this percentage of my income. However, it's a big percentage of joy for me. Yep.
12:42But in your case, if you don't mind and if you don't, it's okay. But like even the way you shoot your show Yep. One of the things, when you hear this man talk, he has as big a life as about anybody that I know.
12:53I mean, got a show where he shoots a bazillion episodes. He's in production side. He's on the talent side.
12:59He's got the dir dick machine. He's got his investments. He's got different business.
13:02He's got a core, and he's got he's a very, very active father, very, very active husband. He's got a public persona to keep up.
13:10He's got a social media. He's got a podcast, and that's just like some of it. Yet, I don't know anyone who navigates their life more seamlessly and beautifully than you do.
13:21I I don't. But you'd make it it wouldn't seem that way. So give us a practical example for you, like, on the way that you scale time, like, for your show.
13:29What you did in the way that you shoot it, and the the gaps in between shows. Is that too personal? Or No.
13:34No. No. Share that?
13:35Because this because I want people to think, okay. That sounds really good theoretically, but I'm trying to get my start up off the ground.
13:39My kids are in soccer. I've got the the gym I got to get to. So what does that look like practically?
13:45How do I actually begin to navigate it? Yeah. Look, I I think, you know, like,
13:49it it's every bit of your life has the ability to be designed into time. You know what I mean? And, yes, things are gonna come at you that you need to change, and then and then everything you wanna drive to automation.
14:02Right? Everything in my life, I try to drive to automation. And then when I feel friction, I try to I I go to optimize it.
14:10When I feel friction, I apply a system or a solution, and I just keep doing that over and over and over to reduce all friction and drive everything to a much higher state of efficiency, right?
14:22And the show itself is this beautiful example of -It is. -I used to shoot 60 episodes a year and it would tear the soul out of me.
14:31It would tear the soul out of me. I wouldn't I didn't even wanna shoot the show anymore. I didn't want to shoot the show anymore because it just took too much energy.
14:39It would be five weeks straight where I would shoot like four days a week, and it would just like I would be at the end of it, I would be so exhausted and be like, I don't even enjoy doing this. I don't care what it pays me.
14:51It's like, it's too much of my energy and well-being. Right? And so I began to just look at ways to make it more and more efficient and look at the things that bothered me.
15:04Because we used to shoot two a day, and then we would, you know, shoot for an hour, do all these pickups in between, then I would stay for an hour, and then do voiceover on the stage for an hour, and then we would break for an hour, then I would do the whole thing again. I would get there at like 09:30, ten, and leave at like six.
15:24Right? And then that would be a five week stretch of like four days a week, and just just terrorize me. Then I'd have to drive out to Glendale to get prepped for the shows and spend three or four hours going through all the shows, and I just slowly kept looking at every possible thing that I could optimize, and it first with how they built the shows and presented them to me.
15:47And I got to, instead of driving out to Glendale to look at them, hey, let's start doing it online and send them to me. And then it's like, start presenting them to me in this structure.
16:00And then it got to the point where I stopped even talking to them. They just would send to me, I would review them, and it went from three hours round trip to do it to fifteen minutes. This is Rob right here, you This is the stuff.
16:12And and and to then actually shooting the show, then it was like, how can we make it more and more efficient? Alright.
16:19I'm not I'm just gonna to to fire off a lot more off the cuff stuff that you can edit in instead of doing the voice over. And then I took, you know, shooting the show for an hour, hour plus, and then do an hour of voice over. I drove that all the way down to about thirty five minutes.
16:35Then I said, Hey, how do we take Can we take one clip out of every single one of these?
16:42Because we're only we're shooting with six clips, but we're only editing four and five. And so we took a clip out of everything, drove the time down to twenty nine minutes. Right?
16:52And so then it became, okay, you shoot two a day, let's shoot two a day before lunch. Then it was like, okay, let's shoot three a day before lunch. Then it was like, alright, let's shoot six a day, three before lunch, three after.
17:06And then now, I could get six done in a day, and then I could spread out when I shoot to where I only shoot a couple times a month.
17:16Mhmm. Then, boy, now I feel like it's back in my life, it's back in my rhythm, it's no longer taking energy, it's much more efficient to get prepped for, it's easier to shoot, I the energy's not gone because I'd shoot it so quickly that it that the energy's good, pop into the next one, but I just kept looking at way after all these different ways that I continued to optimize and optimize, and then now going into next year, I'm gonna start shooting 336.
17:44Okay? And I'm gonna shoot eight a day. And so I was like, I don't want to give up any more time.
17:51Where can I save time? We have fifteen minutes between the shows to change wardrobe.
17:57So if I eliminate two wardrobe changes Mhmm.
18:01And in between the shows, and fifteen minutes at lunch, I get back that hour, and now I can shoot 336 in the same forty two days, five hours a day, as I did to shoot the 252 with prep time the night before and drive time there and back, that is 4% of my life.
18:25See, you guys, this is
18:27why I want him around me. Let me give you let me interrupt you. Okay?
18:30I wanna give you guys like the easy application for me. This hyper obsession with optimization of time and oneself, when you're around somebody and become a friend of yours, some of it rubs off on you.
18:45So I don't have the types of show that he has. I don't shoot three fifty episodes. Don't have that.
18:49But it has caused me to begin to evaluate where am I just pissing time away? Where is it causing me more stress?
18:56What are the different things I do? I'll give you one small thing that's a massive thing after I met you. I started looking at just meetings that I take.
19:03And I'm like, why are all my meetings one hour long? Why is it blocked from think about all of you dudes. You're like, that's right.
19:10Why is it from four to 05:00? How do how do I know this thing's going to last an hour? And because it lasts an hour, because we've blocked an hour, we take up the hour.
19:20But perhaps this is a twenty minute meeting. Right? Perhaps this is a fourteen minute meeting.
19:25Why is everything four to 04:30, 05:30 to five why are they all these round number blocks of time that we've all accepted need to be blocks of time? And because that's the block, that's how long the meeting takes. Right?
19:37You're nodding when I say this. So I've gotten with my team now, and now they know. Let's find out how long this meeting is required to happen, the most efficient time for the meeting.
19:47Not where I'm dismissive of people or don't give them the adequate amount of time or the emotional connection, but you'll find everybody, most meetings don't need to be an hour. They don't.
19:57They don't. They don't need to be a half an hour. Yeah.
20:00And so when I started to get those things done, I have a lot of fifteen minute meetings now. Yep. And my whole life opened up because of it.
20:08And here's the other thing, I bring better energy to those meetings. So you're so right. Like, when you first say, I'm like, this is really good in theory, dude, because you got this big old life.
20:17But for the beginner, they just got to go. Yeah. But the truth is, when you're just going, I want you to speak to this.
20:22So let's now the guy goes, that's great. I don't have 350 of anything. I don't have 64 of that.
20:27Yeah. I got a job. I've got a side hustle.
20:29I got a family. I'm trying to get this going, so I'm throwing a bunch of time at it. But my thing I want you to speak to is your lack of valuing time is impacting not only your fatigue, your energy, your performance, but it's impacting every part of you because other people don't value your time or you when you don't.
20:51And when you begin to take control of your time, even as a beginner, my belief is other people value you more. You agree with that? Yeah.
20:58And and look, I think the other thing is you
21:01you end up creating sort of your system that also allows you to be available a lot more than you should be. Good point.
21:07You know what I mean? And then people rely on that availability to then have a more scattered, erratic schedule that you've gotta be fit into, and they pull the energy from you because you're you're essentially operating that way, and that scatteredness becomes how the people operate around you, right?
21:24Which Really good. Almost never allows you to get there, right? And to me Oh, yeah.
21:28You're right. When you start thinking about your whole life, forget about just time as because time's just one sort of piece of what you need to have high energy and have a great life.
21:39And so it's if if you don't design time to meditate, to free think, to get to the gym, to do all these things that you know you need to do that make you the better version of you and make you feel more balanced in your mind, that allows you to have better energy and more clarity at that meeting.
22:00And you just continually go from thing to thing to thing because, oh, I have to go from thing to thing to thing, then you are never gonna have the time to do the things that you wanna do because you're too busy doing the things you have to do on an ongoing basis as a way of life.
22:18Man. , and you design the machine to go from thing to thing to thing to thing till you're exhausted, then you complain, then you overcorrect and try to get rid of all these things to get it back, when in fact, it is the way that you have built your system that has bound you to this habitual way of not having time, rather than designing your whole system around using time the right way.
22:43I think it's the most breakthrough stuff anyone's talking about right now,
22:48particularly designed for this time. I really I I mean it. I I think it speaks to everybody at every stage, no matter if they have a big huge life and all the things you have going or I have going, or they're beginning to build their dream life, if you don't get intentional about this, that's the microbe.
23:02But let me say this to that. Yeah. Right?
23:04Everybody's got a big life. Mhmm. Because everybody I have the same
23:09time, energy, and capacity as you. Yeah. Like anyone listening to this, we all are in the same construct of time.
23:16Yeah. We all we all Yes, our energy may vary, but we all have control to take care of ourselves, to do more things that we like, to begin to evolve our life in a way to where we have higher energy, but we all have a limit.
23:30A human physical and mental capacity, and if we go over it, we collapse in. Gosh.
23:36Even me. Right? Like, I I have completely organized, perfectly designed time, beautiful rhythm, clear vision and goals, and executing everything within this beautiful matrix.
23:46I'm highly optimized. Why am I overwhelmed? Why am I overwhelmed?
23:50Because I went past capacity. Right?
23:53And that's sort of the second edge, understanding your physical and mental capacity and being able to manage that inside the way that you design your time.
24:02Because when you become overwhelmed, your decisions, like like, degenerate,
24:08and then you ultimately start over correcting. By the way, how brilliant you are about that. I make the worst decisions when I'm fatigued, and typically what I'm doing when I'm fatigued is the over correction, and I'm over scheduling.
24:19Then once my energy comes back, I look at a day or a week, I'm like, oh my gosh, what was I thinking when I agreed to all of this stuff? A lot of it isn't productive stuff, and then I don't have time for the things that would move the needle in my fitness, in my mental health, in my financial life. All of a sudden, lots of stuff is in a schedule that doesn't necessarily move the needle in my life in the areas that I want the needle to move to.
24:41Speaking of life and needle moving, I don't know if you texted me this or you posted it, so it probably doesn't matter. That's the micro stuff.
24:49The macro is you're so obsessed with this that you look at duration of time on the planet.
24:55It was something about you just realized you read something on you're laughing, but did you text me this or did you post it? I just posted that I wanted to live one million hours.
25:04That's exactly right. So you read something that convinced you that you're going to that you could live to a particular age and you deduced how many hours there so I actually think this is brilliant. Yeah.
25:14Because this type of focus causes us to live with intention and attention, and the lack of I think all the time.
25:22Do you know when I pray at night? You're gonna laugh at this. Never said this out loud, not even to my wife.
25:27I'm gonna tell you and about 70,000,000,000 people right now. When I pray at night, one of my last prayers is that I'm gonna live to a 128 years old.
25:36Okay? And I really believe now, again, someone will listen to this in three years. Wow.
25:40It's so sad he passed away. But but but I I I have that prayer and that intention, and I've repeated it over and over and over and over again because I believe if I don't pick a number, if I don't pick a time, if I don't set a goal, if I don't, then I'll be up to the whims of whatever else comes my way.
25:56I really believe that you create a space when you set something like that that didn't exist before you did it, and then you find the behaviors, the people, the things, the thoughts, the technology, the nutrition to fill it up. What I didn't do was calculate the amount of hours that it gives me Yep.
26:10To then optimize that time. So speak to that whole thing. Yeah.
26:13And and look, I'm
26:14you know, it makes it really makes me happy. That means we're gonna we're literally we're gonna be friends deep into our hundreds. I love it.
26:21We're gonna be having these conversations about, well, what do you think? You're thinking you're going to one twenty eight? You think you're gonna I don't know.
26:26I'm push I'm feeling pretty good right now. But I think about it more from a This is what I'm big on. This is your existence.
26:36Right? And this is the framework of the human experience.
26:42Right? You only truly can judge anything.
26:46Your energy, how well you're using time, everything that's happened in your past, how you actually feel in the present moment. True.
26:53You can only do it in the present moment, and you only experience it in your mind. Right? And then you have to make a decision of, I want to change all of these things, so I'm going to create a better future experience.
27:06That is the human experience, and I realized that I wanted to make it last to 01/2012.
27:13I initially wanted to live to 01/2004 and be shot in a rocket into space and explore the universe without the light pollution from planet Earth for the last year before I died and then floated out into the cosmos.
27:28Now, that was before I had a wife and kids. So it's like, now the audacity of don't worry about me and then like, I'm up there for like twenty four more years.
27:39That changed and then when I read the book Ikigai, right, the Japanese long life and happiness book, they talked about super centurions, and I'm like, oh, like that brand.
27:52I wanna be a super centurion. So that then I made I would want to live to 112.
28:00And then as I started getting deeper into, okay, how many days is that? Alright. Okay.
28:06That's how many days I have. This is how many days that I've done so far. Then when I was going going through my time matrix and looking at all these different things where I spend time of like, wow, I spend nearly as much time shooting a television show as I will picking up my kids and taking them to school for the year.
28:26Right? And and to me, as I just started looking at these hours and then where am I where am I losing a lot of time?
28:33On the couch watching Netflix. You know what I mean? It's it's me and the wife on there watching our favorite show, but, when you start looking at what that is, man, you're letting you're letting the hard eight to 9% go on the couch.
28:46You know what I mean? Like, it's it's cold, hard reality, but as I looked at that, you know, I'm I then was like, you know, what is, like, what's a round number of time?
28:56And like, wow, one million hours is one hundred and fourteen years and fifty four days. I'm gonna I'm gonna experience a million hours on this earth.
29:06Right? And so, of course, a lot of people push back on like, oh, it's good. Yeah.
29:12You're like a vegetable. What are you gonna do? And and it's like like, I didn't even contemplate that, and and it's because you live in two different mindsets.
29:20There's I live in a mindset that I just keep getting healthier and happier, more balanced, lighter. Life is more effortless, my system, that is my entire body is more efficient.
29:31And I can show you in blood work, I can show you in net worth, I can show you in time, and I can show you in qualitative data that I have collected about how I feel about my life, work, and health that I am in healthier, better physical condition, wealthier, more balanced, and happier in the data, which only proves to me there's no reason why you can't keep getting healthier, happier and wealthier for the remainder of your life.
30:02That's a And then I'll just fall right off a cliff. You know what I mean?
30:06Whatever it ends up ending. But again, what's it go back to? I want to live with absolute intention, and I want to experience every moment that I get into and feel the vividness and the richness and the beauty that is the human experience and life.
30:24You know, you don't wanna be so future focused and trying to create a better future that you never feel the present, right?
30:32And so for me, I'm I really began to understand what state my mind is at all the time at all times, and how do I learn to control that and begin to put in systems and solutions that keep my mind in a balanced state is really one of the bigger things that I've learned to do over the last year or so.
30:54Share with us one of those systems. Know, if you can imagine this, your mind is balanced in this way, right?
31:05It's past, present, and future. Right? And so there's sort of five sections as I see it.
31:10And and on one end, it's dwelling in the past. You ain't doing nothing. You wanna sit and dwell about something you did, you ain't doing nothing.
31:18Then the next level up is rectify. Right? You are problem solving, taking action.
31:23Something that happened in the past, so now you're in the present past, where, okay, I'm dealing with something that happened, now I'm problem solving, taking action to make a better future. Right? You sit right in the middle and you experience it, or you go to the next level is creating.
31:40Right? And so now you're in this future present, right, where you're experiencing the present while creating the future. That's that's where you wanna toggle.
31:48Right? Because what goes beyond creating the future is wishing. Right?
31:53Because then, if you're sitting there wishing the future was better and wishing like like this will be like this or you're dwelling, you're not moving. Right?
32:02And so you wanna be either experiencing the moment or handling something that happened in the past present, or creating something in the future present state, and and and swing between that, right?
32:14And so if you can imagine, that's your mind, What you what you think about on an ongoing basis is ranges between all of that. That's where the action lives.
32:23Now, it's the quality of your mind, and your mind's quality is either in a proactive state, a reactive state, an inactive state, or a magnetic state.
32:35Right? And for me, when I when all aspects of my life are in order, meaning I'm eating super clean, everything all all my goals and visions and everything is is running smooth.
32:47I'm I'm spending very little time rectifying the past because I've designed my present future experience with such intention. I'm dealing with very little disruption that then I eventually go beyond just being proactive to this magnetic state.
33:03And I know you've experienced this before because this is when your everything is going, operating at such a level that answers start coming to you without you asking the questions. It is the law of attraction that that's the unexplainable force that lives in the quantum field, where your energy is at such a high level.
33:22You are so clear of not only being present and experiencing, but creating your better future, and you rise to this you vibrate to this level to where the answers show up and you never ask the questions. Right? And for me, I'm trying to master all aspects of my existence to where I basically sit in that state of toggling between future present and proactive and magnetic at all times.
33:51Oh my god.
33:52It's a deep one. It's a deep one. Oh, no.
33:54Okay. That's an all timer right That's a deep one. I I want everyone to go back the last five or six minutes there.
34:02That's an all timer. When we talk, I always filter it through my life and my perspective. I just realized something because I do know what that vibrational frequency feels like when I am getting answers to questions I haven't even asked.
34:16It's not frequent enough. The and the reason it's not frequent enough is I'm depleting my energy reserves to not put myself in a state where I can have that type of energy and what I call vibrate at that frequency. Yep.
34:26And you're exactly right. And that's the other reason why rest, recovery, being present matters.
34:33I just really pulled something here. I just really did. But let me say this,
34:38every single thing matters.
34:42Every thought, every action, every decision, every single thing that you do is interconnected to to get you to that space.
34:52And and for me, it's like, I think, oh, I'll have a glass of wine. I'll have a couple chips. It will pull away from that.
35:01I'll make one bad decision from eating bad that will then cause me to be short with my wife that leads to this entire pulls me right out of the magnetic magnetic state.
35:10State. Right? Because it's like, even when you're there, it's really sensitive, and you could just get one thought that could rip you out of that.
35:17You could look at one text that could rip you out of that. Right? It's like And so that requires really, really understanding every single bit of you, and then giving value to everything you do, rather than trying to pocket your values.
35:36Oh, if I eat healthy, oh, if I stay focused, oh, if I clear out this stuff, oh, if I rest or recover, versus like, no, it all works together to make the best version of you. How committed are you?
35:48How disciplined are you to live at the level that you know you have to live at, at a consistent enough basis that it becomes to compound effortlessly
35:59and become a way of life, rather than getting disciplined again? That's really what it is. Know?
36:05Well, for me, I burn myself out going from those states to the good state back to the bad state. I'm still having wine with you at dinner tonight, but I know exactly what you're talking about.
36:15And I everybody you you all hear the show every single week. It's pretty rare that I'm this quiet because I just I I really process a lot of information when you and I go like this.
36:27Yeah. It's good for me. I'm already thinking of stuff I'm gonna say and I'm gonna teach, that I'm gonna steal, that I'm gonna make mine.
36:33One of the things in addition to all of this that we talked about when we were down in Mexico was this notion of momentum. Here's what I do. I'm gonna tell you what I do.
36:41I go, I got all that and I'm gonna get to it. But right now I got momentum. So I'm gonna throw fuel on the fire.
36:50And I think this is what burnout is. So I've got momentum.
36:54I mean, you've had momentum in your career for freaking twenty five years, maybe more. Right? So and by the way, that's the other lesson from Rob.
37:02He said sustainability and consistency in the public world or in the entrepreneurial space.
37:10It is extremely rare to have duration of success or expansion of success like what you've had. And I was telling you maybe we were both talking about, like, yeah, but I got momentum.
37:20Yeah, but I got this. Yeah, but I got that. Yeah.
37:22But so I'm gonna get to this, but that'll be like, I see it, and you're right, and I'm gonna do some of it. But what I'm realizing is that momentum was generated from a space of creativity, of rest, of a particular vibrational frequency, and I'm almost running on the fumes of it now rather than and it so it will run out if I don't get back to this creative state where I'm in that present problem solving or present creativity state.
37:51So what would you say to someone who's listening to going, I got all that, but I'm finally got my business moving. I'm finally we're we're scaling. We're finally getting this, and the economy's changing, and I got these other things coming.
38:02Man, for me to think about this theoretical stuff you're talking about is really good. Man, you know supply chain's going on, interest rates are going up.
38:12Unemployment may start to get higher again. They're national debt, I'm just getting it going. This is really good, and I'm going to remember this podcast for three years from now.
38:21What would you say to them? It'll always be like that. It's
38:26never not gonna be like that. It was the startup version when it was a startup. Oh, now it's working, and there's more to even worry about.
38:33Oh, now it's like scale and it's even guess what? It's always like that. Gosh.
38:37So if you don't build a harmonious system, your goal is to lead with harmony.
38:44If you don't build harmony in your system from the very beginning, you won't have harmony when you find the success.
38:53Right? And this is why I preach designing life and business at the same time.
38:58So when you find success in your business, you find success in your life. And to me, in 2016, when I designed the plan for the way that I wanted to live, I designed a balanced life that would make me healthy first, and then I fit work into it.
39:14I created hundreds of millions of dollars with using a small percentage of my time living a fully balanced, harmonious life.
39:25All of the success that I have created since we sat down in 2018 was done from this beautiful, peaceful place.
39:35I got better and better and better at being more efficient with my time and my energy and got healthier and healthier and my output got higher and higher and higher and, like, all of the things that you can worry about that drive you down, you you continue to clear them out to where you're only dealing with incoming stress rather than all these things that come in and then break you.
40:00Right? Then you gotta reevaluate all this stuff and do all this stuff again, but that's my passion for harmony over hustle.
40:09You know what I mean? Build a harmonious existence and then get better and better at living in a harmonious way. But I wanna say this to Momentum, right?
40:19Is why it was so profound when we were in Mexico because I I'm you know, it's this it's the pursuit.
40:29Right? Like, I look at you as, like, this is the ideal way of life, man. You want your island, you wanna be flying on your jet, you wanna head out to the golf course, you wanna go to the beach house, like, it's really like And now, I look at the world through how I look at how much travel time it's involved in that, right?
40:45Forget about how could you possibly do the show, do the book, do the podcast, and then still have time to get there?
40:53Oh, the kids are going to college. I see the strain in sort of the use of time just in the structure.
41:01And so then I know you have more than enough money to live peacefully and happily.
41:09I know that your mission is is really more on like how can I reach people and impact people? And when you say momentum, it's like, man, you know, I I as the world was changing, then as I was changing, I saw an opportunity to share my voice on social media.
41:25Then I saw an opportunity to share my voice on a podcast. Now I got momentum. Now it's like, like, so many more people wanna talk to me, so many more opportunities, I got momentum.
41:34Now it's like, I wanna make a book that impacts people and what it is. Oh, now I got even more momentum, oh, what about this television show? Like, I saw that as like, man, I know what that's like.
41:45Yeah. Right? And to me, I also know that, boy, man, you can get caught up in that and and trapped by by that momentum.
41:56Listen close, everyone. Yeah. If you don't understand sort of the second and third order consequences of
42:04capturing that momentum. Yep. Let's stay on this.
42:06I won't say what it is with you, but you because we don't want that. But there's been some significant opportunities come your way. Some things that could have been, you think your brand's big now, you're like really different.
42:19I'm talking about a public brand. When those things came your way, you declined.
42:25You know what I'm talking about, right? We won't get into what those things were, but you have learned to say no because your decision making process has a process.
42:35And I think one thing I wanna say to everybody that I think Rob has that I don't, that I'm developing because I know him, is a is a process and a philosophy through which I make decisions rather than just emotionally.
42:49Because I will if you let me, I'll just keep helping more and more and more people with no process to make the decision, no evaluation of what the consequences are, and no evaluation of what maybe looks like I'll help more people will cost me, deplete the energy that could have done it in a more efficient and productive way.
43:04So you have also learned to decline, to say no to different things in your life, and I think that's probably something everyone should know. Yeah.
43:13Look, it's
43:15one of those things that you could read it in every single personal development book. Gotta learn to say no. You know what I mean?
43:21And we know it as guys who lived out on the edges of of saying yes to everything.
43:30Right. Because, you know, the the early process for me is like, man, this this might be the one. Mhmm.
43:35Oh, this might be the one. Oh, wow. This might be the one.
43:38And the problem was is I hadn't defined what is the whole. Once I finally defined what the whole was, and now I'm like And I refer to it as like the human why, where we all have the same why.
43:53We wanna live a harmonious, high quality quality life. Life. Right?
43:57And so, you have to define what that is for you. And for me, that was how I used my time, the type of things that I did, and ultimately, the amount of money I had, where I invested that money, and what that money did for me, and the lifestyle that I lived.
44:12I had a certain way of living that I wanted, that I connected to my identity, that I needed to create enough wealth that would provide me that lifestyle in a sustained manner forever Forever.
44:25Before I would be truly harmonious. Right?
44:29And when I when I finally did that, right, and I defined it, and I built the plan backwards, And and when I finally got to there, I changed.
44:40Mhmm. I changed because I now had this extraordinary security.
44:44Mhmm. Right? And and that security now allowed me to get even more efficient with my time, make even more decisions that are based on, is this going to affect my energy?
44:54Like, and and continuing to build my life around what gives me energy, anything that takes energy, anything that slightly takes it, address it and get rid of it, create a system or or a solution to solve it, just completely get it out of your life.
45:10And and now you will never compromise, especially doing something that's for money or some higher level of fame, if you will.
45:21Yeah. Because I don't wanna disrupt the harmony that I've created because it's unnecessary. I am as happy and balanced as a human being could be.
45:31I am excited to continually evolve into my limitless potential in a controlled manner that is done on a consistent basis of joy.
45:42Because what I realized is, well, man, what is happiness? Well, happiness is really just consistent joy.
45:50And when you go from after day after day where thing after thing after thing is filled with joy and an extended period of time, that's when you're feeling what it feels like to be truly happy all the time.
46:03When you listen to him, everybody,
46:06this is a dude from Ohio who was a skateboarder.
46:10And now look at this. Mean The guy who quit high school. Yeah.
46:12Right. Look, keep in mind this. I didn't even understand personal development or even read until I met my wife, who was in the who was in who was like super into personal development and I like read Think and Grow Rich back then and it like was like, woah.
46:27Like, I had read it when I was younger, but it was like the beginning of unlocking Yeah. Like, is the human potential?
46:35And then my mind thinks in this sort of systems way, and I just keep as I'm living it and finding the success in life that I envisioned and planned, you know, five years earlier and are realizing it, I'm doing it while I'm thinking about how one day I can share it.
46:52Yeah. So it's almost like this meta process of your learning lessons, thinking of how they integrate together, and then how you can articulate this in an easy to understand way
47:03that you can share with people one day. It's this interesting process It's I've been really deep what you just said. So one thing I've I've begun to do I did a lot in my entrepreneurial life, but I didn't do it in my personal life.
47:15So my entrepreneurial life, I was always like, well, we need a process or a system for that because nothing could be related just to personality or emotion. So in all my entrepreneurial ventures, need a process or a system for that.
47:25It wasn't until really you and I connected that like, know, no, no, you're like, that's what my my life is. So everybody listening to this or watching, you got to ask yourself this. Do you have a process or system for that?
47:34Because if it's not a process or a system, it's probably not going to be sustainable over a duration. You have to have a process or a system. You are a you probably could have been some type of engineer in another lifetime, I think, because you do think systematically and process wise.
47:50But I think all of you, if you're trying to pull extract things you need to ask yourself is, do you have a process and a system for it? Is there one?
47:57Because if there isn't, you need one from your time, from your family stuff, from your entrepreneurial your part of your life. Energy depletion, one other place because you mentioned Brianna, and that is, what about humans who drain your energy?
48:10Mhmm. Have you had to sort of, I don't know, cut people out, or are you cognizant of the humans you
48:17associate with from an energy depletion or giving you energy standpoint? Is that something that's also part of this formula for you? Yeah.
48:25I wanna give you two versions of it. Right? Okay.
48:26Because I think that getting rid of the bad energy is an easy one to talk through. But it's it's how do you optimize with those that you love? Okay.
48:35That's what I think is is is a lot more evolved and and sort of what I've grown into. But I first started, you know, by just asking myself every single day and rating qualitatively, how do I feel about my life, my work, and my health, zero to 10.
48:54Mhmm. And you if it's low, you think about why it's low, and you make a note of it. And you'll find that the people that bring you down start popping up.
49:04Mhmm. And then then it becomes so obvious. Right?
49:07Like, had people that worked for me that were really truly disrupting the quality of my life on a consistent basis that I didn't have clarity on until I was asking myself, how did you feel about work yesterday, zero to ten?
49:23And then it was like a four because I was fighting with one of my executives for like three hours and had to change my entire vision for it because it's not what they wanted to do.
49:34Like, I began to see that and then eventually cleared every single person that brought me down out.
49:42All of them. Every single one of them, right? And including in that same process, there's certain parts of the business that drained me that I had to either learn or stop being involved in.
49:56Right? It was very informative from a qualitative standpoint.
50:01Now, I go to the most important relationship that is my wife. Mhmm. And it is I am just it is system after system after system on system on system on system on system strictly releasing and relieving any friction in our relationship.
50:19And and it sounds like, oh, well, like, what could that possibly be? Well, you know, first it starts with the age old date night. Mhmm.
50:27Right? And so, oh, like, schedule a date night. You know what I'm saying?
50:31It wasn't enough to keep us balanced and happy. So the schedule is, you know, a Monday night talk night, a Thursday night movie night, a Wednesday morning breakfast, a Friday night sushi.
50:43Like, it's it's having a rhythm of of dates and times that we spend in the week. Now, it's not a matter of, like, oh, you made one hour available.
50:53You've integrated your wife into your life.
50:57Now, that was essential to begin to stop that friction. Then, she started hearing me telling stories of stuff that I was working on, and be like, I didn't even hear that.
51:05So, okay, how do I solve that? Then I started That's a biggie. Sending her an email every single morning of everything that I was doing in the day Wow.
51:13And what it meant to me with a love quote, so that she got that every single day and was completely informed at at what I was doing. So, now, how do I automate that?
51:22I have my assistant scrape my my calendar and put it into an email and put it in my email that I can look in the morning. I go and find the love quote depending on the energy of the the the season, and then I send it to her every single day.
51:37Right? And so, okay, that seems like you look at that alone.
51:41Like, look at you guys, like, in your rhythm, like, you you go with her every day to drop the kids off and pick them up. For most days, like, you have this balanced rhythm with everything, and now she's completely informed, but getting friction on how complex our life was and all these big projects moving on.
52:00Then we move to a Thursday family sync, where we get all the executive or assistants and executive assistants together, and then we go through everything going on with the family and get organized and everything that needs to get done.
52:15Now, have the Thursday family sync to eliminate that. In the middle of that, stuff's popping up in the schedule.
52:22She's seeing it in that in the morning and be like, what is this? You're going to do Ed's podcast today? So what did we do?
52:29We added a new system to the family sync where I go through the calendar and then like say everything that I'm doing. Hey, the UFC fight in two weeks on Saturday night, I'm gonna wanna watch that. Anything that might be disruptive, and again, keeping our energy, our communication, and our flow.
52:47Then, like, okay, there's certain things where, you know, we'll get stuck on and not wanna talk about.
52:53We started bringing a therapist to the house every other Tuesday at 04:00. So now, now we have this neutral ground that's basically, you know, I I akin it to , where you already have this this highly, another friction is like these issues that you may not wanna discuss even in these this sort of flow that you're in.
53:14Here's this sort of neutral ground that you really don't have unless you bring somebody in, and you just begin to see all of these things layering on top of the goal of having the happiest,
53:31amazing relationship that you could possibly have. So good. You know what I mean?
53:34I I knew about the email, in which, by the way, I started to do myself because you told me about that. By the way, everybody, you listen to my show so that somehow every week you become inspired or learn how to improve your life. If that is not happening for you right now, if there's not been something said here today by this man that is causing you to go, woah.
53:52By the way, you're on the inside of what people that have blissful and happy and successful lives talk about and think about. These are the conversations that they have. One so I got one more question for you.
54:02By the way, is that the fastest hour in the history of the world, by the way? Awesome. By the way, thank you, number one.
54:08Thank you. I just love you, and I I'm grateful for you.
54:13Yeah. Appreciate you. I'm grateful for you.
54:16Last thing, because it's this will be this episode, by the way, is timeless. What I love about this episode is someone can watch this right now, listen to it in a year, listen to it in four or five years. You'll be deeper and be further down this road, but the things that are said in here are timeless.
54:33But for the most part, people will get this right before the new year at some point. And so what are they doing? They're gonna be setting goals.
54:41They're gonna be thinking about the next year. Can you give us some advice or your system or parts of your strategy for the way that you set goals and your vision up? Is there a I know there is, but what is part of your system and strategy for doing it?
54:53You know, I have big,
54:55what I like to call evolution goals that anchor the four core systems of my life.
55:03Right? And, you know, that's my health, my life, my wealth, and my work.
55:07Right? And an evolution goal is essentially sort of, you know, the finite goal or the infinite goal.
55:14Right? Where having an extraordinary relationship with your wife is is an evolution goal.
55:19Whereas you continue to grow and evolve, like, what it means to have that amazing relationship is going to continue to evolve and grow over time. So, having those big anchors on those parts of your life are essential, then having the finite or quantifiable goals that you can measure, that will lead you towards that evolution goal, is sort of the goal stack that I use.
55:47Right? Because it's like you, this is gonna go on forever and continually change, but man, the more things that you can quantify and put a number to, and then create that goal, is the more motivated you're going to be, and the more clear it's gonna be for you to continue on the path.
56:08And especially if, you know, for those that are gonna fire up this year, and this is gonna be the year they get healthy. You know what I mean? Like, decide all the things that you have to do that are going to make you healthy against the numbers.
56:20So let's just say, Okay, I wanna be one hundred and fifty pounds. Okay, well, are all the things that you would need to do to do that? Well, I'd have to clean diet, and I've got to get in the gym, and I wanna do yoga and meditate, whatever it is.
56:32Map, design that into your rhythm, and then track how often you do it, and gamify your discipline by trying to beat your numbers, because if you beat your numbers, then you're going to reach your quantifiable goal of your weight goal.
56:47And then your quantifiable weight goal is going to lead to your health goal, which is really, I just want a fully healthy and vitality in my life as my evolution goal, and part of that is getting to one hundred and fifty pounds, and these five things, if I do them every day, will get me to that, and if I track that, my goal isn't to do it every day, but if I could do it at least 75% of the time, now I've gamified it and can push my numbers to keep me more motivated and excited to reach the number which ultimately leads to my bigger goal.
57:20And then you grow over time, and your standards grow. Eventually, you'll just be at the weight you want, and then you'll you'll be wanting it for, you know, a healthier, more limber system.
57:32Now I'm gonna add yoga to it because I wanna be flexible and be able to, like, jog again. Like, it'll keep evolving. What vitality means to you will keep evolving, but that's how you stack an evolution goal to a quantifiable goal and then create a gamified system to achieve it.
57:52Sounds pretty good. I the idea of just going with some deep well, but could could barely hold back the laughter to, like good.
58:01Like, I'm just
58:03I don't I just think I just think it's so good. It's like we could go six hours. I can't wait for dinner, but I'm glad everybody got to have this hour with us today.
58:12It's as good as it gets, Rob. I mean, this is first cabin, world class, all timer, as good as it gets.
58:20And, like, uh, this will be just another one of these that people were like, man, you better have him back on. I just gotta thank you. This was probably the fastest hour ever.
58:29Mean, like,
58:30it's I I'm just so thankful for you and and our friendship because you are completely aspirational aspirational to me as a man and a human being and way of life, and I am thankful to be here today to even share my latest in my personal evolution and look forward to dinner tonight.
58:50Me too.
58:51Gosh darn it, everybody. You're welcome. That's all I can say.
58:54You're welcome. I usually, at the end of the show, say, you should share this. I don't need to tell you to do that today.
59:00I know you're doing that. This is an all timer, an all timer. This is one for the ages, and I just hope that maybe this is one the only thing I would say, maybe you should hear more than once.
59:12Maybe this is one of these you go, you know what? Tomorrow, I'm gonna do this one again because you will have missed stuff. There was so much here.
59:18I'm being really serious with everybody. I can't wait to hear this back myself, and I will listen to this multiple times because there was so much depth to this.
59:27There was not one wasted second of this conversation today. So Rob Dierdick, everybody. Follow him on social media.
59:35You probably already see him on TV all the time, so follow him on social media. You'll keep getting updates like this, and he's got more and more stuff coming. What you're really to be excited about is at some point, this book project he's told me about privately will come out, and that's going to blow the planet up.
59:49It's gonna be so good. It's not out yet, but it's it'll be forthcoming. The more I say that into a microphone, the more likely it is to happen sooner.
59:55So that's why I say it. Alright, everybody. God bless you.
59:58Max out your life. Take care.
The Hook
The bait, then the rug-pull.
Rob Dyrdek opens by calling out Ed Mylett's own Instagram stories where Ed admits he does not feel like going to the gym but forces himself anyway. Rob's question lands like a scalpel: why are you putting yourself in a position where you don't feel like going today? From that single provocation, a 60-minute systems masterclass unfolds.
